I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I use bleach in my dishwater also. This came from working at a Private School for so long... it was mandatory to keep down the spread of germs. Those Clorox clean ups are great but I had to take them out of her bathroom since she'd pull them out to wipe her face or her nethers. They do look a lot like wet naps so.... in her defense, LOL, they had to leave her bathroom and was replaced by an awesome baby wipe warmer :) If you don't have one of those, I'd highly recommend it.
Slow quiet day here, whew... had to drag out the rug shampooer to clean her strawberry ensure spill and a few pee pee spots from my old blind guy. It's not his fault, he does wear a belly band but it slips and not always catches everything. That's another must have for elderly (humans and pets)...
carpet cleaner!
I bet your mama doesn't care that she's folding the same thing day after day, Jeanette - it keeps her busy. I have mom fold now and then, but to be honest, it creates more work for me, because I have to re-fold and re-sort everything, because she mixes it all together and folds differently than I do (towels she folds don't fit on the shelf, so I have to re-fold - things like that). So I let her help when I can, but I usually do it myself, late at night, in my room.
Cap, no, I don't think this is terminal restlessness ... saw it first hand with my dad and this is not even close. It's plain restlessness. Keeping her awake and busy during the day isn't enough to stop the night time moving. I don't think it's an awful thing to have her sitting on her butt in the evenings, it sure will keep her safer. I use the seat belt in her transfer chair during meals so she HAS to stay put and eat (with assistance).... like I've said, if she wasn't so wobbly her pacing wouldn't bother me at all, unless of course she's standing right in front of the tv during the playoffs!!
I keep a laundry basket full of towels in the living room for her. Do you think she realizes she's folding the same stuff day after day? LOL, that makes me feel bad also.
hope, so nice that your mama is feeling better! Keep those contagious people far away!!
Mom is back to her normal self - normal for her, anyway. LOL Slept almost round the clock for 2 days, now she's up for 4-5 hours at a time and then sleeping - soundly - for a couple of hours, affording me some much-needed time to myself, even if it's only to work or do things around the house. It's just disconcerting when she goes into "sloth mode" and sleeps so much, but it's always been this way. I guess it bothers me now because she's older and it makes me wonder if it's something serious - but apparently it's not. Just SSDD for her. (Same Sh*t, Different Day.)
Ugh. Ex asked if I was still coming to see our youngest this month, and I told him yes, and gave him the dates - he seemed reluctant and kind of hemming and hawing - but said there was no problem with the dates I gave him. Good darn thing there isn't, because short of some major vehicle catastrophe or ice storm, I AM GOING TO MAKE THIS TRIP. I've already had to cancel twice, lost money both times due to reservations made and cancelled - I am not doing it again!
id rather spend the day trying to hack digital highway information signs .
you dont think your mom is near death but her actions sound like terminal restlessness to me . whatever the case it sure sounds like its beating you down .
after my mom passed away it took me about a year to even get the wild eyed look out of my eyes .
ive figured out how some fortunate entrepreneur can make themselves rich . upon googling around last night i find that im not the only one looking for a downloadable mouse cursor shaped like male genitalia . i can think of so many satisfying uses for it . angie merkel ? bam , right in the eye . woopie goldburg ? in the ear .
* sigh * . maybe im not all better just yet ..
Being single and a DIY'er, I try and have everything needed in case of emergencies... apparently not today. Truly I hate counting on other people to help me out, today I was grateful ...
I am so tired tonight... not even 9 and I'm ready for bed. Mom's tipsy walking is making me insane. I just want to "straighten"her up!
YAY!! My son is almost here! ohmahgod I could almost cry... it's been so long since I've had a friend around me. Doesn't matter if he's my son, he is also my best friend. He said I could take TWO days off (minus depend changes and potties)... oh sheer heaven, what shall I do?
edna doesnt remember our year of country tripping because of course her most current memories are barely retained but we had a lot of fun , made up lost time and something in her memory still loves that little truck we rode in .
upon my first visit to phsyc doc back in the spring , doc said " oh man , edna is helping you as much as your helping her right now " . ive made it a point ever since to hang onto those words and try to understand in how many ways doc was correct .
jeanette , i hope you have good luck with the used tires . the dam rubber in them tends to age and harden and they tend to slow leak around the rim . your best insurance would be to get a 25 . 00 12 volt air compressor . they plug into the cigarette lighter and are a real lifesaver if you have a low or flat tire .
i had a flat tire upon leaving the factory one morning many years ago and as a few of us were standing around contemplating putting the spare tire on one of my coworkers saw my 12 volt compressor lying in the trunk and had the audacity to suggest i just air up the flat tire and go get it fixed . ( DUH )
I have my mechanic coming by tomorrow to look at it. Google say's it's something to do with the differential thing. It's parked. Went to pull out my Endeavor and well, it had a front flat tire. Damnit man. Fix a flat didn't inflate it. My carer's male friend came by, he had a compressor and inflated it for me, so then I high tailed it the the tire place. Bought 2 matching pairs of 70% high end tires for $100.00 bucks!! Included installation and disposal of crappy tires.
