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(((((Vic)))) - hard to see these things happening -prayers
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Good Morning Posse!!!

emjo.........COW PATTIE!!!! Aren't you special? But then again, we always knew that! And you had your own guardian angel......she must have known you needed her for awhile and then when she knew that you were okay, she went off to help someone else. A couple of years ago I looked outside and there was a HUGE dog standing out on the deck. He had a collar on but no tags, had been well taken care of, and had no idea where he came from but he made himself at home. We fed and watered him and called him Elvis....lol. He was very sweet and loving and treated our dogs well. Then a couple of days later, I looked out and he was gone and to this day I have never seen him again. I just figured he had stopped in to say hi during his travels.

Okay okay............I only put one extra staple in.......I told him a couple of them weren't spaced perfectly so needed another one.....:) actually if I do say so myself, for being the first time it wasn't a bad job.....it healed nicely.

Vic....glad to hear no UTI but sorry if Dad is having TIA's. Hate those. Couple years ago I was helping my Dad get into his wheelchair to go to lunch and he had one....scared the crap out of my sister and the little aide about peed her pants. I just put him back into bed for lunch. What can you do besides nothing?

We're getting the north end of ladee's rain storm.....it's putting some rain into the pond, we're hoping enough on the far side to protect the fish through the winter.

I hope everyone is having a good day.......will check back later.....

Happy Trails,
Jam
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OKAY......I have this dilemma today.....all the knowledge on this thread might be able to help me.......I have all these plans for today, getting things done.....and NO desire to DO anything.......I need a term to justify what I have accomplished, like perusing the Green Mountain Coffee Holiday Gift Catalog when I don't even drink coffee.....and don't give me LAZY......I already figured that out. I have 3 hours to think of one before hubby comes home......

We have FENCE.....finally....now I just need something to put in the backyard...

Will check out the vacuum cleaner and see if I can find the plug and get it moving.......motionally challenged?......laundryphobia.....leadbutt?....no, too close to the truth.............
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Seeme how about emotionally challlenged! Then you could ask mike to explain how things work and maybe show you!!! You know you holding on and him in back guiding you!?!?! Might work
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I did find out that if you hold the handle with it plugged in, and walk, it will MOVE.....and if I don't tell anyone about sucking up the dining room tablecloth, who will know?? I am a little out of practice...............
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it's called burned out, seeme, and I have suffered from it too. and still do sometimes - you just do NOT get over what you have been through in a few weeks or probably even in a few months
also you are grieving and I have been told that 1 hour of grieving is equivalent to (can't remember how many) hrs of ditch digging - in other words -you will be tired -

from the internet learnwell.org "People who are grieving often feel extremely tired because the process of grieving usually requires physical and emotional energy".

Grief in not over in a couple of months
look after you, give yourself the space and time u need, eat properly, get the sleep you need, exercise a little, you have been running on adrenaline for a long time
and your body needs a break
that's what we tell the grief group members anyway

seems to me, seeme, that you have good reasons to be tired - oh add to that years of sleep loss
-the housework isn't going anywhere -so I tell myself - hmmm, think I feel a nap coming on...

as a last resort quote maxine -

I thought about cleaning the house. But then
I thought, "What's the house done for me lately?"

HOW TO CLEAN THE HOUSE
1. Open a new file in your PC.
2. Name it "Housework."
3. Send it to the RECYCLE BIN.
4. Empty the RECYCLE BIN.
5. Your PC will ask you, "Are you sure you want to delete "housework" permanently?"
6. Calmly answer, "Yes," and press mouse button firmly.
7. Feel better? - Works for me! :lol:

"I do my housework in the nude.
It gives me an incentive to clean the mirrors as quickly as possible."
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BWWAAHHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!!!!!!! Works for me!!!!!!!!!
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Well seeme......thank God you don't have those fur babies yet, or you would be explaining why one of them is now living in the canister................

How about WITHDRAWAL...............you are coming down off the high of always being alert for your Mom, being available to her 24/7. Instead of trying to tackle the bigger, ugly jobs, try starting with something simple that you enjoy. Just remember darlin that you put one too many blonde streaks in your hair, so we have to go slow....................................ly. If it's any consolation, I'm still having trouble getting myself motivated. Today, I've put the dogs out 3 times, gotten dressed, refilled the humidifier.........woohoo I'm on a roll!!!!!!!!

