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Morning all. Hope everyone had the best night possible. As for us...well it wasn't as bad as some nights can be. I had the day off yesterday as we have a sitter once a week.. I was so ready for her to come. Have been feeling like crap. Think sinus crud is migrating to rest of body. Did get rest yesterday, it was nice to be in my own home with my things for a change. When I came back parents seemed in decent moods. Know what you mean about just hearing his/her voice stirs up the stress. It started right off the bat... Oh well. Dad has been restless since about 2 this morning so I pray it won't be such a long day! I pray that I can keep a good attitude today.
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ASG............YOU ROCK ON, GIRLFRIEND
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ASG, very well said!!!!!!!
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This is for all you cat lovers. Reminds me of ASG and Auntie. Hope it turns out...
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Thank you ASG and everyone else here for your kind and loving words. They touch my heart in ways you just cannot imagine. I have made many true friends here.

I know you are all confused and wondering just what happened......well, this was an "inside job"......frightening to think that huh? I hope that person is pleased with themselves on the harm they have caused, especially to an elderly woman. I now know what you are really made of, even though I had an idea before, and it makes me ill. You really should have thought about false accusations, harassment and cyber stalking before you decided to play your game.

Thank you all for your loving support..............

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Well..attitude in check!? Got dad up as he was trying to get out of bed...all was going well. He was eating bkfst with mom. Sitting in wheelchair nice and alert today! Sooooooo... I walk over to my house to get something nice to wear for church..not 20 minutes later mom calls and says dad is on floor! Arghh.....well he his still alert lying on floor..so I chase mom out since she is wringing her hands scared and fretting. I get him slid around to counter..mind you his muscles stay in the locked up tight position.. So I am trying to stretch him slid him around to lean on kitchen counter so I can prop legs up and lift him! Finally! Skin tear at elbow, not too bad thank God. Back in wheelchair. Whew....Lord, Please let me be kind and loving.....
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jam - as i said to you before - this thread is so full of love given off by loving supportive people - that anyone should use it to condemn is shameful and very misguided. We all know where condemnation comes from and it is not from God who is loving and who I am convinced has a great sense of humour and He has made us in His image. Whoever is condemning has yielded to their basest instincts for a moment's satisfaction, but let me tell you, a bad taste will remain in their mouths till they repent of this. "Justice is mine" says the Lord, and as my mil says - God will get you for this. What goes around, comes around.

Know you are loved and mssed, jam, and lifted up in prayer. God knows the truth.
Love you♥♥♥
Joan
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Asg- you tell them girl! Very well put!!!
Ladee- u doing ok? I hope so. Have a good day.
Seemeride- I love the kitty drawing!! Cool! I have two cats myself they are my other babies. They are so sweet!!!
Jam- It's so good to hear from you on here. We have missed you. I'm sorry these people are worrying the Sh#$ out of you. Tell them all to go jump off a cliff!!!! To go aggravate someone else and leave you the hell alone!!! Love you girl. Stay Strong!!! Stormy
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Jam, very excited to see you here this morning, and your comment says it all. Just know you are loved, understood and appreciated.....
Seeme, you have created a monster with the cat!!!!! You will be so sick of seeing it you will wish you had never posted it... how was mom last night??? and how are YOU today???
Vic, hate to hear you had to do "power lifting" before church today, I know you would rather have a different form of getting in shape, and yes, the "voice" sometimes it makes me forget where I am...
emjo, how are you today?? Everyone was thinking of you yesterday, we think of you everyday, but angels and prayers were sent your way... and I really appreciate your post about the "situation"....
hugs to everyone today,, my son has talked me into cooking for him today, so need to get moving and get some things done...
Still no "banana split", but I still refuse to talk to them about it until they get it moved..... too much noise in my head as it is....
hugs across the miles..
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Vic sorry your dad fell hope he is ok. I hope you have a better day.
Emjo- how are u doing? I've been thinking about you girl. I hope you have a better day today too!!! Love and Hugs to all!!
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Hey all, I'm still here just dont have time to type like i did. Hubby still holding on. Peeing once a day usually at night when he is asleep. eating so so. drinking so so.
I am trying to hang in dont know how much longer. God does though. Just got the little hint with the mess going on with you jam and I sure hope everything is ok now. . well I really dont care who likes what I say ! It is MY LIFE and I will vent what I want to!! Some people are not happy unless they are meddling in someone elses business. We all need someone we can TELL OUR FELLINGS TO .Everyone have a good day and I think about all of you and what we all go through to try to help someone. be it family or friend. Later taters!!
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(((((vic))))))) - prayers for a quiet day for you with no more episodes
asg SO well said
ros - so u lost it for a moment - join the crowd
ladee - praying for the BS to be moved ( in more ways than one lol)
YR -hope dad does well today
seeme - wow clean house - hope mum has a good day and more long sleeps
jh - glad u banished your neophew - hope yr allergies settle
54 how r u? and yours
cara (((((hugs)))) tough situation for you - know about the "voice" thing - most of my life
starri - meltdowns are good - knew u needed one - hope you feel better now - getting helps
whoever i have forgotten not intentional
need my morning coffee - still groggy from long day yesterday and chasing horses on the way home -i am told it all went smoothly - would hate to see when it doesn;t

