I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
My Mother held on to her very last breath because she told me that she was scared to go off alone .Maybe your Mother is afraid too.My Mother also Loved life so much and her family.She didn't want to leave us,I know.
I know it's hard cwillie and I'm so sorry. Many {{{hugs}}}, Lu
I just can't understand why somebody who is 100% dependent on others, who sleeps over 20 hours a day and has absolutely no QOL keeps on going. I kind of wish the nurses *would* tell me how they think mom is doing cause I really don't have a clue.
They aren't kidding when they call this the long goodbye.
Some of the physical changes which often occur in the later stages of dementia include:
Profound memory loss and loss of ability to communicate with words
Loss of mobility, inability to sit up
Difficulty swallowing foods and liquids
Decreased interest in taking food and liquids, weight loss
Poor blood circulation (colder hands and feet)
Impaired bladder and bowel function
Prone to infection
Loss of facial expression
Decreased senses
Increased sleepiness or agitation/restlessness
Increased phlegm and mucus/secretions
Irregular breathing
Irregular pulse
Skin problems
Hiccups
Pain
Please note that some of the above changes may occur months/weeks prior to the end-of-life stage.(alzheimer.ca/en/Home/Living-with-dementia/Caring-for-someone/End-of-life-care/Physical-changes-at-end-of-life)
Of course I'm pretty sure that mom's dementia isn't Alz but she has lived with the majority of these symptoms for YEARS already, the only ones she hasn't had are recent infections or pressure ulcers and I don't think she is in any pain. I wish I knew how much longer this can go on, I never dreamed she could last this long.
Did you know global warming predictions are based on computer models only? And the data are manipulated to make it look alarming so that it would fit their agenda which is to control the energy sources.
Al Gore predicted the East coast/New York to be under water in 2017, and no more ice caps. Guess that really came true, didn't it?
Also, something to think about. What/Who caused the last big real global warming? You know, the one following the Ice Age? Certainly not people, or cars, or cow fart, or any human activities.
I wish you could send some rain my way! I would gladly accept the sparking and banging!
Our lush spring grasses are withering and burning up. No rain. I can’t remember when it rained last. Mild drought conditions.
I do agree rain for too many days is depressing. Too much rain at one time even worse.
Such storms daily since Mother's day, and it looks like it will continue into next week. Oh well, it is washing away the pollen, but my mold spore allergy is kicking up a storm, my jaw is aching from the sinuses. And I need sleep :P
Now will people finally realize we DO have global warming !!
" Could not find anything wrong in the 15 minutes, and I wasn't looking either."
I wonder if I passed a small stone. That would make sense for my symptoms. Or... I had a small enough bladder/UTI infection that all that cranberry and lemon/lime water fixed it up.
It was 4-5 days in the making until Tuesday, my worst day, where I wanted to cry, scream, knock myself out with hammer, whatever it would take to feel better.
And then I slept 14 hours after non stop drinking of lemon water, 1/2 lemon in each glass, and I felt much better. Went to doc today, no positives on any dipstick urine test. The burning and pain is already going away. Yay!
Much relief, very happy.
No, this does not mean that the person has a disease or is great at the anxious tendency of worrying.
It actually means that the person is healthy and normal. It’s good news if this is charted in your records for the visit as we all have nagging thoughts or worries about certain symptoms or signs that need to be assessed at times.
Perhaps it’s just a niggling thought someone placed there in your mind like having your best friend’s cousin die suddenly of a brain aneurysm and now that occasional headache seems a bit more ominous.
Or you are hearing a lot on the health media about skin cancer these days; that mole on your chest that you know you had since childhood kind of seems to be growing a bit now?
Reasonable patients use their various resources and come in for check and exam and usually find that their worries were not needed and are relieved. The doctor can provide that relief and assurance.
The patient who is prone to anxiety or hypochondriacal tendencies however seem to be more anxious and dissatisfied unless “tests” are done or “specialists” are consulted, however unwarranted or unnecessary.
Symptoms and signs easily get misconstrued and data gathering becomes complicated, inaccurate and can sometimes lead down the wrong path to misdiagnosis or medical labels.
Avoid this pitfall by being as honest and as thorough about your concerns as you can. Find the one or two health providers who know you, listen well and can be your objective guide in keeping you as healthy as possible and then rely on them.
Then rejoice when you get this diagnosis of “worried well” because it simply means you had a legitimate concern that turned out NOT to be a disease or life threatening illness."
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A new way for doctors to accuse a patient of faking, "It is all in their heads" sort of thing.
A way to cover that the doctor could not diagnose the problem, or look further.
