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I've been busy like a bee today and it's my day off from doing some running around and on the phone getting quotes for our toys that we're getting in the middle of this month. I hate talking on the phone rather do business face to face, but if it means less driving around than I'll settle for making phone calls. I can't wait to get our toys cause Feb. I'm hit with my hubby's b-day, our anniversity and Valentine's Day so after these toys I should and he should be good for awhile. ( I can only hope until the newest, latest great atv or side by side comes out.)

I'm soo looking forward to our vacation in Oct. It'll seem good to get away for awhile even though we'll take more weekend getaways this summer or before whenever mother nature decides what season she's in. I believe she's got dementia just like the ones that we cared or are caring for does. :) All of our snow went away yesterday. It was like 50 here in Michigan. Unheard of for the end of January.

I couldn't imagine a party without a bathroom that sure wouldn't work for me cause of these dang water pills. I hate them things but I'll deal with them.

Stormy- I hope Red is feeling better. Poor little guy.
Vic hope you get to feeling better.
Ladeeda hope things are better for you.
Everyone else I hope you are doing good.
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Stormy-hope your son is feeling better. Vehicles are a great invention, until they break. Hugs.
Mis-it was 50 here too in Wisconsin yesterday. Mom was feeling bad again with her cold, so she didn't go outside. What a waste. She is either alot more run down from the chemo than she is saying, or she is milking this cold for all it's worth. Or both, it's hard to tell.
Dad's treatments are not easy for him. In some ways, it's harder than Mom's. He is doing great trying not to be embarassed everytime or even just talking about it. They sent him home last time and told him to try to hold it in for 2 hours. He said he made it 1 hr and 55 minutes, then couldn't make it to the bathroom in time. I feel sorry for him. But he bounces back well and is trying to cope.
I'm tired today so I think that makes me sadder and not feeling so strong. Stayed up late talking to Dad about Mom's behavior. Would love to go home and crash, but have to grocery shop, then print maps for the next few appts and remind Mom to take her anti-clausterphobia meds before her MRI tomorrow. A day in the life.
Hope everyone has a quiet evening. I am looking forward to making quesadillas (sp?) for dinner. Yummy and easy.
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Hey everybody- Connor is feeling better today and i kept him out of daycare today also. Thank you for all the comments about hoping that he feels better. Now just trying to get him to eat is a chore. He still hasn't eaten much today, but that will just take time i know. He had maybe half of a egg this morning. A handful of dry cheerios cereal and some mashed potatoes and now he is eating some cheese it's. And i saw on facebook where another child has the stomach virus that is in his daycare class so it's going around. I just hope me and hubby don't get it. And this has been some of the wackiest weather i have seen for january. It was suppose to get up to 73 today and it is going to be in the mid to upper 60's this whole week. You know what they say in the bible you won't be able to tell the seasons apart. Makes me wonder.......
Well sis informed me last night that dad has a appt at duke with dads surgeon. Just a check up. But i think it will be a wasted trip. Can you tell i don't like this dr. This is the same dr that at one time i asked him, "Well, we(me, sis and bro) were wondering about a pet scan. And his response was, "Quit wondering". That is what he told me. Pissed me off something terrible i was ready to leave that place. And did not care to go back. He is also the dr that we carried a pet scan (at a later date, took from another dr and different hospital) but we carried it to him thinking that well maybe he can tell us what this pet scan cd says. So we are waiting for him to come back and tell us what the cd says cause we had given it to his nurse and he comes back in and says this is of no importance to me and hands us the cd back.---- End of conversation----
Now how would ya'll have reacted to that statement. We had been waiting for over a month to find out results couldn't go to the dr that ordered the pet cause he was recovering from surgery and then went on vacation for another month. And i know sis is going to want me to go with her and dad to see this a-hole, and i guess i will get sucked into going. But i will not be happy about it. I should just sit my fat a$$ out in the waiting room. But i know that won't happen either. Going to send this b4 it gets lost.
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I guess we made the appt at sometime or another probably the same day doc made that statement about the cd. But sis said that dads dr the one that has been doing the throat stretching on dad here in our town. Said that he thought that we should carry dad back to the duke dr. to get a check up. I just think it is going to be a waste of time,money, and gas. Ugh..... Love and hugs stormyyyy
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Mis, I am loving the idea that Mother Nature has Alz...!!!!!!! It is almost 80 here today... we don't usually have bad winters like ya'll further north, but this is crazy even for us.... I think I'll wear capris to work tomorrow, naaaah, I'd have to shave my legs.
