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oh she also likes to watch NCIS to watch Jethro Gibbs lol and Ladee I am so glad you got the split moved and YAY for the tree!!!!!!!!!
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A tree in Terxas !!!! Ladee, you will be sitting under a gold mine !!! Now I want to be there to help clean.....I've had good practice !!! I am doing the happy dance !!! I am Soooooooo happy for you !!! hugs and kisses
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Now I like NCIS, too.......Always did like Mark Harmon
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It won't take long to give it a good cleaning Seeme, I could have done it all today I was so mad.... I'll go after work and get er done.... and a tree, I think I am more excited about that than anything,,, can ya'll tell the heat is getting to me.... so progress, finally... love to all, need to go tell Bg and sil the good news, later ya'll and hugs and kisses to you too Seeme...
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Hello everyone! From what I read (limited) seems as though everyone is having a pretty good day.
Finally got diagnosis for my FIL - Parkinsons. He's in advanced stage as dementia has already started. Doing research how to care for him best as possible. Between his Parkinsons and MIL Cancer we have our hands full.
I know how you all feel about the voice - for me its the shuffling of the feet. All hours of the night. Have to make sure not getting into anything he's not supposed to. They finally settle down around 2 a.m. They sleep to 11:30 or so so nothing can get done (I have not gotten to the point that I am that rude to wake them with the vacuum - yet lol) All appointments in afternoon so days are screwed up and unproductive. I still get up around 6:30 - take the time to meditate and go work out at the gym. Helps to be a bit active as our lives have slowed down here too much. I am used to working 18-20 hours a day. Not enough physical drain and too much mental and emotional drain makes for one unheathy, spiritually challenged caregiver!
I would love it if my inlaws watched NCIS etc. mine watch fox news almost 24/7 with an occasional break for the Cardinal game. Talk about feeding the fear of the already fearful. I have not watched the news in about 4 years and I am so much more peaceful for it!
Thank you all for your honesty and support here. Even if I do not participate all the time it's still a comfort to read all of your shares! I hope we all have a peaceful night!
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And I think Shawna got the cow pattie!!!! That is a good omen to selling all your stuff this weekend... and good luck with that and you will be in my prayers, I hope others went to your website so they could see what great work you do.... love ya.
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nope ladee you got it ... lol i was just one off lol
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Heidi sounds like you've got your hands full, I hate having my days and nights mixed..

Ladee, guess that was what the chicken reference was, I've been trying to keep up with everything but you know how that goes.. has your headache went away yet? I hope so, those are not fun.

Took my meds, my sleeping pill and debating on laying down and sleeping or just try and stay awake till 9 at least.
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well shawna, I'm making a present of the cow pattie to you.... it is our good luck charm, and right now you need it to sell your goodies... I got a TREE and that makes me happy so I will bestow the cow pattie to you.... hugs to ya girl...
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Thanks .. and if you guys ever want anything ... you can get a discount ...as you guys mean more to me than gold ...
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Heidi, honey you have got your hands FULL. Goodness, I feel like such a whiner,except about the name part. LOL But I do envy you getting to the gym, hell, I'd just love to walk the neighborhood.

Shawna, I clicked on the site you posted, but I just saw one picture. Is there somewhere else to go?

Got to get the dishes done and mom to bed.....I almost wash mom and put the dishes to bed........nothing a little sleep won't fix........later........
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oh that is just showing you one of the pictures I make ... my site is kind of small till I can figure out how to make a nice business site without all the graphic heavy crap
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Seeme, did you have blood work this morning?? Hope everything is ok, I didn't forget about you in my blow out tizzy today....love ya
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I haven't posted here in forever but I read all of your posts often. (almost daily) It preserves my sanity or at least the shred of it that is left. You are all very special people and are in my prayers.

