I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Don't feel guilty sweetie, imagine if she was at home and something very serious happened and you were not able to help her? You'd feel worse.
Got dads checkbook all caught up but now have to deal with canceling an old credit card- you cannot even get an address to send a letter without permission to talk to the cardholders. I know it's a script they stick too but bend the rules a little.
Hoping for the best for your mother luckylu.
I'm afraid I don't have much positive to add today - having the "guilts" pretty badly today.
Our nurse AND the chaplain was here today...kind of tag teaming me I guess...they are really pushing me to do the respite, so cwillie....I do understand the apprehension, but I actally did do that last August as I HAD to and everything went smoothly...since I was moving stuff the entire week it wasn't much of a break physically for me..or even mentally because moving is a "b" at it's best, but it did go quite smoothly and in fact, I think Mama kind of enjoyed a break from ME as well. :) I do understand but it will be fine...and I am most likely aiming for mine to begin next Monday...it is long overdue....
The cat wrangling...what can I say...I think I have tried every thing known to man but they are just smarter than me :)....The one thing that will usually work to get them close enough that I can dive and get them, the Temptations...the treats, not the group.....they love those things...thing is they love them so much, they can easily go through two and now three of those HUGE mega tubs of treats in one week..But surprise surprise I have spoiled them now and they refuse to come in without them. I had run out last night and so really struggled but finally got them in.speaking of spoiling...my pup is over there sleeping on her back in her little pink polka dot tutu....
Lucky and Katie, my heart aches for you right now. Truly, this is a very sad phase your mother's are going through. It's hard to keep the smile on your face and cheeriness in your voice. From what the hospice nurse told me, ones body stores a lot of food inside, so even if it appears they're not eating much, there's lots to still get out. Please don't let this upset you, however, dying naturally is a very synchronized process of eliminations. If I were to look at it in strictly a clinical view, ( I read several great books on dying) it's pretty amazing how it works so that the soul inside the body doesn't suffer. Having your beloved mother take her last breathes in your arms isn't easy, knowing that it was a painless experience for mom, while she sorted life out, was a comfort.
Susan, how did moms party go??
Hope, try and pay no attention to your brother and the house. Keep letting it go, however, I would be more assertive on your Sundays. Give him a piece of your mind girl!!
Happy Anniversary Veronica!!!!
Gershun, I'm so glad you are getting some restorative sleep, you needed that.
texakana, I don't change out of my comfy clothes unless I'm expecting company or leaving the house. I'm retired, what's the point. I earned it! Lol
Veronica, HAPPY ANNIVERSARY LOVE!
I am having a "staycation", I plan to sleep in, go to the beach, have lunch with friends, MAYBE cross some items off my to do list, then again maybe not. And a whole week without dealing with bowel issues...
If that doesn't work, if the cat is in the back yard, open the back door, then go out the front door and walk around to the back yard rustling the bushes or making some type of noise where the cat doesn't know it is you [but not loud so to scare the neighbors], then the cat will get spooked and dash into the house.
Oh gosh, I know how it is to lose sleep trying to herd cats at night :P
Really, she will. Enjoy your week off (once you've got past the first two days of being owl-eyed and bat-eared because of the eerie silence, that is…) - any plans for what to do with it?
Had a pretty awesome weekend. Mom got her new chair Friday night so, she is in have an and it brings her out of her room and out of bed mor often. She had a friend visit and our 8 month old granddaughter came to rescue us for several hours. Today was strictly recuperation and I am about to go to bed. Night alla,
I pray every night for the people on this site. I will say extra prayers for you and your dear Mom tonight.
Well, just a small whine...and I guess I am really worn down because I don't mean to even complain about it anymore...but....for the 2nd weekend in a row, my brother has not come here...Today the deal was that they have hired a landscaping company to further beautify their lakeside palace so he is busy with that...he told me he would come next weekend if I needed to get out for a bit...so that will be three weeks without a chance to get out and about...and then it will only be for an hour or so. I need to plan ahead and figure something or somewhere to go and just tell him I need the entire day....
Oh, he did send pictures of it and it is gorgeous....with all the freeform flower beds, fancy plants, etc....and I am happy for him..BUT...the thing he never stops to think about...I will never be able to have anything as nice as this, and he got it because he and his first wife griped and threatened and harassed Mama to the point where every time I called her or came home she would be in tears and would tell me that "yall" are killing me... (so I was included in it)..anyway, I wasn't even saying anything..but one day on the patio at my little home, I was sitting there talking to God and also out loud talking to Daddy and wondering what I ought to do...and then, it felt like Daddy was telling me to let it go...and so to keep it from breaking my Mama, I walked away from that place I loved so much, that I had spent all my life taking care of while he was a fancy ass lifeguard, the man about town, then later, the young dad with the cute wife and kids and so they just had it handed to them...I know I did it for the right reason...but for some reason now I get aggravated that he does not seem to ever think how it makes me feel for him to brag and send the pictures of what HE has, what HE worked for...because to be honest, he and she together would NEVER have been able to buy that place had they not been handed it on a silver platter...I guess what I always remember is right after I agreed to let him take it, and everything had been finalized, he told me "there, I'm tired of kissing your a$$....that was 20 years ago and it still hurts....and to be honest if I had it to do over again, I would NEVER have just given in and let him take that away from Mama....
Talking about small mercies. I have long complained that hubby hogs the remote. he comes into the living room requests the remote selects his program watches for a while then wanders off leaving the TV on something I really don't want to watch and the remote on the other side of the room. After much complaining hubby went and got another remote so my very own safely resides in a pocket at the side of my recliner.
Tex I once had a patient taking 140mg morphine every 2 hours. Mothers make up, do you have to rub her knees with Absorbine too?
All that British humor makes me feel homesick. Tuned into PBS on the 4th hoping to see Hyacinth and the family but I got the band on the front lawn of the White House.
Hubby just wished me happy anniversary it is our 52nd. It is tommorow actually but he said it is already the 13th in the UK
Gosh I loved that poster. If anyone knows how to track down very old advertising campaigns, let me know?
Shar Pei I think they are called.
Hope try cat nip to get your kitties inside. Even if you don't give them any they will come running.
As far as makeup is concerned my look is ponytail and glasses most of the time. I figure no one can tell if I'm wearing makeup when I have my glasses on anyway.I think Woman of a certain age look better the less makeup they wear.