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Vic, I am so tired from all the driving for two days along with all of the drama that I need some extended time alone in my man cave.
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Cmag: enjoy your time alone in your man cave knowing we are here when you want to come out. SDPeg
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burned........I know nothing about the laws in Arizona.....have you contacted your SSA local office for help with all of this? That would be the place to start. Give son a HAPPY BIRTHDAY hug!!!!!!!!

Trying to get caught up on today's posts........
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Spoke with the staff yesterday before seeing grandma. They said that she hasn't ate since Monday and that she's been sleeping alot. It's hard to see her like this. Sometimes, I expect her to wake up and say a smart a$$ comment like she use too. I went up there right after work yesterday and will be doing the same thing today after I get the alert sent out to stormy.
Please keep us in your prayers.
Yesterday, I found out at work that one of my friends, Robin, lost her mom over the holidays. Her dad has alz and just was put into a nursing home.
My niece had her baby yesterday morning. A little girl Arabella Alexis. She came 20 days early. I'm hoping Grandma holds on long enough so my niece came bring her to at least meet Grandma. But for now Grandma is in God's hands and whatever happens happens.
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Needed rest last night, so catching up this morning.
emjo-I'm glad you have gotten to a safer place. You sound very wise and accomplished. Blessings and real peace to you.
jam-thanks for the advice. It is better to do nothing sometimes.
rossell-you are an inspiration. Your happiness for your brother's family is so selfless. Shows what a wonderful person you are.
maya-hope you got a good cry and feel better today. Hugs.
mis-Hugs for the happy and sad places you are in right now. Be sure to talk to your Grandma about the new baby, she may still be able to hear you, even if she doesn't respond.
burned-Happy Birthday to your son!
The home health coordinator came last night. Wonderful woman-she had Mom talking, laughing, even telling stories. Got Mom signed up so we're ready for the future. At last, something I worked out right! I can breathe a bit easier now knowing that's taken care of.
Mom has chosen to start radiation with her next round of chemo. I hope it works and the side effects aren't as bad as I imagine. More doctors appts in our future to coordinate all this.
My uncle goes to hospice today. It's hard watching my dad deal with this. He is trying to understand it all. I listen alot and answer questions. Mom is still pretty cold about it, but at least she lets him go visit.
Hope everyone has a good day. Thanks to all of you for your support and kindness.
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Mismiley, I know what you are going thru, did this with Ruth, she had Alz...it is very hard to watch some one you love go thru the final stages.... but God's hands are on her heart..... she is safe.... thoughts and prayers to you and hubby....
notlikemom, you have done a lot right, we know it, God knows it, so that is the most important. Yes, professionals do have a way to reach them sometimes...make them feel safe, so happy to hear you received this blessing of one thing you know is taken care of.... love and hugs... angels for your heart....
Cmag, enjoy your time in the man cave...
Ro, just know that you are loved and respected.... no matter what is going on.... you make time to talk to us.... you are appreciated...
Have asked for a four day weekend... hope I get it soon....
love and hugs....
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Good Morning Posse!

Short check-in.....dogs woke me up and said "Potty time"..........

Notlike......I'm sorry there is so much sadness and stress around you now. Not only with Mom, but now with Uncle....just remember that we are thinking of you and sending hugs and prayers. Isn't it great how an "outsider" can come in and work miracles with our loved one? I guess since they aren't the ones doing the cleaning and saying "no" they can get accomplished what we might never have. When the admitting coordinator came to see the col when she was placed in the NH she manipulated the col into thinking it was her idea...lol! Where before, the col would practically threaten us that we had better not ever put her in one, the AC had her looking forward to it. I guess it takes a special talent to do the job.

mis....sending prayers and hugs and angels to you and to watch over Grandma. And a new life also! How special and yes, I hope Grandma gets to see her....beautiful name they gave to her. Try and take a few minutes for yourself each day, so you don't get run down.

After reading some of the recent posts, I had the idea that someone might want to start a thread about living today with dysfunctional families from the past.....I bet there are a lot more here than we even imagine. Just a thought if someone wanted to tackle that project.

Hope everyone has a terrific day............going to go take care of my farms on FB!

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Oh Jam, I like the idea of a thread just for that, like you said who ever want to undertake that would be great, I know lots of folks would go there and have a safe place to talk about things..... and I forgot to tell mis, congrats on the new baby, and I LOVE her name.... gma will hang on, just keep whispering in her ear that the new one will get to come meet her soon.... I believe they can hear us... so say all you need to say.... when Ruth was in her final stages and had not opened her eyes for days, when she heard her grandsons voice on the phone, he was in Kuwait, she opened her eyes and smiled..... she died shortly there after.... so grannys can wait... and they can hear us.... love to you...
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Yes, Mis, she can hear. The last word my mom said out loud, and she said it louder the second time, was her fave g/son's name when he called her on the phone. So tell her everything you want her to know....especially the baby's name.

