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Take just a little time for yourself rossella, when you can!

Love ya,
Jam
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Hello all, I am OK, just didn't get to the puter for awhile. With work, dad, kids, husband, gkids, house, etc....... you know how it is. Debbie, what are you talking about girl??? That post is very disconcerting. I hope you are not gonna do something stupid. What do the rest of you think? Reading that made me very uneasy.
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Made me sad and scared for her
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Maybe we are just too old for her or offfered too much advice....even though our intentions were good. We all did our best Cyber-space may not always be the answer to our prayers, when hands-on is what is needed. But I'm sure we all wish her well..........
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evening everyone, just checking in, my son is here talking my ears numb, has a few OCD/ADD/EIEIO issues..... hope everyone is ok this evening..... love to everyone... hugs across the miles,,, will try to get back later...
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Hey all that post from debbiecakes has me really worried. She sounds like she is about to do something to herself. Does anyone know that much about her or where she lives? It's very sad. I hope she does not do anything crazy.
Will try to write back later... Love and Hugs to all!!!!
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Doctor told me on the 11th of this month that my Husband has very little time left. Maybe weeks maybe months. His body is shutting down. He has no control over his bladder or bowels. He eats and drinks very little. Hospice came but I am going to try and do all I can for him myself. He has lost almost 40 pounds and is just a shell of himself. He still smiles when he sees me in the morning and needs me to lay down with him as he falls asleep at night. So sad to see him like this. He is not on any meds, and is not in pain, just really confused. Please pray God will let him go easy, and not linger on in his tired ole body wondering just wondering what is going on. God Bless you all.
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Ah 54j, I am so sorry. I'm glad you have hospice help. I will pray for just what you asked. But I want you to take care of YOU to, OK? God's blessing back at you.
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((((((Hugs))))) prayers and blessings - Joan
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Good morning all - another day with rain forecast here which is great. I had a chronic fatigue flare-up but feeling better now. Gary is home and he keeps me busy but he will be off to the horses today so I will have more time.
can't refer to all posts but starri - thank you for the camping info. Gary is a licenced guide (hence all the antlers) along with his other talents and doesn't use campgrounds. He has slept in a tent at 40 below in the North West Territories. His idea of tenting is to find a piece if outback as far away from civilization as possible, construct his own fire pit from stones, dig out a place to set up the tent then spend all day out in the bush surveying, stalking, hunting. Last time we did this I slept in the tent and in the truck a lot as I needed it. However I don't want this to become a pattern, so I said I wanted a hotel and some places to sight see this year. Last year on one of his treks he saw a grizzly bear digging roots a couple of hundred yards away and he didn't have his gun!!! A little too close for comfort for me! We found a place near where he likes to hunt, several hotels, and some hoo-doos, a beaver boardwalk and some sand dunes to see and more so I think I wil be fine.
Have a good day every one - back later! ♥♥♥ Joan
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Well, never a dull moment when my Dad is up and about. Just now he finished his breakfast and headed for the door. I asked "where are you going?" He said, " to the cemetery." I asked why and he said, " a lady is talking to me." I said I wasn't planning on going to the cemetery and he said, "you'll have to, I'll be in the car."
So now he is in the car and I am typing this comment. Hopefully, he will not decide to walk to the cemetery. We have none around here and we live in the boondocks. He has run away from home before trying to hitch a ride north.
There you go!
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Good Morning Posse!

Joyce.....welcome to our humble home! Some of us here are psychics and I think I might be seeing deadbolt locks in your near future.....:) I have them to keep my mil (henceforth known as the col - crazy old lady) in because she was wandering off after her dog or pulling weeds on the edge of our pond with a 20' drop. And we also fenced our yard.

Our regular part-time care giver is here today.....yippee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I am so comfortable knowing the col is being well taken care of. Although we did discuss this morning that the col's short-term memory is pretty much gone. I saw Heather walk her out to get her morning newspaper, and about 10 min later she was asking if someone would go get it. This makes the 4th day she hasn't read her paper, and this thing has been an obsession to her. I can't figure it out. New glasses? She won't learn to use the bifocals if she doesn't read. We thought maybe with her memory being gone, that perhaps she doesn't retain anything she is reading, so she just won't make the effort to attempt to read.

seeme.........more cleaning or was it doctor today? I'm turning somersaults waiting for the green light on the surgery..........

ladee.....hope Marie is in a good mood for you today.

emjo and stormy......no more cold symptoms I hope!

starri.......is the hubby still alive? or is he being a good boy?

