I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
You say that you cannot avoid these people.
That well may be true....we have families and we have jobs and we cannot always avoid people that have a bad effect on us.
I am here to tell you sometimes we get ILL. (Hee hee sometimes we do Cancer TWICE because once wasn't enough, right?).
Life just isn't about happy all the time, and that some folks are odious--well, just let me say I have never been all that much a fan of the human animal and I hope we AREN'T made in the imagine of any poor god or another.
What we can do is change our way of thinking from habitual concentration on things that aren't working, haven't worked, can't work. I tend to be a bit OCD and I know how it can get when I start the circular thinking of what is "wrong" and what "scares me" and what is "troublesome", "worrisome", "uncertain", "painful". Our brains latch onto this repetitive litany of woe, and just repeats and repeats it.
I don't know if you have a good cognitive therapist, but boy, three times in my life (I am 81) I have had to run kicking and screaming to one. Each time I picked someone tough, someone who would participate, have input, shake me up. And while it was PAINFUL, it shook me out of a habitual approach that was a harmful continuous stirring of a distasteful stew.
Eat right. Exercise. Above all take classes or get a new hobby, painting, jewelry making, writing, collage, something that involves the mind and hands in a sort of Zen. Once I refinished the floors on a bad bout of angst after a divorce from a man I truly loved. No wonder my knees hurt now (but my heart--not so much).
Wishing you the best. Life is definitely not about happy-all-the time. There are times that can even last a couple of years, that are fraught. We may face down an illness. We may have something we must endure for a time. This is a part of life. You say you were once "bright and shiny" and I gotta say, that's rare to maintain. And can't last.
I don't want to minimalize what you're going through; I haven't the slightest idea the severity. I can only say I am glad you have hope. Know that we do as well. It's always good to hear from you.
No questions, I promise.
As I said, I respect your privacy. I don’t need to know personal details to care about you. I care simply because you have been a part of this forum for a while.
I understand how you feel. I strongly disagree with people prying into another person’s life if they don’t want to share it.
I know that you have struggled with your situation for a while.
I can tell you that many of us have felt trapped by our circumstances at certain points in our lives.
Sometimes, we are indeed trapped until we find a way out. Other times, it is a struggle to find our bearings after being lost for quite some time.
Just know, that whatever your situation is, there will always be people on this forum who are here to support you in your journey.
Just like there are no overnight success stories, there are no overnight stories of people who have healed instantly.
I can tell you that sometimes things do happen spontaneously, so don’t lose hope. Without hope we have nothing. I believe eventually, you will find your way.
Wishing you peace and joy in your life.
You asked if it would be impossible to return to being myself. It’s not impossible. I’m working on it.
What’s it about? A deep unhappiness. I can’t look at myself in the mirror, because I don’t like seeing myself so unhappy. I’m a bright and shiny person. Just writing this out gives me tears. I’ll find a way back to myself.
How did it all happen? What made me unhappy? It’s completely out of my control. There are some people in my life I can’t get rid of. I have blocked these people. I don’t want to explain. Please no questions about it.
I’ll find a way back to myself. For now, I’m very, very unhappy.
I am experiencing irritation on my skin now. It is itching and I am seeing whelps. I can’t wait for my time to be up and I can mail this monitor back.
If I am not being overly inquisitive, what would it take for you to feel like yourself again? Unfortunately. I can’t supply a time machine for you to go back in time 20 years.
You don’t have to share anything about your life with publicly. I respect your privacy. I’m just wondering if it is possible for you to find the person who you wish to be. Or, is it impossible at this point?
Your post are usually vague and we don’t know what you are going through. Whatever it is, I hope things will eventually work out for you.
Sending you love, support and hugs today.
The last time I felt like myself was 20 years ago. I miss who I was.
Need, once you go allergic to that tape it will continue a while and can make blisters. Take care.
Scream therapy. I have a long story about my friend and I hiking in the pygmy woods of Medocino and her getting me to scream something really loud. I will spare you; it's way too long.
All of you remember that I leave for a month next Wednesday. I will be off line and off everything (except the occ. Moscow Mule my SIL makes me), and hunting good rocks and driftwood on Puget Sound. N. will keep homefires burning.
I honestly don't know how YOU will survive it! ( cwillie, don't say anything mean to that!) AnxietyNacy is appointed to answer any post with "and as mean Alvadeer would say............." just like I always say "As Dr. Laura says"....
BarbBrooklyn, Lea and JoAnn appointed to answer all with the good sense I never had. ( Of late I am not seeing as much of BarbB as I used to?)
All take good care.
Fantastic! Glad the doc was able to fit you in and this is behind you.
Good for you not allowing your anxiety to stop you from flying. If this trip is for pleasure, have a wonderful time!
Nacy,
Haven’t seen it. Yeah, no surprise there. We have a colorful history of corruption., up to present day.
I love this city for so many reasons, but just like many other cities, we have our share of issues that need solving.
Thanks, I will try that and see if it helps.
The only time that I can remove it is when I take my shower. Then, it goes right back on.
The accompanied phone will send a message if I don’t put it back at the appropriate time.
It sends a notification if I forget the phone in another room too. So, I ordered a pocket to place the phone in and wear around my neck so I don’t have to carry it everywhere.