Gary picked a beautiful black mare yesterday - she and I connected and she flows like liquid - he says it was the best ride he has had in a long time and she needs a name - any ideas??? he wanted to call her Wyatt - after Wyatt earp and I said no way -she deserves better so all ideas welcome -she is a good sized horse and the feeling I got from her is that she is sad - she was ridden and loved by a 16 yr old girl - and I think she misses her - he will take her to the mountains next week with her buddy Morgan as the packhorse
mother is after me again - same old same old -and if anyone wants to make sonething of that - go for it! I have been dealing with mentally ill people all my life -so what;s new!
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Emjo, you made me lol.... dealing with mentally ill people all your life, guess that is how this should be approached... just with the mind set that maybe they just can't help what they are doing, some wiring got crossed somewhere, and their perception is way off...as long as we all have a sense of humor and can see this for what it is, everyone will be ok and have some laughs along the way.......
54, sorry things are not good for hubby... proud of you for hanging in there regardless of how it is.. did the kids come home and dump on you or did you lock the door????
emjo will be thinking of names,, can you post a pic of her on FB??? The first little calf born here was named by the group.. Nobs Busey.... the name Busey because I have a crush on Gary Busey, shows you my taste in men..lol
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well, ladee, it is NOT mentally healthy to stab people in the back and tattle. Rule #1 is first take your concerns directly to the other person! Anyone who does not do that is a manupulator! Lived around enough of them to know that.

I will post pics on f b - got one of Gary riding her and leading her buddy morgan - not sure it is the best of her but at least something

54 - ((((hugs))) - this must be so hard for you

stormy - you are on my mind - waiting for what many be bad news is one of the hardest things - usually better once you know whatever it is - deep breaths - let go and let God if you can - sounds like your bro and sil are worse than useless - your hubby sounds like a gem. hire people to help while your sis is away if need be and possible. Hugs to you and little red - one hour at a time and try to have fun with your beautiful son
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Whew...well all we made it to church all was well. Had to keep encouraging dad to sit forward. Think this morning he was pushing himself backwards without unlocking chair. He slid right out onto floor! Should have realized we might have an eventful day, as I was bathing and getting him ready this morning he was asking is I could "see that" on the walls. Think is was the bugs crawling again. oh well. Guess his mind is just not all there today as I can't attribute it to any drugs. He is now comfortably in his recliner and mom is taking a nap. It is sooo hot 93 and then add heat index...wish I could dive in a great big pool! Kudos to those of you who have access stretching and swimming in a pool is the best stress and body relaxer.
Thanks for all the well wishes! Glad I had taken muscle relaxers this morning!! Know we all have our crosses that we bare out of love or just because...you are all in my prayers.
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(((( hugs)))) vic - glad your parents ares ettled for now

wish I had a pool at home - i looked 10 yrs younger there

just to let you know the extra carnitine and Co Q10 is really helping me - don't have the fatigue as bad - I chased horses yesterday through the clover and clouds of grasshoppers - got home in the evening and felt something scratching my side - looked under my jeans and my underwear and a grasshopper hopped out EEEEWWWWWW! - well at least they do not bite!
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Oh my Lord Emjo. I would have had a fit!!!! Jumping all over the place. I hate bugs!! Especially ones that can jump, and hop and catch me!!! And spiders OMG don't even get me started on them things they scare the sh$# out of me. They got too many LEGS for me. And the granddaddy long legs around here oh lord I hate to go out of the house when they start coming around!!! I start freaking out!!! I hate me some Spiders!!! Love and Hugs to all!!!
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Definatly will add the carnitine to my mix... It should help with metabolism as well. Wow what a beautiful image...running though clover chasing horses! My idea of fun! tried to find you fb page but no luck... Oh well will keep looking. Mandy or Belle for mare
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vic and anyone - search joan benoit - was the top one - fort mcmuray ab
-wasn't so beautiful - hot, sweaty, ornery horses, stepping in horse patties, grasshoppers everywhere - even down my undies - lol but i did enjoy it - beats reading endless bitchy emails from mother, facing undone laundry and the boxes from her apt I still haven't unpacked
email me vic - emjo at live dot ca
like the names thx! - Morgan (buddy horse) and Mandy works well - Belle suits her to a T - she is beautiful in always
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that is all ways - time for a nap then off to grandsons b'day party

this is so funny

Joel will be 6 tomorrow and my daughter gives then time out according to age so his time out time is 5 minutes - BUT he is a big boy now and wanted to start his 6 minute time out today gotta luv them