ASG.......still waiting on the "rest of the story".....hope it's quiet around your house. Saw the pics of the boys on FB and they all look like ornery little buggers.....I hope the kids are enjoying their summer. I finally figured out what town you're in........my Grandfather lived there waaayyyyyy back when he retired. Was living in Flemington when he passed away.

rossella....remember to take breaks and don't work too hard.........

YR, Vic, 54............hello to everyone, let us know how you're doing.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Hey there I hope everyone is doing ok. Well I had to carry little red to the dr. today. He woke up about 2:30 last night. And we were up til about 5 this morning. Then we both knocked out for a few hours. He started running temp. again and then told me his ear was hurting. I figured then he's probably got a ear infection. Got to go to the dr. for that. So we went today and dr. gave him some med (liquid) to take. 3 teaspoons twice a day and if he doesn't take his meds then he has to get a shot. It took 30 minutes to get that 3 tsp. in him and got to do another one tonight. Yippee. I am so looking forward to that. I think I will let the hubby try to get the next dose in him. And now I have got it for sure. It's in my chest so we both are hacking and coughing. Don't ya'll want to come visit and share in our fun? So I called my dr. and asked him if he could call me in something to take for this mess and he did thank the Lord. I hell hate a cold.... I just hope we can get rid of it at the same time so we are not passing it back and forth to one another. Not been to dads except for yesterday to feed the tube and clean the neck, check sugar and give the insulin. Then the part time helper we've got came to take over. Thank Godness. I am so loving her. I hope she stays with us for a long long long time. It's been so nice not to have to go over there except to do what i have to do to him. And then I leave. But part of that is because red has been sick this week. Well I will chat back at ya'll later. Little one wants me to go play trains with him while he is feeling ok. Until the next fever strikes. Hope everyone is well and doing ok. Love and much ((((((HUGS))))))) to you all. Stormy.
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emjo, glad you are feeling better today.... your hubby sounds like a fun guy, but I would have to be 25 years younger to keep up with him...!!!! And you are sleeping in a tent sometimes.... I have nothing but respect for the adventure in your soul.....
welcome newton, some of us have trouble keeping our elders from wandering off, I had key dead bolts installed, it was a hassle sometimes, but it kept Ruth safe....
Seeme, has Kathy worked your butt off??? Bet it is nice to have your house so clean and shiny ..your mom's appt. is tomorrow??? Please let us know what they are going to do... I know surgery would be hard on her, but continuing like she is is very hard on her also... and very hard on you too... prayers sent your way...
Jam, Marie was in a crappy mood and so was I so we just didn't talk to each other, which is good, more time with Sonny... I'm just grateful it's not HER with Alz....
54, I am so sorry to hear about your husband, you and him are in my prayers... keep in touch with us and let us know how things are....
ASG, sure will be glad when the kids are back in school, miss ya... and loved the pics of the kids, they look happy, even with the Aunt living there, you are a great mom.....Is hubby's new truck working out for ya'll??? I sure hope so, I applaud anyone who works for themselves....prayers for success..
I know I am forgetting someone, but will check back in later... I treated myself to a great haircut today,,, hope I can afford to keep going to her, she did a great job. Needed a surprise for myself,,,,
Hugs across the miles to everyone... later
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Hey Jam, thanks for your greeting. We have dead bolts on our doors. Recently put those locks up at the top. Dad was going out at night to "look at the stars" and setting off the alarm. Scary when I am home alone you know.
Dad has stopped reading the newspaper and his magazines he enjoys. Oh well. We do all we can and then some.
Take Care ya'll!
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hi joyce and welcome - locks sound like a good idea
i am not getting any notifications on this thread since July 18th
anyone know how to fix this ?
hey you're not going to get rid of me that easily lol
stormy - hope you don't get an infection as well - i am like you -say the word and I have it. I use Cold FX. i don't know if it is made in the states. It boosts your immune system and is you start it right away usually shortens the length of a flu - also for sore throats I use zinc lozenges -makes you mouth taste like a tin can but works for me - so glad the helper is helping!
ladee - a new haircut always does wonders. I bet it looks sharp! last year when the mattress didn't inflate I did better that him sleeping on the ground - my joints/bones are fine and he has broken lots of bones with bull riding etc so he got more aches than I did but getting up in the middle of the night to pee was hard on me - bum first crawling out of the tent backwards in pitch dark, feeling for a tree to hang onto to get me up on my legs, putting on my rubber boots (it rained a lot)and then hi-tailing it for the outhouse -1/2 the time I didn't make it and just peed in the bush - once or twice before I got my pj quite bottoms down lol - it was cold there at night -[depends are looking better all the time lol - hope u find a place for the banana boat
seeme -so hope something can be done for ur mum - prayers going out
YR - have u tried the antid's?
vic - hope u r feeling more chipper
54 - my heart goes out to you
ASG -waiting - like everyone else...
ros - make sure u swim this week
jam - time out for you today yay!!!!
starri - missing you...
john - i guess one answer to insomnia is working yourself to exhaustion - not sure how practical it is on a daily basis - if you want any low carb ideas, i have lots. the expansion of your man cave sounds good and will keep you busy once it is constructed

