I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Transitional times are the worst. After everything is settled, you will feel better.
Congrats on making necessary changes.
Yes, it's hard and decidedly NO you are no a failure. Your dad needs more and different care than what can be provided at home. Anyone's home, not just yours.
Big difference in life at home, able to talk, move things around, and plan to get my office above grade to where my plan and it was was years ago. Be able to be warm working this winter and see daylight.
He's doing OK from what he tells me. Sounds like he is slowing down, speech is different.
Big weight on and off of me. One part is good the other one is hard. I was doing fine until I sent the application packet to the home overnight, kind of like a sword in my stomach, I know it has to be done but man it is hard. Partly feel like a failure that I have to do this but I know it's for his best. I'll go from seeing him every day to maybe 2 times a year. As much as I complained it will be hard.
FIL ….I want to be taken out for dinner .
Me …..Sorry I am way too tired to go out .
This is my new truthful answer .
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=Bx9wi-HgXnM
I said "Maybe you're hallucinating"
She said "I certainly hope not"
That was a funny answer lol.
Low & behold there was a roach in her bathroom. Hahaha
Got a broom and solved the problem. But sheesh what a way to start the morning!!
I was sort of surprised when my friend told me that she going to stay with her son. I wouldn’t have thought that her DIL would want her to live with them.
Years ago, my friend was skeptical about her son marrying his wife. His wife is about 10 years older than her son.
I told her that it’s up to her son to decide who he chooses to spend his life with and it doesn’t matter if she is older or has children from a previous marriage.
My friend did accept her daughter in law when she saw that her son is very happy with his wife. I just hope that this is only a temporary thing because it certainly adds stress to a marriage when a parent moves in.
I speak from my own experience! My husband was supportive of my mom but I am well aware that it was a huge sacrifice for him. I wouldn’t make the same choice if I had to do things over again.
We don’t think about these serious issues when we are young. When situations arise we are blindsided by them.
My thoughts & prayers for all who need them.
God bless 🙏
Especially TG, with such a recent loss & to Need & her friend moving away.. Big kind wishes.
My friend’s daughter in law is a retired nurse so I know she will be in good hands. Plus, she will be near her precious grandchildren.
I am going to miss her terribly though. We’ll have to talk on the phone a lot until I can visit her.
Sure it will be hard to say good-bye to your friend, and yes there will be tears. It will okay though. You will not be upsetting her and I'm sure there will be some tears from her too.
Your friend is going near her son and will be getting the care she needs. You two can video call. It won't be the same, but it's something at least.
God bless your friend and I hope she has a good recovery.
Thanks for reminding me about the laughter and joyous moments that we share with our friends. There have been countless times when we have laughed at so many silly things that we have shared with each other.
I am always grateful for prayers. She could use a whole bunch of prayers right now.
She knows that I am going there later today. I’m predicting that we will both end up in tears.
I hope your friend will be able to spend time in her garden again. I have been enjoying seeing the hummingbirds and butterflies. They love my plumbago plants near my patio.
You’re right, ITRR.
It isn’t the first time that we have cried together. Thanks for reminding me of these moments in our lives.
Hopefully it is a refreshing, soul cleansing, until we meet again my precious sister and dear friend, kind of visits.
She will be missed and should know. Hugs! This is a hard new season in life.
Would it help if you called her first and maybe cried if you so felt like it, then it wouldn't be in her presence? Many sympathies to her and to you.
I am so sorry that you are going through this. It’s heartbreaking to see our parents decline. I’m glad that your dad is in a nice facility.
So sorry about the loss of your brother.
Sending hugs and prayers your way today.
It is hard to let go when you have been the primary for so long. I have seen that more than once with families. Your dad is a lucky man with two children who are able and willing to care for him. Your own life span has most likely been extended and also that of your wife by this switch in dads care plan. It is so very stressful.
I’m sure you know that hospital PTs often recommend rehab for patients when they see how much it is needed.
It appears that things have calmed between you and sis and you are working together. That is also good for dad. He will feel safer if he realizes it is not up to him, that his kids have got this. Of course, not every one is able to trust to that degree and it may take awhile. He didn’t get to be himself without a few ideas of his own.
Thanks for the update.
I am going to miss her being so close. We have been friends for many, many years. I won’t be able to see her as often now. I guess she will be doing home health when she gets there.
I am going to visit her later today. So, I will know more then. It’s so interesting how strokes affect people.
Some people are able to recover very well if it isn’t a serious stroke. Others are never the same after a serious stroke. My dad never completely recovered from his stroke and my best friend died in the hospital after hers.