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CM - That made me think of my mother and her baseball team. She has been a fan for over 50 years. Her team is in the basement right now and she says "they can't get any worse they can only improve."

Book - I use to worry about getting diabetes too. Now I try to eat better, test my sugar once in a while and not worry so much. If it is in the genes I can't stop it from happening. I don't have a problem pricking my mother's finger to test sugar but I'm a baby when it comes to sticking my finger. OUCH! I also faint at the sight of my own blood, not anyone elses, just mine.
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Lav, CONGRATS on the house !!! And I laughed when I realized that bro had to come to the house because he couldn't get you on the phone.... no matter what, that dude is going to be angry and rude..... with his little bridezilla at his side..... hope you get what you are asking for in negotiations...... then the job will be next.... you just trust in that..... hugs

To the new folks.... this is the place to come and share what is going on.... not just once, but to help you find friends that truly understand and don't judge....

Last night,or should I say at 5am, I hear L in the bedroom, go check, and she has her bed pulled almost out the door....she was mumbling something about a 'freezer'.... took me awhile to get her to let go of it, move the bed back and get her back in bed..... tonight is my last night.... thank God.....

Hope you all found something to be grateful for today....
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LadeeM - L must be very strong. LOL Was she going to put the bed in the freezer? Take care of YOU!!!!
WE SOLD THE HOUSE!!!!!!!!
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Yeah!!! to you Lav!

Yeah! to you LadeeM. What are you going to do with your spare time?
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Well done Lav. Don't you mean YOU sold the house?
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Ladee M stop giving L spinach before she goes to bed.
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Congrats Lav!

LadeeM ha the freezer! I hope you get to relax on your off days or I should say your weekend! Hugs..
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WOOT WOOT Lav !!!!! And yes, YOU sold the house.... fantastic..... so happy for you..... hope bro does not complicate the h*ll out of this.....

Ya L is strong all right....I did realize the other night, what the 'knot' in my stomach is when she gets like that..... It is an unconscious flash back to when R broke my leg !!!!! Her tone of voice, and how there is violence right under the surface......

Shilo, not quitting, I wish, just getting my days off..... and then someone else can stop her from moving the bed to the hiway!!!! Or where ever she was moving it to..... just want to be away from there for awhile.....

Was told by MrM last night I needed to empty the catheter bag before the day lady comes on shift so he doesn't have to hear her complain that I left it for her to do.... just ask me how p*ssed I got..... I empty it at 5am.... how much could be in there for the stupid day lady..... so instead of telling the day lady that is part of her job.... I get told..... ya'll..... my attitude already sucks...... so it took it all for me to keep my mouth shut last night..... maybe my 'six month plan' will be moved up to two !!!!!!!!
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LadeeM - wasn't there a movie or show with some family riding in the sky on a bed? Yes, I found several things to be grateful for today.
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Bedknobs and Broomsticks. I saw it when I was 10, and I remember a long sequence that I thought was the funniest thing I'd ever seen in my life - but I can't for the life of me remember what the film was about.
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Take it as a compliment Ladee M.You are a much better caregiver than the day lady.
is it empty when your shift starts?
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Ka rule number 1 do not host company, we have enough to do. I have been there with my sister being here and telling me what to do. You are not ready for company. Tell them to go stay somewhere , but not at your house.
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CM - Wasn't it about WWII. Elsa Lancaster right. They were trying to defeat the germans. Lancaster was trying to be a witch. Take care of YOU!!!!
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Wantingtime, {{HUGS}} With regards to DVDS, have you checked if your library also has this. Our small library has one. I cannot guaranty if it’s modern movies but.. it does loan out DVDs. As for meals, do you think you or mom would qualify for the Meals-on-Wheels? They provide this for the care-receiver Monday-Fridays – lunch. The food sucks but you can try jazzing it up with spices. I’ve several times took dad’s lunch and made it into soup. His side vegetables went into the pot. And it was now a chicken soup with veggies. FYI, there’s nothing wrong with your mom helping with the expenses. If you both eat, you both share the cost of buying the grocery. Since my father doesn’t eat ‘normal’ food, all the food I buy comes out of my paycheck. I don’t think it’s right for him to pay his portion of a food that he doesn’t eat. (I giggled when I read your words “Stiffen that upper lip and ONWARD!!!”)

