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Okay, that explains a lot. You need either iron or B12, whichever anemia you have.
I wish I could be a teensy butterfly on your shoulder as you educate the new one! My hubby has BPs as low as 70/41 and I give him B12 shots. You're not alone.
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Hey Coloresue I am slightly anemic. I know that. My doctor recently retired and I have just started seeing this new one so he is pretty clueless about me. I'll have to school him.
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Gershun,
Thanks for solving my mystery!!
Doesn't your Dr. believe you when you tell him about your low BP readings and your symptoms? If mine didn't believe me I'd be shopping for a new Dr. What good is he if he pays no attention to what you say?
If you feel faint when you stand, you need to stand more slowly and make sure you have a sturdy piece of furniture or similar to grab as you rise in case you lose your balance. You will need just a few seconds standing still to feel normal and ready to walk. A lot of people have this problem. It's not usually treated in any way.
You may want to explore why you feel tired with your Dr. I assume he would tell you if you're anemic. There could be other reasons. That is IF he listens to you. There's still male prejudice that women are hypochondriacs and sometimes don't get listened to by male Drs. That's just 1 possibility.
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Coloresue Jeanette's Mom passed away two mths. ago. I know you are probably new to this site and had no way of knowing that but just thought I'd let you know.
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I know this is really petty, but my neighbour mows his lawn and blows grass all over my driveway and car and if I don't clean it up I track it into the house. So he mows, I get out my mower and blow it all back his way, and we have been doing this little dance all spring and into summer. Today I actually thought I got ahead of him by mowing my lawn first and mowing a wide strip along side the driveway, but tonight when I took out the trash what do I see but grass all over the drive, and more than usual too. Passive aggressive a**!!!
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Coloresue, I gave up on getting the email notices for this website as it was becoming too cumbersome. If I didn't go into that email address every day, I had 50 to 100 and then I had to re-sort the page so I could click on the oldest one for that one topic, first in, first out. Was wasting too much time with that. Stopped the notifications, and can still find everything I was following. The SEARCH SITE at the top right of the page is helpful, too.
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JeanetteB,
I don't blame you one bit for being tired of cooking 3 meals a day! I don't like cooking, but if I did, 3 times a day is toooo much!!! I'll bet your mother appreciates the fast food every now and then just as much as you do, even if she doesn't or can't express it. It's good to shake up the routine a bit now and then.
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Coloresue I get that too. In fact sometimes I get no email notices but I check and it turns out there are 15 new posts.

Veronica since you seem to know so much about blood pressure I've got a question. My blood pressure is abnormally low. Sometimes as low as 90 over 65. I feel tired a lot and sometimes feel faint when I stand up. My doctor never sees this cause as I mentioned earlier my blood pressure is always higher when I see him.
But I have one of those blood pressure monitors and when I test it myself its always low.
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My whine moment: Why do I keep getting email notices as if there are new answers to questions I'm following? I look, but there are no new answers. This happens over and over again. What don't I know?
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Now a happy whine. i found someone who truly needs a helmet. i was in my realtors office this morning and noticed on the next desk there was a notice on her board there was a notice with a large circle and a note that said "BANG YOUR HEAD HERE" I told my realtor to tell her colegue she needed to get a helmet and she said she had a construction one at home so would bring it in and leave it on the desk
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Hope buy yourself a B/P monitor and take it morning and evening for a few days and see what it looks like.Bottom number in the triple digits is TOO high. if it stays up at home then time to find a cardiologist but the fishing Dr
Sit quietly at the table with your arm relaxed on the table then take the reading. Do your feet and ankles get at all swollen. I spent many many years being blown off till finally some one heard a murmer and discovered I had probably had rheumatic fever and a couple of my heart valves are leaking. Do you get an uneven pulse rate too and feel your heart is racing, get dizzy or unstable. If you truly have migraine not just a severe headache from other causes there are now some pretty good medications
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Well I send a nasty email and lo and behold a prompt response!
Zoomed over to dads bonfire night as I had a long overdue hair appt which I knew would run into tonight's event. walk in and one of the aides let me know dad is in bed already (7:39 pm). Said he was really confused today looking out the window waiting for his wife to come and get him. Sad to say I think he is thinking of me. The aide said he talks about his twin daughters but what I got out of conversation is that he isn't remembering me as his daughter when I am not there.
Plus a lot of activity as the couple I mentioned earlier well the wife died last night. A complete shock as I know her husband isn't doing very well. We just had a nice conversation and I going to bring my IPad and show them garden photos.
There was quite a bit of coming and going that contributed to dads confusion.
Tomorrow last day of hubby's vacation and we have an outing planned so I am hoping to get somehow to see dad tomorrow.
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Yo-yo sort of day here. Saw the memory doc this morning, who confirmed that dad has a lot of "dead" capillaries in his brain, "more than is normal for someone your age". Preliminary diagnosis is "mild cognitive impairment", may be upgraded to early dementia pending further testing. Which they were able to move up from October to Aug 3.

