I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Calm down and just take each moment as it comes. I find with me anyways that a lot of times I dread things and dread things and then when it actually happens its not as bad as I feared it would be. I think thats what Jessie was getting at.
Just remember no one is judging you on this site. Gripe away if it makes you feel better.
Hope, I wouldn't even notice if someone came in complaining, since I live with day-long complaining at times. And really, so what if the channel gets changed? The world will keep turning. You don't have to wait on her. You can tell her where things are and tell her to make herself at home. What I'm really hoping is that you'll actually enjoy the visit. Maybe the only thing that will lift your spirits is watching her leave, but at least that is something. Just think of it as therapy. Free therapy is always good.
So actually your opinion was very welcome and a fresh perspective. Thank-you!
My sister use to have me kill the spiders she was so afraid of them. Once a spider I killed fell on her bed after I hit it and she couldn't sleep in her bed that night. A 6' neighbor of mine has a problem with spiders and small creatures and he usually points to them so I take care of them.
Judy, Gershun - I have seen many of the places you have talked about...in the history book my mother bought and it has many colorful pictures too! I often think of someday moving to Germany or at least visiting to see if I would like to live there. Then Australia would be my next choice.
I hate txt msgs especially about something important like my mother's health. If someone wants to know something why can't they pick up the d!$* phone. I just don't know how to answer a question. I have to be extremely careful of what I say because my siblings pick apart every word I say or use it against me later. I have always had a problem with how I say things and they take advantage of it.
We don't have much company here and sometimes I dread them coming in. After they're here, though, I enjoy the visit and feel so much better. People can lift your spirits. I always feel better after going out to be with people, or even after a phone call. I am not just a caregiver, I'm a person who needs other people. It would be easy to start avoiding everyone, but that would just make me sick.
So goodness, welcome others into your house and lives. Your relationship with the person you care for is not the only thing in the world. Maybe a visit will take some of the focus off of caregiving for a while.
I used to have that problem with my family members until I finally grew a backbone. They know now. I'm not suggesting you suddenly start telling them to go blank themselves but maybe ease into it. Start small.
OK...since i apparently lack the ability to flatten these rude folks what would you ladies have done or do. .she has had health issues so she will not be helping me do antibiotics. .if course she never helped before she had health problems either. .i am already on my last leg and had been talking to the nurse about respite because I'm ready to collapse. I truly don't like to be rude but i swear what i am doing is not working. So any helpful suggestions will be appreciated. ..the crazy part is i am not spineless but with folks i feel sorry for sure to their circumstances it is hard for me to be firm. In summation i am a moron
In fact my hubby and I may move to Europe one day. The only thing that was keeping me here was my Mom.
Jude, you have led such a colorful life, I tell ya. I once dated a guy who had a pet snake. That was too much for me. But a spider, no way. I've also dated a lot of snakes too, but thats another story.
But moths, said creepy crawlies and butterflies scare me to death, especially moths and spiders and crane flies. I once used up every glass in a house where I was babysitting. they had an almost white carpet and it was autumn I swear the spiders honed in because they knew I was there. When the parents came home I had placed a glass over each one...it looked like an obstacle course for pets!
I now have conkers (dont know what you clal them but they come from the horse chestnut tree) in the corner of every room and now we dont have spiders! yippeee