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Pam, Ladee, Linda - sounds like you all are having a good day today. I hope it continues.

Car service man called. Car problem is the coils - which they (the dealership) don't have on stock - being that my car is 7 years old. They will need to order it - which will take 15 days to get here. I can't rent a car for 21 days - that's going to be about $1400.00. And we haven't even touched the car repair cost. I called fave sis and asked if I can borrow fave niece car - and niece can drive her stepfather's manly pick up truck. (I call it 'manly' because it's a Man's man pick-up. Big bulky and loud muffler sound.) Unfortunately, her hubby's son's car is down, and he's using his father's manly truck. So, now I don't know.... Sis says we can do it - her and her daughter will just have to coordinate their schedule using sis' car between them. I told sis that if I use the daughter's car - please let the insurance know. I don't want to get into an accident, and the insurance will use
the excuse that they won't cover the accident since my name is not one of the designated driver's in the insurance paper.
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Pam my mom went through a Moscow Mule rage geez, in the late 60's probably. In my unpacking I have found one Moscow Mule copper mug, will find more as I continue I hope.
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Well the MM rage is back with a vengence here! I don;t have the copper mugs.. I refuse to pay for them when I'll only use them once in awhile (yes I am cheap!).
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It is very nice to find them, and not have to pay for them!
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Whats MM rage? Just wondering
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Today was an amazing day. Its been 3 weeks since mim moved into the Adult Family Care Home. Today while i was visiting she said " I want to live here, its for the best, its just to hard for you and your sister now". I almost fell off the couch. She likes it! I am so happy, its such a nice place, amazing care and 5 minutes from both of us. This is such a relief, I just had to share.
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Sorry should have read previous post moscow mule now i know. Im not a drinker so oops!
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How wonderful RA that the move appears to be so easy!
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Hi, all. Thought I'd pop on by and say hi and give an update. Life has quieted a bit. Still working on the final details of my dad's estate. Geeeez, even when he did everything he could to make the details easy ... they're NOT. They're just a royal PITA.

And things kinda drag along, while I'm doing my cancer treatments. Mostly, I find myself tired all the time. But the good news is, we're seeing improvements. Whoopie!!

Edna is still hanging in there, though the recurrent UTI's keep rearing their ugly heads. She's declining, slowly. Speech is more slurred, energy really low .. not eating as much. I don't think the end is years away. More like months .. but with Edna, you never know.

Book .. things just keep getting heaped on you, don't they. I applaud your strength and tenacity. Hang in there!!!

Ladee1 .. huge hugs from me and crossing my fingers you find your own angel to replace you. You deserve the break!!

Jude .. right there with you!! I've always contended that if everyone stopped BEing terrified, the terrorists would have no power over us. I don't mean not being afraid. H*ll .. if I had a gun pointed in my face, I'd probably wet my pants, but dammit, I'd stand up in the guy's face and say, "do it, dammit! I'm done with your crap!"

If I don't post before then .. happy turkey day to everyone who celebrates it!!

LadeeC
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Lost my post. I'm not rewriting it...

LadeeC, I'm glad that the treatment you chose is showing signs. Take care of yourself and don't overdo it too much. {{Hugs}}

Car problem is the coil. Parts $700 + shipping + labor = $1000.00!!! Had asked my nephew where I can find generic parts (instead of the Toyota brand). He was NOT helpful. Well, why should I expect him to? This is the nephew whom I threatened to call the cops on - for abusing his girlfriend. In the end, I'm forced to go through the dealership. To help alleviate my car problem while my car's in the shop, I've taken 1 week off starting on Dec. 7. That will give me 3 weeks to worry about a car to go to work....
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LadeeC, good to see you! Happy to read you are seeing improvements!

Book, sorry to see your car problems. Try to enjoy that week off while figuring out the transportation issue. And losing posts seems to be a pattern around here again lately.
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Just a thought/comment on Jude's method of having her mom deal with telepgone solicitors! My new avatar!
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Love the avatar glad made me hoot with laughter - my grandson would be so excited that noone would geta word in, let alone sell him something.

Laden like glad its great to her the positives

Book you'll have to get yourself a motorbike!

Veronica fab to see you see you on the posts again xx

Question for you all. If called upon to state your religion - having seen christian being shot for their faith - would you still stay true or lie? As you all know I am an atheist/agnostic but born Jewish and raised in a Anglican household yet sent to a Baptist church can you expect anything else. If anything I guess it would be Christian if forced to state a religion I have tendencies toward - would I lie? Absolutely not. Would I be scared - absolutely. Would I be terrified? Only if the gun was pointing at my family when they asked me the question ...and then I might lie...no I would lie...I would in fact do anything to keep them safe
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Glad, I love your avatar too...what a hoot!

What an interesting question Jude...I pray with everything in me I would tell the truth...but I'm with you ...if directed at my family....I'm thinking I would lie....I'd love to hear other's thougths on this...