Em's recent best was going on her daddy's facebook and making comments so my daughter came on and wrote "Em has been on her Daddy's facebook again" The answer came back very quickly on facebook "No I have not " LOL
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emjo, you got the prize again, maybe it should be a horse pattie for you.... or why don't you tell us what you would like your prize to be..... we may not be able to get it or do it, but it will be fun to hear what you would like as a prize... hugs
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Hey gang what's up? Emjo still looking for a name for the mare. BB for black beauty, You did say it was a black horse right? Midnight maybe, I don't know I will keep thinking on it.
Well all week and last week things were pretty quiet with my bro and his wife. In others we have not heard a word from neither one of them then all of a sudden I get a phone call this morning from bro. we talked for awhile. But before I tell you all this I talked to my sis last night and told her I was going to put on my fb status the"serenity prayer" and I told her I said that ought to bring brother out of the woodwork. And this morning he called me and said I see you have the serenity prayer on your fb. I just played it off like I put it up there because of all of this stuff with dad(tests and results and not knowing what's going on with him for sure) I guess he bought it. But probably NOT! He has been through the 12 step program(rehab) before so he knows all about the serenity prayer!!!!!! I called sis after I got off the phone with him and told her I told you I would bring him out of the woodwork and he asked about the prayer i posted she just laughed... And I know dear old sil loved me posting that up there too!!!! NOT!!!!
Well I need ya'll advice about something: I have been thinking about telling my sis about this site so she will have somewhere to come and vent to besides me. Don't get me wrong I don't mind her venting to me. I understand what she is going through too. But I feel like maybe she would benefit from coming here to get her feelings off of her chest. Now for the part I'm not sure of I have posted on here in some of my first conversations with ya'll that i have resentment and anger towards her for not getting us some help for dad sooner. If she gets on here and reads them I don't want her to be mad at me. So what should I do. Should I tell her about this thread or keep quiet about it??????? Love and Hugs to all!!! Stormy
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stormy, the first thing that came to my mind was you have a right to have something that is just yours..... Your safe place to let it all out... and she may not be comfortable with you knowing how she really feels either.... and if the both of you "edited" what you were feeling, then you are back to square one... no outlet....
Has she ever said she wishes she had someone to talk to??? or shown any desire to go to the internet and find a place to talk???? You sought this out, and my personal opinion is this is your safe place.... that is sweet that you are thinking of her, and maybe getting tired of hearing it, and of course the decision is yours, but unless she says something on her own about needing someone that understands, I would just leave it alone.... but I am telling you what I would do, maybe that is not the right thing for you..... hugs to you....
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Yes Ladee you are probably right. I just know how happy all of you have made me in the last month or so that I have been posting on this thread. I just feel like I have made some real friends(YOU) for one. And I guess I just was wanting her maybe to have something good to look forward to. Like I look forward to hearing from all of you and how ya'll are doing from day to day. But I know she is probably wondering who are all of these ladies Sandy is commenting to on fb. We have alot of the same friends. And all of a sudden I have all these friends from all over the world. And Sandy does not get out of nc at all hardly. So I guess until she starts asking questions about my NEW FRIENDS I will try to keep it under wraps. Thanks for your opinion. I appreciate it Ladee!!! Love you girl!!!
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Emjo, I have been thinking about the name all day. I have 2 faves: Morgana and if that is too close, how about in honor of the sweetest OES female I ever had - Holly - and call her Molly.......

Stormy, I agree with Ladee for this reason. I have talked to my sister about this site because she noticed the change in me after being on here a few weeks, and she had no interest in it at all. And I am not usually a "joiner", we just go it alone or rely only on each other. And I HAVE said things on here that would hurt her feelings and I don't want to do that at all. She took care of my parents for 3 mos and still has PTSD because of it after 5 years. I've had mom for 5 years, and I feel I am supposed to just handle it. Last time I talked to her, I said I needed a vacation. Didn't get an offer from her to come spell me for a week. But, I didn't ask, either.......and if I said any of this to her, she would be hurt beyond measure. So this is for ME!! If she felt the desire to talk to people online, I would steer her to some other site. Just saying.........you cutie.

