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Oh seemee I am so sorry to hear about your mom. My prayers will be with you and her. Go ahead and let her get the truck. You don't want any regrets hanging over you. Love and HUGS Stormyyyyyyyyyy.
YR- Glad that you are able to get some help for your dad. And maybe they can help with his pain. My prayers are with you and your dad. Tell me more about this diet..... Love and HUGS stormyyyyyyyyyyyyy
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YR....glad to hear you're getting some help for Dad, but sorry it has to be hospice. He will be more comfortable now and that is what is important.
And here I've been whining about having 100 degrees tomorrow....I'm just a lightweight...:)
Wonderful news on your weight loss...I keep telling myself I'll start my diet "tomorrow"............

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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COW PATTIE ladee...........and you don't have far to drive to get a real one! love ya!
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Morning all, just a quick post to let you know we're hitting the road again, heading this time for Missouri, not sure how far we're going to get today, guess that both of us were wound up over the travel today and didn't sleep well, everyone have a wonderful day, will check in when we settle for the night..
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Hi all...ASG your words are so appreciated! Right back at ya girl! You are are in my thoughts and prayers everyday...can't say it much better than ASG did! Stormy, glad you got some answers from doc! Sure helps with the peace of mind.
Seeme..so sorry To hear about your mom..special prayers for you guys. Know that you have all of us praying for you!
YR...so glad dad will get some pain relief! Know hospice will take good care and give you some peace of mind to just 'be' with dad. Parayers prayers and more prayers.
Shawna..drama sucks!! Consumes so much energy! Hope it calms down and that you and mom can enjoy the days
Starri, was beginning to wonder about you guys! Glad that you are ok. Hope things get worked out? Loved the kitty story! It is the little things!
Ladee..here's praying that weather relief comes soon. Hope your day is great
Jam..we just gotta love em!? Right! Hope col has a good day.
Emjo...no fair! Perfect weather..just stay on the path! Haha n No fun having tooth work done but glad you will be getting it taken care of.
Know I am forgetting someone...love you all.
As for us..it was a busy day yesterday..dad had PT and OT come in which really tired him out. By the end of the day it was tough. By bedtime his foot was in severe pain. I feel like it is gout flaring up. Gave him med for it last night...it was a long night. He was seeing stuff on the wall again this morning. Seems ok now. We have another busy day today. Oh Monday was when OT and PT came...yesterday we had exercises and writing and reading to do. He just wasn't near as alert. We will see what the day brings.
I will be out of pocket for a few days...impromptu trip!!! So excited! Hubby got home late last night and my daughter and I are going to meet up for a couple of days in Hammond. It is halfway for both of us....so I get to spend a day in the French Quarter down in New Orleans Louisiana. Hate to leave hubby..wish we could go together but we do what we have to when we can. Will try to check in before Saturday.
Thoughts and prayers are with all of you! Love Vickie
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Hey there ladies and gents well i finally got some sleep last night. Thank the Lord. Dad had his stretch on his thoat because it was closing up again and it was getting harder for him to swallow foods. He has to have it done about every 6 to 7 weeks. His dr told us that he wished that it would stay open longer because having to do it so often is just causing more scar tissue to form and that one day it will tear and then he will probably have to be on a feeding tube the rest of his life and probably no more eating by mouth. That was just lovely to hear. And i forgot to tell ya'll that sis called me yesterday morning about 8 and said that dads trach had come out and she couldn't get it back in. I said u got to be kidding me. I just knew we were going to miss that drs appt yesterday at 11. But we made it out in time. That's why yesterday was so hectic. Seems like there is always some excitement going on in this house. Just not the kind of excitement I want to see! Maybe me and sis are foolish, but we still are not sure that the dr is telling us everything. Just cause dads breathing has got worse over the last couple of months. I suppose we are crazy. I guess we should just leave well enough alone..... Any of ya'll know much about pleural effusion(fluid on the lungs) or are ya'll taking care of anyone that has this? Let me know what causes this if ya'll have any information on it. Love and hugs Stormyyyyyyyyyyyy
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Sorry I forgot to say that we had to make a trip to the hospital to get dads trach put back in. That's why we were scared that we were going to miss the drs appt. Love Stormyyyyyy
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Evening all, Stormy, I hope things settle down for you and for dad, it sounds like you all have been going crazy over the past couple of days.

