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I am the post n.1111. What do I win? A goat pattie?
Seeme, I am glad that you found nice people, complete strangers, who told you kind words about taking care of your mother. Sometimes they (the strangers) are better than friends and family.
Starry: I am very excited for your trip!
Emjo: I like very much your phylosophy and if I could, I would do the same. I shall have to go back to town, in order to have a bigger hunting ground. A small village in the country doesn't offer many choices! (very few good men here)
Ladee, I have started to work again and I hope to go on until the end of july (I know already that in August every working activity stops!) So I am sleeping a little bit less but I feel more relaxed.
'nite everybody
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Afternoon everyone... I got the cow pattie, uh huh uh huh, oh yes I did, uh huh uh huh... emjo has us making up songs now,, a change of pace, good idea ..
Starri, Ya'll name the place, I'll need to know 2 yrs. in advance so I can save money!!!!
Emjo, campfire,,, oh lady please, couldn't you have come up with something that's not HOT!!!!! Suggest this again in a few months, I may be more receptive... and as much as your love story makes me happy, I personally do not believe in "happily ever after" love.. I know it is my own life experience, but I do not think it really exists, at least not for me...Have been on my own for too long, can not imagine having someone around all the time.... too set in my ways, love my freedom..But I must remind myself that I am so in love with Gary Busey,, I could do with that wild man around , No doubt he would at least keep me entertained....Oh yes we have some stories,,, I am a recovering addict and alcoholic , been clean for 27 years and rode Harley's since I was 14, so yes, we all have stories... Our little get together will not be for the easily offended or the faint hearted....lol...And I don't know where the "brownie" comment came from this morning, but I will never eat another one.......gross....
Jam, you got a bday coming up soon?? You can tell us the date or at least the month, I won't even ask your age!!!
SOMEONE KIDNAPPED TARGET!!!!!!! no hurry about bringing him back, we like the one you left in his place.....
Vic, so happy to hear you and hubby got to go out.... hope you relaxed and had a really good time.. need to do that as often as you can...
John, you sound like you are feeling a little better day by day, and good luck with your new eating plan, let us know your progress....
Seeme, where are ya????
Sorry if I missed anyone, will check back in later.. hugs across the miles...
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ros and all - I can get lots of horse sh*t if that works - Gary has about 200 horses now . -crazy man - and every one is a pet
it just happens that way for me - I don't pursue young ones. After 15 years cloistered in my own because I realised I had married the same mistake twice and did not want to do it again my daughter took a look at me and said Mum You have a bod! I said "I know but I hide it" Bless her heart and thank God for daughters she encouraged me to dress differently, wear straight leg jeans etc and show my stuff - suitably lol. So I had to examine myself and get in touch with what I was OK with and what I wasn't ( I really am quite conservative) and figure out how to present my "new " self. WOW - did not expect the responses I got - think it had more to do with the changes in my head than my clothing, but that helped. I don't shock easily but got a few surprises. the first few blew my mind

Use the internet - dating sites - I met all the guys that way - all across the world - got engaged to a couple - all on line lol. Oh my goodness - I could write a book! Met the 23 yr old that way and he was very determined.He was also a nice young man, with a good job, a nice apartment, a new vehicle etc and treated me well. Told him "No" lots. Finally met Gary who is soooo different than the others and a very great man. We have been together 2 years now. If it can happen for me here in a town of young people it can happen for anyone - so try it ros!
Glad you are feeling more relaxed.
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Ro, I think you should get the crown.. seeme has had it for awhile, but I think she would share because of the numer 1111, now that is special, just like you...happy to hear you got some work, try to take time to go swimming everyday, the work will go much smoother.... love ya..
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OK a pool - ladee -doesn't matter to me
I so understand needing your freedom and your space - I do too but thankfully G does as well so we give each other a lot of space and freedom and really enjoy our time together.
- stories are good - and rhymes - refreshes the mind
love to all and hope your day is going well ♥♥♥
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Hey everyone. I just worked 10 hours and am effing beat! Hugs to everyone and I hope you're all doing well. Tweet Tweet.
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Been here for a while like a fly on the wall.....If I drank I would be a barfly.

Had bunche of ambition when I got up this morning and ....POOF...it went away. I took mom to the bathroom all day today.....or she wanted to talk some crazy shit, or she said she was dizzy........huuumm....do ya think?

I kept my butt home today....decided to give the pharmacy a break until I talk to the doctor on Monday.....then I'll show my ass.......

