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Book I get crazy itching like that on the front of my left thigh...after I walk a lot ...dr said that it's a nerve and had a very specific name for it...says it gets pinched in the groin area...it's like it itches from the inside and no amount of scratching helps...Tex thanks for the comments on the diabetes...I average an A1C of 6.5...I've never had extreme highs or lows...180 in the hospital after surgery and they were shooting glucose into my iv...didn't much like getting insulin shots in the stomach where I'd just been cut...the lowest I've tested was 87 or 89...I called my diabetes advice nurse when it went up instead of down and she didn't know why that would happen either...I take oral meds regularly and the only time I've ever had insulin was in the hospital...I have been trying to eat at more regular times now...when I was taking care of MIL, I was so busy trying to keep up with her schedule I didn't pay that much attention to mine...I really am trying to do better, with diet and exercise.
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CM - I got the same itchiness like Reddog. On the Upper thighs. And yes, it's on the front of Both of my legs. I can't describe how that itches so badly and no matter how hard you scratch (until you bleed), it does Not relieve the itchiness.

Veronica and all, thanks for the feedback. I've copied/pasted it. Too many things to bring up to my doc. I'm beginning to feel such a hypochondriac. I think my neck is more important. So, I will only discuss that first with him - in September. Anyway, Veronica, when I mentioned the itchiness to my doc, he brushed it off and said it Was Normal. Something to do with sweat and heat. I'll just google and research on it online and find a happy medium.

FYI, I would never have thought it as being related to my nerves. All this time, I thought I was allergic to exercising. =)
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If anyone checking in here remembers Rossella Messina, her mom passed away two days ago.... one of the absolute sweetest and kindest posters we've ever had on this site.... shes on FB, if you are too, send her a message..... it was very sudden. thanks
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Before my time, LadeeM; but I just wanted to say how kind of you to remember her to everyone.
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Book sorry to disappoint you but you are not allergic to exercising so find another excuse. Oh and I forgot to mention wear pure cotton underwear for your 'other' problem. The itching is like the phantom pain amputees get. The itching on your legs that is!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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LadeeM, I don't recall or remember her. I will find her avatar and send her a Hug of condolence. Unfortunately (or fortunately) with the new format of this site, it's harder now to find what that person said by looking at their past comments. The old system would have their last comment and the date. Now, one has to click on each comment to find what you're looking for. And even that is not complete.
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S I have a question I hope someone can shed some light on. My dad is in end stage COPD and a week and half ago he was having trouble walking as his knees and ankles were so swollen and painful. He is on Hospice and when our nurse came he said maybe it's time to put dad on low dose morphine. We started 20mg liquid morphine 2 days after that but dad was so weak and in pain that he spent 8 days in bed mostly. He was having trouble controlling his urine and had gone on the floor several times that week. He looked pale and his feet were purple. Then when the Hospice nurse came back dad was still laid up in bed an he suggested prednisone and a time release morphine pill, 15 mg 2x daily. Dad started that regimen on Thursday and by Saturday he was up, bathed and looking almost normal except for being quite pale yellow. Some family members came by on sunday and dad was playing his "air" drums and looking like all was good with him. That was last Sunday. This week he has been drinking mostly whisky & pepsi, starting around 10am, but hardly any water or green tea and his appetite comes & goes. He has also been acting like he's getting better, sometimes dancing around when he walks from room to room, makes some crazy jokes and is always wanting to go somewhere every day. He did have a dream the other night that scared him bad enough that he turned all the lights on and told me he almost called 911. He said he realized it wasn't real and calmed himself down. When he does take his 02 off (he's on it 24/7-@4L) for 5-10 minutes his levels drop to 82-85. I know he is only getting enough 02 due to the machine as his lungs are fairly shot. Does this activity he's doing mean signs that he is having that "burst" so many talk about or is it just from the prednisone and morphine tablets making him feel more "alive"? Hospice says he has weeks to months and I wonder if this is his way of trying to have good time before its over. He kinda worries me but I take it all in consideration due to his health. His feet are still swollen despite a Lasix every day and they are still purple yet he says his knees feel better though his right one looks swollen still. I worry but I am also prepared for what's to come as I have seen him go from good to this in the past few years. Any info would be appreciated. Thank you all for being there for me.
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Book, Rossella has not been on AC in years..... I think she left before you started posting.... what I will do tho, is let her know her AC family send their condolences......I know she would like that....
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Dadshelper, I'm not familiar at all about COPD.
LadeeM - thanks. That will do just fine.
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DH13, just to chip in a couple of cautious points: prednisone is a steroid, which will have had a lot of symptom-relieving effects and made him feel like a spring lamb for the time being. And Lasix… you might like to ask if he could be tried on a newer diuretic? My mother was switched last year from Furosemide to Bumetanide and it worked a treat; but I'm only mentioning this, not recommending it - your doctor may have very good reasons for not wanting to change. Best of luck.
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I know. I'm not suppose to be watching this show... But, I'm watching Sex Sent Me to the ER. I kept laughing and laughing. One man came to the ER with a long lasting erection. The doc asked him if he took anything for it to become like that. The man said no. Of course the doctor cannot tell him that he doesn't believe him. That he's lying. So, the doctor told him very calmly that he didn't want to scare him but... a prolonged erection can cause severe tissue damage. Severe tissue damage means they have to amputate the p*nis. The man's blood pressure monitor rose swiftly to 181. The man was quick to tell the truth. He took several viagara just so that he can do it with his business partner's teenage daughter. Karma!
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LOL..... Karma indeed......
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KARMA, what is wrong with people?! Several? So he can performfor someone he shouldn't even think about?!

