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Veronica, you know how people struggle with smoking and drinking? I'm like that with shrimp. I love shrimp. I have always loved it since I was a child. Now that I've finally am getting reactions to it, I stopped 'cold turkey.' It's awful when you live in an island, and they make these delicious shrimp meals. Sis and I went to a Japanese restaurant. Almost 99% of their meals had shrimp. It's a Japanese restaurant, it should have Other kinds of seafood.

I'm just fooling myself into thinking that it's only the Jumbo shrimp that I'm allergic to. Hence the experiments. But, deep down, with the seafood spaghetti lastnight, I am beginning to see the 'writing in the wall'. My allergy may be spreading from shrimp to all seafood. But, I need to test this to make sure. Fortunately, the only time I eat seafood is when someone is paying for it. So, it will be a while before I have another taste of seafood. I will do my best, then, to avoid shrimp...even the tiny ones.
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If you are so minded Book you can have your Dr do some allergy testing.The seafood sounds delicious pity to have to give it up but you probably can have something.
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I just spoke to niece. She eats at that restaurant all the time. She said that the seafood spaghetti I got Does have shrimp. I said that I didn't see any shrimp at all in it. She insists that it does. So how come I had no reaction when I ate it at lunch? She said that because it was freshly made, the shrimp didn't soak into the food. When I ate the leftovers for dinner, the shrimp had permeated into the spaghetti. So, moral of the story... always ask if they have shrimp in the food before ordering.
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A responsible restaurant will always tell people if shrimp is in the food-it could be life threatening-I would seriously report it to the Board of Health-and maybe write a letter to the editor-at the very least they should give you a free meal-maybe not a good idea.
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Happy Easter to all my AC friends xo! Make the best of your situation...
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If you are allergic to processed shrimp, bear in mind they treat it with sulfite preservatives, and that may be the true allergen, not the fish itself. With "jumbo shrimp" they are often not shrimp at all, but prawns or crayfish. Even scallops are sometimes not scallops, but flounder plugs. Be careful.
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Pam, long time ago, I had pink eyes. The prescription eye medication made my eyes swell. I stopped taking it, the swelling went down. Then I had an ear infections. I took the prescription ear drops for a week. Towards the end, my ears were so itchy and broke out with tiny rashes inside. Both times I mentioned it to the doctors. They both said that it must be the sulfide. Can't stay long. Time to get up and start my work day...Thanks for reminding me about the sulfide.
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I hope everyone had a great Easter...

Off to volunteer at the Boston Marathon.. This will be my 8th year and we will take back Marathon Monday.
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I am so exhausted today, and every day since father cannot sleep early, and wakes up at 4 or 5am, telling me to wake up and feed him (dinner.) I've been making so many mistakes at work. So hard to be alert when you're mind is in "la-la land."

I emailed customers their eticketed itinerary - and their ticket wasn't even issued! I'm going to have to remember to buy chamomile tea and somehow persuade father to drink it before bedtime. I need my rest. Or I will end up losing my job sooner than later. It's 8pm and I was hopping around AC and my mind is like water-logged, bogged-down, etc... I would take the tea but I've found out that I'm allergic to it.

Easter? Family was here and I already wanted them all to be gone 2 hours later...at 4pm. It was too hot to remain outside on the front porch. But atleast it was very windy. I hope you all enjoyed your family and grands.
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Oh Lord Assa, I didn't know you were there last year.... how horrible for you... and you are right .... take it back... heard there will be many more people there this year.... be safe and have fun....
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Since you first mentioned dad waking up so early I have been think of a solution that would shut dad up and allow you to sleep. Why not change his Pampers and feed him along with a sedative. Then go back to sleep and get up half an hour later than normal because dad will still be asleep and you have already changed him so Sis can feed him again when he finally wakes up. Maybe try it at the week end and fine tune as needed. Ask his Dr for a sedative if he does not already have one.
Poor Book can you take some vacation or family leave?
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Had a very nice relaxing day yesterday...was able to attend both worship services with my husband...(first time in a year and a half) and we spent the afternoon at our daughter's house where she insisted on doing all the work for our Easter dinner...not sure I even remember being so lazy...going to try and get carpet ordered today and hope it won't take too long to get it installed...keep thinking I need to wait for my husband to be up, before I leave the house...nope...keep thinking I need to check on MIL and walking into an empty room...hope that will stop after we get moved back into OUR bedroom.
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I knew it, I knew it.... the façade of the daughter is slowly fading..... got informed last night... that I will now be feeding MrM and L when I come on my shift....she has decided that she won't be coming by everyday...logically, that is a good step for her... but anyone want to place bets how long I am going to stay there??? If working for C taught me anything, it's once they feel they can take advantage of you, it's going to get added to and added to... a friend suggested that I ask for a raise.... uh noooo, she said she would get me a raise when I first started... a lot of lip service to that one.... and now nothing... told my friend, no, she knows how I feel about working for $8 an hour !!!!