HOW DO WE DO THIS ???!!!
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Well, little one just came over here and erased everything that I had typed in. Anyway what I was telling ya'll was that I was washing dad off today and when I was washing up under his arms I felt another swollen lymph node. That mess is all over him. Call it a gut feeling. Sis has that feeling too!!! And we still haven't heard a word from our drunk ass brother that is suppose to stay with dad this weekend. If he shows up drunk this weekend I'm just going to tell him to go home. And I will stay with dad. But hubby has already told me that if he shows up drunk he is going to cuss him out. And I told sis that if that sil of ours calls me up fussing about bro. coming down here to stay with dad then I am going to cuss her out. Because the reason bro is drinking is because of either her crazy ass or because he has his drinking buddies over there with him. Not because he is having to come and stay with dad because he has not been down here or called to see how he is doing. I just wish this weekend was over with. I don't want to have to deal with him. Plus when he drinks he gets sooooo mad, he has a very bad temper. When he use to drink all the time before his stroke I did not want to be around him because he would get so enraged about nothing. He scared me to be around him. We just don't need that sh$# right now... Well, I might try to come back later after I get lit' red down to sleep. Love and Hugs to all of my buddies!!!!! Stormy.
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Welcome back MJ, and happy to hear you are reading even if you don't get a chance to post... hope we hear from you more often... How do we do this??? I haven't a clue... we do it out of love, out of a sense of loyalty, out of obligation, out of fear, out of guilt, we do it because this is what our heart tells us to do... shoot honey, I don't know... I do know if it weren't for all you guys on this thread, I WOULDN'T do it... or I would be less effective, or not be reminded that I am important too, that what I feel is normal, to be encouraged by others, to laugh about stupid stuff because we need the release. Guess we do it together, as best we can, regardless of how crazy we get... You probably already know all this,,, but wish you would post and let us know what is going on with you and how you have been.... we have missed you..... hugs across the miles....
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Stormy, girl you call 911 if he gets stupid, let the law handle it.... and you don't have to be abused by ANYONE!!!!!!! Maybe you should just go ahead and call him and tell him not to come.. if you are anticipating this many problems, maybe it would be better for all involved if he just kept his drunk ass home....
And I am so so sorry that you and sis are suspecting the worse... I pray ya'll get an answer soon, not knowing is worse I think.... you are in my prayers, and hope this mess with the brother doesn't get too weird.... love and hugs to you girl....
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Stormy Ladee is right... if he gets stupid you call 911 immediatly you don't need that sheat not with what you are dealing with. Don't even let him in the house ... and lock the door ...
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good for u girls - kick him out or better don't let him come - boy Stormy u have enuff to deal with

mj - do come and vent if u can - it helps retain the sanity

a little humour for tonite

my daughter's comment to me this afternoon when she heard I was in a pasture with a horde of horses milling around me. "Mum", she said, "if I heard about a 74 yr old grandmother in a pasture with amongst a bunch of horses I would think she was insane." So I laughed and she said - "But it's natural for you!!!"

lol gotta luv 'em

have a good one

♥♥♥
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Well Ladies I guess I could call the law. But I wouldn't have to go far to do that since I am married to a COP!!!!! Hubby is a lieutenant. He works for the police dept. of the town that we live in. Lucky me huh??? So I guess I could just call home and say come and pick up this drunk ass brother of mine before we both go to jail and before you have to bail me out hubby.... LOL Stormy...
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Ladee, I am happy you had the right place where to place your new home. Under a tree seems good; just remember to prune the tree when it's necessary! Tks for your concern... I love my job and it really helps, when you are tired and you have to stay awake. I hadn't any time to go to the swpool this week, but I will definitely go tomorrow. By the way, the weather has been bad. It's sunny again, now.
Stormy, I am afraid your brother has so many problems of his own that he can't be of any use. If I were you, I would just forget that he can help you in this very delicate stage of your father's illness. I am afraid that your sis and you will have to deal with it yourselves (and you are already lucky - you are 2!)
Starry it is normal and healthy that you cry. I remember when my father died that I had to be strong while I was near my mother, but when I was alone I cried a lot and I spent months cleaning my house! It was as clean as it will never be anymore. I came home from the office, and I started to clean, until 2 or 3 in the night, and then I tried to sleep a few hours and then I got up to go to the office. I heard of many people that when they are in stress and in pain, they clean. I don't know why. Maybe because it's very tiring and it shifts the pain from your soul to your body... I don't know. Any sorrow have to be digested, and not denied! The more you take it out, the sooner you heal... I still miss my father a lot, after 16 years, and I still cry for him, but of course I have learned how to live without him.
Big kiss to everyone else... I have to take a night breakfast and work! (it's 5, here, almost morning)
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Thank you Ladies, and Good Morning to you. Mj, welcome to the thread, post if you wish, read if you wish, both will help. How is everyone?