Susan, when are you leaving? Be sure to let us know so we don't worry too much :) 700 miles is a LONG trek! Sorry about your son who wants to disappear from life. One day when he gets older he hopefully, will realize it would have been easier just to face it and get it over with. Moms and their sons, boy... what we do for them.
I hope it's not a costly repair for the Jeep. Took both mom and myself to the eye doc, got new contacts and... haha, broke for the rest of January now! I may have to re-think my retirement plans since everything is getting more expensive and the value of my dollar keeps going down. Bummer
the road noise is probably being caused by low level of differential oil . they put up a pretty loud howl as soon as the gear oil gets low -- but -- you probably have a leaking pinion seal or wheel bearing seal . not all that expensive of a repair even if a bearing is bad .
my cuz's ( pia ) engine locked up in her minivan . im sure it was about a year ago that i explained to her how important it is to get dirty oil out of her engine as soon as it began feeling gritty between the fingertips . shes particularily thickheaded and i knew she wasnt listening . i emailed and offered her a ride to see her mom or anywhere else she might need to go . its kind of fun being nice to someone whos trying to be vengeful to you . it leaves them rather bewildered .
i saw edna today and shes not doing very well . she is shaky from her very innards , says everything feels wrong and her head constantly aches . shes not distressed but at 91 with advanced dementia and no appetite i dont think shes long for this world . ill forever despise pia for stopping our outings and essentially incarcerating her mom but ill never let the scumbag know how bad she hurt " us " . ill get my revenge by living well and with the memories of all the fun edna and i had for a year .
and ill keep my motor oil clean .
Anyhoo...
I'm sure Boudreaux's Butt Paste is available on Amazon - maybe you could have it shipped, CM? It's great stuff. It's meant for babies, but it works wonders on elderly skin too. We used it on Dad's legs, because they had to be sealed in bandages all the time. Another wonder drug: Medi-Honey. It healed the ulcerating sores on Dad's legs that had not healed for over 10 years. He actually had healthy, pink skin (not dead black skin) on those spots for the first time since his legs went bad on him. Took only 2 weeks of using the Medi-Honey for them to heal up completely. Unfortunately, the specialized care hospital he was in at the end of his life refused to use it or to let me bring it in to use on him myself - so his legs went right back to being ulcerated, and they went back to debriding (scrubbing) the dead tissue off the raw, open wounds twice a day and bandaging them up again. He spent the last months of his life in horrible pain because of their stupidity.
I'm excited to go on my trip, I just wish it was at a different time of year. I'm praying for good weather. Ever since I had a bad rollover accident on the ice 2 years ago, I'm a big chicken about driving in snow and ice - not a great thing for someone living in Michigan.
Planning meals like meatloaf, turkey breast, casseroles and such for the next week so I can make extra to put in the freezer for mom's meals when I'm gone. Thinking I'm going to be meeting myself coming and going in the next week or so.
My mind is really slipping... I was thinking my son was arriving in 11 days, he's actually arriving this Saturday!! LOL!! ahhh, the joy of it all.
I can't wait to see what happens when I turn up with a tub of Boudreaux's butt paste. Envisage nurse pointing to door and saying "Get Out."
Is it available for export, does anyone know?
Perhaps we don't notice the drastic changes in our loved ones because we are with them constantly? Then one day it's like BAM! ... I was thinking about this last night... 6 months ago mom was walking just fine, talking pretty good and was even flirting with the young man who helped me out this past summer. Now she can barely form a coherent sentence and is so unstable walking it's scary...
Thankfully we are not at the "butt paste" phase just yet!!... the depends, super absorbent panty liners, bacterial spray, gloves, butt wipes... yes, my cart is FULL. People have given me some rather strange looks when I load it up on the counter... now I will be even more aware of it and probably start the nervous laughter or talk to myself when putting them up there. Yes, I do talk to myself, even answer myself since I'm so used to not having actual conversations with real people!
Susan!! I've seen my son for appx 36 hours in 28 months. I am SO excited that he'll be here for an entire week I can hardly stand it!! It was less expensive to bring him here than it would be for me to go there. Like you said, we have to PAY a small fortune to go on vacation and the prepping would be just too stressful. I'm excited you get to go visit your son :) It will be a lovely vacation for you, just make sure you don't get lost and can't find your way home!!
I have to figure out how to get my jeep to the dealership. I think the loud humming isn't a good thing, at all. According to my google researches it's a bad thing, probably a costly thing. D*MN. Just leaving the house is a major chore these days much less going on a vacation!! LOL!
My whine but after Susan made me laugh it doesn't seem so bad.
There is a sign above my mother's bed 'No sticks/BP's in left arm'. Also has a pink arm band on left wrist. So WHY do people keep trying to do things with the left arm? My anger/whine came back. Don't people check or read signs?