L and I do great... I can usually help her out of her 'moods', getting to where I just ignore Mr.M and make 'uh huh' noises to make him think I am listening to his stories... or his negativity.... thank God they got to bed early.... listening to him would cause me to do some serious meds after awhile....

So, starting the job search... AGAIN..... why can't I find a family like some of YOU?????
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Assa I also did not know you were there-I live 50 miles away from NY C ity and know how that affected me -it must be so hard for you- to go back -take care.
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Red, glad to hear you had a 'normal' day.... will take some getting used to and kudos to your daughter who took care of everything so you could just relax....hope the carpet comes in soon and you get to sleep in your own room and start creating your new normal... sending you hugs.
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$8 an hour that is totally unacceptable. It is at least $10 round here. Not sure if daughter is taking advantage or just is now trusting you. I guess that job at Buckingham Palace has been filled by now. You'd do better flipping burgers or wouldn't the poor old knees take it?
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had a pretty good easter weekend with my mom. Good friday was total disaster but that was medical clinics fault to start. Had to sit with mom for 3 hours to see the doctor and they barely did anything to help her. Took me quite a while to calm her down. make things worse the clinic got a new doctor and we had to see her. IN her condition wish she didn't have to go through so many changes. So I guess its a lesson for me i will call before i bring her to make sure she can see the doctors she is comfortable with. If not there I will go to ER instead. My parttime job has become fulltime thanks to my coworker blowing up and quitting. Its a good thing the coworker that quit was making it difficult for everyone to do her job she was so unpleasant. More hours, more money and I have extra help for my mom now. I think being away from home for 8 hours or more will be good for my well being. Also I have been in severe pain in my elbow and shoulder and have started going to chiropractor which i haven't done in 20 years.

Hugs to all !!!
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Please find the book Pain Free by Peter Egoscue. Easy things to do to not only relieve pain but to fix the source of the problem!
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Ladee, I would love your help here, but know you would detest our winters. And I think, from a previous discussion we had, that my mom would be afraid of you. Deeply ingrained in her, she spent some time while growing up in Chattanooga. Her mother was much worse, she lived to be 101, and such a unhappy woman. Used to hate when she came to visit, so negative about so many things. Yet, my mom still thinks she is alive most of the time, and then realizes that she is not, and says what a wonderful mother she was. Guess I would have had to have been there.:-O
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Taking care of older adults is challenging, will test your patience and can lead to stress. The task itself is overwhelming even if you're doing this because you really love that person or you really care for that person. Family caregiving can eventually take a toll on your health, which can affect your efficiency as a caregiver. In order to avoid stress, you should consider joining support groups or talk to someone just to release the stress you're feeling. Keeping everything to yourself is not a good idea. Share your caregiving experience to others as a way to vent what you're feeling and also to give pointers to others who have taken the responsibility of providing care to their loved ones.
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Glad, I just accidentally Reported your post. Darn cursor was on top of it when I was trying to scroll up. Sorry...

LadeeM, I used to pay my nieces and the former caregiver $10/hour. Then, I got a pay cut, and could no longer pay for them. So, fave sis pays her daughters about $50 for them to babysit their grandfather from 830am-300pm.

Judda, I hope I'm able to follow through with the book on pain. I'm so tired of this daily neck pain. It never goes away. It's my sleeping position and the wrong pillow. It would be perfect if I can sleep flat but due to my acid reflux, I need to sleep elevated. And it's a terrible position that's lousy for your neck when sleeping. I have tried a real foam neck brace, doesn't work. U-shape gel pillow from Macys, didn't work. Hopefully....the book will help.

Chrissy, great that you're now working full-time. It sure does help a lot when it comes to relieving caregiving stress. Very bad when the work stress Adds on to the caregiving stress. But in the long run, it's so worth it.

Rodney, thanks for the info....
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Book, I have 16 years experinace, I think a tad more money is in order... the deal was, I was 'temporary' until they saw if the other lady was coming back.... so it was ok for awhile..... but I have been at this too long, and I know when someone thinks they can keep piling sh*t on my 'job description' and think they don't have to pay for it.... and the night caregivers here make $12 to $15 an hour.... and I took a cut in pay with this job..... h**l, I'm tired of thinking about it... going to bed.... hugs to everyone...
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LadeeM, do what you need to do. Too bad that they don't keep to their words. They'll just have to learn the hard way.