The first-choice assisted living place called yesterday to say they have an apartment of the floor plan dad preferred coming available. First she said in a couple weeks, today she said it will be ready by this weekend which is faster than they can process the paperwork.

Doctor did his AL pitch, not very smooth but the message was clear. Dad went into pouting toddler mode. When we got home I sat down with him and said straight out, I'm sorry things haven't worked out the way either of us hoped, but I cannot continue with the situation as it is. More pouting and whining about how he doesn't want to be in an "old folks home". Guess it's supposed to make me cave, but what it's really doing is making me angry.
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Jude thats funny about wishful thinking that a swat team would be outside my shower. Actually some of those guys are pretty hot :)

Hope there is a thing called white coat syndrome. Its been proven that people's blood pressure does go up a bit when they visit their doctor. Probably cause we have to wait so long in the fricking waiting room. Then again in the examining room. Ah well.

Lucky Lu I've been wishing for a sign from my Mom too the last two months. Haven't received one. But I like to think she is too happy in heaven to be bothered.

We got the suggestion about bringing something in the shower with us to catch the water too along with a brick in the toilet tank. Its the first time in the whole time I've lived here where they are enforcing water restrictions. Its very sad watching the footage of fires on the news. There was a deer running through the streets of the city day before yesterday, probably got lost running from the fires. :( Makes me so sad. Imagine how scared it was.
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Luckylu, just keep talking to her about sending you a sign from Heaven. She may not be able to verbally respond, but she is hearing you. I had this conversation many times with my own Mom, who had just lost my Dad in previous months, and she said that she would. On the day she died, we (my 3 sisters and I,) took the flowers she had been given, to the cemetery where my Dad was buried, to put them on his grave, and low and behold there was a beautiful cloud formation with rays of sunshine coming through, and we all looked at each other at the same time and and said, it's a sign, they are together and are happily reunited, it was eerie, but clear to us, as unbeknownst to us, we had all had asked the same of her in one way or another. It was a happy feeling to receive that confirmation, and felt clear to each of us. I'll never forget!
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My only whine is these "religious" organizations that still send the trinkets in the mail and want money. I should have made a spreadsheet of who I have contacted. The one I got in moms name today received a very nasty email from me written mainly in all caps. Mom died almost 17 months ago.Grr.......
I had to go to work early today as the person scheduled at 6 am didn't show up until after 8 am. Generation gap but get an alarm clock instead of relying on your phone. Getting my hair done as class reunion in a couple weeks then family bonfire night at dads-though it's 86 outside currently......
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I wonder how I will know if Mother got to Heaven safe and happy...I sure do wish she could send me a sign.Here Ive had all this time and I never made a plan for when I find her gone and I never got a black dress yet either.I dread it all so much.No bathroom trouble today,Thank God but shes sleeping alot and isnt eating hardly anything but she did drink her 1 Ensure she usually does.Mother has been so ehausted ,she tries to talk and its "babblish"..Thanks for being here.
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I just re-read my last post and noticed two thoughts merged together. My ADD is working overtime right now. I left out a few words. Should read "Like attending to your mother's care comes to mind and would be at the top of the list!" Can't even blame it on drinking, haven't started yet.
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cwillie...that's exactly what I was thinking re the doctor...he obviously has never done real gardening and/or yard work...because what we do here will give you a better cardio AND resistance workout than any gym ever could....

I'm still laughing about the "Dirty Prancing"....lololol
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Oh Jude-- Dirty Prancing! Hahaha!!!
Gershun-- I'll be in the Audience, can't wait! I'm no good at jokes, but I just LOVE yours! Keep up the sense of humor, as it is certainly entertaining here!
Hope22, I'm So So glad you are getting your respite relief Finally! Fingers crossed everything stays even keel! Glad your Mom is doing OK for now!
LUCKYLU, You hang in there girl, you're a treasure!
Everybody else. You all have a Fantastic Day!
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Re: the doc that says gardening isn't exercise.
I can picture him now, cutting his perfectly manicured lawn with his riding lawn mower while his SO deadheads the flowers the landscape company planted for them. LOL
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Shilo I am sure that it didn't help the situation.