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Dads internal med guy called to discuss his bloodwork. His red blood cells deficient..levels are dropping albeit slowly...kidney and heart contributing. He feels like dad can benefit from and iron infusion...he is going to get him set up with a hematologist to evaluate and go from there... Sounds like a plan
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glad they have an idea, vic
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ladee.......I've been a col (crabby old lady) this morning and didn't answer your questions......if you look in the vicinity of New England, you will see little pieces of red and white jerseys that the Patriots used from the Chiefs to clean their field. It was disgraceful...........the only consolation is that Kansas Citians are calling for the coaches head on a platter.
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Vic....low red blood cells....been there a couple of times myself when I was younger.....no wonder he doesn't want to get up....makes me tired thinking of it.....and I was in my teens..............
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Getting caught up on the thread, NOW THIS FEELS RIGHT !!!!! Seeme's BACK, yeha, a deep sigh of relief....... you have no idea how much we have missed you....
Awsome news about the cemetary and everything being paid for.... hope the sibs respect this situation and come and be a family for a change.....
Oh, and what is this crap about cleaning house..... ?????? I'm not even sure I understand that language, will have to get Ro to translate for me.... If I have to set on the toilet with an umbrella, do you REALLY think I care if this Grapes of Wrath wagon is clean.... NOT...
Vic, sorry to hear about Dad, I think this is more of what i am seeing in Sonny than UTI.... and there is nothing that can be done..... and I do feel that I have made enough progress with Marie, that I will at least be llistened to ......if in fact he does have different heealth problems....
Jam, sorry your team is playing like Dallas does most of the time.... but it is fun to watch , be glad when I get a tv, then I know I'll never leave the house for anything..... as long as my cat has food, I have my citrus green tea, and the umbrella, I'll be fine.....
emjo, keep your butt warm.... I can't imagine it being that cold..... I always make jokes and say we have about 20 minutes of winter.... but we got another good rain this morning, so hopefully the stock ponds are getting some water in them, and I know the cows are confused, they finally have some green grass to eat.....
Am going to go read for awhile... more later, love ya'll
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Smiley.....keep meaning to ask you if you have ever heard of Buchanan's Mudfest since you mentioned it. My sister's family has 2 events every year. That is why we are going to MO in May next year, and now with burial ceremony. She has people from all over the country going there. There is a website. Let me know....

Cmag.......hope everything went OK with picking up son at airport. Have a good Thanksgiviing.......btw.....overheard my neighbor screaming "Fix my roof or I will sue".....guess there is still arguing over 3/4 or a whole roof.......and how is wife's pain??

SSSHHHHHH.....Ladee is napping............
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seemeride never heard of it but I would check out the website. Maybe the hubby and I would go and check it someday.

ladee wake up it's snowing in TX...




gotta ya. I bet those cows are definately corn fused a bit. lol

Well Rob got the extension ran for the lights but it's raining outside and I would melt if I went out and took pictures so I'm gonna try and wait until it snows before I put pics up on facebook.

emjo glad that you're feeling better.
vic hope your dad gets better.

Hope everyone has a good turkey day and hugs and prayers across the miles.
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smiley, I love play on words.... you are crazy, glad you are here......and, no we don't want you to melt, but am hoping to see the Smiley Grizwald Christmas" soon...will you need to put a warning that we should have on sunglasses first before veiwing?????? When I worked at Boys Haven we had a contest one year to see who could put up the most lights..... there were three cottages and you could see them for miles and miles.... a lot of fun, and the first time for many of the boys to experiance something like that...... and the Board Members always made sure they had a great Christmas.... I still have pics of those guys and the looks on their faces opening all those gifts.... .. good memories......
All I'll have room for this year is a PICTURE of a Christmas tree......
Who is going shopping Black Friday??????
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Smiley.....check out the website...they have burnouts, rock crawling, mud pits, trails, you might enjoy it. I know they put a lot of work into it.

Ladee....I'll send you a picture of my pencil tree...maybe it will fit on the wall.....
glad to see you woke up..........I thought I ran everyone off the thread, but I realized they were just letting you sleep..........read, my ass......