CM – unfortunately, our avocado trees grow Tall. You need to get this metal stick with a hook or a metal cradle to “pick” the avocado off the tree. If you pick the ones that fall, most times it’s too ripe. And bruised up from the fall. Fave sis gave me 3 avocados. After I read your post, I went out to see if any of our lemon trees have lemon. Hmmm. We no longer have a lemon tree. Now I’m curious on how avocados would taste with a squeeze of lemon.

Veronica, it’s shrimp that I’m deadly allergic to. Darn thing makes me itch all over, and my tongue to feel “funny” and my lips. It’s the mango trees that causes me severe sinus/allergy. I tried eating fresh mango and broke out with big rashes and diarrhea. But I can eat the Dried mango with no problem. Go figure!
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Hi Sakura, I’m sorry that your mother’s health is declining so fast. Are you just the only one caregiving your mom? Do you have some caregivers who come at least once a week to help relieve you? With you mom not eating/drinking, maybe you can ask her doctor if she qualifies for hospice service? If you need to just come on and vent with whatever is going on in your mind, please feel free to do so. I remember when my mom was struggling to breathe (close to the end), I was sooo stressed out, I wanted to so badly call 911 to have them come and help her. To help me deal with her struggling of breathing, I came on here and just posted and posted. {{HUGS}}

Congratulations, Lav!!! It’s all coming around for you. I’m glad for you.

Pami, my older brother, visiting from the states, came home. He just had to tell me how I should change my bedridden mother’s pamper. I stopped immediately, turned to him and asked him if he wanted to take over. He shook his head. And never offered any caregiving advice. If someone wants to tell me how to do things, they can darn well take over! As if !!!!
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Book, avacado with a squeeze of lemon? That is how I usually eat an avocado. Guacamole, I love it, but I would rather enjoy the avocado alone. Nothing like half an avocado with a squeeze of lemon and as dash of salt and pepper for lunch on a hot summer day.
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Sakura - I am sorry you are having such a rough time. My mom also did not want to associate with anyone either. But when people just dropped by she loved it. They know what's going on with themselves. I think that they might feel uncomfortable. But people who really care about her would look over that. Like others have said here. I would call the doctor especially if she is not eating. He might recommend hospice. Please take care of YOU and come back when you need us.
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My mother loves avocados and will eat them like candy if she has the chance. Since they are on the moderate list for cholesterol I only buy them once in a while for her. One word sums up what I think of them and that word is yuck.

Today mother said 'six of one, seven of another...no that's not right...(in thought)...six of one, half of something...half a dozen is that right?' Yes mom but I might like your seven of another better.

Thank you for another day.
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I did something the other night I don't ordinarily do.... I am so tired of L being so hateful at times.... she is a little doll while the oldest daughter is there, not so much when we are alone.... after her snapping at me three different times.... I leaned over and told her I could ask her questions without having to be snapped at.... and walked out to smoke... shutting the door 'firmly'.... I am a 'door slammer'.... so I was quite proud of myself for not breaking the door off its hinges..... and she has been nothing but nice since... probably won't last, but the last two nights were descent.....I can tell when she is having one of her episodes or has had a TIA,,,, very different situations there..... that I can deal with.... but realizing she was doing it because she CAN???? Uh NO, you can't....!!!!!!