Another beautiful day here. I got out in the yard last night and did some raking, hoping it would help my head...and for a bit it did and then it came back with a vengeance and I finally had to lie face down on the sofa beside Mama because it hurt so much I thought I was going to be sick to my stomach...Finally I had to just go to bed and woke up during the night, wondering how long it would be before someone found me if I expired...I think I'm thinking too much..

Mama definitely looks better since finally handling her "problem"....but she has not returned to me mentally....I miss her voice...I miss her smile....all her vitals are good. She even wakes up and during the course of the day will drink an ensure, sometimes two and also drinks water...I don't force it but she drinks it voraciously...but still not talking.

I am glad her sister is coming today. If anyone can get a response out of her it could be her...I wonder if she won't talk to me because I am the enema lady....Can't say that I blame her there....but wonder if she's angry at me...she looks angry at me.

I got to wake up today knowing all that VA paperwork has been mailed and is off my back and I can't even begin to say how proud I am I got it accomplished even with all that was going on....Not looking favorable to having to ever do it again but if by some miracle I do...I now know more what I needed to keep and what I could have tossed....Not knowing what I needed I made it a lot harder on myself...and even though, at the end of it, I finally discovered a place on the VA Website (who imagined... ) that explains it all...I guess I figured if there was such a place surely the folks in charge of this would have informed me...NOT....good grief...they could make it easier on folks if they just gave you some simple information...that website answers everthing...I found it on my own...looks like they'd tell you because it would make it easier on them too. as they would get accountings done in the correct manner....
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I may have posted this on another thread last night, but my brother texted me last night that my SIL went ahead and had all her hair cut off and she got herself a couple of cute hair pieces....I thought that was pretty awesome...and it shows me that she is going to fight...I just wanted to say I am proud of her...and praying for things to go well for her.......
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Terrible headache - sinus/migraine. Took Excedrin migraine - not working. Decided to take a nap at 11am. Dad kept bugging me to get his nutrient drink for lunch. I finally snapped and told him to be quiet. It's not yet lunchtime and I have a d*mn headache. I want to sleep without interruption.... He finally went silent.

I have several hot/cold packs. I warmed up the largest one in the micro. I keep another one in the freezer. I brought both since I always get confuse which ones to use when having a headache.

Used the heated pack first. I think it was a mistake. I felt my head throbbing more. So, I took that off, and used the frozen gel. Ohhhh myyyyy. THAT helped a lot. But headache was still throbbing. So, I took the cold pack, and put it behind my neck. Ohhhhh... that felt soooo good. I just laid there and felt my body relaxing - from head to toes. Finally fell asleep lightly. Still have my headache but not as bad as before.

I'm now cooking rice. Will make Spam Goulash with can of tomatoes, sliced mushrooms, corn and lots of onions. Lots of water to make it a soup. Maybe I need to have real food in my stomach, too. Headache is trying to get worse. Stress.
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Hope, SIL is being proactive in her cancer. By cutting her hair - SHE is the one making the decision about it. Instead of the cancer treatment - which will make her bald. Rather than dealing with the results of the treatments, she is actively doing what she can about it. I would do the same, too. And since I know that I will be going bald, I would be finding very pretty headbands to wrap around my head.
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Book, rest, take care of you!
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Talk about being proactive and the comment on what you would do if faced with attack, hubby heard some people were let go because they started quoting the Koran. Maybe we should all learn a few passages, my save us someday. Just a thought.
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book sorry your not feeling good today hope it gets better. Happy sil is going to fight, gives her much better odds. Wishing her the best. Feel better soon
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Yes, Book, I am very proud of her...and more hopeful as well. I told my brother I really admired her and felt very positive about her going forward..he does as well. I so want things to work out for them..Funny how aggravated I've been for so long at both of them(justifiably so) but then something horrible like this happens and I realized how I can get past my stuff, I just want her to be ok..and for them to continue a good life together....
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Book..I hope you feel better soon. My migraine hung on most of the week and last night it really hit with a vengeance...At one point I had to lie face down on something cool and get very quiet in the dark and pray for it to pass...I literally felt like I was going to pass out...I let our aid know how to get in the house today if she ever came and she was not able to get in the house....Also the galloping horse sound is back in my left ear....but the headache had left today and the sound has lessened...So I'm hoping you feel better very soon. Take care of yourself...
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Headache went away while I was eating. Now that I'm done eating, it's back.