And thanks Mis, I am doing much better.... found out from our Dr. Indahouse, Jam, that it's the meds I am taking for leg pain that is contributing to my mood swings.... so at least I will know next time ,,, I'll refer to them as my Gorilla pills, so when ya'll see me on a rant now, you'll know, it's not the world, it's ME.. guess another trip to the Dr. is in order, see if she can give me somthing that won't turn me into a monster....
Notlike, I am so sorry your mom isn't feeling good/playing it for all it's worth.... what a stressfrul waiting game.... and how great you got to talk to your dad about her behaviour...... I'm sure that helps you to feel not so alone with it all.... and your poor dad.... isn't it amazing how some people take things , serious things, in stride, and others give in to it.....
I've just been trying to fly under Marie's radar... meeting her needs, without a lot of interaction.... makes for a very long day sometimes...
I do have my feelers out for another job, it just helps me to not feel so trapped....
Sonny, in some ways has gone down this winter.... right now he thinks he isn't at home... has been this way for awhile.... pacing the floors, his OCD has him rearranging all the counter tops and pictures in the living room... sends her into orbit, but I let her know when he gets done, I'll put stuff back.... He's bored out of his mind.... so while she is in Austin tomorrow, him and I will go outside if it is pretty outside... he loves to be outside picking up sticks.... and I love being outside too, so hopefully this spring, he will want to plant some things, and we'll get our hands dirty and get some sunshine on our bones.....
Stormy, glad Conner is feeling better... his tummy is sore, he'll eat when he wants to, when he gets hungry....
Will check back later... hugs to everyone....
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Hi all we're improving each day here. All I can say Vic is Nyquil & Dayquil!! It saved me from losing precious sleep! Now that the fog is lifting from my brain I get to start my big job at my church, directing the drama for our easter cantata. It really gets fun when I'm listening to the cd to mark my lighting ques & mil decides,( since I'm not doing anything!) she can pull me to something stupid. She's from the generation of women being domestic, so if I'm on the computor,she thinks I'm entertaining myself. If my husband is on it Oh he's busy doing WORK! Uggggh!
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Ladeeda, I like your comment about "flying under her radar, meeting her needs without a lot of interaction" . That describes my survival technique, every day...It does work.
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Decided to come back here. Just a reminder that I am caring for 2 dementia patients. Fun huh!? Husband has it too. He was a carpenter for 40 years. So somebody asked him to do a very small project for them for free. He went over there and did it all wrong. So they call and ask if he would come and fix it. So he went over there to fix it and fixed it wrong again. They stepped in and assisted him in fixing it the way it should be. This is why I won't get in the car with him. Yes, he still drives, but not much. He put only 100 miles on his pickup in January, only around this little town. He is in much better shape than my mother, bless her heart.
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Brandywine it is good to have you back here.
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I took a nap yesterday, so now I am up before dawn.
Stormy, sounds like what I had. Just a matter of time before it got to your area. Sucks, but goes away pretty quickly, and Red will get back to normal before you do, so I hope you don't get it.
Vic, might have to bite the bullet and go to the doctor. Sinus infections can be bad with the headache. Take Mucinex in the meantime.
I worked outside yesterday cuttung back some plants for spring. It may be spring already....can't tell for sure......but my buttocks can tell that I have been doing something out of the ordinary!!!!!! May have to take my swollen butt-ox back to bed............
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I think from all the getting up at odd hours is still with me, I also was awake , we could have been talking on the phone.....and today is my long day.... oh well, I'll sleep good tonight...
Hope your butt-ox is feeling better soon....
Brandy, good to see you back.. you have your hands full so come here and talk until you feel better....or at least don't feel alone....
Need to get moving... it's very foggy outside this morning...so need to get on the road... love and hugs to everyone...
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Good morning everyone.
Cloudy here - again. Mother Nature has Alz ! love it!! I heard Sam on GMA comment that Punxatony Phil (sp) saw his shadow so we'll have "6 more weeks of winter. And if you go to the web site you find recipes for ground hog". That made me smile a little.
We live in a "rural", hilly area where everyone has a free standing mail box. Ours took a nose dive last week so we have to replace it. In the meantime, I asked my neighbor if the carrier could leave our mail in her box until I get ours replaced. She replied, "Does that mean you expect me to bring it to you?"
That thought hadn't crossed my mind but, heck, why not? lol Nope. I'll walk out and get it myself.

