I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
the pope is so dam broke hes reaching out to gays , peds , divorcees , bikers , athiests , and im pretty sure i read about him this week offering pets everlasting heavenly riches . i think that for a faithful following hed be ok with not only cremation but also a reverently executed wood chipper funeral procedure .
im done canning for now . the last several quarts of potatoes were canned with ham bits and green beans in the jars . im just now at the age of 56 learning about proper nutrition . i was lacking carbohydrates and suffering lethargy for doing so . with this renewal of energy im going to get the root cellar built AND lay stone at the farm . this cellar will be accessible from the bunker / house . in the past i built them seperately from the house and had to brave the ice and snow to get dinner .
as far as getting along with relatives -- i just now sent my youngest sis a friendly email . im bettin both of us are relieved that the dumb d*mn sibling rivalry is behind us . hate / resentment blows . everybody loses ..
What's canning today.
I opened a jar of cheese I canned as an experiement and it tasted like regular cheese. It was kind of crumbly but excellent for cooking. Now I need to open some bacon to see what that is like.
when your parents are gone your going to come to the realization that by default you have become one of the community elders . hate is not something you would want to portray to a generation of youth growing up in the hardest economy since the great depression . i dont particularily like my oldest sis but a few years ago when i was facing a horrendous hepc chemo treatment it was oldest sis who offered to care for me until i was back on my feet and able to fend for myself again . my parents are both gone now and friends are few and far between . i dont see my sis much but her home still represents a refuge in the eastern part of the county should my automobile break down and i need help . im at peace with my other sis and she would come running if i ever got into a bad situation . my cuz PIA has been trying and succeeding in hurting edna and i for 6 months . i will not give her the satisfaction of the outburst that shes hoping for and in fact i sat and had christmas dinner with her at nh this month . i walked to her car and got her camera for her . the three aforementioned people respect the hell out of me not because i can hate but because i can infuse calm when everyone else is letting their emotions run rampant . one of pia's sons offered to stomp my guts out at ednas doctors office . the next time i saw him was at hospital when edna had fallen and banged herself up -- i offered him fuel money to help with his unexpected midnight trip. ya see. they cant hate me, i wont permit it.
he who angers you , controls you . its hard to learn but d*mn worth it. i do not have an enemy in the world and considering what a difficult control freak i am -- thats saying something . your under extreme duress but with a little effort you can turn it into one of the strongest spurts of personal growth of your entire lifetime .
As far as the lady who is pregnant that is just a scam and when I see those and there have been several I hit the report button and the admins take them off.
Hope your parents were wonderful kind and caring people but they allowed family members to walk all over them. Just let them live the way they want their problem is them not you. You already know mama does not know whether they come or not. you are the person giving her the loving care but you are very tired. Follow up the respite care and have a rest. Hugs.
We haven't seen Roscoe for a while hopefully we don't tempt him out!
Tex I think you should not play MD with Mom stick with being a good RN. Observation then seek advice when you don't know what's going on. my rule is that if something is not getting worse I wait a bit and see if it is getting better then i know i don't need to do anything else. One of my kids came in and told me she had broken her arm at lunch time. (she was one of three) I told her to rest on the sofa till we finished lunch the we would go to the ER. It was not long before the arm miraculously recovered and she wanted her lunch. NPO for a broken arm till we had the x-ray.
I think with your mother agravating as it is when you have retired and want to please yourself you need to keep a step ahead of her. Get her on a bowel regime and check in her bowel movements every day and keep a few fleets in the house. You know she likes giving you the run around. She can't do it to hubby because he is so deaf he can just ignore her. He sits on his computer and surfaces when he is hungry and luckily likes to cook enough for everyone although he leave the place looking like a hurricane hit it. I hired a housecleaner today because I can't even manage the vacuume with out my back crippling me. hubby is welded to his laptop and surfaces banging his knife and fork on the table. We all have our crosses to carry some are just heavier than others.
Happy New Year everyone
Your father may still not want to be cremated - that is between you and he but it is NOT between him and the Catholic church. Google your local cremation society (cheaper than funeral homes) if he agrees.
This is not an easy topic to discuss. I don't envy you, but at least he should know where the Catholic church stands now regarding cremation.
It's just the logistics of doing it all. I can't be in two places at the same time. If one parent passes, the remaining parent would be too frail to travel, so I would need to be at their house to keep watch... thus I couldn't be at the funeral home out in the mid-west. The attorney asked Dad who could he call upon out in his old home State to represent the family. Dad never had thought about it, I guess he assumed that either he or Mom could fly out with me [only child, no children] and then I would drive 100 miles to his boyhood town..... well, that isn't going to happen.... Dad is going to have to re-think all of this. Ten years ago we could have arranged everything. My parents never expected to live this long [mid 90's].
I guess it has just always smacked of rudeness that my family has always been the last one on the list to be seen and if they run out of time then we are just out of luck...and so next year I vow, never again, don't even plan it...Christmas is a busy time so just do your thing and we'll catch you whenever and then they plan it and then, you got it, they don't show up...rude and arrogant for sure
The Roscoe thread(s) always seem to creep me out. Boggles my mind how one can be so obsessed with a BM or lack of one and how it's a mother/son relationship. I recall watching an episode of Criminal Minds that reminded me of Roscoe and his mother... my son would not deal with that issue in that capacity. He most certainly would call someone in!! LOL he can't even pick up dog poop much less hear about my issues... hehe
Caregiver Games? Are these the games we make up in our head to pass time, convince our loved one to go to bed, eat, pee or be a big girl and stop arguing with the TV?
Isn't there a saying like the simplest solution is the hardest to see? or something like that... my motto these days is to keep things as simple and easy as possible. Everyday things change and it's going to get worse... but if I keep things simple hopefully I can handle it.
uh oh... I hear mom snoring! yay! She's been talking to the walls for hours now. Took her for a long ride along the river, up to the dam and back down the mountain. She slept most of the way but was so confused when she woke up it flipped on the negative switch and I thought it was gonna turn into an all night plight. Guess not! Bedtime!
Sleep well everyone!