Glad, the one week off - I will be stuck at home. Staying home gives me a migraine. I really don't look forward to spending the whole Saturday to the next Sunday (total 9 days) 24/7 taking care of dad.
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I am going to consider today as our Thanksgiving Day. Late morning, I saw a car turning into our drive and I didn't immediately recognize it...My brother was driving one of their cars instead of his truck and my SIL was with him!!!!!! After 3 1/2 years, she came....and she looked great! All the hurt and anger and all that has happened in between...it seemed to kind of melt away. It was really good to see her...and see her looking so good. I am hopeful for them. I am glad she came and Mama got to see her again. This may have been what Mama has been waiting on all this time. Who can say...but for today...it felt so good to have my family together again...at last...thank you God!!!!
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Have just caught up reading as I have been AWOL.
Consider this a cautionary tale of if you ignore your cold.
My co worker who I posted about 3weeks ago who was sick is now recovering from surgery Thursday night. Cold turned into pneumonia. Not enough rest and a earned a trip to ER Very dehydrated. Skipped the doc follow up and was not improving. Painful to breath/ lots of coughing. Came to a head last Saturday with another trip to ER and was admitted. Tubes inserted Sunday to drain lungs but surgery done to scrape out lungs as best possible. Only 27 years old. I am not expecting him back at work until January and since I have seniority I have assumed many of his tasks and working many more hours than I really want to.
Tired from all that walking and standing I do not have time to sit and take a break. Thankfully not covering weekends but am looking forward to his return.
So less time to visit Dad who doesn't really seem to notice I try to stop in for just a few minutes when I can.
We were successfully in getting our property taxes lowered on the property we bought in February. Did get my fall yard clean up done. House fairly clean.
Kitties still getting lots of attention as the temps are dropping and they like the warm house.
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Hope it is wonderful that your brotger and SIL stopped in! Remember the feeling. They are going through alot and it is bound to be a roller coaster. Good to hear that SIL is looking good. I hope tge treatments work well for her!
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My dad absolutely refuses to go to the clinic. He doesn't give a d*mn that he needs to see the doctor in order for Medicare to continue to cover his home care visits. I have thrown in the towel. I've told him that if I come home on Tuesday and find out he hasn't gone to the clinic, that I'm seriously thinking of moving out. I refuse to take care of him if he doesn't give a d*mn. I told him his income is not enough to cover his medical costs and his $63/case nutrient drinks that he goes through 2 boxes a week. And then the house bills and his supplies. I cannot handle worrying about HIS expenses along with mine. For my sanity, I need to leave here or else become suicidal. Unfortunately, I'm no longer suicidal. So, that means I need to move out.

Fave niece car - that I was suppose to use for 2 weeks, starting this Tuesday, - is now having problems. I Did tell niece when she picked me up to take me to the auto shop, that her car was shaking. She didn't take me seriously. But, ohhhh, a male friend drives her car, and tells her that there's something wrong with her car - maybe the alternator - and she listens to him. She called me tonight saying that there's something wrong with her car - shaking - and it might be the alternator... Well... I even told her mom this morning that her daughter's car is shaking. And the mom said that they've been having car problems but the kids don't want to do anything about it. Sis says that they just have to learn the hard way on what happens when you ignore car problems.... In my head, I was thinking - yeah, but I will be driving it for these 2 weeks. Now.... I may not even have that car to fall back on.

SIL, also said that they have all these cars in the yard (our yard, not theirs) that needs a part but her kids refuse to spend over $400 to get the part. So, the cars are just sitting there....

Venting here. I just bought a box of 4 40-watt light bulbs. NOT those fluorescent lights that hurts your eyes when reading. It cost me about $13.00-$15.00 to buy it. And within a week, oldest bro of next door asked if he can have 1 bulb. I gave him. Then a day later, he had the nerve to ask for another one. This time, I complained that it cost me $15.00! He didn't get the hint by splitting the cost per bulb. (He likes FREE stuff) I gave him another one. Tonight, they had the nerve to come to the house to ask for another light bulb! This time, I got mad and said how much I spent on it, and now you want me to give a THIRD one?! I Don't Think So!!!

To add to all this, the washing machine is acting up. It got banged up on the last typhoon that threw it off the foundation and knocked it on the side. So, I also need to go hunting for an Outside Washing machine. We had a difficult time finding this one. It seems that they're making washing machines for indoor only - with all those electronic gizmos in it. Gees....

And now, Dad refuses to go to the clinic.
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Ohhh.. positive? gratefulness?... I'm grateful that today is the only day in which I didn't have a headache these past couple of weeks. I'm grateful that I have my ereaders. I'm grateful that have my sight.

I can't stand my father.....
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Book, I am grateful for my sight as well. I am very grateful I do not have responsibility for your Dad. And I am grateful that I can read.

But, I cannot stand the twisteds! Never want anything to do with them again in my life!

It is human nature to find and see the negative, at least I think so. When you see children playing does this give you joy? And of course that depends on what they are doing and if their play is irritating. I thibnk we find joy in different things and when something in our lives is so overwhelming, like caring for a parent, and ttge longer it goes on, the more negative our feelings towards life in general are going to be. For the most part caregivers, I think are overwhelmed and it takes control of our whole lives. There is no escape for us unless we decide to leave the care situation. And even then, just ask me, the frustration providing care is hard to let go of and will take time. One day at a time.
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it felt good to turn in my 4 inch high stack of papers to file for title 19 for my mom.
me? I just wonder if I can return back to some sort of facsimile of myself
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