Brandy, nice to hear from you. Come on back so we can all hang out. Someone on another thread called our circumstances the "Twilight Zone". That fits, but I think it's like the movie "Groundhog Day".
Stormy - happy to hear the little guy is coming along.
Ladee- get some sleep!
Much to do here today so I'd better get busy. My big challenge today - thread a needle so I can sew a button on hubby's shirt. Wish me luck!
Hugs to all of you! Bee
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Good Morning Angels!!!

Slept for almost 8 hours....whew must have needed that! But didn't work in the yard yesterday....as much as I wanted to I know Mother Nature in all her Alzheimer's isn't through with us yet.

brandy it's good to read from you again....glad you decided to come back and visit. I admire your husband for starting that job and trying to satisfy his customer....sounds like he isn't going to just give in. But am thinking about you....take care of YOU and don't get in that car....

The col is starting into her "wind-down".......she is so frail, is not eating well. We had the NH put her at a table so that staff can help her eat. She was with some lovely ladies who were helping her and then she was moved so that she would attempt to feed herself and that isn't working so we requested the move again. She slumps in her chair and doesn't have the energy to straighten herself up. I sit daily waiting on the "phone call".

Hope everyone feels better, has a good day, and will check back with you later....

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Well i thought connor was over his stomach virus but this morning he wakes up and tells me that he pooed in the middle of the nite in his pants. And it was on after that. Running to the bathroom every 2 or 3 minutes. I was planning on carrying him to daycare but that didn't happen. Now his butt is raw. And he won't sit down on anything cause it hurts and is red. I have put the butt cream on him but he is still sore. Any suggestions???????
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Just keep creaming the area and if he can sleep on his side with pillows behind his back-maybe a good soak in the tub.
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stormy.....connor's little butt is one of those things that will just take time. When the diarrhea stops, so will the burning. Not much you can do about it until then. Ask your pharmacist for something to put on him that has numbing properties. He has no input, so pretty soon there won't be much output either.....hang in there!
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Hi everybody. Awaiting for the snow.... But we are below snow temperature.
Brrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
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Ro, I read ya'll were going to get some bad snow.... hope you are staying warm, all the furbabies in the house???? Put layers on and make sure you let us know you are ok...... it got up into the 80's here yesterday...... too weird.... love ang hugs and stay warm...
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Stormy, sorry I didn't warn you about that......definitely sounds like what I had. Wait till Monday to send him anywhere......should be over by then.
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I did it...and it was so simple. I stumbled onto how to change my e-mail by mistake. Sorry didn't fix the auto spell check. Shout out to everyone. Im annoyed right now at this well meaning realitive. Probably shouldn't go into to much detail not sure who might be reading and picking up on this. Would like to shove ensure up somebody azz. I will say that much. Have a sickly little lady on my hands. Been to the dr. Once this week and will go back again tomorrow. Seems this is upsetting to some who thinks I should have taken her to see the nurse today (dr. Out of office till tommarrow). My gut tells me this is not a wise decision because weI are ina the middle of a pretty big med change.... her and I both feel the Doctor doing that,is who she needs to solely see as of now unless he says different...2 if it were an emergency she would be in the e.r not a different doctor....3 the doctor seeing her thought when he got back in the office on fri would be fine.
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ASG, you are the one taking care of her, you know what to do and when.... trust yourself and ignore those who always have something to say about how things are done..... I don't think they realize how much you have matured this last year..... forget about em'..... we all trust that you know what you are doing..... love ya...
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I feel that drinks like ensure are very appropriate in certain circumstances. I feel a doctor would let you know when that might be. I feel ensure is wonderful for a fragile elderly person struggling to gain or maintain weight...as a SUPPLEMENT to food. I don't feel it is appropriate for a some what uncontrolled diabetic who is having symptoms of nausea and vomiting of less than a week. I also don't think those symptoms mean she is suddenly depressed cause we tried to do what was best for her and she didn't like it. She won by the way. And I thing its horrible for them to go spreading around in our town to people who know us what her she thinks. Cause she has been to our home only a handful of times in the last year and a half. But her noses roast attitude calls up everyday "checking on us" poor aunt didn't have a clue she is the biggest gossip in town and tells everything she is told. Including what kinda bowel movements she is or isn't having. Yes pissed pissed pissed!!!
