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A new day! But in my defense they say the word I used on TV all the time and others!
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Oh by the way, I'm sitting in the corner with my DUNCE cap on! No recess for me! Lol
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Assa, it's a pretty crowded corner with most of us there with you... I usually put myself there before someone else tries to MAKE me do it.... !!!! Hang in there.....You haven't lost your sense of humor... that gets me thru many days... hugs and you look cute with that hat on....
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Ahhh, a mangle? Haven't thought of these is years. Mom had one, used it for linen tablecloths, and napkins. It was a sit down job, that's for sure maybe if mammograms were offered sitting down that would ease the discomfort of the test.
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Glad, just want to thank you for saying good things about your paid caregiver.... seems to always be more complaints than gratitude, so it's good to know you have found someone you like and trust , and that you are starting to feel comfortable about leaving and having some fun..

No mammograms for me... takes too long to stop them from rolling all over the thingy you put them on...

Lav, Love you....
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ladeeM, I think for many as it is for me as the primary caregiver to give up control to someone else, even for a few hours. The way I look at it is that this person is also giving me a few precious hours for myself and nobody will do things exactly as I do. Unless there is obvious harm to the client, then let the caregiver do their job!!
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And I certainly do not know everything!
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Glad, none of us know everything... but you know mom better than anyone....and the caregiver can learn from you... sounds like you have a great team for mom..... hope you get to take a class or something now too... wouldn't that be fun....!!!! Just appreciate you for being you !!
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I utterly utterly HATE that I cannot sit down to read an article or write a sentence without being reasonably sure I won't be interrupted. Incontinence management, pressure sore anxieties, being thwacked with cushions, bring 'em on - but this is driving me to DRINK.

Phew. Thank you. Feel better now.
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CM, drink for me too!
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CM go talk to Alice she looks as though she would have some sound advice for you
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"…without being reasonably sure…" Tsk! "and be reasonably sure" I mean. You See What Happens. Can't even get that right, Lord love us and save us.

Alice is too busy supervising the construction of a new hens' bar and diner, one which we hope will be rat-proof or at least a serious deterrent, to help. Also I'm keeping a low profile because I seized the opportunity this morning to see who is in lay and who isn't - not a process they care for, thank you very much. Neither would I.
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CM- I know what you mean about being interrupted. Mom did that a lot. I finally gave up and taped everything I wanted to watch. That way I could watch anytime I wanted. I will tell you this though I wish my mom was here to interrupt me again. Sorry I really miss her sometimes.
Glad - like it has been said here. No one knows your Mom better than you do. Take care!!!