Kathy is dragging me out for shopping at 10pm or whenever WalMart opens. I even have to take a nap after supper cause she said she isn't coming home till Friday sometime.......I got my list from a local school of needy children and what they would like for Christmas. We used to go a little overboard, I guess, cause now we are asked to buy only 1 toy and an outfit or coat. It breaks my heart to see a kindergarten girl ask for boots and a coat, and that any toy would do. We have 6 kids this year. Hubby and I are too spoiled as it is.....we got our fence for Christmas. One year we had a girl ask for shampoo and a toothbrush......tooooo sad. Would you believe I have only been shopping on Black Friday once before? We stood in line at WM for 3 hours to get 2 helmets and 2 bicycles (only $20 each) for a set of twins we had that year..........never did it since, but that was worth it.........but I don't have my own kids, and too many nieces and nephews that aren't hurting for Christmas. Being the shopper that she is, Kathy will steer me in the right direction, or maybe I will just follow (hide) behind her.........
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Smiley had me going...........I had to check the radar in TX to see if Ladee was getting snow.........the blond has got to go............hello mouse gray..........
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Laughing out LOUD,,, yes, the blonde has to go..... ya'll would hear me from your house if we got snow.... uh, doesn't it have to be cold to snow???????
And I DID read, couldn't go to sleep, shame on you Miss I Take A Nap EveryTime I Pass A Soft Surface !!!!!
I know about those younguns that ask for simple stuff, breaks my heart too.... guess I am missing the boys at Boys Haven, making a lot of reference to them lately, but they made a list also... sometimes when I was helping them and they would put things like socks or tshirts, I would tell them they could ask for really neat things.... and they would say you mean like shoes and stuff, and I would say, yeah, but also like bikes and stuff..... OMG, little greedy monsters were created, but they always got what they asked for.... even the bikes.... Guess because my son is being such a jackass, and I haven't seen my granddaughter in almost a year, it is making me miss all those crazy boys.....
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Hello Caregivers, I'm just going to post a quick note. I am taking myself off the notifications list. my email box has 410 new emails. I had a full day function Saturday, and got a job when I got home that night. It is an at home job, sewing patches on uniform shirts. REX is still doing great, I don't believe he can live on his own, but that remains to be seen. He still has a couple more antibiotic pills to take. Then it is a waiting game to see if the c-diff returns. It should not return, he has been taking probiotics, to repopulate his good intestinal flora. I appreciate the support everyone here has given me when I truly needed advice. If Rex, my F-i-L does get ill again, I will return. I have not had spare time to read posts. I have not had time to play on FaceBook(that is a good thing)! The best is the timing of the new money to come into our household. I have a lot to be Thankful for this Thanksgiving. God Bless all of you. Farewell for now, Peggy in Tucson. hugs
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bye for now peggy - hope yu muma dn dad are doing reasonably well too
congrats on the new job - every little bit helps
Good luck and come back and visit!
Blessings
Jo
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Peggy in Tucson: I will miss you. I am glad you have a job. That's great! I know how difficult it is to find those these days. I am glad Rex is doing well. The best to you and have a great holiday!
This morning as i was leaving for school I realized my mom's toilet was stopped up. Darn toilet paper!!! Yep, waaaaay too much mixed with other things I am sure you know what I am talking about. There was nothing I could do this morning as I ran out but thought about that problem most of the day. Tonight I prepared dinner for my mom and took care of the problem (no details, too yucky). Then I broke down. I got so mad at the concept of the brain being taken away from a person. I cried and cried. I even told my Mom I was mad at God for taking my Dad last year and obviously taking my mom's brain this year. That was too much for me to handle.Then my mom went to her room and closed the door. After a while I checked on her, she was in bed in underwear and shirt ... not pajamas. As I coaxed her into putting pajamas on she and I had a good cry and conversation. She blessed me with telling me that she realizes how frustrated I am with her cognitive decline because she remembers how frustrated and angry she was when her mother was "like this". Talk about a blessing. She gifted me with empathy. Through more tears and talk, she has agreed to "check out" the local senior center (I mentioned this two months ago in a post, her doc suggested she go) and she has almost agreed that after the first of the year, she would go once a week while I am in school. Although we cried and cried, sharing empathy through hugs was the best part of the night.
I still feel frustrated but that's human. I know she honestly does not remember how to dress herself so I will budget my time so she is dressed before I leave the house (unlike this morning when I was running late but she seemingly did ok and put on the clothes I laid out for her). She told me honestly that she does not know how to make a cup of coffee all the time. "Sometimes I do" she said.
I will work on my frustration level but what a blessing it was to hear that she understood how I was feeling and then she kissed me and thanked me for all I am doing for her. No greater gift than that.
The topic: how am I doing? Worn out from crying but it was worth it. So a stopped up toilet was the last straw of my patience but it opened the door to a conversation between mother and daughter that only we could share. Thank you for being my friends ~ without this continued thread I would have lost my mind a long time ago.
And if anyone would like to find humor in finding empathy through crap ... please do, I can't think right now.
Sending love and hugs and my gratefulness for all of you.
SDPeg
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seemeride, due to a storm, my son's plane was delayed an hour which got us home very late and I'm unwinding from a long night. My wife's pain is waiting for the pain treatments. I don't know what is going on with my neck and head, but the back of my skull near my neck hurt so bad Sunday night that I could hardly sleep. I might have strained my neck putting a glob back up on the kitchen ceiling light and my dog pulls so hard when walking that it hurts my shoulder. I've had my chiropractor working on my stiff neck, but this pain in my skull is new. My therapist thinks that I might need a muscle relaxer for my neck and shoulder muscles.
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Tpeg.....glad we could make your life a little brighter and we will be here for you if/when you come back. You could check in every now and then, but we are so glad you hve a job that we will understand. Blessings to you this Thanksgiving season.