I had a luncheon function. We took a tour of the LSG Sky Chef facility. Security lockdown, cameras, super hygienic protocols (dealing with food that is served on the airlines - cannot afford food poisoning), etc... They served one of the best strawberry cakes I have eaten in a long time. Delicious!!! We were invited to a meal taste from one of the airlines. I had the choice of omelets or pasta. I chose omelets. There was a side dish of beef and some kind of pickled food. Well, an hour later, I got this really bad pounding headache. I recognize the sudden pounding. I only get this when I've eaten ajijimoto (msg - monosodium glutamate). I grabbed my purse, and found only 1 allergy pill. I took the other pill at a restaurant and forgot to replenish it. The pill had expired since October 2013 - last year. I was desperate. I took it. Whew! that did the trick with the pounding headache. It was still there but at least it wasn't pounding. I'm Now Replenishing my supply that I keep in my purse.
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LadeeM what the heck? $8... That's below minimum wage here in MA.. I would ask for a raise, that's if you really want to continue working there..

Yes I was at the Marathon last year, it was frightening to say the least.. We had a long but rewarding day yesterday, now I can move past last year and look for to the next...I meet many runners from all over the world, young and old, famous and regular Joe's like us and that day their all just runner's....

But man I'm pooped, you'd think I ran LOL.. Day started at 3am and I got home at 9pm.. My daughter stayed with Mom and she's a bit "off" today.. We'll get back on schedule today I hope.. I was nervous about leaving for so long, but volunteering for the Marathon is something I look forward to and I do not want to give it up. Mom will survive.. Wait till she finds out she has a Dr's appointment today!!!
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Book YOU reported my post?!! (*^*&&^$%^$^

LOL! I've done it by mistake as well.
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April 22. My mom's birthday. On April 22, 2008 she had a massive stroke while sitting at our dining room table celebrating her birthday with all our family. Last year I wrote on facebook that APRIL 22, 2013 was "the best day ever". I wrote that because everything I had read about strokes over the years kept saying that stroke survivors barely make it to 5 years after their stroke. I was so relieved and so happy and so grateful that my mom was not one of those statistics. As always, we had a big birthday party celebration for her. This year, I ordered a birthday cake again for her from our favorite bakery. Yesterday I drove to pick it up. When the baker showed me the cake I couldn't stop crying; I told them that my mom recently died but that I wanted to get her a birthday cake to celebrate her life.

My mom was very creative; she played the piano, created songs, painted, and wrote.

I took one of the pieces she wrote and had it printed on a big postcard-sized magnet.

I bought different-colored mason jars and put little white battery-operated twinkling lights in each them. I wrapped different-colored ribbon around the top of each mason jar and got little silver hearts and crosses to attach to the ribbon. I designed a little card with her pic in it and dried flowers glued to the front of the little card; I attached the card to the ribbon, too.

I finally finished a 90-minute video/movie maker with pics of my mom and our family and friends and background music of everyone from Sinatra, Bone Thugs 'N Harmony, and Rod Steward to The Piano Guys.

I put the CDs, the big magnets, and the glass jars with their lights and batteries in gift boxes and then wrapped the boxes and made big bows for all of them. I then mailed nearly 50 of these gifts - in celebration of my mom's birthday - to family and friends.

In a few minutes I am on my way to our awesome, pristine ZOO - where my mom and I ventured to once a week for years. Just thinking of going to all our special spots at the ZOO alone, today, is unbearable. I don't know how I'll make it through.

I celebrate the day my mom was born.
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Monday,
You sound as if you are getting there. What a great idea to celebrate your mom today!
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Monday, what a beautiful tribute to your mom.... you have given me some ideas for the anniversary of my moms passing.... thank you for sharing this with us.... and sending hugs to your hurting heart.... I do understand...

Glad, why would I scare your mom??? Seriously, may be something I need to look at....hugs and thanks for the positive response.... I am so lost right now about this whole care giving thing....

Assa, ya, this was supposed to be 'temporary'...... and as I just shared, I am just lost right now... got an email that Gene passed away Sunday.... no one bothered to let me know he was in a local NH, where I could have gone and told him how much I loved him..... and tell him goodbye....my heart hurts.... and I'm tired.... just tired of all of it....
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Awwwwwwww, LadeeM ... As I read your words about Gene, I choked a tear. *sighs* So very sorry for that loss. It never matters that we know it's coming. It just hurts. *sending warm hugs and chocolate*

LadeeC
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So sorry LadeeM...Hugs
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