Finally got laundry done and waited on mom the rest of the time. I realize more and more what all I do for her and I created this monster. She now wants me to pull her pants up and down all the time, can't put a blanket around her shoulders, can't cover herself when she gets in bed, can't change her pads............ Ten min after the kitchen floor dried, she got her lunch all over it..........just can't win....almost don't care anymore..... it's not even dark yet, but I think I am going to bed.........nite all.........zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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Evening everyone.....me too seeme.....I've been lurking. Helped my son and dil do some yard work and now I'm tired and hot. When they got here we were looking at the front patio and they said "do you know she's outside" and pointed to the garden. The col is wandering around with a knife in her hand, with an 8 inch blade, says she's cutting weeds. Good grief...I made her go inside and then followed her to make sure she understood again, that she was not to be outside with a knife. Checked her this morning around and she is eating a bowl of oatmeal.....didn't remember she had just eaten waffles and bacon an hour or so before that. After I chased her back in a little while ago, she called Target on the intercom because "I can't get out my front door".....and he looks at me and says she's nuts!!! Well, what was your first clue Whizzo? Then she explained to him how she doesn't need anyone to watch her daily. I would love to lie down and just go to sleep....unfortunately I have to wait until the col falls asleep.

I guess we can pass the crown when someone hits the same number post....so rossella gets it for 1111......who will it be for 2222?

Going to go back to lurking for a while. Hope everyone is having a good evening.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Ok, ya'll I have had an adventure today.. I am the proud owner of the ugliest, dirtiest little motor home in Texas.... Everything works on it, generator, ac, ect.... but it is a dirty mess on the inside.... after haggling with the guy, ya'll will never believe what price I talked him into...... $200 !!!!!!! can ya'll believe that lol.. took my nephew with me to check everything out, but when I saw how dirty is was, I started bartering.... anyway, and have checked into a place to park it.. am waiting to hear from that guy...

It has a lot of potential and I can make it an awesome banana boat with time and improvements here and there.... I will be insane by the time I get it clean tho...
Then the adventure continured as I am driving home, my car lights kept going off !!!!!! I am sure at some point I wet my pants..... I am a wreck from driving home, so am going to take a shower and go to bed and read.... love you all, more tomorrow when my hands stop shaking.... these country roads are DARK ... I was sceered.....
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ladee.....CONGRATS ON THE NEW HOME......oohhhh sceery on the drive.....had that happen to me once when I put the brights on. Hope your alternator isn't going out.

Got the col in bed, had her jammies on when I got downstairs, but gee hadn't bothered to change her wet pants....go figure. Then wouldn't pee, said she would just get up after going to bed to do it. I guess that makes sense to the demented mind.

And yes ladee, birthday next Tuesday......don't we all turn 29 y/o on our next birthdays?

Going to hit the bed and maybe read a little bit. I've been reading all the Janet Evanovich Stephanie Plum series.....must finish #16, just downloaded #17 to Kindle.

Sleep well my friends.............

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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good morning i am very tired and wish i could have day off!
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sandra, I wish you could have a day off too. I have been there and know that feeling of exhaustion, to the point of just going thru the motions... hope somewhere somehow you get some time to yourself.. if you are like me, all I wanted to do was sleep...let us know if something can be worked out for you to get a day soon... hugs to you..
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(((((((hugs)))))) sandra - I wish so too. You sound exhausted!
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Emjo, "I married twice the same mistake" made me laugh for half an hour. I was engaged so many times with the same mistake, too!!!!!!!
Ladee: congrats again for your new home. I am sure you will make something amazing with it. Try to work on it in the evening, and rest when the sun is up!
Seeme, my mother lacks coordination, too. If she is cold and I put a blanket close to her (I mean, on the same chair where she sits) she doesn't manage to put the blanket on her. I have to do it, otherwise she shivers, with the blanket at 1 inch of distance from her.
Jam: I imagine COL wandering around the garden with a knife in her hand and the face of Jack Nicholson in "Shining".
Ladee again: A Harley? We are a bunch of wild ladies! We must definitely find a way to have a big meeting!
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Ro, thanks, and you are right, I can make something of it,,, but realized this morning, what am I going to do with all my "stuff". A yard sale will have to be done soon... and the place I have picked out to park it, (Please God, let the man say yes!), is in the country, but there are cows and donkeys on the property... The Diva will freak smooth out.. but I had the donkeys coming up to me yesterday... will bring them oatmeal cookies today.....Pretty much everything we do in life is a challenge, Yes? So might as well be happy and just go right along and laugh at the mess.. and yes , Harleys. had another life before this one, that is for sure, have no regrets.. If I die today, I have had a full, interesting, and sometimes dark ride... we should all get together and write a book.. a chapter for each of us, we could call it " Caregivers Gone Wild", and yes , we have to meet at some point, can not let that opportunity pass us by.... hugs to you this morning, don't work too hard and remember to SWIM...
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Found this great quote I have to share, "People cry, not because they're weak, It's because they have been strong for too long..." speaks volumes about us doesn't it !! love ya'll.
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G-R-E-A-T ladee - a home - woot woot!!! bring out the bubbly - coke that is
I am so happy for u ((((((((hugs))))) what a bargain - challenges are good - got lost on a backwoods road once a couple if winters ago and the sun was setting – stopped at a place for directions and heard “deliverance” playing in my mind shudders - not nice – got out of there
jam - an 8" knife - good grief!!!! -and target decided she's nuts - he gets A+ for that lol - have a good read - u do have some adventures with the col!
seeme ((((((hugs))))) my mum is a physiotherapist and drilled into me that u keep people as independent as possible - I was born with only one good hand and they let me figure things out for myself - I have been forever grateful - one of the few things she did right - mind you i am stubborn by nature too :) - the trick is knowing whether they can do it or not - I prefer to believe that she can till proven otherwise - even mother herself said that she could do more than she thought she could. I am nearly 74 and find myself at times thinking I can't do something or that I need help when - most most often I can - not to be foolish about this as I know as we age we have limitations and especially when we have illnesses of any kind and you guys are looking after people wuith severe limitations, but also know that as loving caring people we can sometimes rush in where angels fear to tread and do things for others that they actually can do for themselves - (learned that on many years of teaching) - anyway just some thoughts the subject
tweet debbie - you must have slept well after that long shift!!!
ros - laughing at you laughing - I can give lessons on online dating - u would not believe !!!!. In fact there is a nice boy in italy I was in contact with who... enough said - if I can help ypu to laugh i am happy, if i can help you to learn. I am happier, if I can help you to love I am happiest!