Ladee ? did you end up going back over to the Shady BS? lol, i know that with your temper as high as it was, you were probably worn out, but the temptation to just go sit in it would have been almost to high for me to resist, just sit there sip on a drink and look around..lol..

I do that alot, like with the camper, I might not do more than just open the door get enough crap out I can get in and just sit there and visualize what it is I want to get done. Kinda like building blue prints in my mind. People think that I am nuts..

right now, I've been building calculations on how much I can get where if I move what..lol, figured out if I collect up and move all of the "tools" hubby has in the camper out to his new tool box, that will free up a lot of room, tighten up on the area under the bed, that will open up some. After that, next step is shopping, if I can keep my silly ass from crying..lol..

Was just checking out the weather forecast, says rain for like the next 6 days.. back to the sauna we go.. Rain is wonderful, keeps the lakes up, but turns the drive into a mud puddle. Oh, well, stuff happens.
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Morning All,

Starri, Gonna be hot here again and maybe some rain this afternoon....can only hope..........

Stormy, sorry to hear about the lump under dad's arm. PET scan today....finally.

So glad hubby is a cop. I feel you are a lot safer just knowing that. No telling what can happen with bro this weekend. Just tell him to leave if he can't do this sober with thoughts for someone else besides himself. Drunks piss me off. Mean drunks should be shot.

Jam, keeping the light on as Ladee says.....

Ladee gonna clean her BS......Ladee gonna clean her BS.....lalalalalaaaala

MJ, stick around and see what happens in the chronicles of Caregiving on YOU...

Aaaahhhhhhh mom calls.....like music to my ears........more like my ears just started bleeding...............later.............
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Good Morning Seeme, sounds like you are in a good mood today, I hope that it keeps up for you.. Don't know why I am but I am sleepy still, had a good nights sleep..

Having been a drunk, I can tell you their not easy to deal with, since getting sober, their even worse for dealing with, and a mean drunk? I will not deal with, have no problem what so ever in having their butts hauled off if they will not take them off themselves.

My brother (our current resident drunk) offered to come over and help out with Mom, baby brother had not started back drinking yet, I told him thanks, but we could handle it, really could have used his help at least a night or two aweek, but he would have brought the sister in law, and those two are like oil and water when together.. Mom didn't need that kinda stress. nor did I need the extra work, I would have had to be there, making sure they weren't showing their asses around Mom, so if I had to be there, might as well have peace while I was there.

