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You'll never know how much I appreciate the encouragement sent my way. It means so very much. The microwave went out two weeks ago prior to all this. Our t.v. went out Monday and I feel like I've totally lost control.

I think God is telling me to let Him be in the drivers seat. Things haven't gotten any better. Our television went out Tues. evening. I held my hands up in the air and said..."I give". Taking it a day at a time and hoping nothing happens "any" day. My husbands lifelong friend came to visit, and made the statement, "you know the damage the electricity did the outside of your body, think what it's done to the inside....", it made me soooo sad to think about it. Everyone tells him "Boy, You're luckly to be alive"...he says...yeah I guess.

I'm so very sad that this is the beginning of the end. I try to keep my spirits up in order to spend quality time with him, but it's so difficult to do. I don't want to be sad around him, but my heart is heavy with sorrow. God please help me.
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Hi i am new here. I am an Cna when i work it is in long term care i love my work i am not working now because my 72 yo mom want's me home, what i want to know is why is it i can take care of any other elderly person take there bad moods there crap with a smile does not bother me but my mom is being argumentative and just plain mean and i am a big ball of stress want to pull my hair out arggg.
Realy i know why but i am frustrated i can not get a handle on it. I just needed to vent and support thank you
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DeeAnn what you're feeling is completely natural. It sounds as if you're a brilliant CNA, warm and understanding - but when it's your own mother behaving like that it's incredibly hard to be objective and not take it personally. I do it the other way round: I try to pretend that my mother is somebody else's mother! - makes it easier to be polite and respectful even when she's driving me up the wall.

Do vent - it really helps. Hugs to you x
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DeeAnn nursing home staff get to go home at end of shift and get on with their lives, have days off and vacations. For the 24/7/365 caregiver there is no escape.
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Anybody heard from StandingAlone (Barbara)? I understand her Mom passed but she usually pipes in from time to time..
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Maure, it always seem that when one thing goes down, other stuff will follow. Ask LadeeM. You know how they say that terrible things happen in threes? I think LadeeM went past the 3. I remember one year - our fridge, the oven and the washer all broke down in the same year. Or was it the fridge, the washer and the $800 plumbing cost for our shower's leak? Hate it when that happens.

Hi DeeAnn, Welcome to AC (agingcare). All the above is true. When you're at work, the clients don't have the deep emotional strings that you have with family. You're able to be detached or objective - understanding that it's the disease. But when it comes to family, we keep forgetting that, and still expect them to behave lik e their normal selves. We're strongly encouraged to Detach and set Boundaries.

For any of you have Amazon kindles, I just noticed today when I was playing my musics, that the songs now have captions? You can sing along while the song is playing. As I was marveling over this, it finally registered to me the words on the song Brave by Sara Baraeilles.
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By the way, LadeeM, did you finally unclog the drain? Did you use the snake, the vinegar and baking powder (?) or the plumber?
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StandingAlone is doing well. I will get in touch with her and tell her she is missed.
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Ashlynne that is what DeeAnn is finding out now that she is caring for her mother ***as well*** - heaven help the poor girl!
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Just read an interesting story concerning Hospice in the Huffington Post. It would be worth a read for anyone considering hospice.As with anything, it's buyer beware. There will always be horrors stories with anything. I was just afraid after reading it ,it would scare some people off of hospice.Hospice has now become big business. Again,anyone considering it,do your homework,ask questions. I used hospice for my dad and it was great. Most are.But there are always the rotten apples in any barrel.Hospice can be a wonderful thing but you must educate yourself on what it is.Just please don't let this article scare you away from using hospice.
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Thanks Glad!
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I washed all my mother's laundry last night. This morning she was in the bathroom changing her pj's for the 4th time since I finished the laundry. I asked her what she was doing. She told me the pants aren't wet but she's had them on for over 2 days now and she thought it was time to change them. Oh.... alright.... and I went in her room and got her another pair of pants. Then I just washed a load of towels and the 4 pairs of pjs she wore in less than 12 hours. I suppose it is better than going 2 weeks without changing or showering. I don't miss those days at all. I would rather do the extra laundry. I was proud of myself for not trying to explain to her she didn't need to change her clothes.

It is going to be 95° here today. What is it like in your neck of the woods?
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Tex thank you for bringing up the hospice industry. It is indeed buyer beware when you are dealing with a for profit hospice they are in the business of making money and pay their executive huge bonuses. What you need is asmaller not for profit hospice where the sraff are all there for the right reasons. Definitely ask a lot of questions.
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I'm watching my back!
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What did you do now Assa??
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Funny Shilo8.. I agree with doing more laundry vs arguing about shower..
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Shilo, if they have only been on a few hours or less and they are not dirty, just refold them and put them away. I used to do this with teenage daughter back in the day...lol
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Pamme.... congratulations on being tumor free for two years now... what a horrendous experience you had... lots of prayers for continued good health....

I have been absent for a few days, but reading... have had a sinus headache, the kind that makes you puke. and still had to work..... so now I have my time off and can get caught up....

No Book, still a little standing water in the sink.... but didn't feel like plunging gunk !!! slept all day first day off so will get to it tomorrow... and ya, when it rain it pours....... one thing after the other....

MrM had a fall in the bathroom last night.... bumped his head..... no injury, scared him more than anything..... and it totally pisses him off that I am able to lift him off the floor.... don't know why it makes him so angry...... he is really hanging on to his 'manhood' lately.... he is 94 and all he talks about is the Army.... he was never in combat, but to hear him tell it... he saved 'Murica !!!! And Cujo was at her worst last night until I snapped back at her...... sorry folks, I don't get paid enough for verbal abuse...... she always mellows out ... so it was all good..

