I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
Hope enjoy your cousin. she doesn't want you knocking yourself out for her. She wants to enjoy your company. Lots of cans of soup and sanwiches and Mrs Smith makes a good pie or strawberries and cream
dee i wore a hat all through menopause - but it was a riding helmet and had a very easy time - coincidence or maybe spending most of my time with big hairy creature made the difference. They never made smart remarks and were always pleased to see me.
Jadha how about taking Mom to a gynaecologist
Hope enjoy your cousin. she doesn't want you knocking yourself out for her. She wants to enjoy your company. Lots of cans of soup and sanwiches and Mrs Smith makes a good pie or strawberries and cream
dee i wore a hat all through menopause - but it was a riding helmet and had a very easy time - coincidence or maybe spending most of my time with big hairy creature made the difference. They never made smart remarks and were always pleased to see me.
Jadha how about taking Mom to a gynaecologist
I have major projects to do on this house this year (roof, etc), but once all the projects are done, I swear I'm going to hire a caregiver for a couple of days a week. Having that short break and coming back to this has just made me fully aware of how stressful it really is. This just sucks.
I thought it was funny. My mother said, "I don't have a temper. I'm real level headed," out of the blue. I'm glad I didn't have any liquid in my mouth, because it would have been all over the table. I told her that she did have a temper with me and that she bullies to get her way. She told me I was wrong, because she did NOT have a temper. I decided to let it go before she got mad. :-D
I wanted to say that if I called the doctor every time she sat there and dwelt on a symptom that I'd be calling every day. Sometimes I wish she would get up and live, instead of sitting there concentrating on obsessing on these little symptoms. I knew that feeling the pulse in our head was something everybody does occasionally. I brought her some water, thinking she might be dehydrated, and an Ativan. She is cured now.
We've been dealing with a lot of little symptom episodes this month. Then I remembered that it always happens in winter. It is not because she is confined to the dark house, because I haven't been able to get her out much for well over a year. There is just something about January that seems to set her off when it comes to self obsessing.
I hope Punxatawny Phil has some good news for us Monday. The winter has been mild, but I'm ready for symptom relief.
Both my Mom and I have issues with fillers/binders/coatings that are used in making prescription pills. There is one manufacturer we have no problem taking any of their pills. But my parent continue to use the mail-order pharmacy, and Mom continues to feel sick whenever a new batch of pills come in from a different manufacturer.
I have tried to talk to Dad about this but all he can think about is the fact that mail-order is cheaper.... good grief, it is ok for Mom to feel sick from the pills to save a few dollars?
Where is my helmet? Oh, it's out for repair :P
Ha, my dogs have steel stomachs apparently since there seems to be nothing food wise that bothers them. Like they have a choice ;) once upon a time last year I used to make their food from scratch...LOL, oh hell not anymore. I've been learning loads of lessons this past year... stop trying so hard, everyone will be just fine, except ME. Took me a long time to get it.
It doesn't matter how hard you try, nor how much you plan Susan, in these situations someone will inherently come along and change all your hard work. Lesson; they will not starve while you're gone. :) you feel better...
Did daughter's taxes today, need to do ours next. I don't mind doing them, it's just the time involved.
hope, GLAD you have some company coming!! Don't go overboard and do too much like I did and spend the next several days trying to recuperate. Some of us just try too damn hard if you ask me. There is no need to impress the apparently unimpressible. phbtt
Speaking of that.... Susan, wow, I've told you this before and I still mean it. You are ME but 2 years ago. I did the exact same thing 14 months ago when my son flew into Seattle for work. Made enough food for days, worked my ass off before I left... all for nothing. Her care'r at the time, didn't even use it. They sat around eating junk food watching old movies. My mom was still okay back then... my brothers stopped by (back then) so just go ahead and do what I did. Make some brown rice, throw most of the edible leftovers into a pot... make your dog some nice warm food for a few days :) Seriously though, we try so hard to do our best all for naught. I hope and pray if our loved could verbalize it or show it, that they'd truly appreciate what we do for them and how much time we spend on their care.
I've been attempting to put our taxes together, just to find out I am missing 2 forms from mom's pensions. How I wish I could jus THROW all these papers into the fire pit and have a weenie roast :/ everything just feels so stressful these days and I have the "deer in headlights" feeling. Even when I try to sleep, I can't, I start getting anxiety and no sleep for me :( bleh
Mom is still drinking her shakes and doing pretty good. You do have to sort of warm them up a bit if you use the ice cubed parts as they cause a brain freeze and no AD person needs a brain freeze, lesson learned!! anywho... she slept the ENTIRE night and I didn't. So unfair!! but, I didn't have to get up, pick her up and put her li'l buns back to bed :)
Oh, there was a wild turkey walking through town today just a gobbling away. I think he must have lost his way or his friends? Poor fellow..
It was weird because the woman was grabbing my shoulders and hugging me around the waist. I'm a very friendly person, but this one even went overboard for me. (Hard to do)
Hey anybody ever wonder why I hate the medical business? Geez.
I suggest to Mom to see either of my Naturopaths who can easily tell what blockage she has in her uterus area. But no, she refuses to listen or try anything else. I listen to her symptoms and it sounds like a prolapsed uterus to me. She disses my research, my ideas, all of it.
Today my mother calls me. Oh guess what? I met a stranger who said she thinks my symptoms sound just like a prolapsed uterus! She is so wonderful!
That's exactly what I have been saying to for the last 2 weeks. No reaction.
She changes the subject. Unacknowledged yet again. I totally hate this!!
End of vent.
I spent considerable time before I left cooking foods and prepping meals for Mom to eat while I was gone. She ate *none* of them, other than a couple of the breakfast meats I cooked. The nice divided plates with chicken, veggies and potatoes? Still in the fridge. The pre-cooked cheeseburgers that could be reheated? Still in the fridge. Egg patties for breakfast sandwhiches? Still there. Now it all gets to go in the trash unless I can salvage some of it - but it's been in there for 6 days now, so it's likely all going to go in the trash. I left a note for the caregiver that it was in there, so not sure what happened. Her notes say mom ate soup and sandwiches most of the time when I was gone. (sigh) I guess I won't go to so much effort next time.
Siblings actually visited mom this time while I was gone. Thankfully, they got the message this time and actually showed up. (Last time, I begged them to come by and no one did - they left her alone for a whole week - which is one of the reasons why I didn't go anywhere for a year and a half.) Glad they came to visit, at least.
Jeanette, I have chilled out....I started to work on it some more tonight and decided why??? just going to kick it tonight and start over in the am. I have just remembered I have not eaten properly today which I guess is why I feel faint. I swear that the shakes we make with ensure are excellent for health. I know Mama's physical health is excellent..especially adding all the extras to bump up the calories, I think I will start adding them to my day when I start working again...Mama has developed a little cold today and so she has slept a lot more and the nurse has told me that on these kinds of days, the more rest she gets the better. I am keeping her hydrated so combat the mucus issues... did I just say that??? anyway, the last cold she had it seemed like when I finally let her rest more she was able to get over it quicker than me waking her constantly to ask her if she would eat....so letting her rest...what a day...not horrid, just really really trying.
Brother called at the precise time that he calls every night and tonight I just did not feel like reliving the day...so I let it go to v/m and then texted him soon after...that works best when I am already exhausted and short on patience and of ill temper...
hope, don't beat yourself up You did a lot yesterday, today is relax day. There usually another tomorrow to finish it up.
Mom has had at least 4 of my nutritious delicious shakes now... and has been a happy chipper toothless cute li'l lady!!