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Thanks, Ladeeda, You remind me of my bst friend (lives w/both of her parents). She tells me to use her delusions to get her to agree to change. ( I haven't even mentioned the guys with lazers that shoot from the street to open blinds and clog drains!) She tells me to blame everything on the lazer guys. To tell you the truth, I'm afraid of getting sucked in to her crazy world! I have wondered how she would react if she woke up to new shades...afraid it would all loop all over again. May be better left alone... Thanks for your friendship! ...I'd better go see if she's breathing..
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Welcome hadassah....glad to see you here. I don't know....lazer guys might be kind of fun...:)

I had a long post written to explain to ASG and stormy how NORMAL they are and guess what? Yep.....POOF! Too tired now to rewrite it, but will later. The computer trolls are out again.
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Computer trolls----Ha, Ha I like that Jam. And you are about right. You about have to pray over these posts ( that they won't disappear into thin air, especially the long ones)... Love you stormyyyy
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well Hadassah, guess the computer trolls made you post three times,,, felt like Groundhog Day, and then you said something about looping all over again.... hell, we're all crazy and this is not even real, none of us are caregivers, we are a bunch of old movie stars with too much time on our hands..... I want to be Lauren Becall(sp), why??? Because I can.....
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well hubby is on usual tirade about this and that; were not even at the clinic..I am just hoping that his main doctor will understand the concept of a statement for his his SSDI so I can make that blasted trip to Phx or Tucson ...hoping for a free ride there so I can take of this part of his life. Wish us luck calling the shuttle to see what is the hold up...should of been here by now ..to all suffering my prayers are with you and ty for being my venting buddies...
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Stormy yes I do one and a half years ago I would have bawled my eyes out like a baby. Even a year ago. I have thought about that to. But after listening to her wanna die everyday...after her being completely miserable no matter where she lives...seeing where she is headed with her mentally. An im not a bad person either I value life very very much. I have also seen a lot of people suffer.glad you think about that to. I wanna hug ya!!!
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Oh Ladeeda I LOVE your "lectures" lol!!! You make very good points. Thank you. Maybe I should take up rock collecting;) or at least take my walks back...when she moved here I walked every morning. After months of being rushed and struggling with this...I stopped. Maybe I should go back to doing that. Besides me missing my walk my weight scales do to!!! They've been scccccreaming at me when I step on them.
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Stormy....the loony bin sounded sounded wonderful!!! The spa to die for! Ladee lmao!!! Change shades huh? Hmmm my wheels are spinning. Had...bags listen to Ladee. And does she smack her lips when she's pissed???
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Lol jam and stormy....that's why I make all these post all broken up into segments. Rozella had a good idea about copying the post after we write them just in case.
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Ladee you went suppose to tell our secret shhhh....today im Michael Hall...shhhh
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Burned I hope you get that ride...we are glad to know ya. Yes this is a wonderful place to vent.
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Hmmm looking on he screen I see prompts for an article "13 tips for seriously better sex" (lip smack) am I the only one seeing that??? We are all grownups here...nah I better not touch that with a ten foot pole. Tell me to be quite Jam.
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Ok gotta say it....wonder If one of those 13 secrets involve laser lights???
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hmmmmmm...She does smile a lot!
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LMAO , ASG, I love it when you are on the 'edge', your humor keeps me laughing... hate that you have to hear 'death' talk all day everday.... my dad used to be that way, so we told him to stop calling 911, he didn't think it was funny, but we did.....
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Hell no....ASG.....I want to see where you run with the sex........
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How in the world does everyone find the time to post so often? I don't get to the computer as often as I would like, and then take too much time to think about all the situations, I guess. Plus, don't type very fast! Anyway, Mom (MIL) is doing much better. She has spent a lot of time resting. It may have been a cold trying to get a hold, but so far no cough or other congestion. Ladeda, the doctor did not mention anything about a TIA, but it is something I will ask her regular doctor about when I see him.

The posts about ADHD were interesting. I raised two kids with that, and both are doing well in the working world,etc. My daughter is not taking any meds right now as she is still nursing the baby, but says as soon as baby is weaned she's going back to it. She has struggled with memory and attention issues for the last two years, both of which she needs in her job. Son does not take meds, but chose his profession (Civil engineering/highway construction management) so he could be outdoors rather than behind a desk most of the time. The local children's hospital in Ohio had classes to teach coping skills for the real world, and we never let them use the ADHD as an excuse to not do their work in school (and allowed them to face whatever consequences resulted from NOT doing it!). But really can't take credit for how they turned out...credit belongs to HP(God) for that, I think!!!

Vic, sure like your comments on how we survive caretaking. I thought I knew what I was getting into when we invited Mom to come live with us, but the reality is much different. And she is still really quite independent, except for the memory problems. So, change and adapt to whatever each day brings. And now my DH has retired so we face a whole new set of experiences. Yahoo!!!