And simply ignoring her, tending to her needs, of course, but not being 'friendly' and trying to joke with her.....just being all business....and using my 'firm' voice with her..... I read on here all the time, people with their right mind being abusive , just because they can..... my dad was like that.... him, well, I never took any crap off that old man.....so, because I set that boundary, had an ok last few days.... she hasn't slept all week..... guess the lazy day lady lets her sleep so she doesn't have to be bothered..... don't know, don't care..... abuse is abuse, dress if up to look like an old lady and it's still abuse.....
She did flip out on the day lady yesterday.... made a huge mess in the kitchen...all because she didn't get her way about something.... and ya'll know I laughed out loud when I found out.... ohhhhh Karma, I love you sooooo.....
No more catheter for the day lady to b*tch about..... MrM can do it himself now.... after his last visit to the Dr.
I told the daughter what I said to L, she was ok with it..wouldn't have cared if she wasn't..... but that is bullsh*t to let someone abuse you..... a hundred years from now will it matter if you set a boundary..... NO......
Got a text from my Thurs night replacement... she will be at work tonight.... good thing,,, cause I ain't EVEN gonna be there......

Shilo... don't worry about it.... we have no Grammar Police here... we don't care about all that.... just happy you feel you have found a safe place to have your feelings.....

Going to go lay down and read..... why? Because I CAN.... hugs to all of you....
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LadeeM good for you.. Now it's time for a little shut eye, nighty night my friend..
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Lav: They "got up late, made a few stops along the way, visited w/people," oh, and my FAVORITE... they stopped at KMart by my house b/c they don't have one where they live! I sent them ANOTHER txt around 8:30pm saying, "Your grandmother is now going to bed & I've had 1 of the sh*ttiest days of my life, so we're going to have to reschedule our visit til tomorrow or Thursday." They ignored THAT txt too & STILL showed up 10 mins later at my door. The ONLY reason I let them in is cuz I'd asked them to pick up some TP cuz I was out! LOL!

Book: I don't know WHAT she wears half the time (which is kinda scary). When she's home, I think she only wears her gown, so I ordered some *free* Depends. I forgot the website, but if you Google it, you'll find out how. She'll probably be insulted, but I am SO beyond caring about that right now....
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KayBee, any way of finding a nice or pretty looking pullups and calling them the new and improved underwear? I'm just offering advice on that one not from experience but from what I've read here on agingcare.
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Just for today I feel like a human... not a brain dead caregiver... amazing what some sleep will do...
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KayBee, Women's assurance underwear has a fresh lavender color. First, it is a brief. Second, wtf with the fresh...color? So what, what about fresh scent to help with odor control? I suppose looks trumps pleasantness and dignity. After all everyone will know the person is wearing lavender under their clothes and will forget all about the urine smell in the air right? uh, well...excuse my rant there. My point is, the package calls them "underwear" and they have a decent look to them so she could be receptive to trying them. (My mother puts her underwear on over the briefs. She just likes the idea of wearing the underwear.)
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LadeeM, so it is true what sleep can do for you. Glad you are starting to catch up on some of your lost sleep. Hopefully Diva will start behaving better. Is chocolate good for cats? It is not good for dogs.
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Shilo.... the Diva does as she d*mn well pleases... she LETS me live here, go to work to buy her food and put a roof over her head.... other than that, I am just something that gets on her last nerve when she is trying to sleep... she is 20 yrs old and has always been this way..... she tolerates me petting her, but it usually has to be her idea.... and no chocolate for her, but she'll eat anything that I eat, just so she can set and stare at me until I put some down for her.... she sniffs and walks off. I know she is laughing at how well she has me trained..... we have been thru h*ll together and a piece of me is going to die when she does.... but I will be at the pound getting new kitty babies..... I will have to fill that void.... She has been the only 'constant' in my life all these years.... so I don't think about when she is no longer here.... no sense in missing something before it's gone.... just enjoy what we have...
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There is a series of free online videos for those caring for elders that is produced by Morningside Ministries. To check them out, go to mmlearn.org. The new one today is about behaviors.
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LadeeM i know how you feel. My dogs are all that have kept me going for years. A year ago I adopted a senior black lab from rescue. I didn't rescue her, she was sent to rescue me :)
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Ashlynne, I get it... I don't trust people who don't like animals.... and your girl knew you needed something to love you no matter what... happy you and her are together..... what is her name?
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Are you in a support group? Alzheimer's Assn. In your area can help you with that. In the Dallas, TX area their training programs are excellent.
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