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Good Evening Posse!

Have been laying low today.....no good reason, other than I just wanted to.....lol.

hadassah.....I would put a picture of homemade chicken soup on the fridge while I opened a can....sometimes it's just easier. Hope you get to feeling better soon.

Good points ladee.....and yes I remember the rough time you had with Ruth and how bored you were when you were healing and she wasn't able to be there.

Saw the mural stormy and will go post something. Did you get the results from your culture back today?

Hope everyone has had a good day....before I start babbling nonsense I'm going into lurk mode for a while.

Happy Trails,
Jam
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I went to see Kathy's mom today at the hospital.. For the newbies, Kathy is my neighbor/adopted sister without papers and was my part -time caregiver for my mom for 5 years. Her mom had knee replacement surgery Tuesday and is expected to go to rehab tomorrow or Sat., but has needed 2 pts of blood today. She is not keeping her blood presure up.....my mom didn't always have hers with her. LOL I had to be a witness for a medical POA for her, which is something Kathy should have already had. She knows better. I will spend more time with her mom at rehab, but she has run a samll temp and I just didn't want to bother her with too much company, what with all the kids and grandkids going to see her.

Talked to my MIL today and just had to hand the phone to hubby. She is his mom, let him deal with her. She was trying to whisper, didn't have her hearing aide in, and mumbled most of the time. Still sounds like she is drugged up to me. Looks like she will spend a week here in April before Mike takes her back to Maine, so maybe I will get a better handle on how she is then. Scares me to think she is expected to live alone up there, but she isn't my mom.

Ladee, hope you aren't having any problems with Marie or the daughter about Sonny.......but you will speak up....so he is in good hands.
CMag, good luck with the new doc.
River, sounds like you really do fit in.......
Stormy, a little affirmation goes a long way. What a good Aunt you are.
ASG, normally the cow patties are for the 100 mark. If you need one that badly, be sure to let us know why. I am looking forward to the reason. Must have something to do with dirt napping......I will never take a nap again without thinking of that. Blink, blink. Anyway, I may have a spare one.............
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Only ASG would NEED a cow pattie,
Seeme, no not really having any problems, and never with the daughter... she is so burnt out with her mom, she appreciates what I do... Marie is depressed... understandbly so, but she gets really hateful when she's like this....I finally told her today that maybe I just needed to go home as it seemed I was getting on her nerves.... this was BEFORE lunch, so I knew she would straighten up some.... she said no, she was just tired....but she did stop snapping my head off.... I really knew she wasn't going to let me go home, but I've learned how to deal with her mood swings....by me saying it that way, it didn't come across as ' bitch what is your problem" which is what I was thinking.....Just like I was talking about earlier, had that been a family member I would have said tell me what's going on, or I'm getting out of here for awhile..... I do get tired of working my brain so hard to keep my damned job......
Hope Kathys mom is better tomorrow..... and you know you can always run away to Texas while mil is there...... good thing you threw away all mom's drugs... she'd be snooping to find them.... any word on the babies????
Waiting on a call from the ex, guess he is wondering about son.... so talk to ya'll later..... love and hugs....
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Can I say Calgon take me away...as soon as I put these kids to bed i Have to clean the house and whatever...i have about had it with everything and i am still waiting on that letter..from his doctor etc etc...seriously i need some vodka and something if not ill drink a long island ice tea...just one of those days where i crave peace wish I hadnt slept in...I am just not feeling and I almost cannot empathize and I have rewrite a paper for a free class i am taking online ....just so out of bounds...i need a pep and a pick me up.....
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Go out and grab yourself a 5 hour little energy drink at the store. Grab a snicker bar also for added energy. SERIOUSLY. It Always works for me when I need a lift. You'll see, it really works. You





















