I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I highly recommend taking something you no longer want and taking it out to the garage or outside and smashing it .
Put it in a trash bag first .
I recognized it right away !
I am/was ( depending on the day )
one of those that feels responsible for EVERYTHING .
That’s how I ended up caregiving !!
She said--this psychologist "You can take all the people in the entire world and divide them up into two lines.
One line thinks they are responsible FOR EVERYTHING
and the other line thinks they are responsible for NOTHING. I am going to figure which line you go into, but will tell you that the line with those who think they are responsible for EVERYTHING???
THEY are the easiest ones to treat".
I never forgot her. She shook me up and she shook up my world. She taught me so much and helped me to heal.
OK, so I don't KNOW who knocked who over here.
But the doc and I aren't going dancing any time soon.
And I do hope to hear he's OK. For all I know he could have stoked out right there before the bouquets.
LORDY!!!!!!
N. says they are probably consulting their attorney and the cops will be at the door soon. He is trying to keep the mood light; I will continue to garden and hope I will hear. Otherwise this is something I have to let go of without knowing. I should have taken the number myself. Like I said, it was an overall mess.
If the doc says he tripped maybe that’s the reason you bumped shoulders .
Don’t look to fabricate self blame .
Take his statement that he tripped at face value .
My DD said to me "Mom, did you ever think he could have bumped into YOU" and honestly I never did, but he could have. I guess the many cameras would tell if they could tell ANYTHING in those crowds; I doubt they could. He said to the guard "I tripped and fell" and I said "I think I felt out shoulders bump and I saw him go down. I honestly don't know.
Worrisome to me is that the exceptionally KIND KIND daughter who took my number promised to send me a text today telling me he is OK and it is 1 pm and I don't have it. I know she would not forget about this. And that means me think he could be hospitalized, could be hurt. I think if I don't hear ANYTHING by tonight I will have to think that my partner N. is correct that in all the hullabaloo she wrote down the number wrong. She did the first time and then went to put it in again.
I would feel so reassured to think he is OK, because honestly it is about all I can think about regarding this visit. I have pictures I haven't even downloaded to my Facebook and have instead just downloaded some pictures others took.
Alas.
I will let you all know if I hear anything. The truth is it is no place for old folks like us, but the other truth is that with the flower exhibit most of us who GO are OLD.
I'm relieved you're not hurt, and good for you going to the museum.
I love San Francisco. Fisherman's Wharf and Chinatown were two of my favorite places in the world when I lived there for a bit. I especially love Golden Gate park. I have not been there in many years and from what I see on tv of it, I hope it's not as bad all that.
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If I had to choose what city to me had the greatest art museums and world antiquity to see, I have go with Rome. I think I'd have to go for a year to explore and see all of it properly.
I do love the Smithsonian museums in Washington, DC also. I've been to DC several times and have not seen half of them.
My daughter was buying shoes for a school dance and she asked for platform shoes. They weren’t like the platforms that I wore as a teenager. They were ridiculously high!
I told her that she could never walk in those, much less dance in them. She said, “Mom, everyone dances barefoot.”
Apparently, they just wear them for a short while before they take them off.
I have always gone barefoot at home.
I kick off my shoes as soon as I get inside.
My husband is a slipper kind of guy. I am not a slipper kind of gal. My daughters love slippers.
Backwards . Maybe if he did that before he wouldn’t need Trulicity.
Anyway , last month he went for his yearly diabetic foot check at the podiatrist, who cut calluses off both feet for the first time and gave DH a 10% coupon for new sneakers and sent DH to a running store for more appropriate walking sneakers .
He said the owner helped him . She made him walk and she watched how his foot hits the ground to decide which was the right sneaker for him .
My daughter is a runner , she’s gone to this store as well for her running footwear . They helped her as well. She has flat feet and her ankles turn in . She said it’s a Mom and Pop store . And it’s right near my house .
I even have the foam type Birks for the beach & 'nice' lacy Skechers for going out 😁
Travelled Tasmania with heavy hiking boots the first time. Never again. Last trips packed 2x Skechers. Washed out the mud & dried over a heater.
And, oh, no I sure didn't go down. I sent HIM, down, the poor guy.! I PERSONALLY feel GREAT other than a bit shocked to be reminded just how easily those of us in our 80s can go down! And how little bounce we have.
I was kidding about being banned. Better entities than museums have tried to ban me. It never works. I do think perhaps the guards are warned about me. Like "watch that gal in the blue jeans and flowered mask; she is taking them down as she goes".
I actually felt very well, other than a bit teary in that while staring at lovely flowers and paintings I failed to notice the doctor. And then his daughters were so danged nice to me they made me cry a bit more. Not the boo hoo, you know, just the tears sliding down thing.
I was in fact congratulating myself on being on my third round of the entire show, having clicked dozens of pictures and enjoyed a round camera free, having used the stairs rather than the elevators, having worn my best blue jeans and black teeshirt WITH my handmade earrings. I was in quite the celebratory mood until I leveled the good doctor. Having said to myself "You are a member! Why aren't you here once a week! And why am I not. Such a marvelous open and beautiful place.
