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Glad, since it's going to take a while for the kindle to recharge, I've been googling on the best antivirus app for it. Have you downloaded an anitvirus for your tablet? Since I read AC on the Kindle, I want to protect it from any virus from this site. I rarely go to my email when using the kindle. But I want to protect the kindle just in case of a cyberbug.
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I don't have antivirus on my tablet. There is a free 30 day trial of Norton that I can activate. I was told by someone that because of tablet operating systems that they are just not as susceptible to viruses and such. I have no idea if that is true. May have to research on my laptop if I ever feel like getting out of bed this morning going on 7 here.
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Same here - too much conflicting answers. I would prefer to find a compatible antivirus. You know how hackers will find this as a challenge. Sooner or later, they will find a way to send a virus. Only 11;15pm and I'm really tired. Hair's wet and I don't think I can stay awake until it dries. I will get the kindle and sit in front of the fan to blow dry my hair. Night!
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While driving home from the hospital tonight some wonderful Baltimoron dropped a chunk of concrete off an overpass onto my truck. Luckily we were all ok, but when we called it in it took the cops quite awhile to get to us.. but they had choppers in the air in 10 minutes! Seems they hit a cop car a day ago and he totaled the cruiser. So now I know this is aggrivated assualt. four cop cars.. three little white gals in a parking lot.. bet the locals were wondering! I love spending my days trying to save the locals lives while they try to take ours... I know the majority are not like this.. but I am a bit miffed
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Wo, Pam. That was awful. I am so glad you are okay. Hugs, hugs, and more hugs. I don't know what some people are thinking. Just mean beyond belief and unable to see past their noses when it comes to others.
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I hope the book they throw at them is as hard as the concrete they dropped on you.
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Unbelievable, Pam! Glad everyone is OK. I would be miffed as well. They arrested three little white girls? How old were they? Just out looking for fun on Labor Day? What is wrong with people?!
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Opps.. we were the three white gals!!! Looked like they were arresting us due to the helicopters and cop cars!! In that part of the Hood we were a definate minority...LOL.. and we are all short or thin...They will never catch the people who did this.. too many people in one area and they run like rats. It;s a big drug/violence area in Baltimore.
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LOL! When we are in the midst of something like this it is very difficult to get our thoughts to paper or I guess discussion thread in this case.
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Pam, so glad you're ok! That is one of the worst pranks known to man - people can get killed. I can't believe kids think this is "funny".
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And I forget not everyone is familur with Baltimore.. it's like the Detroit of the east coast... Part of my drive home is through one of the worst areas.
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scary! good to know no injuries to anyone in truck.
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Pam - I am glad that you are okay too. I'll bet that you will not be getting on that freeway any time soon. You are very lucky. Take care of YOU!!!!
Glad - hi there I have not been on the site lately because I really don't have anything to write about. Take care of YOU!!!
Book - Good to see you too. I have never heard of anti-virus for a tablet before. Mine runs so slow sometimes. Take care of YOU!!!
Hi everyone - Well, I feel like I have dropped of the face of the earth. Everything is still the same - no job yet but very hopeful about a couple of them. The economy here is still in the toilet. I am thinking of coloring my hair because it is now white. I used to be pre-maturely grey but now I am pre-maturely white haired. I have however gotten the senior discount at most fast food restaurants. LOL Well, you all take care of yourselves.
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Lav you are fortunate to have nothing to write about! This was the day from he!! Internet down so on m y smart phone. Comcast upgraded service but neglected to tell us we would need new modem. Everything had been moving slower than old dial up. You would think they would send out new modems to those that need them. But then we would uld hear about good customer service at comcast notbin this life
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Feeling relieved...finished the love seat for out daughter that I had stripped out just before I fell and dislocated my shoulder...have been stressing about not being able to remember how it went back together...with husbands help turning the thing and stuffing the cushions in the covers to make sure I didn't hurt myself again we made it happen...glad it's over...mental note to self to not volunteer for any more projects till I'm back to normal...hugs to all...I am getting better with more range of motion every day...
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Behind in my email ....Daily quotes... I like this one. This is someone who sees you in your grouchy mood, home clothes, no make up, and temperament - and still likes you. That is a true friend.

To be fully seen by somebody, and then loved anyhow - that is a human offering that can border on miraculous.... by Elizabeth Gilbert.
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Our monthly caregiving meeting will be Adult Nutrition. Unfortunately, I work that day. Last month's caregiving meeting was legal considerations - which I also worked on that day.
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Book could you suggest these groups meet in the evenings or on weekends or have two groups so that employed caregivers can attend or maybe issue news letters to all the members so you can get information-we are trying to get our caregivers support group started again -a friend and I are former caregivers but are able to help those in the thick of things-I will always remember how invisible I felt as a caregiver .
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So does anyone know if chronic constipation is part of the "process" with our elderly? My Dad has been constipated off & on for several months and we have tired everything! Just this week he has had laxatives (6), Miralax every am, milk of mag every evening, an enema once and stool softeners every day, and he still is constipated though he says he doesn't feel like he is. He barely eats, choosing potato chips over most foods and pepsi w/whiskey as his drink of choice. The water he gets with the miralax is the only water he drinks. He has been more confused the past month or so and sits around staring blankly into space. I try to get him to talk to me about what he's thinking/feeling, but he's a man and keeps a lot to himself. I get that, but its the watching him sink lower into weakness, confusion and just looking tired all the time, I am thinking his time left is days to weeks instead of weeks to months now. Sometimes I wonder if God doesn't want us to suffer, why does he wait so long for someone? Can't he say "you've suffered enough & it's time?".......
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DH13,
I have no idea, my mom is chronic the other way. Have our tried good old fashioned prune juice? Would he drink it? It would be a way to get him a bit of nutrition and hydrate a bit. Does Dad have dementia? I imagine it is possible that the brain is not processing the signals correctly and the body may be slowing down.
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DH, is he on any pain meds? Those are notorious for causing constipation.
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I have noticed with mom and dad. If they don't eat much, they don't poop much. For my dad, when he was constipated, and hurting so much because it wouldn't come out, the nurse told him that he needs to drink more water. And the doctor prescribed stool softener.

