I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Jessie - We are clearly cousins - that's my mum you're talking about albeit not a sibling shes nice to but my children. You're right - the constant 'wittering' is what gets to you fastest. Have you ever wanted to scream SHUT UP and then dug your nails into your palms and carried on as though your head wasn't about to explode?
Tired we might not be able to have a conversation but between us we could write an hilarious sit com about dementia dont ya think?
The doctors asked about any other medicines that may of been given to my mom at the nursing home and the only thing was there was a flu outbreak there and they had been giving my Mom 3o mg. of Ofeltamivir propholactic
every other day to prevent flu. They don't think that would cause something like this.
When I went to see my Mom she was opening her eyes but not talking.
I am so upset. One doctor says one thing and then another says another thing. I sat with Mom all day today and was fine and then as soon as my brother and sister-in-law showed up I fell apart.
I just hope I can hold it together.
ACK! I finally have to escape to my room or outside. People aren't programmed to tolerate this type of constant complaints and requests. I'm starting to understand those poor mice that get shocks that they can't get away from.
I'm glad you got the Medi-Honey so quickly, Jeanette! Do start using it right away if you can. I hope it will help some.
The post about her mother passing away from AD and how they put "starvation" as the cause of death. How could they be so f-ing cruel? I would be so devastated if that happened to us. Utterly devastated. As hard as I've tried to keep my mother's nutrition up... I am helpless now... she can't swallow and coughs when she tries.... I'm using a small syringe in attempts to give her at least 1 ensure a day...not only would it devastate me, it would also haunt me for the rest of my life... such a thoughtless, ignorant word to describe as the cause of death.
Susan, miraculously I received the Medi-Honey today. WOW... that's less that two days for delivery!! Impressive part was used standard delivery but somehow it came express.
Working from home is challenging enough because I have to stay in the same room with Mom to keep an eye on her, so the background noise is impossible to avoid - even noise-cancelling headphones don't work to block it. It used to be Mom's snoring and other body noises (yikes) - plus the dog occasionally barking, etc. Now it's the oxygen condenser with the hmmmmmm-pfffft-shhhh-ahhh-hmmm that it does 24/7. Today, I'm on the phone with a client, tv muted to avoid any other background noise, and a beat-up car pulls up out front, and out hops a guy with a generic-looking dustbuster in his hand. Despite the no-soliciting sign on the door and the dog going ballistic at him, he continues to stand at the door until I come and tell him to GO AWAY.
Stress level just hit about 100 today, I think. I'm sure my client sees me as such a professional now, with all that. Struggling to find a way to make this work - keep an eye on mom, keep noise to a minimum, work for my clients and talk on the phone with them without it sounding like I live in an asylum. Where'd that helmet go again?
Jeanette - such hard times. I'm so sorry....wish I could give you a hug, but for now (((hugs))).
Home care nurse came in today (with like 10 mins notice that she was coming, grrr), so that took about an hour that I couldn't spare out of my schedule today. A little more notice would have been good. Other than just checking mom over and totally agreeing with me that mom's doc is off his rocker to think she just fell asleep and fell out of her chair, there isn't much to report there. It's even written on the report that was sent to the nurse that she fell asleep and fell out of her chair - and that report came straight from the doc. I'm SO irritated at him. We are definitely seeking a new doc.
Nurse thinks Mom quite possibly *does* have congestive heart failure, so Jess, you're probably right on that. Just one more step down that long road...going to see what the chest xray shows on Monday and the MRI of her brain. From there, we'll make another decision, but I think we're switching docs.
Thank you, Dee - people's good wishes mean such a lot just now. By the way, my sweet neighbour who just visited a moment ago was telling me about her mother's Alzheimer's: her mother kept telling everybody there were pirates in the garden and they needed to do something, quick! - so of course everyone was patting her hand and saying there, there dear, of course there are, never mind, kind of thing. Well. Once somebody actually went to look, it turned out the boys from the next door house had been out playing in the garden, and guess what they'd rigged up for themselves? Yup, pretend ship complete with Jolly Roger…
Moral: always check that they're definitely imagining things!
Its so weird. I had just got through talking to her a half hour before I got the call from the nursing home. She sounded tired but otherwise the same.
My Mom was opening her eyes slightly but was not able to speak at the hospital. They are giving her fluids and oxygen.
Please say a prayer for her!!