We're settled for the night in a town called Murfreesboro TN, got us a hotel for the night so that we can get a decent nights sleep, camping is wonderful but only in small doses..lol..

We're looking at 450 miles to our first destination, the Truck Stop in Plain-view Missouri, mapquest says 9 hours, our schedule for driving each day says 2 days.., we're not pushing it. after that it's off to Nebraska to a campground there for a few days..

Hope you all have a good evening,

Love ya

Carmen
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Everything is going okay here. The tree is officialy gone now my landlord came with a trailer and all the big pieces are gone. My other sister called today cause i did two mugs for a friend of hers and she needed the price. Told her she said okay so thats another two mugs sold YAY. Still working on site but its coming out okay www.mysticglendesigns.com Slow going as I have to upload all the images and put all the buttons on some of the other pieces still up in the air about going to the fair ... not sure yet. We will see. Stormy I am so sorry your going through so much with your dad right now. Mom ate good today we had hommade chicken parm with liguinie ... she ate a huge plate ... LOL she said she was hungry did laundrey EEEK black spider was on clothes screamed and grabbed flip flop pushed it off but it got caught in the washer oh well it went down the drain ...cause its nto on any of the clothes ... I just hate those lil buggers and they are a ton down in my basement ... *shudder* well need to get back to work on the site ... have fun camping Carmen I love Tenn my favorite part is Nashville ...
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hey ya;ll, just got off work for the second time today... apparently the daughter and son have told Marie they are not going to jump and run everytime she calls with a hangnail... so daughter called me to go back for a few hours this eveing... sonny and I had a ball, he is so sweet, hope it stays this way.... she on the other hand was one angry lady today, still trying to manipulate the daughter and it isn't working, she always mellows out tho after awhile.... had another good day at work. am just taking a different approach with her, and it is working for me....
Stormy, your poor dad just can't catch a break can he, I feel so bad for him....and of course for you and sis being so worried about him.... he is in my prayers.....and ya'll too.
Shawna, dinner sounded great, I could smell it from here!!!!! Glad you are making some sales, I know that takes a little pressure off of you....
Seeme, please try to update us, worried for you and Mom....
Jam, hope your day was ok
Starri, glad ya'll are sleeping in real beds tonight, and poor kitty cat needs a soft pillow to sleep on......keep us updated on "Starri's Great Adventure", I have travel envy, but not camping envy... nope, soft bed and a shower for me....
Everyone else will try to get caught up later... am going to take a shower...
love and hugs...
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Mom still in the hospital....today I was told she has lung cancer....I didn't say anything to her. She doesn't want a biopsy or treatment anyway. Her heart rate has been good and they are trying to wean her off the IV and switch to a pill. I am working on bringing her home with possible hospice are coming to the house. She will be assessed by someone tomorrow.

That and keeping sisters off my back is enough for one day. I will catch up with all of you later.............zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz
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Pure love and angels sent to you and mom, Seeme, take care of yourself....
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Oh Seemee- I am so sorry to hear this about your mom. Please keep us posted on how she is doing and how you are doing also. My prayers and love are with you!!!! Love and BIG ((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))))) Stormyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
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hi all - quiet here - cool - 64 - no leaves turning yet as no frost.

cuppa spice tea and taking time to reflect today and allow myself to feel the weariness - hoping it is seeping out - a lifetime of care - from childhood up, kids yes and often alone though married, and adult kids all came home and needed care, and always mother - who is fine whether she admits it or not,

realizing I can't do what I did any more. Yes, I will see that mother has what she needs and find someone to do what I can't. If any of my kids get into messes again, they are on their own - big enough to get into it, big enough to get out of it. I am in my 75th year and my body knows it

just letting go of some stuff - my energy needs to go to other places - part of getting older and that's OK.