SDPeg......(!) Who would have thought that a stopped up toilet would lead to such a warm blessing? And a good cry on top of it.....for both of you.......a nice cleansing experience. Almost makes you glad to have had the problem!!! My mom's saddest moments were when she couldn't control her bowels. But with poop everywhere, (I kept reminding her that any mess she made could be cleaned up) I would laugh about her eye color (aren't your eyes green, not brown), where is all this COMING from?.......Yes, it would take another hour to clean up the mess and sanitize things, and once it was tons of laundry from changing PJ's 5 times one night, sheets, towels, but she relaxed when I didn't flip out and I took out my aggravation here!!

Cmag....I was going to suggest a chiro.....love 'em.......my skull pain comes from the muscles running up my neck, and muscle relaxers would be an option......no, none of those at my 'lemonade' stand.....maybe also ibuprofen for inflammation.....bound to be some of that.......hope today's rain doesn't add to your or your wife's discomfort.

Turkey has to come out of the frig today, need to get some other things done, so will check back later.....

OH, for those of you who may not know......if you would like to get rid of notifications, please click on your profile, then click on "settings" under your picture/avatar and answer the questions that pop up. Hope that helps...........
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seemeride, I would go back to the Chiro, but after 4 weeks it is in worse shape. My skull hurt again last night when I laid down. Oh, the rainy weather bothers my wife's fibromyalgia. Can't win. :( At least the roof did not leak this time! :)

I hope everyone has a good a day as possible!
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Cmag, I am sorry to hear you and your wife are having so many problems health wise.... extra prayers for you today.....but at leasty your boys will be home and that is such a great thing, family..... hugs to you today cmag, but not on your sore neck....
Prayers for SDPeg's mom........
more later, gotta go to work...
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gotta put my 2 cents worth in here -after the dry socket pain I had neck spasms where the muscles attach to the skull, and the pain was quite bad so I looked up some exercises on the internet - didn't want to take any more pain pills if I could help it - and find if I do them regularly the pain goes and is staying away and the bonus is better posture too. Shoulder scrunches, pullng your shoulder blades together, pushing your head back against resistance etc. If you are not confident starting them yourself I suggest a physiotherapist could show you what to do or possibly even a trainer. I did use some of the robaxicet type pills a little at the beginning -but only 1/2 each day to loosen up. I do the exercises in the bath when I am relaxed and during the day when I think about it. My upper back is definitely stronger now and my posture better. This works towards keeping you upright as you age too - many older people ( and younger too) slouch. The problem is muscular and arises from us bending forward -as over the computer, too much so the muscles in the front get shorter and the ones on the back get strained. Thus the solution is the strengthen the nack ones.. Anything else just masks the problem. Pain is the signal that you need to do something about it.
That's the scoop from doctor jo for this morning lol!

sdpeg - wonderful warm exchange with your mum - sometimes dealing with the sh*t in our lives brings benefits

oh - and mother at 99 has several deteriorated discs but her "muscle corset" is so good they don't bother her - good muscle tome everywhere pays off everytime -she is a physiotherapist
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Thanks dr. jo. I've noticed lately that whenever I sit down in general that my head seems to want to drop instead of staying up. I hope this muscle weakness is not a sign of some interaction with my meds.
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cmag -whatever the reason for it, one answer is to strengthen the muscles that hold your head up -no prescription needed, no cost, no side effects except feeling better and a stronger neck and better posture - and not a whole lot of effort - maybe 5 minutes a day to begin with and then as few times a week :)
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I think the most common reason for muscle weekness is lack of use which usually comes with age

having said that my neck muscles were weak when my thyroid was low
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