Hi there - Well, I have been hearing from people that I have not talked to in years. A lot of them have many fond memories of my mom and dad. Everyone is inviting me to some see them. It really helps to know that I am welcome. My dad was retired from Delta Airlines. He worked for them in their heyday. I got to travel all over for free. I will have to look into that since both mom and dad are gone. It would be nice to just get away. I have not flown in a long time. Well, It has just been great to talk to everyone again. Apparently, bro called me three times yesterday. I was gone for a few hours. the phone rang a couple of times and I have been letting the machine pick up. A couple of times it rang and when the message came on they hung up. Then I got a message on my cell because he was worried about me. I called him and he told me that he had called three times. How in the hell am I supposed to know that when he did not leave a message. I told him that and he got belligerent and hung up. I cannot stand to be around him anymore. What the hell am I going to do. What a mess. If I had the money I would move out and not speak to him again. I am sorry to go on and on about him. I appreciate you letting me vent about an a-hole.
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Lav, Sometimes all of us need to just let the phone ring! Your brother st least seems to understand that you have been through plenty. I do have to admit my reaction would have been the same as your, leave a message then for crying out loud. And siblings would have become angry as well. Relax, enjoy the people that you are hearing from.
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Lav it is time for Bro to grow up .
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Glad - Yes, I am letting the phone ring. What a stupid thing for my brother to do. I mean really!!!! I am really enjoying the friends and family calling. Take care Glad and take care of YOU!!
195 - I agree with you. I have talked to people that knew us when we were growing up. They were saying that he never did really grow up. 195 take care of YOU!!
Well, talking about my brother. Neither one of us had a great childhood. We were always picked on at school. A Catholic grade school mind you. Mom and dad did not know how to handle it. I was in the hospital off an on during my childhood for a hare lip and cleft palate. I guess bro did not get what he needed. Dad was not there for wither one of us. I know this is no excuse. I think women are more forgiving than men in that situation. I talked to mom about this every now and then and she would just cry about it. So I stopped bringing it up. I just had to get it out. I am finally going to get the chance to get my cat to the vet. Poor thing is elderly. I just put all my giving to my mother and I know Jazzy felt left out. She is being so mouthy lately. LOL Wow it is cold here. We even had a little snow. Would you believe it will hit 70 degrees on Friday. I wish I was an ENT doctor here I would be raking it up. It has been two days since anyone has posted on here. I hope ya'll are doing okay. Take care of YOU!!!
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I hope everyone's having a good week..
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Today, after work at 530pm, I went to the hotel for a dinner function which includes a magic show. I had my dinner and stuffed myself. Free food, you know! After the dinner, the magic show. It is soooo strange to see this tall white man (magician) entertain his 2 main audiences - the locals (as in local natives) and the Japanese tourists. Oh my! He got down our local accent down to the T. He had the lingo and the mispronunciation (killing) the American language. And then, he turns to the Japanese audience and spoke very fluently in their language. I was laughing so hard, at one point, I literally couldn't breathe! Uhm... I have acid reflux. And I did a no-no by eating too much and then eating garlicky meat. So, when i was laughing so hard, I guess I was breathing in air, on top of the food reflux, I felt as if a bubble was stuck in the middle of my chest. Despite being scared that I would die of suffocation, I was still laughing so hard. I was actually trying to gasp for air and laugh at the same time. It was awful. Yet funny. Scary. But very very funny. Moral of the story - never laugh too hard after pigging out on a flavorful heavy meal.
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Sounds like a great show, Book. Worse ways to go than by laughing too hard..!
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Assa, mine is sucking big time.... I am so tired I can't think and the negativity I am around all the time is not helping... only so many times can I 'think happy thoughts' until I am ready to get in the car and drive until I run out of gas...
Lav, sorry bro is a turd...... like you tell us.... take care of you...

I am so tired of setting on a cold toilet seat..... summer , where are you??
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Bookluvr Ha! I'm glad you're fine.. Sounds like you had a fun time ! Nothing better than a meal you don't have to cook yourself.
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LadeeM - I am there with you. I still have icicles hanging under my car. There is also ice around outside that has not thawed out. Maybe by next winter I will have a toilet seat warmer. LOL Like you we have hot, hot weather here. I want it tomorrow. I hope you can find a shelter from all that negativity. It is hard sometimes to feel good when all about you are negative. Take care of YOU!!!
Assa - yes, the week is getting better. I hope yours is also. Take care of YOU!!
Book - Sounded like you had a need for a bicarbonate. At least you had a great time. There is nothing like having a good laugh. Take care of YOU!!!!

Well, I have been getting things done here. I spent a good three hours In my mom's closet getting her clothes a going over. She had some beautiful things. I can even wear some of them. I cried when I came to her favorites and memories came flooding back as to when and where she was when she wore a certain outfit. I was hard but I am going to give the clothes to the battered women's home here. Mom would have liked that. I filled six garbage bags to bring to the home. She had a huge walk-in closet and used every inch of it. LOL Her room is filled with bags and bags. LOL YA'LL take care okay.
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Gave my notice to the family tonight.... will tell C next week.... I HAVE to get away from there.... I have ended up being a babysitter, and that is NOT what I do...... I feel like I can breathe for the first time in months..... sure hope she doesn't get stupid... because I can leave a looooong time before my final day.... its going to be up to her.
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LadeeM! Sending you a big old hug from the North Pole! We're freezing all over it sounds like. Sounds like the family is being bitchy as always, or it's it the other caregiver? Sending you as much positivity as I can muster. I've been hoarding it lately. When I saw the two foot snow drift in the driveway today I about cried. Then I got angry. It was me versus that damn drift. My shovel was my weapon. It took over two hours but I KILLED that sucker!

