I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I get so weary of dealing with her! Learned to put the phone down and walk away from her rants and go do something else. She doesn't even notice I am not listening to her drama queen crap and I spare my own sanity.
CM - hope your mother is doing ok. A few others have posted on "to replace batteries in pacemaker, or to NOT." I guess depending on the case, it can be an ordeal, but you cross that bridge when you come to it. I hope this doesn't sound callous, it's really intended to be compassionate -- we need to remember that elderly means having lived a long life, and sad though it may be, no one is immortal.
Captain - enjoying the heat? :)
Katie - glad your mother wasn't injured.
Mallory -- I get the impression that my brother is hanging around waiting for a windfall. At least he's not making any worse trouble though.
So, after February and March being consumed with mom stuff, April has been eerily quiet! I record all my tasks, and this month, there hasn't been much. It's been nice, but it feels like the calm before the storm :).
My mother has been obsessing for several months about her various insurance policies. Homeowners, car insurance (which she doesn't have anymore since she doesn't drive, but don't tell her that because she'll freak out) and so on. I've been dealing with her repeated questions by answering the same way every time: "It's all up to date, it's all paid up, you don't have to do a thing." Tuesday evening she called me -- she NEVER calls me unless she's worried about something pertaining to her -- and asked me again. I told her again, and then she said, "Well, I mailed a few checks to them....." Ok, so I've been keeping an eye out on her bank accounts, and will request a refund if/when they clear.
Then, yesterday morning at 7:00 a.m., she called me again. I'm up anyway by then, but come on! Same question , same answer. Today, quiet again. Hope it stays that way.
I have another vacation day scheduled in the next few weeks to go over and check things out while her caregiver takes her to her annual checkup. My husband suggested that I just ask the caregiver to do this, and I was kind of exasperated, but explained that it's impossible to do anything with my mother around. She hovers and assumes you're snooping (that's projection -- SHE's the snoop). I need to look at her clothes and stuff and see what needs replacing, check her fridge and freezer, the outside of the house to make sure it's maintained ok, etc. Can't do any of that while she's around.
Well I know they dont do it deliberately but hang it all it sure feels like that sometimes
Jude, Mom does have a hospital bed that the doctor ordered last Sept. and it has rails and goes up and down. The mats are a good idea too. The bed she slid out of at the rehab luckily was down all the way and they had mats down which is probably why she didn't hurt herself. Some people push heavy dining chairs around the bed I have heard.
renter tried to claw back a 200 $ water deposit that shed made in return for a months rent . water company had made note of it and refused to give it back to her . thats the kind of person ive been dealing with for 2 years . i will never rent to someone again -- never wanted to from the start , the house was just empty and vulnerable and i saw it as a solution at the time . i wont get final months rent or my firewood money so the best i can do her is see if i can burn 2 - 3 hundred dollars worth of electricity between now and apr 1 st . im not such a vindictive person but when somebody is cheating me the best i can do is spread the pain around a little .
so screw firewood , im gonna heat with the oven element for a few days .
More of a genuine worry, the time has come to lay our bets on whether mother's pacemaker will conk out before she has another stroke. The technicians have done their very best for her, and now it's back to Cardiology for an uncomfortable conversation.
You have a tough job for someone with sciatica. I used to do two things that helped a lot -- bending whichever leg was affected and pressing up on a counter and also squatting down. For some reason these moves helped with the pain, especially when I was walking on slab floors. Ouch! Anyone with sciatic problems knows what I mean about slab floors. I learned to dread Lowe's and Wal-Mart with those long walks over those floors.
my **cking renter is getting out of here , this is one of the best days of my life . if i never see pathalogical , west va , 60 iq , ignorance in my life ill be forever grateful .
I'm multi-tasking since she's having a relatively good day, catching up on laundry, dishes, housework and putting up shelves that have been off the walls since last summer when we had the walls painted. Mom is happy to have her "stuff" back on the walls. Spending a couple of hours doing client work, then 30 minutes or so working on the house stuff, then back to client work, etc. No lack of exercise in my day today.