I'm tired of cooking/preparing 3 meals a day. It's just the two of us but boy oh boy can that woman eat!! She stays slimish, I get fattish. It's bad enough I do everything here much less start making her one thing and me the other. At times I feel guilty when I buy her fast food cuz of the nutritional value....not to mention I eat it too.
I could change the backup batteries in these alarms but one is at the very top step of the stairs on the ceiling.... I have visions of me tumbling down... why on earth the builder had placed the wired alarm there is a mystery. The one in the basement at least is at the bottom step and easy to get to. I'll let the electrician deal with both.
So far the alarm have been quiet for the past couple of hours. Holding my breath :P
Oh, I'm being mean. But it would be one caregiving stint to another.
Yeah, well, don't we all. I just think that if you're the person who gets to go home at the end of the visit, you shouldn't be the one complaining. Try being stuck in there on an oxygen mask and level 2 fluids only, then see if you still feel hard done by having to spend an hour or two visiting your mother.
Hard to believe that Clint is near 85 years old. He's divorced now. He and his young wife, who was 35 years younger, called it quits.
Why can't these guys in Hollywood date and marry someone their OWN age. I mean what kind of message are they sending to their own daughters? That once they get to a certain age that no guy would be interested?
Turns out Dad said he and Mom wouldn't be able to read anything if they went to the attorney [both have macular degeneration]. Gosh, guess that means blind people don't have Wills.... [sigh].
My parents go to the eye doctor every 6 months and it's always the same thing, nothing has changed therefore no new eye glass lenses. They probably keep thinking the next appointment there will be magic pair of glasses that will give them 20/20 vision. Unfortunately, that isn't happening in their life time.
I finally convinced my Dad to still go to the attorney appointment as he won't be signing anything... all the attorney wants is the paperwork she asked them to fill out and to talk over what they want in their Trust, POA, etc.
Now I am thinking it might be a good idea to get a new Will and work on the Trust as we go along as Trust can take months to put together. With my parents age [93 and 97] you never know what will happen next month.
I do the same thing - I make Christmas as nice as possible for Mom and then I'm glad when it's done. We used to leave the tree up as long as possible - until mid-January sometimes - before we finally took it down. Not now. It's coming down TODAY. I'm ready to be done with the holidays and get back to what passes for "normal".
Just kidding. I know that must be distressing....how are you going to break the news to him that you're not interested?
I'm going to be doing some serious cleaning and un-decorating today. The house is not terribly dirty, but I just feel the need to do it. There's a lingering, underlying smell of B.O. in here that is driving me nuts - and I know it's from Mom. She needs to shower again, but it's a toss up as to whether she does it today or tomorrow - we do our family breakfast tomorrow, so I'd like her fresh and clean for that, but there's no way she'll shower 2 days in a row (heaven forbid). So I'll clean, light a scented candle, mop the floors and maybe open a window or two for about an hour to air things out. It's in the mid-40s today - won't kill us to let a little air in. (Of course I'll do it in another room and while she's sleeping and covered up so she doesn't get cold.) We have someone from a homecare agency coming in a couple of days to do an evaluation on Mom to see what kind of care we need, so I need to get things in order for that, and need to make a list of what I think we'll need. I don't need help every single day, but I'd like to get back to seeing my grandkids once a month like I used to, before Mom got so bad - I'd like to be able to go and not worry about her and have to come rushing home so she's not alone for too long - and for when I go see my son. I haven't seen him in 1.5 years because of being here with Mom - last time I went, I asked family to check on her....but they didn't. I can't let that happen again - so I'm going to hire someone.
She's kind of dazey and restless again today. She sits in her chair and seems uninterested in much of anything but watching tv. I get her up to walk so she gets some movement in, and she's struggling to walk very far. So she lays down for a nap and plays "cricket" the whole time she's laying there, rubbing her legs back and forth on the bed. The sound is maddening, but I know she can't help it.
Going to have to get a new lift chair for Mom. The one I bought her when I moved in quit working and the parts aren't available for it - the darn thing opened up and wouldn't close! We had to remove the hydraulic unit and power unit from it to get it to close, and now it's just a stationary chair. She's having a harder and harder time getting up from it. (That's what I get for buying one from an online company reputed to sell inferior quality merchandise - which I didn't find out until after the fact...unfortunately. Thought I was getting a good deal on it - NOT.) Live and learn.
Hope everyone got through the holiday ok and is recovering. I actually feel a *lot* better now that Christmas is over. The whole thing is just so stressful anymore. Mom enjoyed the gifts I got her, though, and it was nice to see she was happy with them.
No, he doesn't have dementia. And there is a woman who is his own age who is interested in him. He told me she was too old. I wanted to ask him what he thought he was.
Gosh, I hate to hurt old people's feelings, but this has to stop. The man is getting very close to death now, so I can't imagine what he might be thinking. I wonder if he thinks that if he can win this "younger" woman, that it might return some of his youth to him. I don't know why so many older men are looking for younger women when the women who are looking for them are their own age.