love and hugs to all especially anyone I forgot ♥♥♥ Joan
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Emjo, I DID find a place today to park the banana boat..... it will be in town,,,but only $250 a month for space, lights, water and garbage pickup..... I can afford that and still be able to save in case I loose my job for some reason... I will be close to Walmart, my fav BBQ place, Mickey D;s where I NEVER eat, and about 8 blocks from work... I could walk if I had to... I think I will wait until the fall for that tho.. I'd be laying in the street from heat exhaustion... I have lived in the quite country for a while so it will take some getting used to, but the place is safe, never heard about anything bad happening there... so now it will be a mad dash to get everything done, the banana boat moved,stuff in storage until I can do a yard sale at my nephews house, but the lady that owns it sounds so nice and like having a landLADY as opposed to having a landLORD.... So starting from square one and heading toward the future...love and hugs across the miles... later
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awe - some!!! glad 4 u
now u will be able to get out of where u r into ur own place - i'm sure town will take a bit of getting used to and no donkeys there!!!
hugs
J
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Yes, Kathy worked my legs off. They ached so bad last night and my hip today. I had to wash and dry everything in the china and curio cabinets. Thankfully she put everything back. She likes the decorating part. My china cabinet has 2 sides to it that can be moved, so she moved them. I just let her do what she wants. She even gave me homework !!! We were at it for 9 hrs. Got the dining room, foyer, and what would have been the 4th bedroom done. She said she will come in tomorrow while we are gone and do the livingroom.

Today I got the vaccuuming done, dusting, gave mom her bath, washed and fixed her hair, did a couple loads of laundry. The other neighbor brought over some fish stew, so I didn't have to make supper and I was thrilled. Still got a few more things to do in the kitchen, but Kathy comes tonight and again I am thrilled. Mom had me up every hour last night. Earlier in the evening, it was 3x/hr.

Tomorrow is the big day. Glad this fistula was urgent....it's taken 2 and a half months to get to this point where we will finally talk about the surgery options. And I have no idea what mom thinks about it anymore. She would cry and get scared if she thought about it too much, so I just don't bring it up. This morning she was wanting to die because I wanted her to take a shower before she got dressed, fake crying and all. I gave in THEN, but I was pissed from lack of sleep. Reallty tired this evening. If I didn't have to let Kathy in or if she had a key I would go to bed now.

Joyce, welcome !!! I will have an ice cream sandwich in honor of your first visit here !! Hang around and see how silly we can get. Unfortunately I will have to wait till I get just a little more sleep

Stormy.....head colds suck any time of year......poor Red, too.

Emjo....I too like camping as long as there is a toilet and hot running water where I can take a shower and hubby does the cooking.....how does that sound???

Starri.....gonna make it in a week??

Car 54....my prayers and sympathies go to you and your hubby. May things go smoothly for both of you. Will think of you often.........

ASG......know you are busy, just want to know if the old bat is behaving......

Jam....meant to tell you that we have had to conserve water for a few years now due to drought conditions. Now the water company isn't getting the revenue it wants, so they raised the rates. What was a $30 bill last month is $50 this month. Damned if you do, damned it you don't......

Ladee try to stay cool.......We are supposed to have the 100 degree days through the weekend. May have to but me a wading pool and fill it with gold.............
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So glad you got a place, Ladee !!! I am jumping up and down with my ice cream sandwich in hand !!!!!
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seeme got the cow pattie!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Sending good thoughts to you for a positive answer tomorrow. Please let us know asap......I know you will.

ladee.....I am so happy for you.....there is a bright light at the end of this moving tunnel. So I guess this means I'd better not take the lake house off the market, huh? Darn.