Found out that mother discharged herself from rehab because they were telling her to do things she shouldn't (in her view) - pretty predictable - I wonder how her senior care person - Dee - is doing -haven't heard mention of her. mother had full anaesthetic this time - and tends to go a bit wingy afterwards but she will cope with what she has to her way - and I'll stay out of the way! Getting emails that she needs help now - well she should have stayed in rehab then - the tone is pretty obvious manipulation. I am still coughing but getting better - anointed myself with oil the other day and claimed healing - woke up in the morning singing (in my head)" I want to see Jesus" and feeling much better - on the mend. Gary said be careful.what you pray for - I said I know - I want to see Him eventually lol

ladee - love the quote - so true - had that exact experience a while ago - Gary asked me why I was crying - I said because i had to be strong for so long I couldn't afford to cry "sniff" - better stop here or i will start again
luv and hugs and prayers to and for all and advance Happy Birthday to jam in case i have a senior's moment and forget ;p ♥♥♥
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Good Morning Posse!

Thank you now and later for birthday wishes.....I think I stopped having them years ago...:)

The col's knife must have been at the bottom of a pile. It wasn't sharp, but falling on it would have been sharp enough. It's just like the strawberry pyramid; edges not sharp, but if she fell face first onto it, well it sure would make a mess!

I'm trying to decide how energetic I want to be today....and not very.....is winning out. I should work a little more on some dining chairs, I'm recovering them, could scrapbook, could read, need to fix a fingernail.....life is tough...:)

Hope y'all have a peaceful Sunday,

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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I jus finished scrubbing out our shower...if I had one thing to do over in this house, it would be the master bath and closets....

Mom is her usual self today. She just wants you there when she is sleeping or she will holler just to hear someone answer....problem is she doesn't hear very well anymore. There is very little she is capable of doing....or she refuses to do. I guess I will just ahve to live with it, too late now to train this old dog any new tricks.

I got SOME decent sleep last night, just not a lot of it in a row. Hubby got up with her at breakfast time and fixed her a good one, then when I got up she tried to eat again and almost made herself sick, so she napped in the bathroom with her head over the sink, sitting in her chair.

I must vaccuum today if I don't do anything ele, so I will check in later.....
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Well good ol' Missouri is seeing 98 degrees with a heat index of 109. It's a little warm outside. I watered the garden this morning, so far things are looking okay since it's all in shade right now. That has been the extent of any effort I have put forth today. A friend smoked some ribs and brought them to us, so I would imagine that's supper.
Target is fixing the col her supper....I guess I ought to feel blah more often....:)