Well, think that I am going to go lay down for a while longer, and then get up and get something done..don't know what, but something..lol..
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Hi all..been a few days...had to catch up on all the posts! We are a busy bunch! Thoughts and prayers to all of you. Yay for you ladee!
I think I am finally getting over this sinus infection. Really sucks when you are all achey yuck. Makes everything else that much more intense. Feeling better emotionally too.
We have had a few days of what has become normal. But dad has been awake on and off since 1:30 this morning..whew.. He has been talking off the wall and calling to say off the wall things and seeing bugs crawling on wall again. Wonder if it is the meningioma in his brain causing this since he isn't on any pain meds just Tylenol now at night.
I decided to call doc to see if he would order home health again as I think it may help. I think having pt,st,ot come my help him to work a little more. Maybe they can help his muscles relax a little. At least it would break the cycle of him and I struggling with each other and maybe make mom feel a little better emotionally. As I think worries more and more. I am glad she find strength in prayers. We aren't getting along real well right now ... Too much closeness and too much alike! Lol course I am the one who is bitchy, frustrated and angry all the time. Have to REALLY work on patience and calmness. I did get to my house for an hour yesterday, helped to have a changed of scenery. Maybe it will work out that I can spend a little time there today. I pray everyone has the best day possible.
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Good Morning Ladies, I just wanted to ask everyone that if they had a story about some of your loved ones that was diagnosed with cancer and if it spread to the lymph nodes. To share your stories with me. The pet scan is scheduled for 2:00 this afternoon. But we probably will not hear anything until maybe monday sometime if then. So keep your fingers crossed and please say a little prayer for daddy and us. Thank you for being there for me through all of this mess. I will talk to everyone later on tonight probably. Love and hugs stormy
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Love reading this thread..!! Wish I had this site when I was in the throes of care giving with my mother, not in "recovery" from it. I continue to learn and feel blessed from all of you daily. I learn for you and translate to my client's and let my clients know about this site daily it is so valuable to me.

Caregivers United..!! Have a Blessed Day..!!!

Bridget
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Bridget, I know what you mean, this thread is what has kept me going the last month and half to two months. I feel so blessed and thankful that I just happened to find it. I feel like I have a new family in all of these ladies. They have really helped me through a very difficult time in my life and are still doing so. I just love everybody here for your support and love!!! Love, stormy
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Good afternoon ladies! It never ceases to amaze me what waking up and choosing joy can do for one's outlook and attitude! I ,somehow in the throws of caregiving, forgot about that!

Put the gloves on and dove into the bathroom. You would think that previously owning an inn and a restaurant I would be immune to the personal bathroom habits or lack there of (I know, they are sick and elderly) or people but I still am not. Vacuumed the house (I think I vacuumed 40 chiwawas - my poor New England dog, Magnolia, moving here to Missouri is shedding terribley) and even got my MIL's nails clipped!! Feeling good. Feeling positive.

I send prayers to all who are having a hard time today and who's loved ones are suffering - physically, emotionally or spiritually. Love - Heidi
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Stormy, right about now you are sitting in the radiologist dept waiting for the PET scan. I put an angel on your shoulder, hope you feel her........and I hope you get home before any rain starts.......don't even know how you manage to get him from one place to another...........

Bridget, hope you read us all the time. We can get a little crazy, but a little crazy here is a good thing.....much better than throwing things.......that is just fun........

Got a skype call from my fave niece a while ago. Got to see her 7 mo old boy stand up in his PaknPlay. This is the baby I was carrying when I fell in May tripping over his car seat. None the worse for wear.........him that is.......I just go to the chiro. Life does go on.................

Thinking about Jam today........Ya know something? If a case worker would have been a fly on my walls today, these are some of the things she would have heard.... "I've been yelling for an hour and no one will answer me" (reality - 1 min maybe), "I know you left me all alone" (reality - took a shower), "Now I have a headache from yelling for you all night" (reality- all BS, Kathy was here), "You keep me locked up in this room all the time!" (reality - she wanted to lay down to take a nap, gave her a pain pill, and raised the bedrail). Makes you wonder what that fly may think, doesn't it? But when they walk into a nice clean house, patient's own clean room, all the supplies they need, and their own bathroom, a clean patient, it makes you wonder why they aren't on the walls of some houses where elders are alone, trying to care for themselves, and checking into their cupboards and fridges for food, checking for A/C or fans in this heat, and making the system WORK for a change. Nooooooo, let's terrorize a well-cared for dementia patient, scare the shit out of her, cause trouble for the caregivers and relatives and call it a good day's work. Sucks, doesn't it...........our tax dollars at work..............

Time to post this before I get on another soapbox.........later.....
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