Burned, go out and get yourself a 5 hour little energy drink. Also get a Snickers bar Seriously. It will work. Someone told me that, so I did and it gave me that extra boost!!! enjoy,especially the candy bar
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Ladee, my helps are not in the same condition as you are. Sometimes I wonder if "I" have the right to say something about my mother's handling! They make 90% of the decisions. But it is okay for me, my mother is well, so I appreciate what they do. Honestly I am not a control freak and I like to pass some responsibilities to other people, so I can relax a little bit and think of my own business.
ASG, I am having a worm rest, now. I am crawling on the floor! I am tired. I would like to sleep, on the floor too. Like a worm, too.
After one month of doing-nothing I am working too much, but this how my job works. Next week I might have nothing to do, again. Of course if they propose me 7 translations in one week I have to do them all, because next week I could have none.
Night everybody
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Jam-thanks for posting a comment about the mural. And yes i heard back from the dr yesterday and i meant to tell ya'll but forgot. They called and said that it was negative. Thank the Lord. Sure didn't need anymore bad news our way. Thanks for asking and assuring me that everything was ok.
Seemee- Thanks, I try to be good to her, she was the middle child and kinda got lost in between her sister and brother cause they both demand your attention. Her mom, my sil has always rave more about the other two kids. And she was just kinda left out.
Ladee- Thanks for posting a comment about the mural!!!!! Maybe she will stick with it now since she has seen that she done a great job. Plus she is planning on painting a picture frame around the mural so it will look like a real picture in a frame. And she still has got to paint the faces of jesus and the others in the boat.
C-mag- good luck with the new dr. I hope you have better luck with this one!!!!
Asg- girl you are too funny, I enjoy your comments and humor.
Well, for my day I had to carry dad to get his hair cut so we were going to his truck to get in and he had grabbed the keys. He was wanting to drive. I on the other hand did not want to ride with him. I thought that i was going to drive him. So i get in the truck thinking to myself WHY in the hell am i going if you can drive yourself. So I get in the truck and I normally put on my seatbelt but didn't today. We are going down the road and the next thing i know dad bout takes my head off with a mailbox. He is almost running off the road. And i'm about to S$#% in my britches. He was looking at some field. And he said i took my eyes off the road for a minute. This is why I do not like to ride with him. Thank God he doesn't ask to go riding much at all. So i was like when we get ready to leave from getting his hair cut my ass will have that seatbelt on. But i think he was starting to feel bad so he let me drive back to his house. I was singing praises when he told me to drive. And i needed a cigarette bad. Got one when we got back to his house. My nerves were shot. So that was my day. Nothing like a good old scare is there????? Love and hugs stormyyy
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Glad to hear the results were negative stormy....do you think it might be time to take Dad's keys or maybe just refuse to get in the vehicle with him if he insists on driving? The last time the col thought she could drive Target went out and put on a motorcycle helmet and I gave her my car keys....the plates on her expired so she couldn't use it....by the time she got outside, she slammed the keys down and stomped off to her house muttering every step of the way something about not showing her respect. The last time I was in a car with her, she scared the holy crap out of me!

zoey.....do you find after drinking one of those energy drinks, you crash? It seems like I read that somewhere. I've never tried one.....afraid I might miss some worm rest....lol

Was going to go see the col tomorrow but it appears the NH is in lock-down. They have the pukies making their way through the place and that's okay that they don't share it with me. I won't be offended.

Watching a show on tv that features the town where burned lives....there's not much but sand and cactus is there?

I hope everyone is having a good evening.....it's my time to zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz....Good night all!
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just need to brag. Even though i'm sick & feel like crap, I made real homemade chicken noodle soup. I did cheat and not make the noodles this time, but it was soooo good ! Of course when my husband came in she told him she had no idea I was sick today...oh well. Now I have an excuse to wrap in a cocoon, in my room & watch tv .It's his turn :-)
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Good Morning Posse!

Up early again with the dogs.....I so wish they would learn to sleep!

hadassah....... Sorry you are still feeling crappy, but glad you had the energy to make soup. And nothing tastes like the good homemade kind. Hopefully with some rest you will start to feel better.

ladee.....one day and then you can rest for a couple of days. I haven't looked at the weather this morning to see what you are supposed to get. Chance of rain here today although I don't know where it's going to come from.

Guess I will get my coffee and act like I want to do something today. Hope it's a great day for all of you.......with some fun thrown in to make it better!

