I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Lol, just what I wanted to do today, head to the mall the day after Thanksgiving
Glad to to hear it’s going well . Looks like you have something to be Thankful for !!
Love the vegan idea !! 🤣😂🤣.
Happy Thanksgiving .
Thanks. You are right . A lot can happen in a year. I’m not so sure she would be well enough to travel a year from now anyway. We went and saw her last month . She looks terrible. She has CLL and is wasting away . She used to be a heavy woman . Her partner told us she doesn’t eat much anymore . Happy Thanksgiving to you too .
Very glad to hear your news. Happy Thanksgiving to you.
🍂🍂🍂🥧🥧🥧
I’m SoUnhappy, but I think I’m on the path to SoHappy. The court case is going in the right direction.
Tell your MIL that your entire family is going to give up meat for your New Year’s resolution so there won’t be any turkey on the menu. You’re not even going to eat any byproducts of animals because you’re considering becoming vegan! LOL 😝
I KNOW ! I was going to take a break , but had to come and whine !!! You can’t make this S4* t up !
I may just say I’m going away next year. The nerve ! What if I wasn’t going to cook next year ? She’s giving me a years notice that we and my children have to be here while she graces us with her presence. I can’t even sleep , I’m so pissed off !!!
There’s always a first, I suppose! I’m sure this was an unexpected surprise to say the least and certainly an unpleasant one for you. 😝
My mother and grandmother were the same way. They could knit faster than people who knit the American way. It’s a different technique.
You’re right though, it doesn’t matter what speed someone goes as long as the result is the same.
They had tons of experience and knitting became second nature to them.
The German way of knitting eliminates the need to wrap the yarn around the needle for each stitch. That’s what makes the process quicker.
It’s hard to explain but I am sure that you could find a diagram of it online.
My mother and grandmother knitted and crocheted beautifully. They did many other handiwork also. My husband’s mother and grandmother did beautiful work also.
My maternal grandmother’s family came to America from Germany. She and my mother knitted using the German method.
I learned how to knit the German way as well. It’s easier and faster. I haven’t done any knitting in years though. I do enjoy sewing, making jewelry and other craft projects.
But I love love love knit-picking, because you ALWAYS have to fish those stitches when you drop. Gads, I ruined more stuff and can still not make anything more useful than a hot pad.
It may be nit-picking! LOL 😆 Thanks for the correction. Also, my ‘smart’ phone has a mind of its own and makes silly corrections to make me look dumb!
Just life in general. There is way too much knit-picking going on around us.
I would hardly feel like something left unsaid is tragic on an online forum. Besides, I don’t take comments that personally.
Plus, some people have lost their sense of humor! Laughter is good for the soul. I truly appreciate comic relief! It is much needed in today’s world.
So many people over analyze everything! The older I get, the more annoying it becomes to me. Life is too short to take trivial matters seriously.
I appreciate a quirky sense of humor. It’s one of the reasons why I fell in love with my husband! He made me laugh.
So, yeah…sometimes we may respond in a facetious way but we aren’t trying to be cruel to anyone.
I agree with both of you. How’s that for diplomacy? 😆
First of all, speaking on an online forum isn’t always easy. No one sees our facial expressions or hears the tones of our voices. Misunderstandings occur between posters.
There’s no point to dwell on misunderstandings afterwards. I get a little annoyed when a person doesn’t let something go and they want to drag it out forever.
I do feel that everyone has the right to express their opinion about a subject. Plus, if a person doesn’t want to receive a variety of answers they shouldn’t ask for opinions.
I don’t expect everyone to agree with my point of view and I certainly don’t want to feel pressured by anyone to feel the same way about topics as they do. I like reading various viewpoints, whether I agree or not.
It’s never a good idea to take another person’s opinion personally. It’s simply their opinion on the matter.
There are times when I refrain from commenting because I know that my views will be upsetting to them. Only because I feel they aren’t ready to hear another viewpoint yet.
Everyone travels through their time in life at their own pace. Some travel more slowly, others move along quicker.
I believe we have all said things before that we didn’t intend to offend anyone, yet it was misinterpreted by others. We can’t please everyone! They are entitled to their own personal opinions.
It wasn't pretty.
But no one sees 80 year olds, anyway.
