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Notlike- i will try to find some, i don't know if i have a cold or if it is just allergies/pollen coming in season. Lord i am not ready for that. I hate pollen season. It drives me crazy and my nose!!!!! Thanks for the tip i will look for some tomorrow!!! Love and hugs ya'll stormyyy
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Am wrapping myself in ya'lls love and support and going to be with my Sonny man again today... hoping Marie is feeling better and not so angry, but it's ok if she is, I didn't break her and I can't fix her.... Maybe I can talk Sonny into going outside for a little while today.....be a good break for both of us...and we can leave Marie to her own little Kingdom of Resentment and Despair.....the more I don't react to her the madder she is getting, so no telling how this is going to turn out... I only know I have to go do my job, be respectful, take care of both of them, her if she'll let me, and feel good about myself at the end of the day..... not impossible... some of you have it a lot worse than me, I keep that in mind on the tough days... thank you all for sharing, keeps my world in perspective... love, hugs and angels....
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Good Morning Posse!

Doing a drive-by this morning to check on everyone.......Mother Hen ya know...:)

Welcome Kenna.....happy to see you here and glad you found the website also....there is a ton of support to be found.

ladee......I wake up everyday and try to have your attitude about things....you're special to me!
seeme......Happy 40th Anniversary to you! Do something fun......
notlike....I have this voodoo doll............ladee is using it but I bet she would share
stormy.....it's probably the trees starting to bud, that is when my seasonal allergies start, so you're not alone in the runny nose department.......
Vic......I also try to have your attitude each day.....you are such a good and loving daughter.
Ro.....have seen you on FB...glad to hear the snow is gone and hope all is well with you and Mom.

YooHoo............where are the rest of you? Having days of leisure.........

The col phone calls are continuing.....Target looked at me last night after the last one and says "where in the world did she find that whiny, baby voice"..........uh, just now noticing that are we? This was a very strong woman who worked as a Social Worker in the inner city before computers and nice soft, cushy chairs and where the customer came to you.........I hate Alzheimer's with every fiber of my being!

Hoping y'all have a wonderful day.......hugs and prayers to all of our angels!

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Jam-what do you take for your allergies? I just bought some clariden d 12 hours. I have not taken it yet cause i found some prescription zyrtec in the cabinet and i took that to see if that would help. It is driving me crazy. Found out that the pollen ct is going to be in the high range tomorrow. I feel like incasing myself in a ball so i don't have to deal with the pollen. Ugh. hugs stormyyy
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Yes, SDtormy, spring is here. All the dafodils are out, so are the red bud trees, next will be Bradford Pears, then dogwoods. azaleas, pine trees.......it will be a rough one for pollen and fleas and ticks. Get Lily on protection.........

Thanks for the anniversary wishes. Hubby and I were going to Red Lobster for supper, but I have been shoveling rock from one flower bed to another and I am pooped. Back hurts from all the twisting, so wings and pizza for supper and it will have to be delivered......as long as I'm not cooking, it sounds good to me.

I've decided to get a little bistro set for under the breezeway to use in the summer. Will probably have to be concrete so it won't blow away.....we get real good breezes through there.

Notlike, you have definitely progressed on the trip of your life. Sounds like you are handling things better with mom.......at least, better for you. And Ladee is pissing Marie off without meaning to. If only she wouldn't make so many MISTAKES!!!!! Remember.....a smile makes them wonder what you are up to..........

Hope everyone has a good day..................later
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stormy.....I use Clariten for my allergies......used to use Drixoral, but couldn't find it so had to switch. Tylenol Sinus and Allergy is good also.

seeme....wings and pizza and just the two of you sounds good too!

I stopped and picked up a slab of ribs after getting my hair done.....put a few subtle highlights on the top and I'm now wearing the same style as Lisa Rinna.....will see how long that lasts...it's probably been close to 15 yrs since my hair was longer than 3 inches! Something tells me it will be again soon............

Haven't heard from our problem child this afternoon...aka ladee.....she's probably cleaning up her MISTAKES!!!!!!!!!