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Stormy, it took a lot of courage for your niece to post the pic of her artwork... I did a charcoal drawing once of an old man... it way laying on the table, and a friend came in and saw it, I froze... didn't want to hear anything negative... then she went on and on saying she didn't know I could do that.... so I hope your niece gets the confidence she needs and pursues her dreams....art in any form is a major stress releiver....
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Hadassah,congrats on that soup, save me some... hope you are feeling better soon...
Ok, just another sh***y day in paradise....
love ya'll
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I am 30 post behind..so will read soo...have to tell al of you about our day and night first...
Night before last dad had a horrible night..he couldn't seem to relax ..I didn't get much sleep at all. Sat with him to help him early till he dozed off..then it was on of getting up every coup hours..then he called...he had to get up to make a phone call..eyes wide open wonder if he was really awake...sat with him for awahile again.....rough..anyway it was a fairly typical night. I let him sleep since he finally calmed and was not squirming or raising legs from one side to the other. ..ok so yesterday...early was another "normal" day...except that as the day went on he seemed a lot more clear headed and he didn't look as drawn and sallow. At lunch he joined in laughter as hubby was teasing mom and was able to add a sentence or two..by dinner he was ready to go to bed..starting to get antsy and squirmy...figured it would be another long night...but he went to sleep ..called a couple of times ..ialmost in time to pee..but he has stayed relaxed and calm in a good sleep. Yaay! Maybe the procrit is staring to help his body and maybe the melatonin is finally helping...
Course today is another day but I will take a good night any day!!
Time to catch up ...love and prayers
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Vic you are such a good daughter......hugs my friend!
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Thanks Ladee- I hope she sticks with her art work too. She needs something like that(something positive ) in her life. I'm hoping that this will be the break she needs to keep her motivated.Thanks again for posting!!!
Well I am back at the house of horrors!!!! For those of you that are new here that is what i call my dads house because we never know what he is going to cough up out of his trach. We have seen some pretty gross things come outta there. One time something looked like a little brain and the other time something that resembled a bats wing. Just never know over here.........
I will check back in later ya'll. Hope everyone has a great day!!!! love and hugs stormyyy
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I ended up in the ER with a severe case of mono which nearly killed me. I am my Mom's sole caregiver and she needs 24/7 assistance. All our appliances broke, we had one car, mom had no clothes, and we have no money. It was too much and my body collapsed. I am in my 3rd day of recovery and have a long way to go. We've open a donations account to cover the cost of round the clock hired nurse but its not enough. Don't become like me, plan ahead for the worst, and celebrate if it doesn't reach that point.
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Well, got through cooking dad eggs, ham, and biscuits now he wants me to cook mac and cheese. So he can cough a noodle out of his trach. Oh yes he has done that before too!!! What a lovely site to see!!!!! That has been my diet for 2010!!! Grossed out to lose weight!!!!! LOL
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PS - and I'm down to 104 lbs. I am scared for my life. I have to let go of my mom because she is dying. It's her time, not mine! I need to be a wife to my husband. It just stinks because she went from being a 100% strong, intelligent, independent 64 year old to a dependent elder overnight. Brain cancer will do that. I hate cancer.
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Lirp-I am sorry you are having such a rough time. I hope you get to feeling better soon and that ya'll will have a lot of donations to help with the care of your mother. This past year I have been sick with a cold it seems like every month. And I know it is nothing but being stressed out all the time. I'm starting to think we need caregivers to take care of the caregivers!!!!! Wouldn't that be nice!!!!
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Whoa-Lirp- 104 lbs you have got to start taking better care of yourself. I know it is easier said than done. I know i lost 25 lbs when i first started taking care of my dad. It was just stress, and being grossed out from the trach and all the mucus we had to endure that done that. But i needed to lose that weight. Was still holding on to the baby fat from having my little boy. I hope you will try to take better care of yourself. And you are right it is her time not yours. My dad has cancer too of the thyroid. That's why he has this trach in. And dad was working 50 to 60 hours a week up until he had his surgery to put in the trach. And he has not worked since. Between the cancer and the radiation it just wore him out. Now he just sits in his recliner most of the time. I know i hate cancer too!!!!! Hugs stormyyy
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Back from my shopping trip and I left Walmart to irritate me again another day.