I never watch reality shows, making money off of people's stupidity!
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But, Glad, I've learned sooooo much from this show! =)

1. Never use tiny sex toys on Either body orifice - and I'm not talking about any orifices in the head. Do you know how many people go to the ER because their body's muscle automatically contracts and this movement Pushes the object IN or Up into their body?

2. You know in the movies, the love scene, where the woman is on top? They never ever show you the dangers of doing that. Don't they? Guess what? This can cause damage to the guy's manhood when the woman comes down the 'wrong' way. I know it wasn't funny, but I had to laugh on that. It seems, the guy didn't know that either!

It's 1130pm. Dad just woke up. He's confused and is getting mad because I haven't changed his pamper. I just finished changing it at 10pm. He doesn't remember is muttering angrily, "already!"
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My last post for the day. Just past midnight and must go to bed.

Is this a coincidence? I'm really really hoping it is. For the past couple of nights, late at night, like now, whenever I go to the kitchen (make sure all power outlets are off, wash any dishes in sink, or refill dad's 2 water jars), I get this really sharp pain on my left upper chest. At first, I kept thinking it's acid reflux. The longer I stayed in the kitchen, the worse the pain became. Then, the next 2 nights, I thought, 'Darn! This is because I'm not taking the Lipitor as I should!" So, I take the Lipitor the next day. Tonight, I forgot to take it. Really, I forgot because I spent hours reconciling the accounts.

Tonight, just now, I walked into the kitchen to do the nightly rituals, and the pain shot up. It was a steady increasing pain. I'm getting worried about the pain - acid reflux? not taking the Lipitor? I walked to the fridge, refill dad's jar, closed the fridge and slammed my left foot. That Never happened before. Pain so bad, I was limping. Then I went to the sink, washing the dishes, and something fell on the floor a few feet behind me. I didn't look right away since I KNOW that there's no one behind me. I finally finished the dishes, chest pain bad, and walked to see what fell. A 6-pack Nutrient drink fell to the floor. I stood there and stared at it. I did not pick it up. I just calmly turned and walked back into the livingroom. The minute I passed the kitchen door into the livingroom, locked it, my chest pain quickly started abating. I am now typing here, and no more chest pains. I can take a deep breath, and no pain at all.

Something bad is in our kitchen. It is Not nice. Did it follow me when I walked into their territory that night, and I Yelled into the night? Ugh!!! As long as it hasn't cursed me, I'm fine. Because I cannot, will not - go out in midnight, back to that spot and Apologize to it! It goes against my spiritual faith to Jesus and God.