Hugs to all!!!!!
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Yeah, had to come home and take a nap I was so stressed from making mistakes today.... by the way, I made enough scalloped potatoes to...... FEED AN ARMY...should have sent some to Seeme to go with her take out dinner....
Good thing I don't expect any thank you's or my, that was good's from her, I would come home crying everyday, no, I'd be crying at work.... jeeezz, that's pretty bad when you have to complain about the potatoes, and like Notlike's mom, I probably didn't serve them in the right bowl..... !!!!!
Oh well, the woman is simply teaching me how "not" to be....and guess I don't need to expect a reference from her, I make too many mistakes.... (smiley face emoticon here)
But on the real side of life, it was beautiful here today, got up to the love 80's....
Of course it will be cold again by the weekend, that 's my punishment for making so many mistakes....
I don't have allergies, but feel really bad for those who do... we have 'cedar fever' here and so many folks get so sick....
The Diva is staring at me so guess it's time to eat, should have brought her some potatoes....
love ya'll, hugs and angels...
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Its about time for me to cook dinner and my back is giving me hell...I have been so tired lately but the good news I got my money back and I am thinking of getting a tat. I got a decent quote on it..no not going thru some crisis just want something to show my family how much i love them and they been my bedrock ...its yr 3 now in Az so lets hope we can make it thru and make it work but on the good news one of my hs gf is moving out here and gives me another project and help her settle in and help her get over this painful hump this past yr has been for her family. its a project of friendship and good will. so hope ya all having a good one peace n god bless
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Just wanted to let you all know that plans changed and we are leavibng tomorrow morning for SC,. I will have to catch up when we get back Sunday night. Everyone take care and have a good weekend.
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Burned - awesome that you had a good family night, and got your money back! Hugs.
Seeme-deleivery dinner always sounds good to me, too. Happy A!
Jam-you could make a fortune in vodoo dolls, I'll bet LOL
Ladee-I am so glad I found you and everyone on this site. I appreciate you all saying how far I've come...I would not have made it through the dark time without you! And I look forward to everyone's posts - the strength here is beyond amazing.
Kudos to my sis, who had the girls make Easter decorations for the shelf in Mom's room. I love my kid sis and she makes this easier.
Mom got material today to start making skirts for the girls. We'll see how much energy she really has. She pinned a picture above her sewing table, on the good woodwork. When I asked her to not do that anymore, she said she asked Dad if I would mind. Argh! Wouldn't ask me herself, and now she can blame it on Dad. I've also been asking her each night what their dinner plans are, since last week she was too tired to cook for herself, and sometimes i make things I know Dad likes. Tonight she asks me if I've been "at her" about dinner because I think she's not eating enough! Well, I thought asking was how you found things out. Silly me. Ladee - this one's for you:
I've learned so much from my mistakes, I'm going to go make some more.
Put that in a serving bowl! LOL
Good night, and better tomorrows.
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Notlike, It does get old dodging verbal bullets doesn't it... I had shared how I was making so many "mistakes", well yesterday I really did it.. she had gone to Austin for her transfusions, it's a long boring day so I thought I would wash kitchen curtains, change the light bulb in the breakfast area, wash the globes..... you know, susy homemaker crap to keep me busy.....to make a long story short I didn't get one of the globes in the light fixture secured and it fell, and literally exploded all over the place. Glass in the living room, kitchen, laundry room, even found a peice on the cabinet top.......I just stood there thinking, now THIS is a mistake she can get upset about....!!!!!! Called her daughter to tell her what happened, and she said to just tell her I had already talked to her about it and not to worry about it....
She is always very tired when getting back from Austin, understanbly so, so I really hated to have to tell her of the MISTAKE I had made, so started out telling her the good news first, clean and ironed curtains, ect... then told her I had called her daughter about the fixture, and it worked... it diffused the situation, and the only comment made was, "well, you didn't have it in there right", my reply..... " well DUH".......so got to slide on out of there with my a$$ still attached.... today may be another story since she has time to rest and recharge her ' bitter' batterey....and you're right Notlike, lets make as many mistakes as possible so we will be very very wise one day.... lol...
Hope she does feel like making the girls skirts, will give her something to do and make her feel better (?) ...And give your sis hugs for me for making things easier for you..... every bit helps....
I am up this time of morning because a cold front is going thru and shaking my little house all over the place... so thought I should post before I end up in the Land of Blah's....... love ya and keep up the good work, at least we can see some humor in our situations and that always helps....
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Morning All, ladee, stay out of the land of the blah's.. not a good place, I bet that the shade exploding scared the daylights out of you.