Tell doc that you will take a sputum specimen to the lab, OK. He/she doesn't need to see you, but this needs a culture.
Please do that. Almost kind of worried you got a case of walking pneumonia or something you are missing. Are you able to go uphill without shortness of breath?
That tired thing? That was how I missed my own walking pneumonia 30 years ago when we moved. I could barely make it up the stair and finally got the xray.
Please follow up; I am worried about thick orange. Truly.
I agree it's helpful to give the tough truth to those who are stuck in their emotions and trying to be overly self-sacrificing in a bad situation. Don't volunteer for martyrdom! It never ends well. lol There has to be a self-preservation limit in caregiving and people struggle with being objective and sensible when emotions are involved. However, in the case of being sexually targeted by a parent, dementia or not, the only course of action is to remove yourself from the situation, at least until fixations subside or can be managed through medication. It's hard enough for paid professionals to deal with that kind of thing. For a child, there's NO WAY that situation won't cause you trauma feelings. Unacceptable.
You sound like a wonderful writer. I'm envious. I struggle with it because these are not essays where I can pick an area of interest like you can with a thesis. That would be fun, at least at times. lol Everything I write is compiling and regurgitating research within a narrow directive. It gets old. And I'm writing several pages a week on top of one 10-page larger paper a month. It's a lot of writing! I did get to experience brick-and-mortar library research methods 20 years ago, including microfiche and all those fun - if much slower and tedious - research methods. I use AI often (Google Bard) to get another perspective on topics. Supposedly my school can check for AI plagiarism, as well as plagiarism from other online sources. I never plagiarize, of course, but we all borrow good ideas from different places. AI is no different in that regard.
I definitely have an infection. Dark orange is the color this time around. lol I called my doc and they don't have any openings so I'm kind of stuck there. It occurred to me that Sudafed plus Emergen-C makes me jittery and shaky. Pseudoephedrine plus B vitamins. Airborne doesn't add B vitamins to their immune-boost formula so I'm switching to that one exclusively. That's part of what's dragging my emotions around lately, I'm sure. Thanks so much for the supportive words. I cannot WAIT until this funk is over.
Way is right about sinusitis. If not an infection and doc thinks antibiotics not the answer, it is like bronchitis and can go on for two, even three months. Patience wins the day. But anything colorful on the spectrum yellow to green? See the doc again.
One thing to think of is at some point stop ALL over the counter meds. My partner, with his allergies, got into something where it was actually the decongestants and the other OTC meds that made things worse. BAD chronic cough. Could not move the phlegm. Once he stopped everything things started to clear, including his own head. Some meds cause rebound problems. They aren't as benign as we think.
As to the paper, good luck. When will AI be writing ALL papers for us? Soon enough they say and some teachers are not even assigning written stuff anymore because they know they will get an AI papers. I still remember my term paper having to be researched in a library. I loved it , actually and wish I still had all those notecards handwritten on the Titanic. I got 1,000 points out of 1,000 and was told I should consider writing professionally, and don't you just KNOW I still have that yellowing paper: The Titanic: A crisis in Communication. HA!
As to that thread you mention? I came to your defense on it, and I think you were DEAD ON right! As to our OPs, I don't believe in the white glove treatment. I think it holds them back. I think sometimes we need HONESTY even when it shakes them up. Sympathy holds us back. Praise for our attempts at Sainthood makes us arrow-pincushions with nothing but the comforting praise of others. Little recompense. And some come to us to argue. I think that honesty, and even tough love works better for those in habitual ways of acting and reacting that are self-harming. That said, you used a word that is entirely appropriate to that thread: "Made me suspicious of motives".
To my mind you nailed it.
It was entirely suspicious!
Don't question your advice. I have received a few notes that my tough love shook someone out of complacency and habit. And if they more need loving sympathy then I comfort myself they can just scroll up or down to find it.
Best to you and hoping you feel better.
Life is stressful. Work+school are a lot to juggle. And then feeling poorly over the last couple of months has just added to the stress. I've had a reaction of feeling poorly after a covid booster before so that could definitely be part of things. Any booster reaction should clear up soon. And I definitely have a sinus infection, not just congestion or sinusitis, so I'll get that dealt with... and get this final paper done. Onward and upward. Appreciate you!