An injury to ankle hurt in my foot. It was a broken ankle. They x-rayed only the foot, ridiculed and laughed at me. I stopped seeking treatment. A year later, another fall, broken ankle on other side, same leg. X-ray showed an older break on the other side.
However, before that, I had a kidney infection, from when the stone got stuck in the kidney, blocking my ureter. It almost killed me! If you have ANY fever, nausea, or vomiting, get yourself to the ER right away!
And don't let them get away with saying it's "just" a bladder infection, either. That's what they told me the first time I went to the ER, so I went home with low grade antibiotics and an undiagnosed kidney infection. I almost died. Ask for a urologist! When I went back to the ER the 2nd time (I was hallucinating from the fever by then), I got a urology specialist - he's the one who checked me into the hospital. He said it was "a life or death situation." He gave me morphine for the pain, major IV antibiotics, and took me into the OR to drain the infection, under anesthesia. I was in there just about 2 weeks.
My oldest son is home from school sick, he's on antibiotic for an ear infection but now has a nasty sinus infection or flu, not sure which, but I do too. My joints hurt, my head hurts and I'm all stuffed up but with runny nose. My toddler is also just getting over being sick and still having the stuffy nose.
I'm swear, today from the time I've been up, mom waits until I sit down to ask for things.
"Can I have an ibuprofen?" "Can you get the tweezers and pull my chin hairs out?" "Can we (she says we but means me) put the Stouffers lasagna in the oven?" "Can you turn the A/C up higher?"
I just want to be left ALONE, even for an hour! The kicker is that even when I have just gotten up, she will wait until I sit down and have something else for me to do. I've gotten to the point that like with the tweezers I said I'll do it but not this minute. I was busy with something else.
I will be so glad when we find an AL facility. Even if I have to go up there every day, it would be a welcome relief from this.
Have you been tested? Get tested and make sure they send urine for a culture. The culture will identify the type of bacteria, and the med for the best treatment. Urinalysis dip stick is not reliable with all types of infections. It will take a few days for results of the culture.
Susan, I have just learned that a friend of a friend has early onset Alzheimers and I wonder about some of the other people I know in my age group. One old 59 yr. old friend of my husband's, who lives in another state, called my husband at 1am a few weeks ago just to talk! Really? It is 1am and we were asleep. This friend acted like it was 1pm and nothing was wrong with calling at that hour! Bizarre. He did not sound drunk or anything. Luckily he has not done it again.
I *hate* that disease with a passion. I tried to give all the encouragement I could, but what do you say in situations like that? What a rotten hand to be dealt. I'm working very hard at being positive in all situations, but boy....that's a tough one.
Also though... there is 2nd strain of flu virus going around Chicago right now. I think it's considered the 2nd time the 2nd strain has come around this spring. I feel a little flu-like. I just hope it goes away soon. I can take tomorrow off (I'm at work today and SUFFERING) and rest... :-(
Thanks you guys. I'm drinking lots of lemon water so that if it is a small stone, it may flush on its own.
I guess I go to ER tomorrow if not any better. I went to clinic yesterday but I didn't have a temperature and they didn't take my insurance, and she said she was very limited as to what she could discover... better if I go to more comprehensive place with my symptoms... so I left.
That's a great story, Veronica. lol
Interestingly my DH worked for the company that originally developed the lithocast. He spent one memorable Sunday afternoon in our garage testing the instrument in water in my dishwashing bowl blowing up lumps of I think calcium in the bladers of sheep salvaged from the slaughter house. Unfortunately my bowl also got blown up not that I wanted it back.
But, on the chance it is stones, drink, drink, drink!
(Same thing the hospital does with an IV.)
If it's a big stone, they usually blast it with lithotripsy. They anasthetize you and put you in a tub of water. The lithotripter pulvorizes it to tiny pebbles so they can get through the ureter and be urinated out.
Good luck-I hope you don't have them.
The dreaded kidney stones! The good news is that all kidney stones aren’t created equal.
Some present only with UTI symptoms. Some present as a UTI on steroids. Then there’s the real mamajammers that will take you to your knees and send you to the ER. The last category, in my case are the only ones that there is no doubt what is going on.
Water lots of water all the time not just when you have symptoms. I am really bad about keeping up the water routine.
I opted for the IV to give me a head start. Later they gave me a top hat type thing to pee in at home.... and I needed to see if I saw the stone, which would be extremely tiny.... it was like panning for gold !!
I've been drinking the 100% cranberry the past day and says online that is not good if kidney stones, so... lemon water it is. I have plenty of lemons and can see if that doesn't help me out. Thanks again. Hugs back at you.
Hugs, hope you feel better soon.