We're here in Long Beach now, got the paperwork I needed, it's overcast and kinda foggy, but not a bad day I guess, had a nice dinner with the Eldest.. food was great.

right now I am listening to Glenn snore.lol, we'll be taking off for Garden Grove about noon, will stay there for a couple of days and then head back to Desert Hot Springs to start putting the finishing touches on the RV and Trailer, so that we can hopefully hit the road come the first.

Hope everyone has a wonderful day, and there is peace and quiet on the homefront.
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Ladeeda Linda and I are on the way to dig you out of the black hole with our snowshovels-the garden ones are packed away for the winter-I will round up some groung hogs to help. You were owed a real mistake but that was not really your mistake you were only trying to clean. We finally got our snow storm and it played havic with our cable system.
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Hey ya'll i was wondering something and thought one of you might know. Hubby and i are getting our taxes done tues. and we had to have some repair work done on our fireplace and it costed us 3800.00 and i didn't know if we could get anything back off of that repair? hugs to all stormyyy
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stormy I don't believe you can, unless someone out here is a CPA and can say differently. This year you can still take the Energy Star credit, but that pertains to doors, windows, furnace replacement.
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ok thanks jam. hugs to you!!! how's the col today?
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It being Friday, I was there taking care of her. She was cranky and crabby per usual. Now she insists that she is still driving. Lord of mercy, I hope not. I told her that she was not to drive and she became angry about it. I told her she didn't have a dl and she said fine, I'll just go get a new one then. I said okay. Knowing that in this state it is very difficult to get a dl, forms to fill out, birth cert things, she would have to contact the state she was born in, 3 other forms of ID, utl bills, voter registration etc. She I just said okay. Knowing her she will probably try to drive without a license. What fun. Then husband who has MCI says things that are strange too. I told him I had a 30 min of exercise in and he said half an hour would be better. What fun again.
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You're welcome stormy..........started the col on Seroquel last night so we will see this evening how she is doing. At least we didn't get a demanding to go home phone call last night.

brandy......what state are you in again? Want to make sure I stay off the roads....just in case. I was in the DMV one day and watched the person administering the test talk a little old lady through the whole thing...she didn't know what the roads signs were...couldn't understand what he wanted her to do....took her pic and handed her the new license and out the door she went. The number of elderly I have picked up from wrecks, without valid licenses, was really surprising. They don't care if they have one or not. I love hubby's response.....:)
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Jam what state do you live in-it is amazing some people on the road-my son stoped n elderly couple in the middle of the night going the wrong just about to get on a major roadway -both the driver and his wife confused they were on the way to see their daughter and could not remember her name of where she lived-hours later the wife did remember her phone and was told he would have to take a drivers test -the daughter said he will not be ever driving again-and she calls them each evening at a set time.
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Well, it's Friday, got up tired, not in the mood for hearing about 'mistakes' today... walked in the door with smile on my face, and said, 'great you got the tv going again' . They have satellite, it said there was no signal yesterday, so I turned it off... weeeellll, after a big long explanation, she said her daughter ended up having to call Sony, and in THAT tone of voice, " they someone pushed the wrong button", looking at me as if I had stolen her first born, welllll, I went sideways.... in the same tone of voice she was using I said, " all I did was turn the damn thing off, but you believe what you want!!!!" Got her her paper, fixed breakfast, and she was nice as pie for the rest of the day..... How stupid is this whole thing????? I do everything I can to never speak rude to her, raise my voice, show her that I am upset, and today I gave what I got and everything was just hunky dorey...... please God, I don't want this to be the answer to this problem.... for one thing Sonny knew everything wasn't alright and he was following me around half the morning.... bless his heart, he could feel the anger coming off of me.... I never let him see that in me .... and I really had to shove it down so he would not be anymore upset than he was.... only thing I can hope for is that she sees there will be times I give what I get..... Only thing I could think today was how very sad that is what it took to get her off my back..... but guess it's not too bad considering I have been there almost 10 months and this is the first time I have ever used that tone with her....and I know my body language was 'don't **** with me".... I hate it that it came to that... but I am so tired of it.....
I will call the daughter this evening and tell her what happened... Don't think the daughter will be upset, but I do want her to know about it....not the most professional thing I've ever done....
Hope ya'll had a better day than I did... Brandy , love what your husband said.... sorry it is so crazy making for you but seems you can at least see the humor in some of it...
Jam, hope the new meds work for the col... think I use some of that myself this evening.....it's times like this that I hate it that I can't even have a glass of wine to unwind.... oh well, deep breaths, deep breaths, a good nights sleep and a new day tomorrow....
love and hugs...
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austin I'm in Missouri....there have been a few instances of the elderly around here getting on the highways the wrong way. Sometimes I have to wonder just what is going on with drivers.....night before last the son of friends and his girlfriend were killed on a two-lane paved highway....riding a Harley and passed on a hill around 7:30 pm and hit an SUV head-on......didn't he see the reflection of the lights and he should know better!!!!!! His Dad has been in the Fire Service for years, in fact he is the Chief of the dept in the town they live in......I just don't understand except that it's "their time".