And no, we did not get two feet of snow, just a half a foot, but when that wind gets blowing it forms big waves. The snow piles at the end of our driveway are now over 5 feet.

Felt great after killing that THING! My mom was pissy I missed my day seeing her today, but that also felt great! She needs to learn to depend on them. I'm not putting my car into a ditch to plug in her e-cigs. They, and she, can figure that out. Pfftt!

Ladee, I don't know what to say to help you out of the rut. I'm sending you a metaphorical snow/s#it shovel, if that will help. Just being able to conquer a repetitive, seemingly impossible task gave my mind a vacation. There was no one to deal with except me. It's like meditation. You just keep chipping away and you get there, eventually.

Problem is, you ARE dealing with other people. And that's no escape. I feel for you. Know that. You WILL get back to you. Instead of looking for rocks next time, throw some and hard! Scream and let it all out. Cry if you want, too.

You're always the one telling us we're on this journey together. Now I'm telling YOU that. I think we've all been in a funk and none of us has been posting.

Book, I know that feeling when you get an air bubble trapped feeling behind the sternum. It's scary. I've been having that feeling since I was like 12 though. It was a little concerning when it popped up during my shoveling. I shouldn't have had masala curry for breakfast!

Lav, Oh, I remember the cleanout. That one is daunting. My mom doesn't live with us anymore but there's boxes on end in our basement still. And all of my dad's memorablillia I just can bring myself to go through after over three years since he passed. I figure it's not going anywhere. It' too painful even now. I understand what you are going through!

Wishing everyone warmth and a good night's rest.
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Ladee! Yessss! Just after I hit 'submit', there you are! Good on ya.

I know you won't take any grief from C. Tell her Windytown is outside to get you out of that house and you won't take no for an answer. I sure would if I could and take you out to lunch to celebrate. Might have to be Subway on my budget, but hey! Big hugs to you for getting away from that toxic situation.
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Thanks Suze... took me long enough... but I had to do the right thing for the right reasons.... love ya and miss ya... keep that butt warm.... lots of hugs.
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I sprained my right arm after taking bad fall on ice today. Was trying to do the shoveling/snowblowing but I'm a little out of my league. : )

Older bro was at house today and, in so many words, gave me permission to focus on getting my life back together and he will help more with relocating dad. Its all just words right now, but felt very good to hear them. I feel like maybe my family is finally seeing the extreme toll all of this has taken on me.

Meanwhile I continue to live with chaos around me. The basement was gutted for mold remediation, many things in the house just boxed up, packed up, and left in downstairs area. I tried to hunt down a 9v battery to replace beeping one in smoke detector, and I know there's over a dozen 9v's in this house, but couldn't locate one. Its just annoying.

So, trying to read more, open up more, get back going in a positive direction. I went to the gym the other day. Sure, I did 3 whole minutes on treadmill, a couple of baby weights, and ran out of there… but its a start.

Sending much hugs and love to all of you, and a heat wave for most of us dealing with this nutty winter weather. :)
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Lav, that's a lot of stuff your mom accumulated. The same when my mom passed away. We weren't as patient like you. I didn't want to go through her stuff so fave sis and SIL zipped through her bedroom and threw a lot of stuff.

LadeeM, I was shocked when I read your news. I actually backtracked to see if I missed something previously. Then, I re-read your words again. You have always said that you will know when it's time to quit. I guess the time came. {{{HUGS}}}

ABB, I'm soooo glad to see you! When I see all those snow, I am always so grateful that we don't have snow or ice. When I was in Hawaii, sis told me that where she lives, you're responsible to shovel the snow off the sidewalk, etc... My eyes just widened. I'm so out of shape, the thought of bending down and shoveling for even a few feet ...sounds like an extraneous workout ripe for a heart attack. Sorry to hear that you sprained your right arm. You take care. And I hope your brother follows through with his words.
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Batteries, biros and pairs of scissors - the more you have of them, the better they get at hiding…
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LaddeeM Absolutely well done. You have suffered enough. If c gives you any trouble just slap her with one of your knee warmers. Many many HUGS

CM do you think they form gangs and send out the alert when they hear you muttering. "I know they were here a minute ago" the lookout battery passes the word to the scissors and so on. Of course some one else has usually borrowed them!
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