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and another AMEN-I think it was Erma Bernbeck -probably messed up her name-who said normal was a setting on a washing macine-and no normal is not a requirement for this site-it is actually not encouraged-Beck it sounds like you will fit is great with the rest of us non-normal folks.
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I already feel like this group is family..thanku..hugs and lots of love to you all
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Not sure who on here said it , but we are a dysFUNctional family,,, at lest there are days we have FUN, we don't fuss, we don't try to make each other feel bad, we don't compete , we don't argue about our inheritance, we don't blame, so yeah, we are a good family, something each of us needs.... glad you found a home here Beck.... hugs to you
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Beck- Amen!!!! And Amen!!!! Hugs to you!!!
Jam- It's good to hear from you. I am glad that Target is doing better and on the way to recovery. Sorry to hear that the col is declining. I hope you are taking care of yourself. Much love to you!!!
Ladee- I am right there with you about dreading tomorrow (MONDAY'S) UGH!!!! Love and hugs stormyyy
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Welcome back Jam.
Beck, I like to think it is the new normal.
Ladee, my stomach drops too, goes into a knot and seizes up. Such a good site.
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Miserable. I posted on another board that was doing better and then I opened yesterday's mail and found out that United Health doesn't want to cover my mother's bills. They say she fell in our house and we should be liable. She went to sit down on the toilet, missed it and broke two ribs. Everyday there is something new. If I have to spend money and hire a lawyer or worse, have to pay her bills, I don't know what I will do. I know what my husband will do. He will say, "Enough!" My head is spinning. I am also eating too much from the anxiety and my blood sugar is sky high. I fall into bed at night exhausted and can't stay asleep. Even sleeping pills aren't working.
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Rachel, your plate is full... too much going on at once. We do understand, and hope you come back and let us know how things turn out with the bills....take one baby step, try not to overeat tomorrow, get your blood sugar back to normal or close , you may feel better and can sleep better... so send them a few dollars a month, it's not like ya'll would be the only ones with bills hanging over your head... if you have homeowners, they'll pay for it.... take a few deep breaths, you are not alone, and we are here for ya... come back and vent some more if ya need too... hgus to you...
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Well I'm not so numb I can't say AMEN! AMEN! Ladee, you asked a couple of days ago if I got to the doctor yet, and I have not. We have an appt on Tues. so hopefully some thing will change. I'm reading all the posts, and saying prayers. I hope everyone has a good Monday. Love, Vivian
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Rachel..I read your post and can so relate to those sleepless nights. I am also responsible for the bills that overload the mailbox on a daily basis, and talking to insurance companies and medicare every other day is enough to drive anyone to the edge. I'm so sry that you are carrying such a heavy load, but as difficult as it is, we must take care of ourselves in order to care of our loved ones. I'm still trying to practice that thought in my own life. We can get so overwhelmed with all the duties that are required of us in caring for our families, that we neglect ourselves...next thing u know..when we're not sleeping...we're eating....at least that's what I have done. Just know that you're not alone in those sleepless moments..I know every program on numerous channels between the hours of midnight to 6am...all while eating a sandwich or two. My thoughts r with u, as well as my prayers. May u find some peaceful moments tonight. Hugs from Stockton..
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Long time no post, but I've been lurking to see how you all are doing cause I think of you all everyday and keeping you all in my prayers.

