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I bet my two "ugly sisters" would love to have you two instead of me for a sister....
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Heidi, As I was reading your post, I was saying uh huh, uh huh, yes, that's right, yep, been there, oh yea........couldn't tell you how many times. Very well put, and it got you some stars !!! Looks like you have found a home !! This life-saving home therapy will get you through the days and nights and doesn't cost a thing. Right now we are trying to think of a good name for a good-natured black mare that hangs around with her friend Morgan. Think of that while you clean up poop or pick stuff up off the floor. I just had spring cleaning done to my house and when I did the kitchen table, my hubby had to use a tool to pry the table apart to get to the koolaid that spilled down the crack. No way could the 2 of us get it apart. And I found red koolaid up the walls, underneath other furniture, and the day the kitchen was finished, mom dropped another glass of it. At least it fell mostly on her. lol So stick around and we will help you even more.

Gotta get some sleep. Kathy has been here for an hour already.......zzzzzzzzzz
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like all the suggestions so far - thought of Beauty (black) - I think he has a Molly - I know he has a Dolly so Molly would work if he doesn't have another one - I thought of Morgana too - she is a regal horse - putting a pic on fb soon - like all of them -
we should start an ugly sister's club - mine could be president! - vic suggested Belle or Mandy
stormy and seeme u r so fortunate to have a good relationship with yours - and anyone else here who does

well Nana (me) did it again - silly putty was the hit of the birthday seconded by the science kits I gave him
what a good kid - he told me a few weeks ago he didn't want clothes for his birthday but he got quite a few from others and with only a slight prompting from dad he said thank you very nicely

Heidi - you are doing a gargantuan work like so many here - jewels in your crowns in Heaven for sure

have a good evening all ♥♥♥
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Hi all. WOO HOO, it rained last night. OK it only lasted a few minutes but it did pour. And the thunder was crazy. I loved it while it lasted. Tomorrow will be another hot one.
I accidentally closed my poor cat in the linen closet last evening and hubby found him hrs later after much bellering. He woke me up about 3 or 4 times caterwauling, but I didn't recognize him he sounded different. And I thought maybe it was coming from the tv.( Hubby was up late.) So I would just go back to sleep. Poor baby, I felt bad about that but you know what they say about curiosity and the cat.
Well, no major hassles here today . Just the usual bazillion questions. Which are going on now non stop. I can barely concentrate on this post. If it doesn't make sense, I'm sorry.
Well, welcome to Heidi. We all understand what your saying.
I hope everyone had a nice day. Good grief!!!! I can't believe this weekend is over already. I owe, I owe, so it's off to work I go in the morning. Night all. P & P
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great YR

the horse pics are posted!!! and you get to see Gary as well LOL
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Shoot! I hate this keyboard! Sometimes I push the wrong button, and the page changes and I lose everything I have written. It happened now. I had almost finished my post! Let's start again (synthetically)
ASG: very well said!
VIC: Oh my, how hard it is to lift them, especially in the morning!
EMJO: I was moved by the mare's story. If the girl who owned her before gave her a name (she certainly did) why don't you just keep that name?
STORMY: I would feel uncomfortable if my brother of my cousin wrote on the same site. I would not say everything I like to say! I would censor myself!
HEIDI: yes we live among dirty, gross, unpleasant things. I am lucky I have been living with animals for 20 years, so there is nothing that really grosses me anymore! I have cleaned the enclosure where my ex landlord kept the geese, and there were 2 feet of sh*t there! My landlord didn't clean that enclosure and the poor geese were drowning in their stuff. "That" was a hard afternoon!!!! I can stand "that" part of the job, while I have more and more problems in accepting the person, the alien my mother has become. She is not my mother anymore, that's for sure, and it is very painful. I think I really lost my mother when she started to lose it, many years ago. It's very difficult - honestly - to go on loving a person that you don't recognize anymore!
LADEE my friend I have nothing particular to tell you tonight, just kisses from me and my big family!
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"if my brother OR my cousin". Wrong typing
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Rosella, what you said was dead on too! Thanks. Oh and I hope if you did put your mother in the washer you would use the delicate cycle, Lol. Just kidding.
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Delicate cycle........oh, my sides hurt........too funny.........love it.........I can see it now............oh, I am in PAIN here...........
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Morning ya'll, have been up since 1:30 with a stomach virus, or it could be nerves, or it could be that I am just full of sh*t, but am not going to work today..... Can't take anything contagious around Marie because her immune system is so low... Will check in with ya'll later....
Jam, we're keepin' the light on for ya.... hugs across the miles to everyone, well, almost everyone, but everyone on this thread....
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Ladee, sorry to hear you are full of sh$t, but I kinda thought that anyway...heehee but I hope you are not in pain. Just try to stay cool and rest today.....it could be the heat getting to you and you know that is accumulative.......and having their house so hot is just miserable working conditions, so take it easy and drink, drink, drink.... love you
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Lade..like seeme said...drink drink drink! Take care
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What do I do mom has been in hospital in and out uti dehydratd and so on in the beginning I was told to go with Hospice by social worker not because She was gonna die but cuz if she became to where she needed Ivs then i would not have to call 911 i have called them 4 to 5times in week in a half also and other services they have to offer now suppose to be discharged this morning and dr told me last night he doesnt think she needs hospice well i got aggravated cuz all weeek trying to set things up which thought they were now I do not no what to do and husband on vacation and if I did nt have to of talked to dr here soc worker there and so on I could of already had my respite care spent time with him and maybe recharged now here imgonna pick her up all pissed off and frustrated can anyone give me advice thank you
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Ask doc about home health ..it is a step up from hospice
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did anyone answer my ?
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hi sandraann - ((((((((hugs)))))) vic suggested that you ask your doctor about home health care for your mother. You sound very stressed which is understandable. Did you emphasize to the doc that the social worker recommended hospice and why
and ask him to reconsider his decision?

