I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Her memory is in/out, but that's to be expected. Yesterday, she was pretty cheerful and ready to go to the nursing home to start on her therapy. Today she's still thinking she can go home instead of the nursing home, but once reminded, she remembers that she needs to go to the nursing home for therapy...but is determined that after therapy, she is coming home. (I cautiously remind her that we have to see how much strength she can regain before we make that decision...the last thing I want is to sugarcoat it and tell her she can definitely come home when I don't know that it's true, so I'm riding the fine line of maintaining a cheerful outlook on things while also telling her the truth.)
Today she's very emotional, worried about one of my siblings, who has a serious infection from a recent surgery and is having trouble fighting it - Mom said, "she's too young to die". Yes, the infection is very, very serious, and if not controlled, it's going to be a serious problem, but I've been trying not to tell Mom the worst of it - but I think she senses how bad it is. So she's emotional about that. She called me 2 hours after I left this morning to come home to work and thought that she had fallen asleep while I was still there and that I left while she was asleep and was upset about that. (She was wide awake when I left and I kissed her goodbye.) She really doesn't do well with these hospital/nursing home stays, but I know we're coming close to the point of the nursing home stay becoming a permanent one. :-(
Well, this week I have been dealing with more of my problem of taking on more than I ought to...a week ago, one of the customers had brought his tiny terrier pup and just left it in the parking lot. The employees said he has brought it before, but he has never left it...This is a little one, almost like a Yorkie, but a little larger but cute as a button. Turns out it is a little girl, she's very sweet and other than being covered in fleas, which I promptly dealt with she's really a perfect little dog. My problem is I don't need to deal with anything extra...Her worst problem is she loves Mama and the minute she gets out of her room she flies in to the den where Mama is, and is so exctied she jumps up on her bed and pees all over her....I am losing my mind...I gave the employees my name and phone number and told them the little pup was about to get run over, because she almost got run over twice while I was trying to get to her...so I told them tell him I picked her up to keep her safe til he could call me...He hasn't called. I went back yesterday and they said he has not been back....I have been keeping her to give sufficient time to allow the owner to get her, but no postings, no calls, no anything and now I am thinking he probably accomplished his mission, leaving her there so some kind soul aka idiot, would get her....In a different world I would keep her, and I hope this week I could just make it work in the event he didn't come back, but I really need to rehome her for my sake and for hers....
Thankfully I have three different people who are interested in her and one of them is my chaplains in laws and that is the one I am praying works out....I won't let her go just anywhere..I want to know she is loved and safe...sometimes I wish things like this didn't bother me so much, but what else could I do????
CM, I hope your visitor will be able to do the repair work! Had an electrician like that once in a previous home...he installed a light switch plate at a 45 degree angle!
Hope, glad you like your new devices. I am putting off upgrading for now until I have a clearer head to learn the things.....if that ever happens!
OK whine moment - I did pigs liver for lunch - its a fave in our household. I know better than to ask but I asked ' Did you enjoy your lunch?'
I have had better. I dont know why you keep giving me lamb chops you know I dont like chops or lamb
Ah ok Mum I will remember that!!!
Jeanette that sounds time consuming to me..Is it difficult? I would like to try some as I love mozzarella, but it does sound time consuming....
We have one of the thick egg crate padded pressure mattresses too. This one is not like the one we had for Daddy, which required power to run...that one was loud and he did not like it I recall as the noise disturbed him..this one is nice a comfy and Mama seems to be pretty comfy on it....
Yeeha for me I finally got a new laptop...maybe now my eyesight can restore...I have a really good phone, nonetheless all that swyping gets old when i'm tryng to type a long winded comment. I really love this one, but it takes a little time getting used to the feel of the keyboard and such...but I really like it and I am so thankful....
Jeanette, hope you had a good afternoon and found those cows...:)
FB has been brutal on me the last couple of days. One of my so called friends lit into me about a post I made and the thing that po's me is he never comments on anything to do with my life until it is something where he can try to put forth his "learned" opinion on a topic..he is an attorney, and an arrogant one at that..a lot of high school pals have a huge issue with his arrogant condescending manner ...the fun part this time was two of my friends tag teamed him finally and he went away..that part was pretty fun.
The cat has just jumped off the back of the sofa upon seeing a small moth and landed on and skidded across my legs and feet and now they are bleeding profusely. Guess I'll go tend to that now....
She is actually anxious to get out of the hospital and over to the nursing home to get started on her therapy. She is aware that at any point in time, her body may stop regaining its strength, and the nursing home stay may have to become permanent...but it remains to be seen if she remembers these conversations later.
Jeannette, the mozzarella cheese salad stuff sounds delicious.
I agree I'd trade missing my Mom for a few of those other things. The good days for sure.......
Oh you are right near me. Basically right across the bridge! For some silly reason, blame it on the blonde hair, but I thought you were more NY side Canadian? You are in my same time zone so why in heaven did I think that? oh well.... guess I'm next :/
This house doesn't have A/C, I splurged some of ma's money to buy 2 - 10,000 BTU's portable ones. One for my room and one for the living /dining room. If I place fans strategically I can cool the majority of the house, plus keep the curtains drawn, doors closed.... bleh, talk about noisy and not at all helping with my sleep issue's. 2 big dogs and me in a full size bed trying to keep cool and sleep. Well... guess who hangsssss off the damn side of the bed. ---- ME My older girl, Daphne (14) is not feeling so good in this heat...she gets the good spot on the couch (for now).
Well, summer is here which means I have started making my fresh homemade mozzarella cheese/tomatoes/basil, otherwise known as Caprice Salad. Yum. First batch of the summer turned out pretty darn good :) The best thing about making this is you barely get the milk hot so no hot kitchen's to deal with. Very easy, much easier than you probably think and if you can't get a neighbor to milk their cow, I have used regular milk, worked just fine. YUM barely any carbs and full of protein too ;)
Shilo, the hospice here gave us the egg crate thing but it was SO much more than that. A good 4 plus inches thick with strategically placed slashes or slits to better fit the body. The hospital bed saved my back for sure. I hope you can get one without laying down the law on them. Shouldn't be so hard now should it?
Its funny how these things seem so minor now in comparison to what all of you are going through with your dear Moms. Nothing like caregiving and then lack of to put things in their proper perspective. I really have nothing to complain about. Except missing my Ma :(
I just got off the phone with the lieutenant governor's office and I now have phone numbers to call on Monday to get help getting the bed from medicare. We shall see...not holding my breath.
Agreed. Don't push her too hard, neither push yourself . I really REALLY hope they get this all figured out with her. See? Times like this you somehow kind of sort of don't mind a few tinkle mishaps when you see what they're going through today. Sigh. Hang in there Susan and mom!
She's accepting of the fact that she needs to go to the nursing home for therapy and rehab, and the nurse case manager from the hospital agrees that unless she suddenly starts walking much longer distances than the 25' she managed to walk in the hospital today (which made her very weak and tired) that she needs to go to the nursing home, at least for therapy and rehab, and then we'll see where things go from there.