As for me I AM PISSED OFF! The col was discharged from the hospital on 6/17 and about 2 weeks later, we got a phone call from the local visiting nurses association. Of course we turned down their help, along with their expenses, explaining that a doctor, paramedic and care givers were perfectly capable of taking care of the col. Tonight I took the col her supper and as I'm coming in the back door Target says there's county deputy at the door. Gee I don't think either one of us has done anything. So I open the door, and this woman says there's been a complaint that the woman living here has dementia and we're doing a check. Oh, really and who would know that except the VNA? So I said sure, you can visit with her, even though you are interrupting her dinner, and for the record this really pisses me off, but sure, you walk right over to that door and I will let you in. They came into a clean house, a clean col who was sitting at the table eating. Happy, answered their questions......we may do a follow-up later. Well, you just do that......you will find the same thing then as now. So the VNA got their noses out of joint because we refused their services.....well they can bite me. And the compressor on the AC unit won't come on.....it's only 84 degrees in the house and 100 outside. The heating and cooling guys will be here as soon as they finish another job. I couldn't resist telling Target we should have gone with the furnace/ac package last fall when we had the new furnace put in. I wonder if I walked out into the pond the col would think I was trying to drown myself. I can see her now.....trying to climb the fence to save me.
Going to try and eat before the AC guys get here.
Hope y'all have a terrific evening.........

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Hi all, I am so beat today, I cooked supper and cleaned up and have decided that I won't do anything else tonight, sep' taking care of dad. Last night the sundowners was.terrible. He didn't know me or hubby, thought we were mean strangers keeping him here against his will. Hope its better tonight.
Ladeeda, I'm happy for you, there's no place like home.
Stormy, I don't know how old red is but when my daughter was around 3 she got pneumonia {so did the rest of us}. She didn't want to take the meds either. So we told her that if she took her meds we would take her to the toy store and she could pick out the Barbie that she wanted. That worked! And she got her Barbie.
Emjo, I have not taken the anti's yet, I guess I'm waiting for Christmas or sumpin.
Ross, I would love to go swimming, but it doesn't look like it's gonna happen.
Besides, you wouldn't catch me dead or alive in a "babein" suit. Which reminds me I started a new diet today. The Dukan diet. I hope I can stick with it. I've gotta lose some weight, dr's orders.
Well, take care all you crazy peps!
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Jam, I hope the arrows showing the way to the pond we removed before they saw them........Really got a laugh out of that visit.....sorry.....I couldn't wait to say I didn't make that call !!!!hahahaha. Mine was supposed to be to the Police Dept !!!! I thought you were going to say the COL did it !!!! Sorry I am laughing so hard but, oh, the possibilities..................
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Thanks emjo, but I can go see the donkeys anytime I want, they love oatmeal cookies... I can brush Cheyenne and Jack, but Mama, doesn't like to be touched, but she will take the cookies out of my hand....
Thanks seeme, think I can afford to get excited yet??? I know you are so happy that your house is going to be so shiny clean... nothing quite like a super clean house...
What happens if your mom can't or won't consent to surgery...that won't stop it will it if they decide to do the surgery...will it....????
Jam, hope you get the ac fixed, I'd have to get a room , can't deal with this heat without ac.... do you have any old "contacts" that may help you find out who sent someone out for a welfare check.......
YR, sorry dad is sundowning so bad, that can be so exhausting, and stressful. Ruth was having a violent sundowning episode when she broke my leg... so hope he is just confused and not physical...hope you get some rest when you put him to bed....
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Let's see....it's 10:15 and the AC guys are still here. This company is great, we have used them several times.....they come any time of the day or night, holiday, you name it. And they fudged on our paperwork when we bought the new furnace last fall because we were already getting the tax break for the new thermal windows, so this next year we can take it for the furnace. The capacitor was out on the AC unit and now they are giving it some more refrigerant.....but I can already feel the cool down. Target went down and spent some time with the col to keep cool.....was good for him. I think it was the visiting nurses who made the complaint, the day we checked her out of the hospital we signed a piece of paper that said we didn't need the vna to do a follow-up, then they called about 2 wks later and Target again told them no. The social worker said "we have a diagnosis of dementia" and need to do a check. Well, how would they know that if the vna didn't tell them. I slammed them on FB and I will do it again.
Gotta go write a check for AC and put the col to bed. Check back later.