Notlike, hang in there girl. You are doing better than you think. You have started something that will make it easier for you to go on....

Jam....a place to sort out dysfunctional families.......imagine most of us could go there, but I prefer to keep my rose colored glasses on.........ignorance is bliss in my case.......but the need seems to be out there. It is just another piece of the fabric that makes up the caregiver's role. It may account for the "who" of the caregiver, the "why" of the caregiver, and the "how" of the caregiver.......which child does it, or not.....how the caregiver delivers their care........wow, this is a deep subject.....too deep for me.....I'll just stick to humor........

Been missing you, Ladee.....glad to see you are back....must have had some long days at work.......hope Sonny and Marie are doing good. I got out yesterday for the first time in a week and it wore me out. Didn't do anything exciting even. Slept most of the afternoon while hubby was. Two more weeks of this shift and we can get back to a normal eating and sleeping routine where I can make NOISE during the day. Cold is much better, cough is easing, antibio's must be working. It is late and I must get going.........later............
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A new thread probably would be started by a first born. My favorite studies were birth order and temperaments. Let's see if a first born jumps onto that idea. That would leave me out; I'm middle yet baby of girls. That puts me in a position that has many curses and many blessings.
After sending a message to doc (in the wee hours of the night) the nurse called. Mom's rxs are being adjusted due to tsh results and over all behavior. Woo hoo. I always cooperate with doc without putting my two cents in. They know I will ask questions though so as to be more learned. Perpetual student I am. So I will have to make my list again ... ha ha ... got so used to routine of putting the meds out. Perhaps a change in meds will make a marked, positive change in mom. Can't change her relationships with my sibs but can follow doc and change rx. Hopefully this will yield the positive changes I started this year praying about. Let's hope so.
SDPeg
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Hey all just wanted ya'll the ones that are friends with me on FB to check out what my sister put as her post the other day after we found out that she was stealing from the family business. Her name is debbie, dark brown hair. The post is about a 20 dollar bill. It is so true and fitting. I hope ya'll will check it out and let me know what you think of it. Love and hugs stormyyyyy
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Sorry ya'll i meant to put after we found out that MY NEICE WAS STEALING FROM OUR FAMILY BUSINESS. Not my sister......
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could not find it stormy - debbie M? but she is not listed under your family?
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Jam, I've started a dysfunction family thread with the title: The Caregiver & Dysfunctional Families: How are you doing?

seemeride, you bring up some very good points about how this topic relates to caregiving for what appears to be a lot of people on this site. It is deep as well as prevalent and I hope the thread will be as helpful as this one is.
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Cmag: great job. Good title. The family structure has been askew since the beginning of time. Adam and Eve had children ... who did their children marry if they were the first generation? Mmmmm....that's always fun to question ha ha
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Hi everybody sorry my head is literally and physically spinning... My life goes very fast lately... I wrote it on Facebook, not here. The dog I had adopted recently, has killed one of my cats, one of those I loved more. So yesterday I took him to a dog shelter - and it was not easy to do it because it was not his fault. I like very much the people who run this shelter (it is a private one; the public ones are dog lagers) and they are already doing their best to find him another family. I called today, he is well and he doesn't seem too traumatized. When I went there yesterday I decided right away to adopt another dog because I needed something good in my life, lately its not been easy. So I took a little dog, a girl, a very sweet one. Her name is Dorothy Lamour. She is a little clown and she makes me smile.
I read your posts and I am sorry for those who are having a bad period with their parents and grandparents and in some cases husbands. I am really sorry for all of you who are grieving for difficult situations. My mother is in a good health, she is stable, she doesn't give me any problems lately. Poor thing. Just the lack of freedom...
Sorry I haven't slept at all last night so I am quite foggy.
I'll try to participate more to the life of this thread tomorrow night...
My head is somewhere else tonight. Forgive me! Kisses everybody
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Ro, NOW I understand!! Another lost pet.....it must have been do hard to take him back, but I know the need for pets very well and I am glad you got another one........she sounds so glamourous.....Dorothy Lamour.....I am old enough to know who she is!!!! Get some sleep and then tell us all about her.......
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Just had to come here and bemoan all that has happened in the last few days. My Mom fell on Monday morning; four breaks in her right leg and came through the skin. Actually looked like a wound that would happen in war. Got to the hospital and after hours of waiting ; they took her to surgery and tried to fix her leg. So far it is looking okay but still not real positive on a good recovery. . I have been staying at the hospital most of the day and all night. I have a lady that has been staying with her at home ; she is staying with her for several hours in the afternoon. Don;t know how this will turn out as I know there are lots of things that can happen. My Mother is 97 ; I don't know how her body is going to handle this.all this. So far she is okay but I look for a change anytime
We need your prayers. Thanks so much. Carol
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Carol: my prayers are for your mom, you, family members and all friends. SDPeg
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So sorry to hear about Mom Carol......lots of prayers sent to Mom and you. Making it through the surgery is a good sign, but the thing to watch for now will be pneumonia since she is not able to move around.