ladee.....told ya that might be what it takes to settle Marie down. And I bet her daughter will tell you it's okay and she's glad you stood your ground. Thank goodness you have a couple of days without having to put up with her bad attitude.

Haven't talked with the col yet tonight but will call after dinner and see how she's doing.

Target and I are going to start walking tomorrow.....must get in shape....and this will help when our Vegas trip gets here. My shins always get so sore about the 2nd day of walking around the casinos. Wish me luck!!!!!

Hope everyone has had a great day........check in when you can! Hugs to all!
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I have to get myself out walking again-we have lots of paved walkways that used to be railroad lines.
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Omg i cant get a moment peace...I had my bath interrupted and my son is not listening and coping attitude about everything. The kids are sick I get that but not listening and arguing with me on everything. Then been waiting for the auxillary to call me back to redo my prints to keep my job and then my case worker or hubb'ys I mean wants him to get a flu shot. I am just tired and tired fighting to climb a hill that has grown into a mountain. Also I have to make an appt with my doc seems to be some concern with my ultrasound it could be minor it could be major....sometimes i just do not know how long I can hold out. Just want to have a good days again....
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Morning morning...
Ladee hugs hugs hugs Internet hugs coming your way to give you strength and peace.
Notlike hope mom gets focused on sewing and gives you relief..give her some tape to put pictures up. You are a good daughter who love her parents ...
Burned hope you have a better day today sending hugs your way too
Brandy...prayers.
Starri...getting close woohoo!!
Jam so sorry bout your friends son.. Can't imagine why they would have passed on an incline...only like you say must have been their time..but how hard
Hope col does good on the seraquel..walking and fresh air! Now thats a great combo!!
Little flowers are popping up here...there is a light
Mom and dad are hanging in there ... The procrit shots that dad is getting seem to be helping..his arms aren't all purple from bruises and his skin looks better. His body though is another story...so ridgid most of the time communication not real good but does know what's going on.. The other day it was warm so we sat on the porch for awhile. I got him to stand holding the railing for a couple of minutes. He did great...
All we can do is one day and one moment at a time right!? You all are always in my thoughts and prayers....
Hubby and I have day off today..looking forward ... Really need to put things away and clean my house up...hubby my pack rat..wants to start cleaning out his shop...who knows what we will do or not do today...still havent started taxes...why oh why do I procrastinate sooo...lol
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Morning All, Big Hugs to everyone, hope you all got some rest, today I believe is the last day here in LA and then it's back out to Desert Hot Springs, work on the last bit of the trailer stuff and get ready to get moving, still have a lot of bills to get paid to even see if we are going to be able to get on the road this month, or if it will have to wait till next payday. We get paid the 1st and then don't get paid again till the 28th of next month. It's going to be a tough one, but I believe we can pull it off.

