I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
You know, I can only imagine what my cats ... aka..the kids ....get into when I'm sleeping. I have woke up in the morning to find all kinds of mayhem ...I used to sleep through most of it but now I am so tuned in to listening for the slightest noise from Mama that I wake up when they start their rampage....Back before I moved home, I had fallen asleep on the sofa that night and just stayed there and the next morning got up and drifted outside with my coffee and my neighbor came outside and asked me what on earth I had in my hair...It appears the kids had shredded a paper and my hair was full of those pieces of paper...I almost got the image in my head of them sitting around me giggling and putting pieces of paper in "mom's" hair..people who know me know that when I say "the kids" I am talking about my cats because I don't have children... :)
hope you get some time off Jeanette. My brother has recently started telling me if I need him to come just call him...trouble with that is, I have asked for time before and then I have to ask again, then again, and then he gets here so late that it is time to come back by the time I leave, and I am worn out and aggravated so I just gave up a long time ago...for me the way to go is going to be respite...once all the bugs have cleared away...Mama's still pretty frail now anyway so it would be mentally difficult for me to even think of not staying close by right now...
hope everyone has a peaceful night...
I don't ask my brothers for help. One lives faraway, so couldn't help. The other is tied up with family and work. His family would probably help if I ask them, but I have a hard time asking for help. I can't really figure out what I need help with, anyway. I don't have to be here all the time yet. I would like my brother's help keeping Mom company, even if it is just to call her every few days. I do occasionally ask both brothers to call her. They do... but I really don't want to have to tell them to call her. They should know to do that themselves without Sis having to remind them like a nag.
So far our texts have been....
"Hey, is it possible I can get a few hours break? Mom hasn't been sleeping so well and I am exhausted".
"Entirely Possible"
"Thank God. I am so tired. She's been pacing and talking all night long. So much so the dog slept on the couch.
"Fine, just need to know when so I can plan ahead".
"Surprise us. Days do not matter anymore as they just blend together, besides, your mother would like to visit with you I a m sure".
"Sunday, Monday??? Right in there"??
Sigh.
my buddy ' mickey ' who works with me sometimes , has legally adopted a young neice . mick is one of a kind . a bipolar control freak but a kicka** husband and father . the adopted girl is used to being spoiled to compensate for otherwise irresponsible parenting . its interesting to watch mick and his wife break the news to this kid that she aint in disneyland anymore and shed live like poor folk .
good , poor , folk ..
good for the state and county for choosing micks frugality over the weakness of doting grandparents .
In the past 15 years they always have had 2 brand new cars with two car payments. Again, not impressed, but then again I am driving my beloved 19 year old Jeep. Her Dad's Jeep is also 19 years old. We save a ton of money keeping our old vehicles until the wheels fall off.
Their daughters want gymnastic lessons, horse riding lessons, cheer-leading camp, designer clothes... my gosh, these girls are still in grade school :P We had none of those things in grade school and we survived.
And the daughter wants a larger house. They have very little saved for any type of rainy day, and forget about retirement. That new house is just a pipe dream for them. Come on, kids, try to live BELOW your means.
i think it best to just go , during an outdoor sitting session . i think there are people in the nh staff who would turn their heads and high 5 each other unless im badly misreading these bunch of women and men .
were going either way if edna holds up long enough . aint a mf ' in thing i could be charged with , and even if i were i always considered probation to be a bargain in comparison to the cost of a therapist . told a probation officer that once . hes probably still bustin a gut .
told another in marion indiana that i was going to go out to the state fish hatchery and FK fish for my 100 hours of community service . that poor sucker came unglued . his job is to keep a straight face and i made him spit his dentures plum across the room .
were GOING to blow that s*ithole some spring day and we aint gonna be apologising for it in the end .
I saw an article on Yahoo Finance a few days ago about how savings are low for younger people because they can't stop spending. An iPhone each year, a new iPad, a laptop, multiple app downloads, a new car, a closet of new clothes... and they can't figure out how to get the money to put a new roof on their house, which is under water already. So they borrow more. We are doing a poor job teaching our young folk that they don't need everything that they see advertised.
Please give Aunt Edna a big strong hug and kiss from me and my mother. Edna is a strong name in our life and we'd like to wish her a happy journey ... d*mn. Sorry buddy....
many men dont play that ' hard way jones ' s*it . we'll invent something that eliminates the redundancy .
im one step worse tho . id wipe my a** with the cat and eliminate that paper search crap altogether -- but im just a little ahead of my time . others will catch on .
she took care of her parents and her man until all three died in her arms . she deserves to be coddled and comforted now .
Answer: None. It will never happen.
to the energetic and educated female achievers -- by all means achieve , but dont try to shame women who dont adhere to your ideals .
Will this phase pass with Edna? Hope so, and hope it's quick. I think fear can be just as bad as pain, especially when you can't understand what it's about.
Well caught on the compressor.
humor has to have a victim . life would really suck if we arent allowed to screw with each other .
you could switch the males and females in that joke and id still think it was funny . you know im not sexist but i love an off color joke .
saw my aunt just now . d*mmnt she anxious , agitated and wishes she knew why . im up front with her when she asks the right questions . i tell her that her memory and nerves are going to be a problem because her brain isnt healthy . she held my hand for a while , doc gave her the evening sedative and she got her kiss goodbye for the night . shes still fortunate at 91 and late dementia to be able to chuckle at small things and have rather incredible good sense about her . my mother fared much worse with the added complication of bipolar . ( as did the primary carer ) .
sure love my aunt . ill hold her hand to the last step of her lifes journey if i can .
saved myself 400 bucks today . i thought my old air compressor had shat the bed but it had mud dauber blockage in the air intake port .