stormy - you and sis and dad must be getting exhausted with everything that is happening (((((((hugs)))))) did u get any ideas from ur doc about the colds
starri - soft bed - YEAY - way to go - u do need a good night's sleep
seeme - thinking of you and mum - not a nice diagnosis (((((hugs)))))- hospice should help - get some good sleep while u can
YR - hope dad gets more comfortable with hospice care - u lost 17 lbs - that is great!!! well done???
vic - glad the OT and PT is helping - any more gardening?
asg - prayers for u 2 for sure
jam - can u post any pics of the col with her new hairdo? sounds cute. mother got hers cut short about 10years ago and it suiits her well - my daughter looks best to me with a sort of Halle Berry style - makes her eyes pop
shawna -glad the tree is gone and a couple of mugs sold -sounds like u r a great cook!
worried - how was the lawyers app't ?
john, cwgrl, 54, mis, ib - thinking of you and anyone else I have forgotten

G breezed in and out again at 5 a.m. - came back from roofing a barn and straight out to work as there was an incident at work and he has to be there for a few days 24/7 - at least I got to see him for 5 mins and he will have a couple of days off before the 6th as long as things work out as expected - do they ever??? maybe we can get down to "christen" Ebony - want to feed her some apple cores
increased dose of diflucan seems to be helping - haven't been on it for long but looks good -
-got some laundry to do
have a good nite all
love and hugs and prayers ♥♥♥
jo

that's ok - how it is -
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emjo, letting go is good.... one advantage of beind a recovering addict is that letting go keeps us moving forward... for those that don't know, I have almost 28 years clean.....
I still have to have others bring it to my attention sometimes that maybe I should just let go.... well duh, yes, that works...
Have had two good days at work, from "letting go"....
I am sorry your body is having so many problems... I am blessed, other than my recent broken leg, and being sassy mouthed, I have very few physical problems...I get mentally tired, and that is the carrying around too much stuff that isn't mine....
You are so loved and appreciated on this sight and in life.... you have such a gentle way about you, it is very calming to me.... even when you are distressed you have a way of letting us know you will be ok and yet you are vulnerable with us too.... strong and gentle at the same time, not easy to do.... love and hugs and deep appreciation for your wisdom and genorosity of spirit..... hope you get caught up on your rest, and enjoy the cool weather.... it was only 95 today, and I enjoyed it... I love Central Texas when it is like it was today.... the past two and half months have been hell, people were actually smiling today....
Take care and a Texas size hug to you this evening...
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Just a short hello....then I need to get some sleep. A dog kept me awake all last night and I'm hoping not to have a repeat.

Sounds like several of us are tired tonight. emjo.....we are taking the col to Red Lobster Saturday so I will try and get a picture of her. She really does look cute with her new do, but she is pretty negative about it. She hasn't been happy at all today about anything. She is mad that the girls won't take her out running around in the stores and the malls. And she got mad at me tonight because I got clean jammies out and wouldn't let her wear soiled and wet undies. She's now tucked into bed and I hope she sleeps well tonight. Her mood seemed to be a little better.

seeme......love and angels sent to you.

ladee......glad today was better.....tomorrow is your long day right? Hope Marie can be a little pleasant....but I know it will be a tough day for her.

Hello to all of our friends and sorry but my brain is just too tired to work right tonight. Thinking of you all..............

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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oh ladee i never mentioned you and yet you are always on my mind and in my heart (isn't that a country western song? ;) )
thank you for the kind words - balm to a weary soul
all the doc's tests say I am fine and much younger than my age - but something inside me knows what I have carried for years and sometimes I feel it - other times I am a young filly and I want to run lol
28 yrs clean is huge and wonderful -something to remember and celebrate
love the cool weather - glad it was better for u 2
good to have quiet days sometimes
jam -a pic would be great -i know there are days and 2 often that u can't do right noi matter what u do - I am still having them - it all adds up after a while and part of what I am feeling tonite -hope u sleep well
love and hugs
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Good morning all, ((((((Seeme))))) I am so sorry to hear about the DX, it's a tough one.. be sure to take good care of you.. Hospice was a great help to me with Mom, I'm hoping that they will be for you as well.

