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Thank you river................love the story and you're right...sometimes your prayers are answered. Hope you are doing well.....
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Hey River, good to see you, and thanks for the story of the kitten... think I'll pray for money and see what happens... hugs
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River - beautiful post and lovely story. Thank you!
Stormy-Bird feeders are a great gift. I'll bet the birds appreciate it, too! Hugs.
Ladee and Jam-I guess I'll have to learn new languages to say Good. LOL Thanks :) I really do feel better. And I like the Welcome mat thing - I might just use it next time she treats me like dirt.
Having a good day...slow at work, payday, got donuts.
Have a good day everyone.
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Notlike, either we speak up or get tshirts that say WELCOME on them... so at least we'll understand their behavior....and then we can honestly say, "OH, I see, I volunteered for that, oh, ok, now I see.." Some of us are going thru the same things right now, changing our behaviours to feel better about ourself... so always know you are not alone, and that you are very loved and appreciated by us walking the same part of our journey....hugs
Will try to go again today to the Dollar Store to get the tea I drink. Put my stuff down and walked out yesterday as it was about to be a " Jerry Springer smack down" moment in there... and for once it wasn't ME causing the problems...one checker, one lady getting upset because her food stamp card wouldn't come up with a magic amount... one lady getting hysterical because there was only one checker... no, too many shooting is public places right now, and everyone, except me, carries a gun in Texas..... nope, got my fat ass out of there....so will try this again today, may hire me someone to go in and get my tea...I'll drive the 'getaway' car.... all this drama to save 20 cents, but it's 20 cents I can put in the gas tank....Well not that I think about it won't be saving ANY money as I have to go again.... I make myself so tired... love ya'll.
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Stormy, I think the birdfeeder idea is a wonderful idea for his b-day and he like to watch birds and pizza too! What time is the party? : ) I Hope he enjoys his gift that you have taking your thought, time and consideration for him. You are too sweet.
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Hi everyone long time no post. Welcome to the new posters.

I've been working some overtime. Geez, have to have the gas money for our trip in Oct. We got our new toys (quad, side by side, and new cargo trailer). Now just to find the time to enjoy them between having dental work done.
Just wanted to say "hi" to you all. Hugs to you all.
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Good Morning Posse!

Wanted to check in and say that I'm thinking of you all and wanted to let you know that the col had a hypotensive crisis last night......she has been coughing and hoarse and then last night extremely low BP, rapid pulse, low grade fever, unresponsive.....she is a DNR and will be treated at the NH. I will keep everyone up to date as I can.

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Oh my Jam. Praying that everything turns out alright. Keeping you in my prayers.
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Prayers for the family and the col Jam... keep us updated if you can.... give Target a hug for me...and hug yourself for being there for him and the col... love ya
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Jam-prayers and hugs to you and yours.
Ladee-maybe we can get the Laundry Room to sponser the t-shirts? You know, like a baseball team? LOL
Mis-good to hear from you!
Couldn't stay with Dad any longer at his last appt. Waited 1 1/2 hrs without seeing the doctor. I had to get back to work. Doc did call me, though, and told me what they talked about, so that worked. This was an easy appt - really just to say he needs the C-pap machine. I am thinking of asking Mom's radiation doc to do the same. I can't go every day for 3 weeks, just in case the doc wants to talk to us. But I will go if the doc says she wants us there and lets me know.
Nice enough here to hang laundry out on the line today. Yeah! I plan to get 2 loads outside, then take a nap.
Good day to all.
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Hey everyone. It is Saturday! It is the end of a long week. It has been an up and down week. My room mate's dog Toby has been diagnosed with lymphoma an aggressive form of cancer. I had to tell her since it was me that took Tobes to the vet. Like every thing else that is difficult to tend to I made sure we looked only at the positive. There is healing through prayer. There are good medications, there are alternative health remedies, nutrition and love that will contribute to a better outcome before the end comes. As I told her we will focus on what can be done to make life not dwell on death. I also found out my sister in law is in serious condition with kidney failure and my best friend who is in prison found out his precious aunt has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. It has been a week of challenge for me to stay focused on the possibilities in all of these situations and to convey positive thoughts that can bring hope instead of despair. I have been challenged too by my lack of confidence in my job hunting. Challenged by so many small personal set backs. So I am glad Saturday is here. I have rewritten my resume and enjoyed the spring like weather and the company of my daughter. Sometimes when you think you can't handle one more bit of sad news you find the strength and courage to do just that-face another bit of sad news. And some how the human spirit with grace moves through the trouble to a brighter day. I think that is what I admire so much in caregivers-their strength to move through circumstances with grace.
All of you here are inspirations. Hope you know that.
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River, much bad news to absorb in a short amount of time... and the job hunt, try not to depair, God has the right job for you, you'll know it when you see it. I always appreciate your positive attitude and your ability to help me see the 'positives' about life... we forget how 'temporary' this life is and get so caught up in all the things we can't change.. so thank you for shining a light on possibilites... hugs.
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Good Morning Posse!