Will check back with everyone later,

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Ladee! You got a motor home? Like the kind you drive around on trips? Are you going to take a trip? Will you take me with you? I will give you ice cream, lol. Will you take me with you if I supply you with ice cream for the rest of your life? :)
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Debbie, yes it is the kind you drive, and no, no trips for awhile, and you can supply me with citrus green tea, I don't eat ice cream.... and yes we would have some fun, we would go see everyone, but we have to go to Seeme's first, she would be very very upset if we didn't .. We will kidnap her and take her with us, then go get Jam, and then whoever else wants to go along.. we'll be a motor home full of crazy women, all so stressed from caregiving no one will mess with us for fear of their lives... and I do need suggestions on what to pain the outside... it is soooo ugly right now... Some of you here don't know about the "banana" episode, so need to tell that so you will understand why some of us may be calling it the "banana boat"...
One evening when Ruth was sundowning very bad, walking from door to door, trying to get out of the house, cussing me with every breath, she had been doing this for three hours and I was at the end of my rope... she was going to get a butcher knife and cut my throat ( the sharp knives had been put up for a long time) and as she was going into the kitchen she tripped and fell. Now she is on the floor cussing a blue streak, and thought ok, cool, I can at least change her pants while she is down... she is kicking and screaming and as I pull off those pants, for the shock of my life, there were three kitchen knives and a BANANA in her diaper.... as I even said then, I know the look on my face was a Kodak moment...
I put it on antoher thread, but omg, we had fun for days with that one... I was nicknamed Chaquita, all and every banana joke you can imagine, and then they all knew I wanted a little motor home for when I finally get to retire and I would go around to my AC friends and offer them respite care... so the motor home was to be called the "BANANA BOAT"... but hey, I am open for suggestions... and believe me, people will know I am coming because it is definitely going to make a statement... life is just too damned short and I have worked hard all my life, so it will be my turn.... so suggestions for names, colors, decorations, bells and whistles, what ever ya'll think of will be taken into consideration.... so that is the story of the banana boat... later, going to eat dinner... love ya'll
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Ladee, I think you should paint your motor home banana yellow and put a big monkey decal on the hood and banana decals on the sides haha. :)
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I would like to find some one to paint a scene of monkeys in the jungle, now that would be cool. but yellow is going to be on it somewhere....!!!!
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ladee - you are one resourceful woman! That is some story about the bananas and 3 knives in the diaper.. These stories should really be written down. I regret I didn't write down the classroom ones - yeah yellow has to be somewhere!
tweet debbie - u are game for anything!!!
jam glad u are having an easy day - everyone needs one sometimes
seeme - glad u got some sleep even if interrupted - I hear u about the old dog - gtting a mental picture of her with her head over the sink
.so many more of u out there - thinking of u and sending love ♥♥♥
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Just got back from the family reunion. I'm not sure why, but my brother bought Mom a new walker -- this makes 3 that she'll gripe about using... Maybe Dad will start using one. Mom has balance problems, and Dad has leg circulation problems.

It was nice to get away for the weekend, and leave the cares behind. My brother took them to see his kids/grandkids, and Mom was saying how she couldn't remember their names, "because I hardly see them anymore." (Not true.) She calls my son "that boy," or sometimes "my boy" or "our boy," and he's in the same house! The dogs in our house are Brownie and Little One. Sometimes she thinks I'm Dad's sister -- but she can't recall my brother's kids names because she doesn't see them often enough. Denial.....!

Oh, well... I haven't gotten any feedback from my brother on how things went. Of course, they were all on their best behaviors. I know it "bothers" him to see her like that -- his MIL died of Alz complications a few years ago. That was a different situation, though, and his MIL went very quickly. I know seeing Mom like this will dredge up those bad memories.

Anyway, we're all back tonight, and ready to start the week.
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Just a quick HI. I have not had a chance to visit since Friday. Had son, dil and grandson for the weekend. And I must have done a million tons of laundry!!!!!!!!!!
Plus cleaning today after they left. I hate to leave my house a mess. We are leaving tomorrow for San Diego, yeah!!!!
I hurt my knee at work on friday and I have been hobbling around. OUCH!! What a great way to start my vacation. But I'll be darned if I'm gonna let it stop me. It sure does make it much more difficult to run after dad though.
Well my cat is bellern' to beat the band and if she wakes dad up I'll kill her.
Night all.
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YR, Have fun on your vacation,,, come back and let us know how much fun you had... be safe.... hugs across the miles...
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Hi, Honey, I'mmmm home...lol.. good morning all, boy have I got my work cut out for me trying to catch up. We got in late last night, and I will tell you what, I am not sure at all about this traveling.

We drove for like 10 hours straight (well, we did take rest stop breaks..lol) but it has me sore as all get out.

My DH decided before we left that he would save us a couple of pennies on electric, so he shut off the power strip that controls the computer, wonderful of him to be concerned, screwed because the power strip that controls the computer also controls the "freezer" , sooo ladies, I have about 200.00 worth of spoiled meats to throw out, along with a area rug, boxes from the stuff I brought from mom's , looking at having to go through that a lot sooner than what I had planned.

Looks like YR is heading on a vacation, have fun and don't get sunburned. Big hugs to all.
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Welcome back Starri, you have been missed.... Oh I would so kill him... what a mess!!!! Maybe a few short trips will have the same "get away from it all" affect for you... I can't stand being cooped up for that long, he'd pull over for no other reason than to leave me on the side of the road.... let us know where you buried the body...

Fill us in on your adventure when you have time. I know not all of it was fun, but let us know what neat things you got to see and do... hugs across the miles to you....
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