Sigh... tonight, I will go back to praying to God. Ask for forgiveness for being a stubborn Reluctant follower. And ask for His protection. Because I truly cannot ask for forgiveness as is the local custom to that spirit. It's just soooo wrong to do that. Really wrong. Night all...
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TMI, so you don't have to look it up on the GOAT thread, too much information. I would take Golden Girls any day, even Andy Griffith!
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Book this is not directly related to the lipitor but it is of concern because that kind of pain can be a warning of an impending heart attack. Try experiementing with stepping into the kitchen to test the pain. If it comes step out immediately and see if it goes. Try this several times and see what happens. If the pain persists more than five minutes when you are out of the kitchen you need to be checked in the ER. many women wait far too long before getting help and die. The subconscious is a very powerful thing and strongly implanted in your mind is the fact that the spirits are mad at you.and inflicting punishment.
As far as your church forbidding you to watch certain TV shows and you clearly break this rule and others, maybe it is time for you to leave that church and find another faith where you agree with their principles. God is God and if you believe in Him and pray to Him then the rules of a certain religion are of little consequence. If you are genuinely fearful of being excomunicated then leave of your own free will or follow the rules, there is no middle ground. When you break a civil law knowing that you are in the wrong there is a punishment. if you are caught speeding you have to pay the fine or face worse conseguences. This is the case with any other organization be it a church or a home owners association. all members are expected to follow certain standards.
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I left this same church Book belongs to.... on my own.... I am still alive, still well, still loving, still compassionate, still very ok.... more ok that I was with them.....nothing bad happened.....I no longer felt like a hypocrite, no longer felt that fear of 'punishment'..... it served it's purpose at one point in my life, then it no longer fit..... I requested a disfellowship.... did not explain to the elders.... I had to learn about a loving and caring God.... and I am not paying 'consequences' for leaving that church...... something to think about....love ya Book...
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LadeeM I don't think it is the church punishing Book at this point although she has that fear.It is the bad spirits of the night that have followed her into her kitchen giving her the chest pain.
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Ya I know, but her and I have had talks about the church before... she knows what I am sharing with her about..... and the spirits go after her because she is vulnerable.... sorry Book, don't mean to talk about you like you aren't here.... love you girl.....you know what to do and will do it in regard to the spirits....
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LadeeM I know little about the 'church' except what I read in the press and hearsay. I am an Anglo-Saxon Protestant. Maybe you can enlighten me sometime. I do not usually answer the door when that pair of clean cut polite young men call
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I'll email you Ms.V.....

I have a question for everyone....and please be honest..

In some random accident yesterday, I hurt my back...can't sit for any length of time... or stand and can barely walk... have been treating it with Theragisic and taking hydrocodone..... I am in pain... a lot of pain....
I called the daughter to tell her I can't come in tonight, and told her why...keep in mind I have worked here for over six months....never late. always work my full 12 hour shift, have worked extra when she has called me.

She got so angry.... I already am feeling guilty because I know it was her weekend with them....asked me if I had called the girl that works on Fri. nights, told her yes, but no reply yet.... she asked if I would call her again... by this time I am getting angry myself.... not my damned job to get someone to fill in.... something I have ASKED FOR since I started working there....told her no, I haven't.....
I get it that she is tired, but she loves playing the martyr when it makes her look good.... so my question is... those of you who have hired help... would you have taken one second to reassure the paid caregiver it wasn't her you were upset with..... ya know, the hard to find, dedicated, experienced caregiver that you are barely paying above minimum wage??????

I have never called in sick before..... I do my job... ect.... and yes, If I wasn't feeling bad myself I wouldn't have taken it personal.....but I did..... I have told ya'll a million times, the reason I am so burned out is not because of my clients, but the damned families.....
I would appreciate honest feedback... and keep in mind I gave her plenty of time to find someone else..... it's not like I called ten minutes before I was due at work....she is off for the whole summer... It's not like she has to work tomorrow......and it's NOT my family !!!!!

