I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Made mom roasted cornish hens, mashed potatoes/gravy/ green beans and yes, cranberry sauce. 3 bites later she had enough..... however, she just plowed through her peanut butter n jelly sandwich plus is hoping for her ice cream bar which she'll have with her night meds. Guess my whine moment will never again be what's for dinner :( buying stock in creamy jiffy seems to be the way to go.
I'd like you to be happy. How is Edna? I have a 60 year old coffee cup that says this caffeine belongs to "Edna". My grandmother. Spicy lady indeed!
thick thick people.... hmmm?
these people inhale beer all summer long and go into winter without a stick of firewood . im tired of stressing over their childishness , much less cleaning up after them .
our bunker is nice now . im saying we started out sacrificing and appreciating what we had .
this rental arrangement is like tossing pearls to the swine . thick , thick people .
God knows I wanted rescued from my son when he came to visit a few weeks ago. Sigh. He just reiterated why I left. It's been 3 weeks since I've spoke to him and it is ME that chooses to not answer my phone.
cap, I admire your tenacity, your work ethic and the love you have for your elderly. I bow down to you on that. However, if you had me s**tting in a bucket, wiping with cold water and sleeping on a concrete floor softened by rags?... b*tch you'd be dead and I would be wearing your socks cuz you didn't allow me to have any! JK!!! Yes dude....I will say s**t to you, unless you find a frozen cave woman you'll become that old man up the hill from you.
Be nice!
Your aunt needs to know more about dementia. I realise how hard it would be, but try to remember that her (current) opinion of you is based on out and out lies, probably pretty technicolor lies at that, and it's that which needs correcting. Were you and your aunt on good terms before all this?
What's your opinion of your mother's mental state? Has she been doing or saying anything else that's completely nuts?
actions have repercussions . she can bathe with a washrag , take her ass to the laundry and suffer a reduction in her standard of living for her negligence .
my son and i lived here for years , crapping in a bucket , only cold water , no kitchen sink , sleeping on a pile of rags on a concrete floor . dont need to say s**t to me about modern conveniences .
Cap, oh good lord man, for 200 bucks a month I'd kick out those people that give me such anxiety and LIVE IN MY DREAM HOME. I love you dude, but you are becoming a crabby a** old man. Never EVER call a woman a despicable old cow. Shame on you for depriving her of water. Just give her a timely notice and be done with it, don't be mean.
cracky and i have been working on the renters plumbing all day . she let it freeze and bust by running herself out of wood even tho the wood was here on the property and fronted to her indefinately .
i wont take this loss alone . she lost her kitchen sprayer , shower , ( my ) washing machine and she will forevermore fill her toilet tank with buckets of water . shes a despicable sow , she can live like a sow . if she holds up the rent i throw her out .
i dont need to berate people , i speak nowadays with actions instead .
shes living in my dream home for 200 bucks a month and doesnt care enough to take care of it .
We often hear that old age is not for sissies. What they should add is taking care of the elders is only for people with the spirit of a warrior and the calmness of Dahli Lama.
And try to brush off what your Aunt said, she could be afraid of HER OWN demise as she is getting old. It is good news that your Mom likes the facilities that you had visited, as so many of us getting one's parent to even visit one could need to tow truck to get them there. And if the facility takes Medicaid, start the process now to get your Mom qualified. After 10 years, it's time to get your life back :)
With your mother only have enough money to last her a year in a nursing home, would she at that point qualify for medicaid? If so, it would be best to select a place for her to go to that will one day take medicaid. Those types of nursing homes will often help you with the application process.
Contrary to what your aunt thinks, you are not the devil incarnate. Actually, that's a rather demonic comment and attack on her part. If you aren't able to calm your anxiety down over this yourself, then go see a therapist about it. You might need some anti anxiety medicine.
Good luck.
Mom's latest funny - which wasn't so funny at the time: I had a pretty rough day with her yesterday. She was supposed to get up and get showered so she could attend her grandson's birthday party. She insisted she was going, and that she would shower..when she was ready. Never happened. I finally got so frustrated with her that I gave up and told her if she didn't shower, she wasn't going. She decided then and there she wasn't going, so I lost the battle of wills on that one. Went to the party by myself and dealt with a more dysfunctional family than my own, if that's even possible. LOL The sisters were fighting, one of them insisted on complete silence when the birthday boy opened HER gift and expected everyone to oooh and aah over it. She actually "shushed" grown adults in front of everyone else. My mood was worse than ever when I left that party and went to the pharmacy to get Mom's meds, and saw they had her incontinence pads on sale for a really good price - so by the time I was done there, I was out $120 out of my own pocket. Mood continues to darken....
So I get home, and the dog is bugging to go out, then back in, then wanting to eat, then back out again, then wanting treats, then back out again....I finally told the dog, "you know, today is NOT the day to do this....I'm REALLY not in the mood..." Mom looks at me and says, "Is there EVER a better day for you??" in a sarcastic tone. Oh lady....don't go there. You don't want me to answer that question.
Thanks, Mom. I can laugh about it today - a little - but it wasn't so funny yesterday.
Today I'm trying to get her in the shower. Again. Dangled a nice long ride in the van in front of her nose like a carrot in front of a donkey - but she had to shower to get the ride. It's darn near 3pm and she still hasn't showered. I might as well give up, because if she doesn't shower in the morning, it won't happen.
Well, I got to go for a ride in my truck again...and as always loved every minute of it...putting the feet up for a hopefully relaxing evening....brother called and talked a long time tonight. he and I seem on the same page these days..I have given up on expecting anything major but for me, I have decided it is ok to just have a brother back...I have been angry at him a long time and I have missed him to be honest. I know and think he should have done a lot of things differently, but I guess I'm going to give him a pass for the sake of my Mama. I know that all that matters to her in this world at this point is knowing her kids are ok with one another...I can do that for her...what is going to be hard is getting past the behavior of the SIL...I'm not sure how I will ever be able to do that....
as far as tennants go i could find a hundreds time worse so i dont really want them to leave , just want em to act responsibly .
had a great conference with the customer this am . i sketched four items as i envision them . at the end of our meeting he liked all four of them . mike and i are both quite creative and as a teem we always come up with some pretty astounding stuff . after the porches are poured were going to use giant one piece natural granite rock slabs for the stoops . the stratosphere is the limit with mike . this home rocks in the million dollar bracket , we plan to give it shock value as opposed to curb appeal .
jesse ,
re ; " stories "
if theres a heaven , my mom is probably sitting somewhere listening to g - pa tell his ( literally ) never ending stories to my dad ( who hated the stories ) and bustin to tell em about the time her church books were audited and a ten cent mistake was found in her favor . thats about the only fun ill poke at mom though . she was the teacher in my upbringing . dad was more the "scratch his ass and sniff his fingers " type by ( intellectual ) comparison .
Veronica, it's mom. I make her favorite foods, she takes 3 bites and is done. give her a pb&j...she eats it, that and her apple sauce. Now ... if she's swinging her sandwich around in mid air, I cannot say that at least one of my pups hasn't grabbed it! Truly they are awesome lap cleaners.
ff... your parents are amazing. Really. I need their energy!!
Glad for the sale prices, don't get me wrong...but damn.....
Yup FF you were expected to ski round and shovel Dad's drive. Better get it done so the ambulance can get there for Dad's heart attack.
Spoke to Dad,he said he was going out to shovel, my parents live just around the corner... is he crazy?... must be he feels it's his responsibility to take care of the house even if it kills him :P Maybe he's trying to get me to shovel, but I am not 20 years old any more, that ship sailed almost 50 years ago !!