It has always been a big bugaboo for me when doctors schedule 10 people for the same appointment time...that is bad enough but to schedule it when he's not even AT the office...I was already aggravated when I heard he was on his lunch hour. Especially when we're supposed to be there early.

I saw one man in there when I arrived, but I heard him go in three different rooms before he saw me...that is what sent me over the edge. And he talked to the man I know for at least 45 minutes..I know because I timed him...and a lot of it was just stupid mindless chitchat about fishing and such.

And all I could think of was Mama being here alone and I already felt a lot of guilt for leaving her home napping...There's no way she can move because she can't even lift her arms, but these days you have to think of stuff like breakins, fires, etc...so I was losing my mind. I was about to leave when I popped my head out the door and hollered down the hall. And for him to tsk tsk everything I told him..the constant blinding migraines, the pain in my left ear, the lumps on my left lymph nodes...and he didn't pay any of that any attention...just looked like he jotted down a couple of notes, told me he would renew my prescriptions and told me he wanted to see me in three months.... I guess that's about the same time hell is supposed to freeze over because that's most likely when he'll see me again.

Oh how I wish my doctor where I used to live. I am thinking it would be worth the two and a half hour drive just to see him again....Surely there is someone in this town who would be good...oh well, one thing at a time...

I think I was not as concerned about the high BP that day as I was yesterday when I felt like all was calm and I felt better and it was even higher....whine, whine, whine...sorry friends.....I'll put on my happy pants now.
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Hope, Did you consider that your BP was up slightly from having to wait in the doctor's office that long all the time thinking you had better things to do then sit there waiting for the *sshole to see you? Like attending to your mother's care comes would be at the top of the list! I'm sure physicians feel their patients are getting relaxing meditation time in their waiting rooms, right?
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We could call a care-giver film Dirty prancing for thats what I seem to do when Mum is desperate for a poo to get her turned round in time . Love Wipe off and the wipe out bits.
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Veronica, Tiny monkeys? Isn't it amazing how tenants always seem to come up with the most unbelievable crazy situations?? Were there any snakes? I hope the animals will be ok.
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I am happy to read this morning about Sharknado, Jude's Mom wanting the jumping rope, and the SWAT team in Gershun's bathroom. I wake up sometimes feeling depressed and this all made me laugh and realize we caregivers all need some humor in our lives.. I have not tuned in to Sharknado... but.I did reread "Jaws" again last month though. Since I can't get to a beach, which I badly need to do, I thought this would be a humorous way to deal with missing out on that.

Jude, I am glad you told this meddling social worker off. Sometimes these people seem to go too far. Sounds like the nurses were glad someone told her off as well!
Susan, I see what you mean about facebook and how people post what they want others to see of them...not what is really the truth. That is one reason I have stayed away from it. It allows people to twist the real truth about who they are and what they do. I would get mad at the bragging especially now.
Hope, I like the idea of calling the caregiver movie "Wipe Off"...there was a surf song called "Wipe Out" that could be one of the ones on the soundtrack....The possibilities are endless!
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Canada has water rationing? Do not feel guilty about showering Gershen. Instead, we're supposed to put buckets in there to catch the water. Or try plugging the drain, filling up the tub. Then, you will need to call the paramedics to help you get the non-potable water to the plants outside. The paramedics are much cuter than swat. Once, they helped a 90 year old drape his roof with tarps in the rain.
Do not try to lift and carry the water out by yourself.
Once outside, you will need to explain to the water police why you are allowed to water on a non-water day. If they will let you explain yourself (oh fun) you can then say it is non-potable water and that is allowed, to re-use your shower water.

This water rationing idea courtesy of So. California, U.S.A. we just had several days of thunder, lightening, and rain, flash floods. IS THE DROUGHT OVER YET?

The governor of California has said to ease up on the HOA regulations to keep your lawn green. So my neighbor gets a 10 day notice about her dead lawn, go figure.

I asked my husband, no matter what, keep the recently planted sunflower alive, even if you have to drink lots of water yourself and then go outside.
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Gershun is that wishful thinking?.......I expect the shower curtain to open and a whole swat team will be there.
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Awww...I love you too Gershun!! :)
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Hope I love you!!
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