Ro.....my heart is sad for your kitty.....but glad now that Dorothy will have a loving home with you.....pictures please!

Going Saturday to the winery that our brother-in-law owns for brunch and "all-you-can-drink" mimosas.............now I should find a designated driver.....:) Sounds like a good morning.
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Carol, you and mom are in my prayers. Keep your chin up....hugs......
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Birthday cake is done all that is left to do is frost it and decorate it and my son wants spaghetti n meatballs for dinner tonight...I wasnt able to take him bday shopping had an appt for myself and my daughter had a dentist appt. She was brave and handle getting two cavities filled today ...i am so relieved no more dentist visits for awhile except for me which eases some of the stress for a bit. I been having nasty migraines but at least i can sleep in tomorrow and i am not sure if i am gonna do my usual routine tonight besides working with hubby n then going to bed....i am just that worn out with the unknown of things and still praying for good things to come our way ...God Bless n thank you
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They have moved her , my Mom , to a regular room. She started in ICU on Monday, step down unit Tuesday , Wednesday and now to a regular room. She sat up for three hours today and they were trying to get her to use a walker and keep her bad leg off the floor. Said she did well. That is remarkable considering her age of 97 as said by her Doctor. This is truly the Great Generation.
Thanks for all the prayers and kind thoughts. Please keep them coming. Carol
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That is great news; God is faithful.
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PegSD-so glad your Mom got med changes. Thinking good thoughts...
Carol-Go your Mom! Sounds like she is doing really well. So glad for both of you.
I am the oldest in my dysfunctional family. So I immediately thought about doing the thread. LOL That is a correct theory! But I've learned my limitations over the years. Let's kick this around...anyone else interested?
I am wondering if I will ever get a night without some kind of Mom issue. If I do, I will certainly enjoy it! Tonight it's taking Dad to his appt. tomorrow. I suggested he take me and pick me up from work, so we can have only one car for the appt and be able to talk when it's over. I really need to maximize my time. Although he prefers his van, we will be taking my car in the AM and the van in the PM because SHE thinks that's fair. I could argue he's never driven my car, it's filthy inside, and I'd pay for his gas in the van, but it wouldn't do any good. She can only see what's in front of her and that's the gas cost. Not to mention all the hours I've lost from work and miles I've driven to be there for their appointments. Oh well, it could be a bigger issue and that would be worse. So I'll take the small issue instead.
Done venting. Crossing my fingers that figuring out Dad's treatments tomorrow won't rock the boat too much here.
Sweet dreams everyone!
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Sorry. Don't know how, but I missed Cmag's post about the new thread. Awesome, and thank you for starting it. This eldest child can go read her book now LOL
Jam-you are so right about professional, good people in caregiving. They can swoop in and save the day. I'm so glad I talked to her and explained the situation before she came. She knew just what to do. Yours must have been exceptional to get the col to think it was her idea. Too funny!
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notlikemom, yes, you are picking your battles... so that means you WIN.....less stress for you, and who cares if your car is filthy... will it crank and roll??? that's all that matters...mine would get better gas mileage of I took all the rocks out of it,from my rock hunting, but at least I know where they are.... lol...Progress girl, not perfection.....hope all goes well tomorrow...
Good luck cmag with the new thread..... it may take awhile for others to see it, but hang in there.... it will serve a great purpose....
I am going to enjoy my time off.... seems totally strange to not have to be anywhere for the next few days....
hugs and angels....
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My mother saw the nurse today. It's back to wet to dry again. And yes, the nurse believes that I was right about another infection. In the meantime, my mother has been sick all day. She couldn't keep anything down. I called her primary and I was assured that he would call me back before the end of the day. I think I can safely say that it's not going to happen at this late of an hour.

And my hip is hurting and my leg is sore myself. My right hand is tingling from carpal tunnel. I've got a load in the washer, a load in the dryer and another one to start.

Sorry to break up the good with my junk. It's my problem, not anyone else's.
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But that is what we are here for Maya, to share the load.... sorry it has been a bad day for you and mom....and it's not 'junk', it's your feelings and that is important.... hang in there and let us know how you and mom are doing... prayers for you...
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Maya....a problem shared is a problem half solved!!!!!!
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