Burned hang in there. Vic, how about "not" cleaning out his shop today and just enjoy your day off? Ladee, get some rest, no marie thoughts for today.
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Morning everyone... Just need to share that I am praying about this situation with Marie, keeping an open mind, open eyes and ears... I do NOT like treating anyone the way I treated her yesterday, justified or not.... what is holding me back...... my love for Sonny... told Vic this morning I just feel so torn.... and I'm tired of talking about it.... no more bitching and moaning... I am only going to share the good stuff with Sonny... I am tired of myself, so can only imagine how much ya'll are tired of hearing it.... and I always get sensitive about what I am portraying as a paid caregiver to others.... deep breath, going to bed, read, rest my every busy brain, and just shut up for awhile... won't that be nice....lol
love you all, hope everyone has a good day...
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Good morning all! It's. Sat & sunny in Kansas City! Hope you're all having a great weekend. Ladeeda, I have had the same experience with Mominlaw. My 3 yr old granddaughter was visiting (i was babysitting) for a few hrs. It drives mil crazy when little ones take off their shoes, in the house! Sees it as a discipline problem. (In her day, she was never allowed!) Well this one likes to kick them off the minute we shut the door. It set her into a tyrade! Usually she can do her sweet granny role for the time they're here, then unload it immediate for the rest of the day! This time she kept going off with her in the next room. I was. already sressed
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* sorry, typing on my phone! Anyway...I was stressed just watching them BOTH. I just stopped & looked down at her and said "we are not going to do this, TODAY! This is supposed to be a happy day of celebration (a family friend had a baby) , a new life has entered the world & we need to focus on what we can do, to help."...she stopped, nodded, looked down and obeyed me like a little child! It was wonderful! She totally changed her mood to being sweet & helpful. I felt bad because i lost my temper but wish I could accomplish the same response without being so intimidating!

Today however, she has been struggling with a congested cough, weak, tired, little appetite
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Good Afternoon Posse!

I know we have all read the following in a shorter version....but thought I would share it again today.......hugs to all!

PLACES WHERE I HAVE BEEN

I have been in many places, but I've never been in Cahoots.
Apparently, you can't go alone. You have to be in Cahoots with someone.

I've also never been in Cognito. I hear no one recognizes you there.

I have, however, been in Sane. They don't have an airport; you have to be driven there. I have made several trips there, thanks to my friends, family and work.

I would like to go to Conclusions, but you have to jump, and I'm not too much on physical activity anymore.

I have also been in Doubt. That is a sad place to go, and I try not to visit there too often.

I've been in Flexible, but only when it was very important to stand firm.

Sometimes I'm in Capable, and I go there more often as I'm getting older.

One of my favorite places to be is in Suspense! It really gets the adrenalin flowing and pumps up the old heart! At my age I need all the stimuli I can get!

I may have been in Continent, and I don't remember what country I was in. It's an age thing.

PLEASE DO YOUR PART!
Today is one of the many National Mental Health Days throughout the year.

You can do your bit by remembering to send an e-mail to at least one unstable person. My job is done!

Life is too short for negative drama & petty things. So laugh insanely, love truly and forgive quickly! From one unstable person to another... I hope everyone is happy in your head - we're all doing pretty good in mine!
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Jam- LOVE it! Too true and funny.
Hugs to everyone. Those who can see the spring coming with flowers and trips, and those still in winter's darkness with sick children, and our everyday burdens.
Had the house almost to myself today - just the son home. Hubby at work and M&D out shopping. Mopped the floor (without Dad, and my back is paying for it, oh well), dusted, laundry. I get alot more done when I'm alone.
Got some snow here yesterday, so spring seems farther away again. Saw 3 deer in the backyard - Mom was thrilled. Should warm up tomorrow, so I will go out and fill the bird feeders.
Only one doctor appt this week, for Dad with the primary. Not expecting any surprises. Don't want any surprises. I hope Upstairs is listening. :)
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