Welcome to the new posters. Glad that you are here. This site has certainly help me to keep my sanity over the last few yrs while my hubby and I took care of his grandma. We lost her this yr, but I still come back to see how everyone is doing. It's like family here and we all understand each other.
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Good to hear from you Mis, hope you are doing ok, miss ya.
Hope everyone has a blessed day and Brandy and I will have knotted stomachs all day.... love ya'lll
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Good morning.. I had a good couple of days..coursenInwas so exhausted that I could not do much. I slept and read ..did try to ge in the yard some but didn't get very far. Had a good talk with my brother..so I am not as angry at him because I let things out. He will be coming more often on weekends ...great help and he can see that dad is not well at all. Beck..my dad has dementia at least I think with a combination of other problems..he can't do much for himse and he is very rigid..can harly move him. I have mom here too but thankfully she is I pretty good shape.
Prayers for all for a good day. Dad goes to get his ear cleaned out today...never did tell you guys that we can't find one of he's hearing aids...guess in went in the trash with the poop..will get a new mold today
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Rachel....bless your heart and in a good way! Don't you just dislike insurance companies? Appeal the decision to United Health and in the meantime contact your homeowner's policy and get their take on your mom's "accident". I'm sure UH is her primary which would probably slow up any Medicare payments, but all is not lost. Do you have POA for your Mom? What's the wording? And if you have to make small payments each month from Mom's SS then whoever will be happy to get what they can. Don't harm yourself worrying about this.....drop that sandwich and grab an apple instead.....HUGS!!!!!
Hi mis........nice to see you here!

Severe storms roared through here last night.....over 6 hours without power....thank goodness for generators! Computer withdrawal and healing husbands can get ugly....:) Saturday it was 90 degrees, today is 70...go figure.
Hope seeme is already at her destination and is not driving into any of these storms.....prayers for a safe trip.

Sending out wishes for a good week for all of you......and an angel to help lighten your load.
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Good Morning ladies...I hope all of you got some rest over the weekend because, once again, it's MONDAY, and another week lie ahead with the unknown..Jst remember, we are all doing the best we can for our loved ones..keep empathy, compassion and patience as your guide. When your loved one takes you to the edge today, jst hug them..that's what I do with Dad. Sometimes there are no words to comfort them, but hugs can express what words cannot. Love today without limits.. I continue to pray for all of you and thanku for being there for me..hugs to all...bunches and bunches..
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Wondering I am having a terrible time and have been for a while. I just cannot seem to keep up on everything. I feel like I am going to jump out of my skin. I am just unhappy with everything. Does anyone out there willing to help me?
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Yes Wondering, we will help you however we can...let us know what is going on, what your situation is, and we'll put our heads together and see what we can do... welcome by the way... this is a very safe place to have your feelings... come back and visit....