Good to read from you river and to see your positive attitude again....and so sorry to hear all of your not so good news. I'm sure the near-perfect job will come along, one that you will be happy doing, I don't know that anything can be perfect. What would be the challenge then?

Update on the col.....walked into her room yesterday and had to bend over completely to see her face.....she is so hunched over. She is not able to sit up straight anymore. Yes, she was in her wheelchair but she has the "look".....and I'm not sure she knew who I was. BP is up slightly, pulse still rapid but that may be from elevated temp, oxygen sat is good. She doesn't respond unless she is asked something. Tomorrow the social worker and I get to have a chat.....she was missing one hearing aid and we looked the place over and never found it, still haven't found her quilt and found her remote to the tv on the counter at the nurse's station. I'm praying that she goes to sleep and the angels take her peacefully.....I truly think we are in a day to day wait now.

I hope everyone has a beautiful day...........

Happy Trails,
Jam
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Sorry to hear of the col's decline Jam, seems once that downhill slide starts it goes fast. And I know what you are talking about with the "look".... I call it ' resting up for the other side'.... Give Target a hug for me and tell him I am sorry he has to watch his mom go away in little incriments... I hate this disease, hate it with a passion....
Five days of rain... Thank You God, I'm feeling like the drought should about be over now, just a few days of sunshine please..... we are getting pretty cranky , cabin fever and mold starting to grow on our eyes from not getting to see the sun...
I NEED TO GET OUTSIDE!!!! Oh, sorry, a little momentary lapse of sanity there, I should be ok in a few minutes.... hugs to everyone, check in please, I need something to look forward to... OK??
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allergy season has started in Az and my daughter may have the same thing. I am trying to get the house ready come next Wednesday when I will finally have a rep from the life insurance company to talk to me about the laws and how to work hubby's and everyone else. I am also still waiting on my award letter from SSA then I have to take care of faxing everything to Phx office to renew our case for stamps and etc. I am praying I can get this headache solve and still keep my job as his aide while I look into other forms of employment. I have to redo my resume again but then again how does a woman in her early 30's start over again....sometimes I wish it was easier but I am grateful for the small things in life and that is all i can hope for as long as I can keep us in a place.
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riverleigh2bzy, I am so sorry to hear about your room mate's dog! You are a very special friend, indeed, helping your room mate and everyone here to try and see the positive during bad times! You sound like you are trying very hard to get what you want...I certainly hope you get it! I find that most of the time we have to creat our own "luck." It's still amazing and inspirational to me that everyone here on AC is so strong!...You included! Have a wonderful afternoon!
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Been out of pocket for a few days... Trying to catch up on sleep and sanity...lost it somewhere but it came back! Was a rough week with dad and mom hasn't been as perky lately. This week we don't have to go out much so it will be somewhat easier on my body. It just gets harder and harder to move dad around.
Jam hugs for you and Target..Col is in my prayers. Stormy..know your dad loved his birthday present! Homemade pizza yum! You made his day special, I am sure.
Ladee..you make my life day to day better too! Notlike, glad you are standing up for yourself and your sanity.
Love and prayers for all of you