Well, will finish reading all those posts and catch up later, I hope. Hugs to every one!
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Speaking of which.....has anyone seen the new commercial for freecreditscore.com and the hunky guy? I would apply if he comes with it....just saying.......
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A little worried about Caty today. been super tired since yesterday, coffee cup is too heavy to lift. No appetite, said when she coughed, it gave her stomach & chest pains. Hoping it's the virus my husband had. She does NOT want to go to the hospital. Wants to die at home. She is paranoid that if she goes, they'll keep her. At 95, what u gonna do anyway? Just tryin to keep her hydrated.
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Hi I read many interesting posts and I would like to answer but I have to work tonight and I am very late with my translation. Anyway I wanted to say to everyone who has the same problem as I have: I have become a raging beast, too. I was not like that. I have become intolerant, stressed, impatient, snappy, I wish that everything finishes soon. Sometimes I feel like opening the gas and killing us all, my mother, myself, the pets. But luckily those are just bad moments (by the way I don't have the money to fill the gas tank) and somehow I find the strength to go on every day. I think I said many times I had an extraordinary father who died many years ago but if there is something he taught me, was to go on whatever happened and never give up. And so, somehow, every day I find the strength to get up and do what I have to do. It is absolutely sad that a dead person (my father) helps me live my life more than my alive relatives who have left me completely alone in this mess.
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Linda, my red heart is for you! Lindaheart this is your name.
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Sex????? What ARE ya'll talkin' about?????
Jam, you are really bored aren't you..?? If that hunk came with it he would just expect you to cook.... think about it.... and he would not know how to run the washer or dryer, his clothes would be all over the floor and bathroom would have wet towels NOT in the clothes hamper.....don't you already have one like that sans the 'hunk' part??????
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Sex????? What ARE ya'll talkin' about?????
Jam, you are really bored aren't you..?? If that hunk came with it he would just expect you to cook.... think about it.... and he would not know how to run the washer or dryer, his clothes would be all over the floor and bathroom would have wet towels NOT in the clothes hamper.....don't you already have one like that sans the 'hunk' part??????
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Don't know why that posted twice.... do ya'll hear the TWILIGHT ZONE theme music in here???
Ro, I am so sorry you feel that you are a beast... and am very grateful you don't have money to fill the gas tank..... what would we do without you..... and it would be just your luck to be sent back to do it all over again.... thank God your dad has so much power in your life....we don't have to like it do we? We just have to do it....
just sucks sometimes....
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Ro.....you should consider yourself so blessed that your Father left you with such high values.....you are a very loving, compassionate daughter and I respect you so much for what you do for your Mother. Yes, it gets so hard sometimes that it seems like the only course we have is to not have one....and there will come a day when you will be able to look back on this time without one single regret...hugs my friend.

ladee.....if I had something that looked like that guy he wouldn't have to do a damn thing except stand there and look pretty....lol. Actually the one I have picks up after himself unless he cooks, then I do it. I cook, he cleans. And I don't want him going anywhere near the washer and dryer....I like my clothes....my black shirts would be washed with the towels...but he does know where the hamper is and he never leaves wet towels. We've been together 18 1/2 yrs.....too old and set in his ways to throw him back....LOL.
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hadassah......sounds like pneumonia.....I understand not wanting to go to the hospital....if she gets worse maybe she won't argue. As ASG said this morning, pneumonia is an old person's friend. Let us know how she's doing.
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Ok, thanks Jam. I have noticed she is not complaining as much as normal about how it feels. Just sitting with eyes closed & looks a little grimacing. When I ask she says she's not in pain. I think she must feel worse than usual to not want to talk! It's so nice to have you guys to bounce things off of. Thanks...
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You're welcome.....normally people think of pneumonia as a hacking, productive cough, fever, some pain, maybe difficulty breathing......but not always. Sometimes can't tell until xrays done. With the grimacing it sounds like she is uncomfortable. Let's hope she feels better tomorrow after a good night's sleep.
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Hi all..caught up on the days journey...we are all in the same pasture! Feelings guilt anger checking to see our loved ones are ok...hoping they won't call or yell at us or us at them...ladee said it well ..God loves us just as we are right now he knows our hearts ...he loves us unconditionally!
Took dad today for second procrit shot today.. He was just not with it. Confused ..had to feed him..pick him up more..thankfully no poo problems today. Hubby and I were talking about dads clear days and not so clear days..started looking up dementias.. Lewy body dementia fits many many of his symptoms even to the rigidity of his muscles. Poor dad. Started him on melatonin the other day..helped a little.. He just Is so tired all the time..can't hardly communicate most days. My heart breaks for him ..can't fix it and hate to see him suffer so..not much can be done..just try to help him be comfortable.
Talk to you all tomorrow..prayers
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Prayers for dad Vickie Vic, Marie is the same way, some days she is so weak that walking to the dinner table is a chore.... Do they think transfusions will help him.... I will have to find out what shot Marie was taking, but Medicare will only pay for it for a few times and the shot is $3000, who would make a med like that then it cost too much to give.... and she is worse since not being able to take the shot....
I know she has been cranky since they called and told her what her hemoglobins were at 9.6, she will probably have to have blood again next week... I feel she is so angry that she feels she needs to hang on for Sonny... He gets completely lost when she is gone all day..... she has even said as much to me... she'd just let it go if it weren't for Sonny.... can't imagine what she is feeling... I know she is very very tired of being sick and weak.... she did awesome when she could have the shot , wasn't getting blood but once a month....
She has no dementia, no muscle problems, so I can't imagine what it must be like for you to watch what is going on... and to only be able to possibly make him more comfortable...It takes courage to be a caregiver, courage we never knew we had.... love you girl, and am happy hubby is home to help and to be there for you... lots of hugs.... and angels....
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