I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Spent the day driving across the state to see my grandkids and daughter, all went well. Sis spent the day with mom after about 30 mins of instruction from me on everything. I need to make a list to keep at hand for such days, I guess, because I always worry I forgot something. (And yes, I did - forgot to tell sis to actually step into the bathroom with Mom when she goes so she can be sure she changes her incont. brief if it's wet. She didn't, beacause I didn't tell her to, so I have no one to blame but myself that Mom's brief was soaked when I got home.) And God bless her, she did the dirty dishes that were in the sink - there weren't that many, but it sure was nice to see them done when I got home.
Wanted to get my hair cut and do some thrift shopping today while I was out, but being Sunday, nothing opened until noon, which didn't work for my schedule today, darn it. Still and all, got a little time in with my grandkids before I had to drive back home. Wish it could have been more time, but I'll take what I can get.
Today just went by way too fast. Going to hit the sack and try to get up early and catch up on things I should have done today!
That show is Hilarious! I swear my sister is just like Hyacinth!
No whine today....just tired and a little scared of what will befall my poor Mom. She will be home tomorrow and I have her room all ready including fresh flowers she likes.
Agreed Veronica, Jude does seem to have an interesting hectic life!
Yesterday I mentioned my brother coming over to have the "talk". After mullin it over, his request isn't that unreasonable. Basically they wanted about 25 % of what's left of the money that was provided for moms care. There wasn't a huge amount left anyway. They tried to include the absent brother in another state but that one I will not budge about. He wrote mom off as dead 2 years ago. Besides, he's 52 and retired on 6 figures a year. The house is mine, it's contents as well as daddy's jeep. I feel confident that dad and mom be more than okay with this. This will proved me enough to take some time off before plunging back into the workforce. It was the parent's wish to get me back home to Oregon to be with my brothers. They had always said once they go we probably wouldn't be around each other as they were the tie that bound us.
Now, if I could just get out of my routine of not wanting to move until late afternoon it will all be ok. Haha, it's 2:30 and I'm just now going to take both dogs out for a ride and maybe splash in the river, then I will stop by my brothers house and scratch his horses :) He's said we'd start going horseback riding now... his horses are way too chubby :) ah... please let this feeling of peace last longer than a few days.
Cheers!
I am having moving problems not the house all seems to be going along at the right pace... I mean about mum moving stuff - I go in and it takes me 5 minutes or a lot longer to find things she has squirreled away. Now I know to look in the fridge but now I am finding things in her commode and I do mean in her commode, She puts the weirdest things in the wierdest places handkerchiefs are in the bin dirty tissues in her pocket, face cream in her handbag her purse in her make up bag and of course SHE has never touched any of them!!! eeeeeeeeeeeeeeek
Mrs Bucket would have sent hubby out to deal with that.
The best one I saw was Hyacinth being run away on a horse panicking but showing she was a very expeienced horsewoman while poor Emmet was practically being held on by his sister
Just to let you see what I mean Mum has gone to church this morning and they have a luncheon - all care is on hand to support her and I thought fantastic I have 2 hours to me....WRONG. My erstwhile brother who is not allowed within a mile of my mum has obviously been watching the house and has turned up about 5 mins after she had gone demanding to come in. now bearing in mind there was a situation shall we call it that happened between us when I was 11 there wasn't a chance in hell he was getting through especially as he was drunk and half past ten in the morning for heavens sake. A slight row ensued with him constantly ringing the bell (took the battery out ...now ring that you $%^&) so then he started hammering on the door. Of course I stayed calm NOT. IN the end I picked up the phoned and opened the door ...he wasn't to know I hadnt dialled 911 (999 over here). I said into the phone police please....... waitied and then before I could utter another word he ran out of the front gate and cycled off. What happened to my calm day? It just got blown out of the water but a least he knows now that I wont take any crap from him either
So, I have written our "meeting" up in wordpad and will post it tomorrow. Mainly because I, one day might like to look back on this or....even better, have them actually read my life the past 2 years.
Shilo, sad as it is, it is not your mother's fault...my mom actually said my name once in the past 3 years. As far as she knew I was daddy's new girlfriend coming aboard to replace her....
Good point you touched on, those 2 choices we have now that all is said and done... I CHOOSE to live and be happy. I don't like darkness and I especially do not like being so sad for so long. Whenever I feel like it's safe to crawl out from under my rock... I get pushed back. Earlier today I got a call from 2nd oldest bro... said he was coming by to see how I was and that he wanted to talk about "stuff". Well, we all know stuff means money. Just to give you a glimpse into our long conversation, I started it with "how dare you be so selfish and insensitive to even think of talking about that, OUR mother has been gone 3 days. SHAME on you".!! He had the somewhat decency to look ashamed...
Countrymouse I am glad that I didn't have to go through my Mom's things. We did all that when we transitioned her into the nursing home. So there wasn't much to go through when she passed.
I am thinking of getting a tattoo of my Mom and Dad from a picture of them when they were on their honeymoon. I am a little old to be getting a tattoo but I think it would give me some kind of strange comfort to have my mom tattooed on my body for life. Am I weird? Oh well if I am who cares. It would be my very first tattoo.
Tears are good not for your swollen eyes but they do help to wash away the pain.Life goes on and things do get better. There are two choices, come out and face the world when you are ready or spend the rest of your life living in depression under a rock. There is no way to speed up grief, it is different for everyone. Do not do anything in a hurry if you don't have to.
Jeanette your son is very angry right now and he is chaneling that anger towards you paroting whatever new wife is putting into his head. These women just want to be taken care of with money. He can't do that because you have always bailed him out. When she is gone can you turn him away when he comes knocking on the door? by all means help him but don't let him become a leach.
Mom is having delirium again today. Strange,.. yesterday I was able to carry on a conversation with her and today she was talking about people not there and could hardly focus on me. Her eyes look so sunken in like she is sort of in another world. It seems to come and go every other day.
I am going to go have bowl of ice cream and try to get some rest. She will be home from the nh with hospice on Monday, so I had better get rest to be ready for whatever I must do.
My husband, her son, only child wants his vacation. HIS vacation. I now need to have the tough conversation of whether she wants to get better or give up. My daughter lives in Australia. My pride and joy. My son married Satan's spawn, and has a little girl age 7 that I have never met. Go figure, you raise 2 kids, same household, same rules one is happy and healthy, the other goes out of his way to control everyone in his life. Since he can't control me, he controls my granddaughters relationships, or lack of. At this point my MIL says she's tired and wants to die. I'm all there is, and i have to figure out how to handle her, the house, the animals and still hang on to my massages and my Yoga. I refuse to lose myself in the process. I almost did that when Mom got sick. She was 59 when she died, she and i were the only 2 people in the Universe for months at a Time. Ok. That may make sense or not. But i have ranted. Oh yeah, did i mention that i was diagnosed with MS? I'm good, knowing im Doing the best I can.
Sig other is finally learning how to put on a fitted sheet so it doesn't spring off one corner after the bed is made.... next class will be Towel Folding 101 along with Toilet Paper Roll Installation 102.... class 101 is finding the extra rolls.
(p.s. I really hope you are getting around better.)