Ya'll want the good news or the bad news about son??? There is NO good news... first let me say that I am so disgusted with the Dr. in Bryan, J will have to have another surgery on his broken leg . The Dr. in Bryan has the plate and pins in such a way as the patella is two inches above where it should be and the tibia and femur are growing together.... so it will have to be fixed or he won't walk.... AND he has a BROKEN ARM!!!!!! His right arm is broken in two places, is not healing, so will also have to have surgery to put a plate in to mend the bones together.... And J tried to tell the Dr's that something was wrong with his right arm....and yes he was a butt while in the hospital, but I TRIED on more than occasion to tell them he had to have meds for alchohol withdrawals... I am not condoning his behavior in any way, beleive me,but this is not looking good for the Dr. or the hospital... Uh, ya don't send someone home with a broken arm that was never even looked at...regardless of the patients behavior.... So in some ways he is having to start all over.... and we did talk about a lawyer on the way home.... so that has been my day, and I have to go to work early tomorrow, sorry I didn't address eveyone, just tired, again.... love you all, and Wondering, there are many here who will help, I promise, some great women on this thread.....
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Wondering-welcome, and as Ladee said, we will help any way we can. Please let us know what is going on in your world. We offer listening, no judgements, and often, a way to laugh at the worst we all face. That goes for all the new posters - welcome to you all.
beck-AMEN! And welcome to the sub-club here for those of us who are taking care of both parents at the same time. We all have our own situations - raising kids, other family, ect - but many of the trials are the same. And we all need a vacation! LOL Hugs, and bless you for what you are doing.
burned-glad things are looking up. Yeah! You just keep on keeping it together...you amaze me!
Jam-Peek-a-Boo! We know you are there. And so glad for it. Sending hugs to you, and Target to keep feeling better.
Austin-I love being non-normal! I don't remember what normal felt like. LOL I have lots of quotes and signs around the house, including one that says The Only Thing Normal Around Here is the Setting on the Dryer. Which is terrible, because our dryer doesn't even have a normal setting! LOL
mis-Hi! Glad to see you stop by. Miss you. Hugs.
Ladee-Argh! for you and your son. Get a laywer. Who knows what problems your son will face because of these mistakes? You don't want to sign off too early on anything, and worker's comp might not want to pay if there's been errors. Please protect yourselves. And you are right about rock collecting being addictive. I waited 2 weeks to pick up the first one, and had to stop myself from grabbing another today:) Hugs and prayers.
Well, I didn't spend the day with my stomach in knots, because the morning slid right into being a MONDAY. Huuby's sick, running a temp, and refuses to see a doctor. Work was a bear - sometimes, co-workers can ruin your day. Mom was her unpleasant, rude self. I was told how I should be arranging my outdoor decorations, because "they would look better." You know how something can be said nicely, or said rudely? She picks the rude way. Lord only knows why. And she's out of a med, which she started on a tiraide about the nurse not asking her about it at the last visit. I know where this goes - she fired one doc down south and was asked to leave by another. So I had to remind her that I asked her, in the doctor's office, if she had enough, and she said she did. And this was after the rudeness. Not fun. My sis emailed me she had a crying spell and breakdown at work today. And one of my dogs is limping something awful-might be hip dysplasia. I am going to go now and harvest my food in Cafe World, then wait for it to be Tuesday. Thanks for letting me vent.
Goodnight, and better tomorrows.
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notlike......I see you!!!!!!!!! ooooh another FB junkie...gotta love it! I'm so sorry your Mom treats you like a red-headed step-child (see disclaimer below).....it's just heart breaking with all you do for her and she is so unappreciative. In reality she ought to be thanking her lucky stars that she has you to care for her. Hugs my friend!

Wondering.....welcome to our place..pull up a chair, make yourself at home and tell us all about it. You will find lots of hugs, support, love and whatever else you may need to get you through this rough time. Let's see if we can take your mind off of things for a while and put a smile on your face.

Taking Target to surgeon tomorrow for checkup.....he continues to get better everyday.

Hope everyone is having a good day or as good as possible......

Disclaimer: Connor has beautiful red hair stormy.....:) and I have a daughter with classic red hair and blue eyes.....and my Grandpa had red hair.......
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Well, Dad had a difficult day today and Mom is at her wits end and wants to check out of this life. After a long talk, I managed to convince her that I need her..we are a team in Dad's daily care. I gave her a long, heart felt hug, and she cried on my shoulder saying that she wouldnt be able to go on without me...She's a very private person keeping her deepest feelings very guarded, For me, today was beautiful...Mom opened up to me at last..Such a blessing, a gift and the best reward I could receive. God always places beauty in every difficult day...u just have to be open to recognize them. Another beautiful memory made, Be alert...don't miss your blessing! May u all get a good nights rest..Endless hugs to all of you. Till tomorrow..
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Today has been ok day except for the last 3 days straight my husband has had 3 major break thru seizures I forgot i needed to fax my time sheet today so i have to pay dollar tomorrow to fax from radio shack. I still have bills to pay here soon and then order the tax software and finally send that blasted thing. I still keep rejected on my returns which is bogus on side note CPS is still continuing their bogus investigation but they were pleased. It has been very busy wknd and start of another wk so i pray we all have some blessings in disguise or maybe angels in disguises..Lord knows everyone needs some pressure off their backs and my friends are enjoying it. The children already call me mamma beside my own lol...so I am an auntie and another momma :) Gnight and sleep well ...Peace N God bless...
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Hello ladies...thinking of you all and praying u find your blessing today..hugs
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Wow..crazy day yesterday the ac went out after lunch, thats ok it wasnt terribly hot. Yesterday evenin around 7:30 my son says uhmm momma water is pouring out the ceiling...omg like a faucet..hubby got water cleaned up (thanks my love)...today we have dr appts and ac and plumber coming....calgone take me away..hopefully things will be better todsy :-)
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crs.....sounds like you may need more than one tub of that Calgon!!! Hope you get everything repaired and life can get back to normal.....sending good wishes and angels armed with wrenches to help!