lirp.....welcome and my goodness you do have a full plate! Mom lives with you? How advanced is her cancer? Have you considered calling hospice to assist with her? How about a care facility? It's apparent that you can't care for her right now.....you need to get yourself well and back on your feet. Your local adult protective services can give you some ideas of what you can do with Mom. When you feel like it, it helps a lot to fill out your profile...gives us a little more information about your situation. Prayers are sent to you for a speedy recovery and assistance with Mom. Come back and visit....this is a good place to sit and talk about your feelings....we'll leave the light on for you.
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I guess I must be doing ok, I've gained some weight since I moved in with my mother in law. I used to eat healthy though. I was actually head trainer at a curves for women & taught the diet class. Had to quit to help her. She insists on cooking with canned soups & pkg seasoning mix's, white bread,, etc. Yuck. Throws a fit if I use olive oil. Have to use bacon grease! I think she's trying to kill me! But she trumps me with " I don't see anyone else around here who is 95". I hate it when she's right! :-)
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Thanks for your love. Us caregivers need breaks, and help. No one can do this aline. Be blessed.
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You would have thought I brought in a dead cat by the way she was acting about me bringing in the wrong coffee. I told her yesterday I would take it back, no,no, let me do my passive aggressive crap , think I'll wait until tomorrow to try and piss you off....so with her hateful tone... you need to take this back, blah blah blah, and then later in the day her sil came by with coffee....
All I am going to say, I am NOT going to do this again with her.. if she isn't in a better mood monday, it is job hunting time..... sure hope she can find a HOUSEKEEPER who is PERFECT..... because this sure as hell is NOT caregiving.....I am pissed, going to take a worm nap......
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Hospice is here for 1/2 hr for her bath, then gone. They are not any releif. I am alone. We've exhausted all the options and she doesn't qualify for any assistance for one stupid reason or another. With brain cancer, there really aren't stages. Her body is breaking down but her mind is sharp as a nail. Find her FB group called "Today with Vera". Love to you all.
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lirp....sounds like a new hospice group is needed. Does Mom qualify for Medicaid? That would get her a place in a facility where she can be cared for until you are well again. Just throwing out some ideas.
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Welcome lirp...we just went through hospice with my husband's grandma. I was the main caregiver. Is there a local hospice house in area? We had to put grandma in the local hospice house. I physically couldn't do the lifting or changing of diapers due to heart surgery a few months back so we decided to place her there. She was very well cared for and the staff was wonderful. Grandma passed away 3 wks ago today. She had a stroke with bleeding on the brain. We took care of her for just over 4 yrs.
Ditto to what Jam said.
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lirp, welcome, hopefully you will find an answer to help you out while you are trying to get better.... mono takes a long time to get healthier would it be ok if i called you kooz???? I like that better than lirp.... let us know how you are you...
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welcome and everyone is right ...u need a break and get out of the house and Ill keep adding my prayers. I have had a long day and morning again. It seems i am getting too much rest or not enough...sometimes i do not care but i am also taking care of my husband and 2 children...and yes cancer is awful....check into resources to help you and where u live. my husband qualifies for Long Term Care not hospice...if ur mom is on social security they have to info to give you but get out of the house and get someone else to be with her....sounds like ur depressed and burned to the max like I am ...maybe seeing a therapist will help also or a caregiver support grp if there is one available.
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Lirp.. The social worker from the hospice you have should be able to get you a sitter sometime they have volunteers. Also most states have a Area on aging ..go to main site at aoa.gov then find your state and then your local area. There you should be able to find help on free respite.. Usually it is 12 hours or so but some more. There are usually several hospice groups in same area..call to see wh can provide what..then go with the best. Or like Mis says if there is a hospice house nearby check into it..mom is nothing to ignore!
Like everyone is saying..we are here for you ...we will listen and offer what we can. Love and prayers.
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