My body was screaming by the time I left... felt like I was walking like the TinMan.... forgot my meds at home..... looooooong night..... more later when I have a working brain cell.... hugs and love.
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Maure - Yes, keep your hopes up. I use something when I get real down. The "footprints in the sand". When I read that I know that God is there me and is carrying me through the darkest times. Please take care of YOU!!!!
Deeann - Our mothers know how to push our buttons. I know mine did. Taking care people you have had no prior relationship with is totally different. It is easier to detach. This website is the best thing in the world. Please keep coming back. Take care of YOU!!!!.
Hi everyone - I had busy day. I went to a job fair and applied for a job. We had to take a math test. With NO CALCULATER!!! Lots of percentages. I got 10 out of 16. The interview went well. I feel very hopeful but I am trying not to get to excited. Looking for a job is very time consuming. Looking on line is hard. Then there are the cover letters and resume to send. I also found out that some of these places give out your information to other websites. I have been deleting all kinds of emails. Jeez!!! A lot of jobsites out there.
Still doing dishes in the bathroom sink but now I have it down to a science. I am so lucky there are two bathrooms. One is for washing the dishes and the other is for washing me. LOL I have not had to talk to bro in a couple of days. The last time he called I took my time calling him back. Of course, he asked me what I was doing all that time. I told him that I was busy washing dishes in the bathroom sink and looking for a job. LOL He was quiet after that. Yea for me. Well, anyway you all please take care of YOU!!!!
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June 30th can't come fast enough....
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assande - I must have missed something. What happens on June 30th.
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Well folks , there might be some fireworks at the housetoday. Took mother's dogs to the groomers and this time I am having them cut the way I think they should be. It's a yorkie and a shih-Tzu. She can't or won't brush them, their hair is to long for this heat and they both love being outside. I live on like a minifarm and the things that yorkie can get into, oh god. I know they weren't bred to be outside dogs but they just love being outside with my dogs. The shih-Tzu has skin problems and it is hard for me to doctor him with all that thick hair. She will just have to be upset. I am not letting those little dogs suffer because she has some unrealistic idea of how they should look. They are not show dogs nor or they breeding stock, both are spayed and neutered.I pick up after them, I am the one that takes them to the vet. All she does is pet them sometimes and throw dog food on the floor for them.Good thing I am going to my therapist this afternoon because I should be picking the dogs up and bringing them home before I leave.I don't care, I am not letting her let these dogs be miserable in this heat. It's hard to clean stuff out of their hair for me after they have been outside and she certainly isn't going to do it. So god forgive me, I did it my way.Will update on how much trouble I am in when she sees them. Wish me luck.
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Good for you Texarkana! And you might try giving the dogs coconut oil, it seems to help their skin...
Good luck!
Christine
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I was presented with a proposal today that has my head spinning.....no, not THAT kind of proposal.... that would be an immediate NO F'n WAY...... this one is awesome....
Years ago I had the blessing of being able to mentor a young woman that had more tragedy in her life than most anyone has in a lifetime... She was a ballerina for the New York City Ballet.... while she was there her mother was killed by a boyfriend and he then killed himself...... a few years later her sister was murdered..... and this woman amazes me....... certainly puts my little whines into prospective.....

The proposal.... her husband and she are getting a place in Montana..... and she wants me to come there and live...... and 'be taken care of'........ wowwww !!! How do I even put words on this.....we have a very deep connection and what a blessing this would be for me...... if it is meant to be, it will happen.... I would even leave my beloved Texas for this.....still trying to take it all in...... but wanted to share this with my AC family.... we don't get to share good news often..... and this is better than good news..... I am too cynical and jaded to get my hopes up.... but what a dream come true this would be..... thanks for letting me share..... love ya'll
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LadeeM sounds wonderful!!

I hope that neither one of them are elderly and have dementia! LOL

That's a lot to think about.. My head would be spinning.. Hugs.
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LadeeM - What is with this little "wow"? I mean "WOW"! That is so wonderful to hear! Is there anyway you could work in a visit to see them and their new place? You could get an idea of what it is like there in Montana, etc. Give the idea some real consideration during and after your visit. Oh that is so exciting!
p.s. How is this couple's health now?
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No Assa, they are young... in their 40's.....LOL and yes, a lot to think about.... but I love this young woman and have had the blessing of being a part of her life for many years.... to watch her overcome obstacles that would have put me in the dirt.....for the first time in my life... I would be the one not having to worry or stress about the day to day things..... so who knows what God's plan is..... Even if I had this place to vacation at, it would be awesome...... we'll just have to see what happens.... at least I am not on this journey alone... I have all ya'll to do this with me.... love ya Assa...
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Shilo... they are young..... no health problems.... it would be ME being taken care of..... and no, I completely trust her...... and home has always been where ever I am at the time..... it wouldn't matter to me... but she knows me better than anyone.... and would not put me in a situation that wasn't good....but the way I live now...... in the Grapes of Wrath wagon...... hell, a tent would be a step up... she sent me pics of the view and she knows I love the mountains.... so I wouldn't care..... I trust her completely.....
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UPDATE. Got the dogs back from the groomer and to me they looked great. I couldn't believe it,my mom didn't fuss at all, now I really think something is wrong with her.
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Ladee, wonderful, maybe you will see me there! I have been thinking about Montana or Wyoming for awhile now, far away from the maddening crowd!
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