I tend to have constipation. I can go for days without drinking water or any fluid - other than that first cup of ice coffee in the morning. That would be my only fluid for the day. I'd eat lunch/dinner and not drink anything at all. So, I make sure to drink at least a 16oz water per day and a handful (more) of walnuts and sliced almonds. If I'm beginning to slow down, I go to Wendys and order their chili. This guaranty that I empty most of it the next morning. If I really want to empty myself, I then order the potato with chili, broccoli and cheese on it. I eat it for dinner. And the next morning, just when I think I'm done, stand up, oops... still more coming out... sit...think I'm done, stand up...oops... more coming out... you get the picture. It's as if by standing up, it makes the bowel easier to flow down and out!

But I've heard that prune juice is good. Eating ripe papaya also is good. Eat too much ripe mango can also make you go.
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Book, interesting.

In my Mom's case a peach will go right through her as will too many sweet cherries. But this is not the problem we have, and do not want! DH I sure wouldn't hesitate to experiment with different fruits to see if something will work.
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DH, just read somewhere else that you Dad is on morphine. I don't have experience with morphine at all. But the percocets and similar will cause constipation.
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11 months.
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Monday, I hope you are doing better. I think of you often.
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Glad, I don't care to eat mango. However, when my family overeats it (we have 4 trees in our yard), they say it gives them diarrhea. As for the ripe papaya, that's been handed down from our elders (parents, uncles, aunts, grandparents, etc...) My father prefers prune juice for his problem. And milk.
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thank everyone for your help with Dads constipation. He is on pain meds and other meds that tend to constipate. He isn't a big water drinker nor fruit eater so that is "fruitless" (LOL!). He takes a lot of forms of laxatives and sometimes he does go a little, which helps, but nothing substantial as he doesn't eat enough. His main diet is chips & French bread. Sometimes I can get him to eat but it is few & far between. At the point now that if he's in pain then we can do enemas, otherwise, I can't fret about it as his memory is so bad that he could "think" he went but that could've been weeks ago. His short term memory is caput....he only remembers what he is still able to do and anything else, well, it's not anything he can recall. He is living in the past, the far back past, before kids & wife & family. He talks about his days in the Navy (back in the 40's) and his jobs he had. that's his focus these days. Boring for me as I heard all these stories growing up! So, basically I am just here keeping him comfortable and waiting for the time when he needs to go "home". Not much else to do at this point. I do know that I hope when I am older I do not have serious illness. I won't let my kids care for me 24/7.....thankless job really and it changes your perspective towards your parents. Babies are easy compared to caregiving and I raised twins by myself! Just praying he goes quickly & quietly, no pain or suffering. All I can do at this point in time.......
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Dad'sHelper...you are at the point that many of us on this site have had to face...you can't make it better...all you can do is try to keep them comfortable...none of us want our kids to take care of us under the same circumstances but I guess the blessing is that when we get to that point we probably won't know it any more than they do now...I held my mother, brother , mother n law, husbands aunt and a couple of friends while they took their last breath and slipped from this world...it's never easy, but we do it because we care...hang in there...hugs!
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Fave niece and I were talking yesterday. As I mentioned last year when mom died and they had the Mass of Intentions at the church, my siblings were shocked when people were praising how my oldest-bro-of-next-door took good care of mom. This is the brother who helps everyone except us - even before dad had his stroke.
He rarely came to the house to help us. My niece was telling me that my 2 brothers in the states, they now put a photo of me in their facebooks and tell everyone that I'm the one who took care of mom. And that I'm now taking care of dad. They are making sure that everyone knows the truth. I didn't know this. I had tears in my eyes when my niece was telling me this.

If we needed plumbing or electrical work, I always ask bro-of-next-door first. When he turns me down, I then have to use the yellow pages to find someone. Most times, they rip us off. I even thought I had a great deal by paying the plumber to fix our shower for $800.00. The guy from the home care store was shocked at the amount, asked what was done, and I could tell from his face that I - again - was ripped off. I had asked my brother several times to please ask his adult son to be here to keep an eye. Nope, never happens. So.....

I used dad's money to buy 2 screen doors totaling $600. Bro decides he can install it. He installed the first one $350 - and today, I finally locked it. And... I cannot unlock it. The lock is stuck. The door is now permanently locked. Unhinge it? Cannot because it's a Security Door which you cannot take the hinge off. Even if you break the screen, the door is still going to be stuck on the doorway. Sigh... all well, atleast we can open the door and have the breeze come in the house.

Oldest bro decided to 'fix' the sliding door. He made it worse. Now, when I open the door, there's no resistance, and it slams really hard to the left or right. OMG!!!! I told sis that we need to hire a professional to replace the whole sliding door. Not bro.

I was watching my brother do the security screen door. He's about 53 years old. And he was forgetting a lot of things on the repairs. I could see he was struggling. He used to be really really good at it. Now that he's getting older, he's forgetting. I felt so bad for him. He's a mean person. I wonder which of his kids would help him? He already said that I would be caregiving him. I don't think so. All these years I asked him over and over for help - and He Did Not Help. Karma....Karma is coming to him....

Time to change dad's pamper.
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