Hopefully others here who know the system better than me will have some suggestions.

Take care of you the best you can,
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Sandraann, I have dealt with the uti/dehydration issue for a long time and it was so bad last year that my mom was hospitalized 5 times in 3 months. It can be a vicious circle. Your mom has to drink more, probably more than she can. Try giving her ANYTHING that is liquid. I gave mom cantelope, watermelon, pedialyte, gatorade, Kool-aid, and I quit giving her tea which has a diruretic in it. Good luck.
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some thoughts for when you have time to read them - about paths to happiness - which may seem irrelevant to you in your too busy and stressed lives, but I do see some if it peeking through the clouds of caregiving. Making even one change may help to reduce your stress.

•Expressing gratitude
•Living life with meaning
•Finding and using your inner character strengths
•Putting mindfulness to use toward well being
•Savoring pleasure
•Achieving flow experience
•Developing self compassion

I see you all living life with meaning doing the caregiving that you do, I see gratitude here, I see finding and using your inner character strengths, I know there is not time for savoring much pleasure, but I do see people savoring a cup of coffee or a few moments without the endless questions, or a good night's sleep, Maybe a little more mindfulness towards your own wellbeing would give you pick-me-up (vic take that extra carnitine ;)) or eating better or cutting down on the ciggies. Developing self compassion is so, so important. Give yourselves the same compassion you have for your charges. As for flow experiences - not sure yet what that means - like being in the zone I think - a little while absorbed in the garden, ros swimming in the sea, a few days away - cuddling with the pets and so forth - small all-absorbing pleasurable experiences

Ladee. sorry you are sick rest and recreate - drink lots - dream of sailing down the road in your BS.
Starri so glad u r taking time away
everyone - take good care of you - as good as you can. I know it isn't easy.

You all are heroes and heroines and deserve medals.
♥♥♥ Joan
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Hey all I hope everyone is ok today. Ladee sorry you are sick and I hope it's not the stomach virus. I hate those things, they are horrible to get over. I hope you feel better soon. Well I am over here at dads and his breathing just seems like it is getting worse to me. I don't know maybe its just because of these test results. And what me and sis have read on the net about the impressions that the dr. saw. We are still trying to find someone to read us the test results. She said she was going to see if she could get up with the oncologist at the hospital that dad has been admitted to in the past. He has treated dad some when he was at the hospital. We are about to drive ourselves crazy about finding out these results. We have been on the internet looking up all the big words and I guess it has helped some to understand what's possibly going on with him. We just want some answers. Not knowing is hard. And dad goes for his pet scan aug the 4th. So it will probably be Monday before we find out anything on that. We will be crazy and foolish!!!!!! By then. And every time I turn around today I've been having to suction him or clean his canula. Yuk!!! Its hard to believe that his breathing could get worse. And what that is going to be like for him and for me and sis. My Lord if this stuff has spread I just hope he doesn't suffer. The not knowing of what changes in him could occur is scary. I told my sis that if this cancer has spread I said you know at some point we are going to have to call hospice and she said I know. But I guess for now we will just have to wait it out............ Love and (((Hugs)))) to all of you!! Later Gators
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Stormy, I am so sorry all this has happened to your dad. And doesn't his doctor have someone on call to cover while he is on vacation? Maybe someone else in the same office? If you get worried about his breathing, call 911 and get him taken to ER and take the test results with you. Also, call his doctor's office and listen to the whole voice recording, they may give you some info there, if he has someone covering for him. Love and Hugs
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Hey ya'll , well I've lived, so far, and Seeme people have told me for years that is why my eyes are so dark brown, full of sh*t.....
Rossella, is your roaming Romeo still resting from his wanderlust vacation??? Kisses back to you and the fur family, and of course mama if she will let you...
emjo, thanks for the words of wisdom, to contemplate when we have a minute or two...and many names coming in for that beauty of a horse,, put mine of FB for ya..
Stormy, I am so sorry you and sis are about to loose your minds with the not knowing, that drives us all insane, and we are going to imagine the worst... bless his heart, is he in pain? Does he let ya'll know if he needs something
? Angels sent to you and family to help with all this... let us know if you hear from the
Dr.
Vic thanks for the well wishes, did popa have a good night, or when you finally get to bed to you find yourself repeating answers in your sleep???hugs to you
ASG, you crack me up girl.... guess with all you have going on, humor is your life saver.... hugs to you and the kiddo's
Jam, we're keepin the light on for ya' hugs
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My heart and love goes out to all my fellow caregivers. Today its hot but a nice cool breeze so keepng mom in the house. She's got her water and she's chilling and relaxing enjoying her cooking shows. Funny she never used to watch them when she was up and mobile and cooking herself. Now that i do all the cooking thats what she loves to watch only problem is she will look at me and say Shawna can you cook that for me .. HUH uh no mom... lol I am not a gourmet lol. Though we have tried a couple of the recipes to cut the mundane lol. Just when the heat hits again along comes mother nature and kicks me in the teeth .. UGH i hate this time of the month... i feel yuck .. my right foot is still swollen we think its arthritis.. HECK I am only 33! To top it off I ended up with heck of a migrain this morning from it. I always end up with one at the start ... and then again at the end doc says its hormones oh REALLLLY sorry thats me being sarcastic lol. Then to top it off I have to go to a new lpn cause mine has decided to go find a new job oy joy starting over with new ... NOT...

