I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I'm not sure what you are talking about (class action lawyers/lawsuits). I was commenting on the "Whine Moment".
I need a cream filled donut and I can't find any around here. :(
Came home and suggested Mom use the bathroom before she lay down for a nap again - she insisted she didn't have to go, then got up, leaving a soaked chair pad and got into bed, still refusing to go to the bathroom. This is the part of the process that I *really* hate. She is still mobile and lucid enough to refuse to use the bathroom and argue with me about it if I insist that she go, but has no sensation in that area to tell that she's already soaking wet and needs to go to the bathroom *and* get her brief and clothes changed. So she's sleeping, probably soaking the bed and when she gets up, I will have to change the bed (which was changed this morning), wash the sheets again (good thing I already washed the first set I took off the bed this morning), mop the floor, which will almost certainly get peed on as she makes her way to the bathroom (and I mopped it this morning before I left for my 3 hrs of respite)....argh. So frustrating. I don't want her to tip over the edge into that next stage of dementia, because I know what that means - but this stage is really frustrating sometimes.
Respite worker noted that Mom was short of breath today, so I'm not the only one seeing it. She slept for 2 hours while I was gone - up for about 45 minutes after I got back and then back down to sleep again and has been asleep for 45 mins already. Well, cancel that, she's up. Cleanup time.
He lives with you to save him money but does not contribute to any of his living expenses?
I would sit him down and have a conversation about contributing to his expenses.
If you do not need the truck I would sell it, reimburse yourself for the costs you paid for the vehicles.
No, no, no, I meant:
This is what I ask my mother to distract her from her obsessions and fears!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! It gets her focused on the "good old days."
In your position, I think I would consider selling the truck and the care and providing one better, more dependable car. I know time is too short right now for the trip he plans, but it is what I would consider for the future. $5000 is a lot to invest in an older car.
I refused to do facebook years ago and now I am glad. That stupid quiz about family stablilty is a bunch of nonsense designed to get people to click on things, provide info etc. Also...who needs all that facebook bragging a lot of people do? People are so busy taking photos to document vacations etc on facebook that I wonder if they are really experiencing things since they are so busy documenting.
Susan, you are right to process what happened and then get on with your life. It is better to do that than to pretend it never happened and invent a fake past. I think nearly everything about facebook is fake anyhow.I see so many people deluding themselves and others with it.
These sporty cars are difficult to get in and out of even at my age at times....but my neighbor was driving 2 of them until she turned 89 ! She would wear a gold lame jacket and blast Elvis. And they were the low 2 seater cars!
I'm wondering if it's just the heat, too, Gershun - but I've got the A/C on in the house, so it really makes me wonder if that's it or not - I mean, it's cool in here, and the humidity is low....I just want to figure out why she's having such issues with her breathing. If it's just that her body is tiring out, I can accept that - I just want to be sure there's not something else I can do to make her more comfortable.
Twin - I don't have a baby monitor - I've considered it, but Mom's house is *extremely* small, so I hear every move she makes at night - I hear when she goes to the bathroom, turns the tv on in the living room, coughs or sneezes, etc. If she calls out for me, I'm up *right now*. I do worry that something might happen and I wouldn't hear her, but if I am totally honest about it, I think I probalby would, just because I'm so hyper-vigilant about her right now. And because she gets up a few times a night and turns the tv on, I'd be hearing *that* through the baby monitor too, so I'm not sure that would be good. LOL
When my husband's family was doing overnight stays when my MIL was in hospice to give my FIL a break we had a baby monitor that we kept in the bedroom we slept in. Heard every little movement and sound quite well.
If its hot that could explain your Mom's energy levels. Even I get exhausted when its hot.
Mom's sleeping right now - I feel like I'm constantly watching her like a hawk lately, monitoring her breathing, and any sound she makes in her sleep has me twisting around from my desk to see what's going on. Had a talk with one of my siblings, and her feeling (and my own) is that Mom's body is just tired...that we might be looking at a couple more years, if we're lucky.
My major whine for the day - it's Facebook yet again. A relative posted using one of those *stupid* apps that predict your personality or whatever based on your name, or your age or shoe size - that's about how intelligent these things are. The result she got said that she came from a "balanced family" and she added in her comment that her family was "more balanced than most". I just about lost it. Balanced. Right. I guess she forgot that her father was a disgusting pervert and criminal that sexually molested every female he could get his hands on, including me and my sisters, possibly a few of her own friends? That he was arrested for shoplifting multiple times? That he was arrested for stealing women's underwear off clotheslines? Balanced family. Pffft.
Started something different with my sis as I am not automatically updating her on my visits with dad.
She texted me just a few minutes ago asking about what plans I had today as I am sure she wanted to talk with him while I was there. I have told her I visit early afternoons. Her loss I am not going to worry about it.
One thing I do know is that if authority figures tell me I dont have the capcity to do something - then there is every chance I will set out to prove them wrong. It's in my make-up I guess
Although I did A levels very young (16) I left school soon after and went back much much later to complete my education and complete my Honours degree (40 the week of my results) They said I wouldn't get work.....I did.
If you mean whereabouts was I at grammar school - in Hampshire
Sadly only those of us here and those who have parents/spouses with memory issues will pay attention to this article.... everyone else will most likely ignore it until the pay comes and they are faced with a love one who is diagnosed, and that person wouldn't know where to turn next.
I always ignored articles about aging, because for some strange reason when I was younger I never pictured my parents getting old.... I never saw my grandparents aged [they lived a great distance from us, so did my Aunts/Uncles]. I had nothing to relate to.
Dementia is another subject to be avoided because it is such a life sentence while someone can still understand. Memory
problems I feel are acceptable after all we all have "senior moments" telling someone they have Altzheimers I feel is plain cruel unless you are dealing with a highly intelligent person who really needs to know and can participate in their treatment options. That is just my opinion and others will probably disagree. caregivers on the other hand definitely need to be given a precise diagnosis because there are many decisions the caregiver needs to make for their loved ones best future care. I broke the news of her husband's death to one lady whose dementia was fairly advanced. Her response was "Oh dear i don't want to be a widow"
I have to laugh today at a person I saw a few days ago that I know. She is always sour faced and racing around in her Lexus...she is the unhappiest person I know, despite the vacations, cars, campers, etc. She feels life owes her these things and it is never enough. The sour face this woman makes! Too bad this woman doesn't know that happiness is found everywhere if we just take a moment to look! She wouldn't hear a bird's beautiful song or see the love in a pet, or the color of a flower if it hit her in the face. We caregivers are richer for appreciating the small things!