He surely is disliking nurses even MORE now than generally doctors do, and in SF they generally do dislike us because we are overall very mouthy and naughty due to very strong unions which allow us to pretty much advocate for our patients no matter what the doctors say or do.
I am going to just watch a bit better where I am going I think. When I am going.
Nacy, my brother lived his life in nothing but Birkies. I do think at some age he needed, for his balance, more support, but he never listened to me. His balance was trashed by Lewy's, but he didn't live long enough at 85 to ever fall from it. Or anything else. Sure looked like a drunken sailor there toward the end, but always managed to correct for lean quickly enough.
I don't WALK. I pretty much HIKE. So I wear Hokas. A lovely wife toe pan, great support, and they just go and go and go. Getting close on to about two hundred for them ,but boy do they last. I swear by them. So I am barefoot at home, Hokas on the street.
My daughters love Birkenstock shoes. I usually buy Skechers for walking.
I only wear nice shoes when I dress up for special occasions.
No , I normally wear a sandal with a small one inch wedge for my back .
The good doctor has a few years on you, and is likely saying:
"I don't know what happened. One minute I was reaching out to grab this beautiful younger woman in yellow, like a flowery vision, and the next I'm on the floor!" "Do you think she smacked me?"
So, Alva.
No one has banned you, no one will be taking you away (even though that would be the easy way out of aging).
You collided, along with an elderly 85 y.o. man, who was a doctor, and he fell.
You were being very brave just to go on this outing, and remembering it has been a long time since your brother was ill, and passed--since you were able to attend this favourite event.
Ah, I see now that you did not go down?
In the meantime, take a rest commensurate with the age you are feeling like right now. Be kinder to yourself-an accident that was no one's fault.
You will still have carefree moments, times you may feel younger than today!
It's not over for you.
Let us know how you are doing later, and tomorrow. Thanks for telling us, who care, about your crowded museum incident.
And, of course, we care about the good doctor too.
Next time, take a taxi home, not a bus. You are worth it, imo.
Hugs, many hugs.
I can see wearing them for special occasions when we are dressed up, just not on a daily basis. I am short too.
And flip flops in the summer. I lived in those as a kid. Now, I hate something in between my toes like that. 😝
Some flip flops are really fancy now. They are cute. My youngest daughter has some cute ones.
I need to wear them for pictures , I’m short .
I wear comfy shoes when I walk now.
Sometimes, I think about when I was young and walked all over in high heels! 👠 Never bothered me.
Youth! We could do so many things when we were young. I walked all over. Rode the buses and street cars, rode my bicycle for miles and miles.
I don’t remember even getting very tired when I was young. When we are young, we are in great shape.
At 68 years old now, there is no way that I am wearing high heels anymore!
I had mentioned that I had done Trader Joe shop one day (requires a bus there; then I shop; divide up groceries in two bags and walk a good distance downhill with the bags--my cardiac workout). THEN gardening for hours, and noticed stepping on the uneven flagstones it was throwing my balance. Yes, stamina goes down. I pride myself that I was the one still standing, in my latest, however, ha ha. Remember, I wasn't the one to go down here; I simply took the good doctor out.
My Reddit story was asking cwillie, who's a fan, why she likes R. because I had some very odd questions and answers on it. I think that was more a yahoo news flash on some of the funnier postings from Reddit. cwillie says that any number of them are quite sane there, and she likes it overall. I have never really tried it. Facebook, AC, and Nextdoor (minimally) are about all I can do, as staying on the computer too much will add to spinal stenosis!
I will update all when I know the good doctor is OK (he's likely muttering "GD nurses! Always a pain; never watch where they're going!" And I wouldn't blame him a bit.)
Trader Joe is the only shopping trip I do on my own. If we do Safeway (which I dislike and seldom do except to stock up on Rao's sauce on sale--arrabriata hot) or Costco we do it together and with the car. I no longer drive. Do the buses but N. still does drive. I am lucky in not driving as I am more active and more on my feet because of it.
My younger brother hit a deer when he was living in North Carolina. He felt horrible about the deer. They do cause a lot of damage to a car when hit.
It’s been one of those weeks I guess .
My husband took out a deer with the car two days ago . DH never even saw it coming .
Geeeeez, Golden was complaining about her vertical blinds on her patio door falling down today, which is a nuisance but it pales in comparison to your event!
Okay, I misread the post then. My fault.
Go to Trader Joe’s and stock up on your favorites! Trader Joe’s has a great cheese selection too!
His daughters were taken that he's a doctor and I a nurse. I told them we are, nevertheless, no good together on the dance floor.
The daughters were so incredibly kind. One was hugging me.
And need, nope, I didn't write "what's yours!". I think that no museum will let me in for a while. I am likely on a nationwide banned list for now.
WaytoMisery, I will take you up on the chips. I just happen to have some T-Joe classics.
have some potato chips too .
Glad you are Ok.
No guilt . It was an accident . For all you know the good doctor may be saying in his own head that he should not have gone out today either . But that’s silly because most falls happen at home anyway.