Ladee drink drink drink.. relax stay cool .. and rest .. till your feeling better... imagine yourself in your air conditioned BS... drinking ice cool magaritas and beng fanned by cabana boys lol.

Vic: how's Poppa today did he have a good night ... hope so .. so you got some rest...

ASG: you are hilarious ... you made me snort tea out of my nose girl lol...

anyway ... since its nice and cool in the house I am getting ready for rail fest this weekend coming up. Here's to hopin i sell a lot of things .... and finding a way to get it all there !
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Seemie, There is another dr in the office but he cut dad in the wrong area for his feeding tube a too big incision and in the wrong place so we really do not want to deal with him. Plus he has law suits against him. For screwing up patients... And dads dr was talking about letting that one do the biospy on dads groin area for the enlarged lymph node down there. Can't let him do that. He might casterate daddy!!!! YIKES!!!! Boy would that HURT!!! Love ya!!!
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Gotcha, Stormy, I remember the story, just didn't realize it was THAT doctor. But if he has trouble after you suction, then don't hesitate to call 911.

Shawna, what type of crafting do you do? And what is the rail fest. We have on where I live that is called a "de-rail-abration". They celebrate the town taking up the tracks overnight just before the Yankees got here, so they couldn't use the railroad. Just wondering............
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Mom is in AL, presently on a scenic ride. After all these years of care, guilt and no life, Sis and I are going "we should've done this sooner". My relationship is already better, after just a few days. Magically once she got the new chair (motorize, tilt chair), it's like it finally dawned on her we had been busting butt to take care of her. I'm not saying it won't be an ongoing challenge, but I no longer will worry about my sister having a heart attack or a stroke due to the stress. I can now go out of town for the weekend with my husband without worrying about her home alone. And Mom clearly seem to like having company.

Please, if you are looking at this and the emotion is too great, there is a light at the end.
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I create personlized products Seem water bottles, mousepads, mugs, t shirts, keychains and the like with any image I want long as its not copyrighted. I made a mug for my sister .. it has our father's naval picture on it plus one of the ships that he worked on my daddy was a sailor first class and worked on corvettes ... those are really small ships... in WW2.... Railfest is a kind of carnival festival with vendors and food and rides.. its a one day thing.. its to celebrate the trains that used to run between three cities that no longer run...
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Shawna, I am so grateful I do not have "nature" calling every month any more.. I was completely thru menopause by the time I was 50... guess God knew I would eventually go on a killing rampage if it all didn't end soon....so my heart goes out to you, we all know what that is about.... ugh.
Stormy, guess you could have taken you dad to the vet and he would have done a better job than that stupid doctor... Hell, we could practice medicine with what all we know and probably do a better job, except for the cutting part, nope, couldn't do that...
Seeme, you need to go to Shawna's web sight and see the awesome stuff she does..... and Shawna, people will buy it all if you can figure out how to get it there!!!!!

Gonna go lay down, don't have too much fun or shared info without me.... love and hugs to everyone...
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I might be able to talk my sister into either letting me use the car or having her come and get me to take it over. I have a bunch of mugs already done. I have a ton of blank mousepads and licence plates. I have some native mugs ...one horse ... one pegusus ... a couple little kid ones ... a puppy dog one... elven maiden one .... and a couple 9/11 I designed because of you know next month..
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Hi all.. Hope everyone is having as good a day as possible. Has been pretty uneventful here! Yay! Dad seems ok today, a little more out of it and kinda crabby when he is awake. He has been sleeping on and off most of the day.
I did get some rest but I feel lousy..at least it isn't stomach junk!
Take care all.
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Good news my brother in law is coming down Saturday to help me set everything up...at railfest and he's real good at that... knows what it should look like to make a good impression :-D I can't wait wish me luck that i sell everything...
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