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Thanks Rossie. You know its one thing...when someone tries to give advice to your face...like tries to brain storm with you wanting to help. That's one thing. But when one tries to talk the person you are caring for into going to see their NURSE on the sly...like I can come pick you up in the a.m. and we will go see my doctor. Uh huh. Especially when the only time you hear to much out of them is in a time of illness. So she tells her no..that I've already set up an appt. With her doctor for her. She says oh well she could come take her. No thank you. My cars already in the garage.
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Oops I meant ladee
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wonder what the nosey relative would do if you just dropped her off one day with all her clothes???? and a note......... saying what ever makes you happy ASG.....
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I would recomend oatmeal bath or maybe tablespoon or 2 of epsom salt. if not the other suggestions are good besides petroleum jelly to keep the skin soft. Poor thing but I am having ok day and no communication from my sister sweet peace but I will have a ride to tucson to take care of becoming hubby's representative then calling the local office here to come and deal with hubby policies. I like to deal with these ppl face to face even tho I have the paperwork and then I have to deal with local welfare office cuz they assume I am working 40 hr wk when i am not cut my foodstamps in half it wasn't like i was asking for cash assistance...then I have a friend of mine coming down asap and helping her get situated with a place to live and etc. so i am hoping that bodes well we switching off n on the sitting of the kids etc. wish me luck on that one :) Peace N God Bless ...let ya know more on the 9th of what hubby's heart condition is ....
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Stormy-still sending get better soon wishes to your little guy.
hadassah-I agree with you about Ladee's comment - it is the best way to survive most days.
Jam-sorry to hear the Col is worse. Hugs.
ASG - hold your ground! You are doing what's best, no matter what anyone says. Hugs.
Stressful day here. Mom was up early getting ready for her MRI, then wouldn't eat breakfast because her throat hurt too much. The whole left side of her throat was white. So I called the doc, and they got her in right after her MRI. They are so good about working things like that out! The nurse even called me back just to tell me it was all taken care of. They gave Mom an antiobiotic and a new nasal spray. Hopefully she will get better now.
Stressful for me, though. I called the doc and left a message at 8:02, then called again at 8:45. Called my Dad 3 times before he answered his cell - he screwed up the ringer and couldn't hear the phone. The nurse actually called the MRI department because he didn't answer. This whole time, I'm at work, stressing on if they could even see Mom today, if it would be while she was still there, and if Dad was going to answer. And my co-worker wouldn't shut up about mundane things and internet gossip! Argh! On top of it all, I was told before to quit treating Mom like a patient, and treat her more like family. So I've been asking her everyday how she feels, but not specific stuff like checking her throat or temperature. I figured a 73 year old woman who likes to be in charge would say something if she needed to see a doctor. Guess I figured wrong. I feel guilty, but also mad that she stared at me tonight while saying she wished she would have gotten this medicine sooner. All I said was Yes. I didn't want to go down that road. The last time I really asked her about her health before she had the cold, she screamed at me. It's a very fine balancing act between helping her and letting her be. I feel like I screwed it up this time, but also learned I'll have to be more forceful in asking her how she's doing.
Another big day tomorrow. Dad has treatment, then we see Mom's doc about her brain MRI from today. I think I need to get some sleep now :)
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LOL...that would be a great idea. Except this woman is never home. She's always busy socializing with her friends. She has plans almost everyday. She's only a couple blocks away from here everyday...hob nobbin with the other seniors.but she already is to busy with her friends to stop by. That's what she tells her.
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Yes Jam im sorry also to hear about col. It does sound like she is in her final decline. Ooh ooh I got an idea...how bout ensure it fixes everything apparently.jk. im gonna be eating crow if the doctor says to put her on ensure.
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notlike, who told you to treat her like family? If she's the one that said that, then go back to treating her like a patient.... it gives you some distance. They create a catch 22 for us sometimes, damned if we do, damned if we don't...So you do what feels best to protect yourself....one thing I have started doing, as immature as it is, when Marie is fussing about something that doesn't even matter, in my head I am saying, " I see your lips moving , but all I'm hearing is blah blah blah"... I know it's silly, but it works... I am not hearing her hurtful words, not taking anything personal, and then I don't have that hurt to carry around all day on top of everything else.....I think sometimes we spend so much time trying to please the 'unpleaseable', that we could be using that energy to be finding ways to deflect some of the things said to us....
You have so much worry and unknowns in your life... you are an awesome daughter, don't ever ever forget that... regardless if she thanks you or not, I am thanking you for all you do, all you put up with....and I am giving you hugs instead of grief...... take care of yourself the best that you can.... hugs to you lady... and angels to help carry your load....
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