As you can see, I am pissed.... but ya know what.... I'm taking the damned night off because I am in PAIN....no job is worth causing even more damage to an already messed up back from being LOYAL !!!!
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Watch NBC Nightly News tonight on the underreporting of Alzheimer's deaths on death certificates. The immediate cause is what is normally listed. Pushing for more information on death certificates in order to increase research funding for Alzheimer's.
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ladeeM see if you can lay in bed with a pillow under your knees to take some pressure off your lower back. Gentle stretching may help too.
When I joined my gym last fall I specifically asked the trainer to give me weight lifting exercises as I knew I was going to assist my parents and didn't want to injure my back. Now that mom has died and dad in assisted living I can go back to the gym and start again ( and keep on working on those core muscles).
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Oh ladeeM poor you. I know that back is an ongoing problem and is probably going to need a few days in bed to rest it. Do you have acess to ice? can your grandaughter beg some for you.
In your shoes you are quite right to be pissed. It is not as though you wanted the night off to go out on the town. You are sick, injured, whatever you hurt she is responsible for her parents welfare not you. she should have plans for such an emergency. She is going to have to suck it up tonight and get someone from an agency tomorrow because you WON'T be back till next Sunday at the earliest. a pillow under the knees is a good idea as long as you are moving those legs the last thing we want to hear is a DVT. I'd pop over and give you some TLC but you will be better before I can drive there, probably take me three days.
This is my honest feed back you are right and your current employer has just lost your loyalty. Now rest and take your hydrocodone and don't forget some senna with that. You know what Tex did to herself. Don't fall asleep with a ciggy in your hand - don't want to BBQ the cat. You will get through this you always do. Trouble is no one appreciates the good ones. Hugs and love your way old friend and one of those huge chocolate bunnys.
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Countrymouse, thank you for your comment and I know prednisone is steroid...its to help with his breathing which at this point there is no helping it. The only thing keeping him breathing is the 4L of 02 he wears 24/7 and that isn't considered "artificial" means of support so he can be on it for months and his health will still dwindle at a fast rate but be held in "limbo" due to 02 use. We do have a DNR in effect since May of this year so that helps when the going will get tougher. I just don't like seeing him with this memory loss, the not remembering how to do simple things and such. He thinks he's fine but his voice is gone, he forgets what we do or talk about within minutes and asks me the same thing every 1/2 hour because he isn't sure if he thought it or said it. I say put down the whiskey with the morphine and maybe?? Doubtful. Hospice says let him be "comfortable" and "do what he wants". Understandable. The Lasix helps the Atrial Fibralation so the other diuretic may not be as helpful. Just a matter of time as to which organ goes first, the heart or lungs. He loses too much 02 w/o his oxygen for even 10 minutes so that puts a strain on his heart. So, basically it's a crapshoot as to when it happens and what goes first. Either way, I'm prepared for both...
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Thanks Ms. V, ya, she will have to suck it up..... and she will be told to not take it out on me....I don't play this, yes ma'm stuff anymore..... she needs me, I don't need her......I have been in caregiving in one form or another for the past 17 years.... it's not like I am clueless or a fool..... yep, loyalty be damned... figure it out.....

And i'll hold off on getting like Tex with the pain meds..... I'm not a nurse, so I know better !!! See Tex, I told you nurses were the worst patients... my best friend down home is a nurse...it amazes me the things she would do and have a fit if a patient did the same thing.....

Granddaughter has left already... she let me know she didn't like my job, we hardly got to see each other..... but had fun what time I did get to spend with her.... has lightened my mood considerably.....

Already doing the pillow under the legs.... and just trying to rest as much as I can..... already have major back problems and just the way I bent down and stood back up, threw something into limbo..... just one of those random things that our bodies do to let us know... ENOUGH ALREADY, take a break.....

And wish I did have some chocolate...... ya know. lady of leisure, laying in bed eating bon bons....... pfttttttt !!!!!
Hugs to you all..... going back to bed.....
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Lunchtime. LadeeM, when I had hired the caregiver, I hated it when she would tell me last minute that she had a workshop that Saturday - calling me Friday night! I had to frantically call around relatives to see who had No plans for Saturday. But her case was different. It was a Workshop. This is all planned ahead of time by her work. She could have told me way ahead of time.

There were times, when she called me on Saturday morning, to tell me that she couldn't make it. But, she had found someone to cover for her. I hated this too, because this was accepting a total stranger last minute - into our home.

Did I expect her to find a replacement for her when she couldn't make it? No. But I did want her to tell me the earliest possible if she could not - and not call me on the day she was suppose to show up.
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I see what you are saying Book, and guess I didn't call her yesterday when it happened , thinking it would get better.... but she doesn't work in the summer.... it's not like she would have to do a night shift and go to work.....but, I have also suggested, time and again, to have a back up.... that part is not my responsibility....... if people are going to hire someone and expect us to be professional at all times under all circumstances.... then run it like a business, and have a contingency plan in place....where we must always stay professional, the family can act any way they choose.... that's BS !!!! If I got killed in a car wreck, she would have to figure it out !!!! I'm not mad at you Book, I'm mad at her..... like I said , she loves being the martyr when it suits her..... but apparently I didn't read the rule book !!! lol love ya Book !!!
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Ladee, she should have a back up plan. When caring for folks I think there should be at least Plan A through Plan D. She should have an agency on retainer for when these things happen and they will. And she could do it herself it doesn't happen that often. But she is hard enough to deal with, what if she didn't get her beauty sleep?
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