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Ok folks. I am laughing my butt off... Sam-I-am, my 14 pound black cat decided today would be the day he would stalk a squirrel. I have a huge magnolia tree just outside the back door and there was lead butt (he's the kind of cat that if you pick him up his upper half will stretch and his bottom will just sit there) sneaking past the tree, down along the fence line, eyeing this fat little squirrel sitting on the fence post. Suddenly, Sam makes a run for it. Slow and lumbering, but a run just the same. Guess the squirrel had some mamma lessons about NOT running from enemies either that or he was earning his squirrel stripes-but the squirrel just sat there on the post twitchin his tail. Sam gets about a foot away and decides to pounce. The squirrel didn't move. Sam lead bottom didn't quite make it to the top of the fence-he embarrassed himself by falling backwards. Squirrel however was not going to let Sam just slink away. That squirrel flew off that fence, caught up with Sam and like some jujitsu artist whacked Sam several times on the head then took off running like his tail was on fire. Poor Sam! Total humiliation! Kind of like my life these days.. Sometimes I'm Sam and sometimes I'm Squirrel! Some days I can't get my bum in gear, other days I'm fearlessly whacking down trouble. My heart goes out to all of you who have loved ones ill and failing and to you who are worried and sleepless. Been there, am there and really know what you are going through. Prayer is like a great big warm blanket and considering all who are praying on this forum we are all well covered. Take comfort. Good night.
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Funny river!!!!!! Give Sam a big ol' hug for his effort......aren't animals amazing? We had a Muscovy duck show up here several years ago and within a month that silly thing was sitting on the deck with the dogs and eating treats....it especially liked Captain Crunch cereal.......
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Morning everyone, not saying 'good' because it is already raining here this morning.
River, loved the story, my fat cat Diva, would just look at a squirrel and yawn, she's 15, been there, done that...tho she will take a little nip at me if I am not scratching in the right place... I can't remember who on here posted about training their cat to 'fetch',,, ummmm no, the cat taught YOU to throw.... it's a cat world, they rule.
Got a call last night from last employer, those that are new, the story is too long to tell, have got to get my stuff in storage out of there... NOW... so will hope I can find someone to help me move it all and be done with that family once and for all.
Will have to wait till payday, and hope there is a Storage unit somewhere here in town...good luck to me....
Hope everyone has a good day, find one thing to be grateful for, and know that even with the aching back you are not alone... heading toward the future... hugs.
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Jam, I hope everything turns out for the best.
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Aweee Ladee.. Hope you can get your stuff really quick so you can move on. Loved the story River!
Hope everyone has the best day possible..
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I spoke with my mother yesterday. It was the first pleasant conversation I have had with her since January. Because of everything she has accused me and my sister of doing (see past posts), I am happy to say my sister has made great strides in detaching from our mother. Her guilt trips are no longer working on my sister Now when my mother says things like "I wish I would die," we both tell her she sounds like twelve year old girl. I am so thankful for the growth we both have made in detaching from our mother's abuse and not allowing her to emotionally manipulate us. Our mother was so distraught over this that she tried so many ways to hurt us, and when she saw it wasn't working, her anger has disappeared. This may be short lived but for now she is being pleasant. I am hoping that our stand against her has maybe caused some growth for our mother as well.