I don’t have pockets in everything that I wear. If I have pockets on, I drop the phone in my pocket and go about my day.
Now, the adhesive tape is starting to irritate my skin. I tried moving it slightly to the left of where it was.
Phillips (the company that provides the product) has an 800 number provided for questions.
They do have a monitor for sensitive skin. I may call later to see what they recommend for me to do.
Remember scream therapy in the 60’s? LOL 😝
It became popular when John Lennon and Yoko participated in Primal Scream Therapy.
I mentioned this before, but the music group has rotating vocalists and guess who is the Loud one? Have I taken a voice lesson, never. I spent so many hours literally screaming in my car going to and fro angst family duties that my vocal chords are hollering Janis Joplin tunes they hand me. What a turn of events. Repeating this story because I HIGHLY recommend therapeutic car hollering for everybody here!!
I made this up for myself - for my own 'emotional hangovers':
MEOW 😻
Music
Exercise
Outside time
Water (shower, bath, swim)
One or if able, all. Sometimes a walk outside then a bath with music. I just thought.. a walk in the rain listening to music would cover them all 😁
Jam on! 🎵 🎹 🎺 🎸
I think someone here coined the term, ‘ emotional hangover’, and that’s exactly what it feels like. After Im with my mom I usually have a lunch outside if weather permits, then for better or worse go to a bakery and space out at the counter before buying too much. It takes about 24 hours for me to come down, sometimes longer depending on how mom time went.
Also feel the same re: state of the world. I try not to worry but I do. What’s helping a little is being in a music jam group with rotating musicians and meeting up 2-3 x/a month. Different ages, religions, political beliefs. Nobody cares! We play songs not very well and eat cookies. Everyone is relieved at this dynamic. Now if only the rest of the world could manage that…
Blessings to all
You’re so right! Louisiana has always had corrupt politicians and religious leaders.
The church has gone bankrupt to avoid paying victims. Settlement payments are no longer being made. It’s disgusting.
Parishes have merged together because of dwindling numbers of members. They are no longer receiving the financial support from large congregations.
So, yeah…placing the Ten Commandments in public school classrooms is such a joke!
Besides that, it’s inappropriate. It violates the separation of church and state.
New Orleans is a small pocket that is unique and different from the rest of Louisiana. Yet, years ago this wasn’t the case.
Things have changed since I was a kid, but we still have a ways to go.
Now this! Kids in public schools shouldn’t be subjected to having the Ten Commandments displayed in their classrooms.
Parents can send their kids to religious schools if they want them to receive a religious education. It shouldn’t be forced upon public school students.
I went to Catholic school and we had religion classes every single day. It’s part of the curriculum. I am sickened by the hypocrisy.
Our governor is so proud of his narrow minded beliefs.
Yeah I remember those days . Coming home from my parents and not wanting to even talk and I still had my daughter a teenager at home . I too used to drive to a shopping center and just walk aimlessly around a store sometimes before coming home .
We know my husband would be bored to tears going cold turkey . He already has some part time work ideas in his head .
I’m part time already but I do everything around the house too . DH works long hours so , It works for us this way .
My MIL frequently complains that nobody talks to her in line in a store or in a waiting room at the doctors office because everyone is looking down at their phones all the time.
MIL has always been that chatty Cathy person with strangers wherever she goes.
Not me . I’ve always been quiet in line . Before phones I would look busy ready a magazine on purpose . My DH will put his ear buds in on an airplane with nothing playing in them sometimes if he doesn’t feel like talking to strangers on an airplane and/ or wants to nap . He’s traveled a lot for work his whole adult life . He’s just tired of the traveling and now likes to nap on the airplane , makes the time go . No more than 5 more years to go he hopes until retirement . Then he wants to find a part time work from home only gig .
It’s a sad , scary , out of control time . I feel bad for our kids .
Yes childcare cost and wait lists for daycare are another concern , or finding a reliable babysitter . And grandma ( me) doesn’t live close by . 45 minutes from my son, alittle over an hour from my daughter . My daughter in law is an orphan . My daughters future in laws are 8-10 hours away . So due to distance , no potential significant grandparent help even if they were willing . The most I would do is a couple of days and would stay overnight I guess . Moving closer to my kids would cost too much . The kids ( especially my daughter ) live closer to Philadelphia than I do . Cost of housing is insane .
“ Ya just wonder where it’s going to end “.
At rock bottom , that’s what always happens with extremism . The stakes are much higher this time around .
My son and daughter in law will be 35 this year . They have been waiting for a sign of things going in a sane direction to have a child. I don’t see them having any .
My engaged daughter says she is also struggling with the decision to bring a child into this world . She has some time she’s almost 28.
I do not try to persuade my children either way . I stay neutral . In my head though I’m saying ….Can’t say that I blame them .
Anabanana,
Some of them read history books as a manual for evil , rather than a lesson to avoid repeating history.
Thanks. I feel sorry for the kids who will be uncomfortable. Also, for parents who are opposed to this.
I know several public school teachers who are disappointed that this bill has passed.
I am so sick of religious conservatives trying to force their beliefs on everyone else. This doesn’t belong in public school classrooms at all.
Oh my gosh, they think they can ‘pray away’ anything that they believe is a sin, instead of accepting people as they are.
This fanatical thinking is so harmful and does nothing to unite our communities.