Hope everyone is having a good day......I'm playing dog groomer today...:)
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Thnx Jam things are looking better :-)
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Oh my stars!!!!!!!!!!! I just lost a post that I spilled my guts out for the last 15 minutes. Maybe cosmos trying to stop me. Now I'm really pissed. I'll be back later. arrrrrg.
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O dear Vivian..lol...i feel your pain. There are many posting out in the cosmos that i have spent time and deep emotion in constructing...Keep typing till it wrks!!!! I've had sometime to myself today,although I have had 8 phone calls from Dad since my day began. He's having one of those days. I just planted a beautiful garden, so I've spent my day enjoying it and playing with my beloved dog..Lily..Ahh..the simple things in life take on a new meaning when you're a caretaker.. I do need to be more aware,though, of the fact that I talk to myself in public waaay too much! Anyway, enjoy the rest of your day,friends...Hugs and more hugs
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Ooops...I meant "careGIVER"..I'm losin it
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If talking to yourself anywhere is a problem for those around me, all they have to do in join in on the conversation, all voices welcome....
CRS. My roof is leaking too, but no big deal, it does that everytime it rains, the spot is getting bigger tho, guess I need a bigger bucket...hope things were fixed for you today...
Viv, lots of posts out there, so hope if the government is tagging our stuff, they'll read how much we need help..... blink blink ya think....
Just got my computer back after the rain storm... be back later...
love ya Jamaroonie
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I am understanding my husband better., However, he is in danger of falling so we got him a walker that has a seat and breaks. But he doesn't use it. I nicely remind him about his medicine/walker. I get better each time about not "jumping" on him about not doing something. He is pleasant, melancholy and enjoys watching tv. I don't have alot of the problems yet that these others do. He's 81.
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Hello All, I have had a very frustrating day. We went to the Dr. for a follow up to mom's last to ER visits, and they tell us we were supposed to be there yesterday. She kept saying the Dr. never works on Tues. I called and some young girl made the appt. and told me the 8th. I wrote it down. the 7th doesn't sound anywhere remotely like the 8th. I know I wasn't wrong. Anyway mom was experiencing acid reflux, but she was sure something else was wrong and said we should go to the ER. I asked if a nurse could take her BP, so they did and it was pretty normal for her 141/60 her heart rate was 50 which it has been for awhile. The nurse called the Dr and said we should go to the ER. Well I just spent 6 hrs. in the ER a week ago when her BP was 211/90 they gave her a pill and sent her home. We left and I got her some prilosec then ran some errands to kill some time to see if it worked. By the time I was finished she said she felt much better so we came home. We have an eye appt Thurs for her blurry vision complaints and next Tues she sees her cardioligist. I have noticed I get pretty upset internally when I'm made to feel I've dropped the ball in my caregiving duties. I couldn't even remember the date when I signed the papers when we left the Dr's office. I know it wasn't my screw up. Anyway all is well now, but I'm still aggrivated. I just took the dog for a walk and mom was sound asleep when I came back. Ladee, I just want you know I've been thinking of you and your son, and the horrible predicament that he is in and going through. Its just dreadful! Really makes my problems so small in comparison. May God surround you with his Angels. Beck, thank again for your hug, and I hope the talk you had with your mother strengthens her as she faces the challenges ahead of you both. I just needed to let this out and this is my only safe place. Love and Blessings to all. Vivian P.S. Jam I'm glad to see you back, and Burned I'm happy CPS finally saw how things really are.
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