Everyone, enjoy the week. Spend time with your family and especially surround yourself with people who support you treat you well. Lord knows, we all deserve to be around loving, supportive people!!♥
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Good for you sharyn and your sis.....sometimes just placing those boundaries will make all the difference in the world.....hugs to you and sis! Mom will probably feel the need to "test the water" a time or two but as long as you are aware of that and ready to deal with it again you won't have problems.......come back and let us know how things are going with you...............
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river, I love your story too!...very descriptive, I could picture the entire scene...it sure made me smile! Thank you! :-)
ladeeda, I don't know your whole "employer story", but I wish you luck in finding that storage unit!...I ALWAYS find at least one thing to be thankful for! It's good to be reminded, though! Thank you! Have a super day! :-)
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Vic, I found myself getting all in knots, and guess what, I called him and told him it would be two weeks from now, best I can do....What's he gonna do? I am NOT putting all this pressure on myself, that gives me more time to get money together, get some help for moving, and I haven't done all this work on myself to have it thrown under a bus because of the 'feelings' that came up....The 'feelings' don't have more power than my brain to make good choices for myself.... damn but it has taken me a long time to get here.... A friend of mine got me a shirt one time that said, " Be patient, God isn't finished with me yet....." I think we all need one like that to remind ourself we DO have choices..
Sharyn, so your post was very timely... very proud of you and sis, isn't it the greatest feeling when we can not get stupid behind other people's behaviours... I don't do it perfectly, but I am doing it... so thank you for sharing, come back and visit...
Ucant, thanks for the encourgement... I will, but am also going to do it in a way that doesn't throw my piece of mind to the wind.... Marie has been acting like a human since my talking with her and setting some boundries... seems quite a few of us are working on that right now, sure does feel good to not be alone on this part of my journey.... Ucant, come back and visit too....
Jam, any more updates on the col??? Did you talk to someone about her lost hearing aid??? I am so grateful I am able to help people in thier homes so they don't have to go to a NH, but can ya'll imagine what Marie would do if they lost something of HERS... OMG, glad I wouldn't have to hear all that....
It is a BEAUTIFUL day today... have the door open and blowing out the winter and enjoying the sun today...
so, ttyl, heading toward the future... hugs...
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Ladeeda,
As a fellow cat lover/owner, you are so right, they rule the roost! My mom was always so surprised that whenever I sat down to eat, my Beatrice would poke at me until I got up and moved chairs so she could sit where I was! It didn't matter if I tried Cat psychology and sit in a different chair, she'd still want the one I'm in!!
We've have terrible rains here and I must say, today is the 1st. day, I have actually had a complete day off and was alone all day. I took mom home Thursday and she's doing well, sometimes she gets frantic about not finding something, but so far, so good. My other family members are unhappy with my choice but they never lifted a finger or sent a dime to help me during those almost 3 months that mom stayed here. I'm still the only one who gets her meds., food, etc... and I do resent it a lot, but at least I'm giving her the chance to be at home with her kitty and I don't have to be there taking care of every meal and using my gasoline to take care of her cat. If this doesn't work, we will look at different options, but I need to see that she has given it a chance.
I agree with your thought about trying to think of one thing each day to be grateful for, but sometimes it's hard. At least I was able to relax for the 1st. time since December, today!!
Hope everyone had a lovely day! Hugs to all!!!
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cindy, great to hear things are working out so far. Yes it was a hard choice to make, but as you said, she deserves a chance and it's not like you are putting her in harms way... She'll call or as much as you check up on her, you'll know if something isnt' right...so kudos to you for going ahead with what you felt was the right thing to do and the 'family' can get over it, or participate more, their choice....
And yes we do love our cats....I talk to mine all the time, she could care less, and sometimes she gets up and turns her back to me... if a human did that I would get pissed, but when she does it I laugh...
Talking about gratitude, a friend of mine posted on FB today that he was 'above the dirt', so I guess that is a good way to say he is grateful for another day.... hugs
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Hi I just got home from almost 2 weeks away and found I did not get any commets from AC this seems strange I usually get many many every day-have they changed things again-I am on several threads and want to catch up with everyone.
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Jam-Sorry for your family and the col. Rough time.
Cindy-good for you. Just take it one day at a time. As was said-you'll know if it's not working anymore.
River-I am mostly a dog person, but your cat story was fantastic! A good laugh needed today.
Ladee-storage? Think rummage sale! Seriously, I don't know what you have stored, but if it's important, it will keep until you find it a place. Hugs.
To those job hunting-don't give up! You never know what great job is right around the corner. Blessings.
Dad's doc says his blood pressure is much better. Yeah! It's nice to get good news around here. The meds are working, so it's just a wait and watch thing. He told me he appreciates me going with him, and that's he realizes now that if he speaks up, the docs may be able to help him. I'm so glad there are things that can be done to improve his quality of life.
No doctor's appoitnments now until Mom's radiation starts in 2 weeks. My, whatever will we do with ourselves????
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