I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I hope to God she doesn't continue resisting showers like this after I spend $1200 on getting the tub cut down and the shower surround replaced.....she won't have any excuse about how hard it is to get in the tub then. Somehow, though, I think the battle will continue.
Susan, if your Mama was like mine, she was always so fasitdious about the home, her clothes, her appearance , my appearance, etc. everything clean, clean, clean...to the point of being totally sanitized..it is so hard seeing them get a point where they don't care about hygiene or anything else anyone associated with that....I know she would want to continue to be clean and so I continue to try, but it is so hard when you meet flack all along the way....and the frustration level ramps up to that decibel where once again, the whole idea of throwing myself over the back deck railing seems like a good choice....
Ts of l, by the way, stands for tons of love. It's the thought that counts.
See also one Monsieur Dieudonné in France. I may not agree with what he says (in fact don't start me) but I will defend his right to say it - though possibly not to the death. What amuses me is the logical knots all our Great and Good are tying themselves into condemning him.
Life is just never as simple as we'd like it to be, is it?!
I need wine. I don't care what time it is. Too bad I have another 10 hours of work ahead of me, or I'd be pouring. I'll have to make do with another cup of coffee, and I'll put my headphones on and blast my music so I don't hear her snoring and I can focus on my work. Good Lord I sound selfish. I hate this. I hate the way it destroys her former self, and how it makes me feel all the time. We went from a good morning today to this, just a few hours later.
Jeanette, happy to report that Cheetos are now on board so I am set for the blizzard..lol..which here means we will see a flake or two that may or may not reach the ground...If more than ten fall around here at a time, the whole state will shut down for a couple of days..lol
Hiring that caregiver for shower days is looking better and better...cost be d*mned.
Seriously considering hiring the caregiver to come in every other day for a couple of hours to make sure she gets a shower, just to give myself a break from the constant nagging and frustration it takes to get her to shower. She won't resist it from the caregiver, but will from me. SMH. The only problem is that I can't hire the caregiver for less than 2 hours at a time, and that would amount to $60-$80 a week if I did it every other day and once on the weekend. I guess it's nice to dream about...
"Position the sling in place under your relative."
Diagram? No. Suggestions? No. 140lb lady, hemiplegic and flat on her back. Big stout piece of reinforced fabric. I get the latter under the former… how, exactly?
Oh well, so we'll just gloss over that bit then, shall we?
Glad your mother is doing better though... it's always a ride up, then a big ride down, back up..down, up, down.... *sigh* :) the sweet sound of snoring is singing me to sleep...
2 days and a drive to the city!
how could anyone know that one of my favorite jokes is about the guy who went to the doc about his " manhood " turning orange colored . turns out it wasnt caused by his occupation . he was retired and spent his days watching porn and eating cheetos .
if anybody needs something to whine about try living inside my head for 24 hours .
My whine is not for me, it's for the hundreds of people that sign onto this website every day looking for help/answers. How can I get paid? Why don't my siblings help? Those two questions seem so prevalent it's scary. If nothing else in life happens before I get old and die, I would like to see a serious SERIOUS research progress on AD/Dementia/Parkinsons and the like.
I can't tell you the number of times the docs have trotted out the "it must be in your head" argument with me when I was younger and had maladies they couldn't figure out. "Oh, so your leg keeps spasming and jumping like a d*mn jumping bean and you can't walk on it? Well, we can't figure it out, so it MUST be in your head" (And in comes the psychiatrist, who declares me to be "stressed".) "Oh, so you're pregnant and your leg (same leg!) keeps turning purple when you put weight on it and spasming? Well, we can't figure it out, so we'll send you to a big medical school hospital, best in the state." (And they couldn't figure it out either, so guess what....here comes the psychiatrist again, who again declares me to be stressed.) Guess what - baby was rolled up against the nerves in my back, pressing on them. Baby delivered, no further problems with the leg! (I tried to tell them I felt like the baby was pushing on my back... But it was all in my head, right?)
Mom *seemed* back to normal today, now I'm not so sure. She's staying awake for longer stretches of time, but *really* forgetful and quiet. Going to keep a close eye on her for a few days.
Honestly, the feel of Bag Balm melting inside socks... ahhh life is good!
be back in a little while . hope everyone is having a nice evening ..
I do have a new humidifier and that seems to be helping both mama and me. I also enjoy the "white noise" it makes...right now it looks like an ICU unit in our den...but I guess whatever works...thank you all...the gloves on my hands sounds like a great idea too!!
Veronica, I am going to perceive that YOU have the right to be somewhat pissed off right now. Do not let them perceive something is wrong, and thank you for your kind words. At times I think I should do more... and feel bad when I do have her sit her bottom down. It is for her best interest.... and I am not restraining her nor sending her to a memory unit. Get's hard tho... very hard.
Got the results of the biopsies taken during my EGD and colonoscopy. All were negative which is a very good thing of course but what I am whining about is that the GI said the inflamation in my esophagus is probably due to my PERCIEVED swallowing difficulty. I guess the radiologist percieved the barium stuck in the back of my throat and the stuff I aspirated into my lungs and the neurologist percieved the weakness in my neck muscles. Somewhat pissed off now!
Jeanette I think it is a very good idea to keep Mom safe sitting on the floor