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Seeme, I know you are not going to have time to check in this morning, but wanted you to know lots of prayers for your mom this morning.... hope there is a solution so she can start to feel better, and you don't have to do what all you've been doing for the past few months.... love ya, have a safe trip and hugs and prayers for you and your mom today...... hugs across the miles.....
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Thanks, Ladee. We leave at noon and will be much later getting back, but I will let ya'll know this evening................
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seeme - prayers for a good outcome for you and your mum - this evening will be waiting for a report... my ur house is getting sooooo clean - I am envious
jam - i am appallled at the VNA - what a nerve!!! but u showed 'em but glad u got ur ac fixed -
YR - sorry u r having such problems with sundowning. good luck with that diet - low carb is all that works for me - ur mood may be better on the diet
stormy - hope you and litttle red are doing OK - my daughter used to get such high fevers - I put her in a tepid bath then in bed I covered her with a cotton sheet and after she fell asleep I "misted" her with water - the evaporation cooled her off - I sure hope it is not the same bug I have - still coughing some - just won't go away

well, I got taken out for supper last night - baba ganoush - yum! and we are staying in a hotel when we go away next week - Gary is a nice man! he got it that I cook and wash up all the time and need a change sometimes (just have to keep reminding him) - and I do tons of computer work for him and and deserve a reward!

everyone - stay cool - I saw on the news there is a heat wave where lots of u r (I think) - here it is a cool 59 this am going up to 70 and a sprinkle of rain - love walking in this kind of weather - everything is looking so green!!!

playing my sad songs and missing my Gordie - found some old Mother's day and B'day cards from him - counting down to d day - looks like we will be away which is good - balancing things with Gary's job interviews

mother is raising cain again/still which means she is well - for now I am not a target and I need that break - especially this time of year. I am thinking of POA - does anyone know if you can delegate some of the work of that - thinking that may be a solution to keep me at arm's length

stay cool everyone - love and hugs -♥♥♥ Joan
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I am very happy to see that this topic has been raised. As a caregiver, it's true that people rarely ask how YOU are doing. But our feelings are important. If we're not doing well, how are we supposed to take care of our loved ones?

Caregivers need to receive just as much support as they give. So even if I'm only asked "How are YOU doing today", it means a lot to me. It's a gesture. It shows the person acknowledges what I'm doing and sees how tough it can be. And that's at least something.
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Good Afternoon Posse!!

Wanted to give you an update.....it's so darn cold in this house now I need a sweater...:) It finally shut off about 3 am. At least we didn't have to replace the whole unit. And today is supposed to be hotter than previously.....my poor garden!

I wrote a letter to the editor this morning about our experience with VNA. He sent it to his editor and accidentally sent that response to me......says "this sounds like a story". Supposed to call me tomorrow or Friday, gotta keep my cell glued to my butt so I don't miss him. Maybe there will be a story on this and I can give him some input about home care givers and maybe get a series of stories out of this! Will keep everyone updated.

emjo.....glad you won out on the hotel room.....our weather right now is hot and hot. The thermometer on the deck says 106....40% chance of rain on Sunday with temps in the 90's......so no break here. I envy you having 70. I mentioned going to Sanibel Island, Florida to Target yesterday....does anyone know anything about it? The pics are beautiful, but we could get there and it's really a dump.

stormy.....I sure hope you and little red are feeling better. Both of my daughters were born with red hair, the oldest turned darker, but the other one still has red hair and blue eyes. My son took after me.....brown and brown.

Waiting impatiently for seeme to get back with an update......oh please let this be a positive outcome........and yes, I didn't let the social worker see the arrows....:)

ladee.......I didn't get a chance to ask you how Sonny and Marie were yesterday. Is today a transfusion day? I wish we were closer, I would help you get your new home ready to move into. I enjoy doing that in others homes...I look at mine and think ehhhhh it will still be here tomorrow.

I need to go feed my fish babies.....we have a 125 ga aquarium in my bathroom....started with 3 Oscars and put a minnow trap in the pond to get treats for them....accidentally caught a blue gill and would you believe the Oscars left it alone and it grew and lived for about 2 yrs. We named it Pond...:) Two out of the three Oscars have died, Pond died, and I went and bought some goldfish and the last Oscar allowed 3 of them to live. We think one of them has some Koi in it.....it had a huge black spot on it's face and then one day the spot was just gone. Now I noticed a new tiny spot.....Target says they change color all the time. There are also 2 plecostomus.....very fun and relaxing to watch. So now that I'm babbling again, I will try and get something done. It's nice and cool.....

Everyone have a wonderful, relaxing day!

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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