I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
My Mom is doing somewhat better today for what it's worth for the mention, the delirium seems to have lifted and she is not agitated this morning. What a relief. I am always afraid that she gets so scared seeing people that are not there and might try to get out of her wheelchair or bed when this happens and she cannot stand or walk and break something. Day at a time.
it is a pain running back and forth but at least you can get some work done which is essential. Could you do that with someone pitifully demanding attention the whole time. I know you love her and feel she will be better at home. It may make her feel better as few enjoy hospitals and N/H especially when they need a lot of help and like to eat when they want to not when meals are served.
50 years ago hospitals served early morning tea, breakfast, mid morning coffee, Lunch, afternoon tea, dinner and a late night milk drink in the UK so you never had to wait till 8-30 for breakfast when the nurses started vitals and meds at 5 am.
Trust me, the selfish part of me would like her to stay there so I can get a break, but how much of a break is it, really, when I have to be up there every morning and evening to visit her so she doesn't get too depressed, and spend the rest of the time working? At least if she's home, I'm not running back and for the to the NH..and she can get the same therapy help here she's getting there, and she'll be happier and not calling me crying and depressed.
Susan, just make sure that you keep telling your Mom that she will be coming home, that it is only temporary and that everyone is just getting ready for her to return home.
Have to hop off here now - work is really busy this week and now I need to make sure the house is ready for tomorrow.
My big concern is making sure we don't get her discharged against doctor's orders, because that will lead to a huge mess with her new doctor and Medicare. The last thing we need is a huge NH bill to pay because we pulled her out against doctor's orders - I would assume that Medicare might refuse to pay if we did that. So I told Mom that if the doctor and therapist are not ready to release her to go home yet, I will start spending my days up there with her and will just bring my laptop so I can work while I'm there.
Just when I thought things were going fairly smoothly....
Well, if no one else is going to come up with some sensible ideas at least you should get a free hand to do what you know your mother would appreciate. And you do know best, after all. Silver lining? Hugs.
Should we do an obituary? Should we not? Its not illegal anymore here to not do one so no one seems to care one way or the other (except me) but what do I know? I composed it, e-mailed to everyone (imagine crickets)
No, no one cares, or should I say no one wants to make a decision.
We decided on a nice plaque for a park bench for my Mom. Guess who composed what that would say?
I guess I should not be surprised. But it saddens me. I thought for a stupid second that maybe my Moms death would unite us all, angels would sing, harps would sound........ Who was I kidding.
thinkin bout giving the crew of mexican bricklayers out at the farm a gallon of em but theres no way they wouldnt think i was being a sarcastic a** . thats the problem with being a sarcastic a** . nobody takes you seriously when you try to be nice ONE time .
Susan :( I hate this time of life also... does your mother know this lady passed away (bless her soul)? Personally, I wouldn't like the idea of mom close to people who may not be there in the morning... it would scare the bejesus out of me and I would be plotting my escape in fear I would never get to leave there!! (((hugs)))
Veronica!!!! LOL Your comment is exactly what I meant ... you are such a witty young lady! Don't think I would actually drown her but I'd love to BOP her in the head with a stick. In all his life I have never seen him act this way. Normally he's a womanizer who could care less if they came or went. This girl has turned everything around and not the good way. Really, this has me quite concerned but I simply cannot take on another form of stress right now, not if I want to make it through this alive.
For those of you following my "pool adventures", well, Houston we have a problem. Seems like the truck broke down around Denver, CO. They've been trying to find another trucker to "rescue" it for several days now. Customer Service has no idea how long this could take. She mentioned I could call the shipper and put in a claim... what does that mean???? I asked her if it meant my pool wasn't ever going to show up or it would be several more days? She had ZERO clue..... Waaaaahhhhh
could drown the bride.
To the caregiver with catheters or at least with loved ones that have. Sometimes irrigating the bladder with Ascetic Acid helps keep the UTI's at bay. now before you rush out to the pharmacy it has to be prescribed and made up as a sterile solution by a pharmacist. so a call to the PCP is in order.
I have only managed to get out of the house on my own three times since Mum came and they were to sort out POA etc. Sometimes I'd like my peaceful life back and I have a scream or a cry or a rant but most of the time I feel O.K
As for Josh Groban, and that song, sometimes I'm wringing out the hankie and sometimes ready to take anyone on. Love to know other peoples inspiring music choices.