Mom got a shower this evening unexpectedly and it put me behind with some of the work I have to do before Kathy gets here. I was up so much last night, we didn't get up for the day until 10.......makes for a short day.....at least we got RAIN.....maybe even some tomorrow. May check in later..............
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You better get on that work Seeme or Kathy will ground you or give you consequences, like she won't come on her scheduled nights... get busy...
Stormy, I know I am very territorial about my being on this thread and on this sight... If others were really interested in how I feel or think, they would ask, and they don't... so, I get to come here, say what's on my mind and heart and go at it another day..
so I am happy to hear you are not going to "share" just yet and as Seeme said, direct her to another sight if she is interested....
Seeme so happy to hear you got some rain.... Tropical Storm Don fizzled out, so no wet stuff for us... projected to be 105 tomorrow,,, deep sigh..... love ya'll
Love ya Jam.... we're keepin' the light on for ya' hugs
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I am newer to this site and do not share alot yet it is such a comfort to me to know I am not alone in this very trying journey (really it's the hardest thing I have ever done in my life). I do not know of all of Jam's circumstances and it seems the situation seems to be resolving itself yet I am still a bit disturbed by it. I beleive that anyone who cares to comment from the outside, incuding any type of social service employee should spend 6 months in our shoes. The every day challenges of scrubbing poo from every surface in the bathroom, not daring to eat from a package of cookies for your FIL never seems to be able to wash his hands, eating a meal with individuals who's table manners have ceased to exist i.e. sticking a tongue coated with food out as far as it goes to find the fork, then missing most of the food meant for the mouth onto one's lap and table in spite of the tongue radar, followed by picking all the food from the table and one's lap and eating it to hoarding anything and everything, spilling every drink or food onto the floors obiliviously, endless doctor appointments made in the middle of the day because they do not like to get up earlier than 11:30 so nothing else of sustinance can get done.....I could go on forever. These are the every day easy things we over look with a smile on our face. These would drive the average bear up a wall. Forget the character defects that have always been there magnified to the 100th degree with age, and dementia, or Alz, Parkinsens. The distrust, fear, inability to be grateful for even having another day on earth when they seem to feel so very entitled to that day. The notion that it's suddenly okay to walk arond with your penis hanging out, thinking it's cute...so NOT. Add volitlility and narcissism to the formula....yes let's see the social worker or outsider looking in do this without a trusting place to vent. I was one who thought it terrible to send a loved on to a nursing home etc. I think I was guilty of contempt prior to investigation. It is vital to be able to have any outlet to vent so we are able to keep doing the next right thing, to pray and overlook these behaviors and not take them personally. To love when you do not even like. I am grateful for the wisdom and support from others who are walking this walk and doing the right things. I daily ask myself "can I do this for today?" For today yes. I daily ask myself before opening my mouth "Is it true, is it necessary, is it kind?" I usually cannot answer yes to all three when wanting to respond to my MIL & FIL so I smile and keep doing the next right thing. I wonder if all those who judge on the outside would do the same? Enough of my soap box. Clearly just finished eating dinner with them all and well......gross. Thank you all for being here!
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Heidi, didn't sound like a soap box to me, sounded like you belong here, you've done it, are still doing it, and will continue to do it, as long as you can...but I do want to remind you we are safe here to post and say whatever we need to, say how we feel, what we think about and what we didn't do.... this is an isolated incident that will get resolved. I just keep telling Jam we're keepin' the light on for her, she'll be back....
And when you were talking about the questions you ask yourself, one I ask myself is, "a hundred years from now, will it matter", I say this to Marie sometimes because she stays in a snit because Sonny puts folded napkins in his shirt pocket.... !!!!!! Good grief, we have war, drought, famine, floods, ect, I doubt a few napkins are going to change the course of the universe....... but I don't live in her head and see the world the way she does....
I do have nothing but compassion for you having to clean up all day long, I would just be a raving maniac, I'd just start serving it on the floor, spill the drinks and give em a straw.... at least I would have some fun with it if I was going to have to clean it anyway... just scream FOOD FIGHT and go for it..... I bet they would just set there and watch you, at least for a few minutes... bless caregivers and the stress we live in... I am glad you are here and hope to hear from you more... you certainly belong, and hugs across the miles to you.....
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Heidi- I know what u mean. Some people can be so cruel. They have no idea what we caregivers have to endure everyday. And it seems like there is no end in sight, no light at the end of the tunnel for us. It is a hard road to travel. This site has helped me so much just being able to come here and vent to all of you. Not counting the real friends I feel I have made here. My mood has definelity changed since coming to this site.( But it could also be that I recently got on some antidepressants). No I firmly believe that it has more to do with the site and my new friends!!!! So heidi come back and talk, bitch, cuss, vent your head off because that is what we do and what we are here for!!!! Love and (((hugs))) to you! Stormy
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Seemeride- I know the last thing I would want to do would be to hurt my sister we are very close! As close as two sisters could be!! Sometimes I think we almost have the connection of twins. I will try to refraim from telling her about this site. Maybe she won't ask me questions about my new found friends on fb. I think u are a cutie too! Gotta try to lay this child of mine down!!! Love and ((((Hugs)))) to you! Stormy
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