We're still holed up in the hotel, Glenn's 730 wake up call came in at 830, lol, dogs have been out for their morning walks, cat is driving me nuts, she wants to go out and can't right now.. so I've been emptying out the bank account (paying bills) this morning.. Glenn woke up long enough to say "730" when the phone rang, told him nope 830 and he's back snoring again..lol.. Check out is 11, we might not get out of here till then, we do have some driving ahead of us, going to a reservoir in Marion, KS, think it is about 220 miles from here.. will stay there at least over night, maybe a couple don't know, then it is off to Plainview Missouri. for that truck stop show they show on the travel channel.. hopefully it turns out to be all that it shows it is on tv..

Need to do better packing when packing up the camper lol, hotel has a swimming pool and I could not get to use it as my swim suit is all the way in the back of the camper..lol, would have to crawl over the top of everything, pop the top on the camper just to get to it, guess that I didn't want to go swimming that bad after all..

Hope that everyone has a wonderful day, will try and get some more pictures posted today
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want to run like a filly this morning, not that I am going to try! - may later lol ;)
up and at 'em getting ready for the dentist. before I go I usually take 1/2 a sudafed for postnasal drip, a tylenol if I think I may need a little pain control (preventative - nip it in the bud) and then that is all I need I will allow freezing for the extraction, the dentist is a young hunk which doesn't hurt either and he likes me - of course to me they all are young!

seeme sweetie -big (((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))) -get as much rest as u can while mum is in hospital
starri - forgot my bathing suit and jerryrigged one -wasn't going to stay out of the pool - they should sell disposable ones
ladee -thx for understanding and confirming
jam - have a good lunch - LOVE LOBSTER!!! will be looking for pics
everyone -have a good day -hope it is cooling a little for most of you

luv ya
jo
never had gas and don't intend to
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Good Morning Posse!

starri.....good to hear from you and know you got to sleep in a nice soft bed. If you are going to Kansas first, then the truck stop in Missouri, you're going to be back tracking a lot! That is, if you're heading west. The Midway Truck Stop is on I-70....I will wave that direction today. Target and I have been talking about driving up there to go to the big ammunition store they have.

Too hot to be outside today....was looking at my yard this morning wishing it would mow itself. The ground at the bottom of the deck stairs is sinking down, the paver stones are an inch below the concrete slab.....need to fix that. But it's only going to be 103 today and 101 tomorrow.....low humidity which increases fire risk.....hope people don't throw their cigarettes out when they drive past.

emjo.....yes, sometimes I just get so tired it's hard to put one foot in front of another. If it would just cool off some I would get outside and get some exercise and perk up a little I think. The other day I was going to start pulling up the garden....my goodness there are new blooms all over the zucchini, new tomatoes, green beans everywhere, and the sweet potatoes are taking off and growing everywhere. Decided to wait to grow once we got out of that constant over 100 temps I guess. I can't walk completely around the pond because the brush has grown up to high but I can get part way around it, but again it's just been too hot.

Once the sun goes down and it starts to cool down for the night, I've been walking around the "inside the fence" part of the yard to get the col out for fresh air, but she has such difficulty walking these days, that we don't get very far. As she puts it she "toddles" and doesn't pick her feet up and I'm afraid she will trip over something. Refuses to use the cane we bought her; she holds my arm on one side and the fence on the other. And then is mad because we won't take her to a mall when we know she can't walk 20 ft, let alone the length of a mall! So we just cybershop a lot!

stormy....sitting with Dad today or is it a day off?
ladee....this is your long day isn't it? At least you will have a break for a little while.
Shawna....have been checking your website and watching to see the progress.....looks good so far, your work is beautiful!
Everyone else please check in and let us know how you are......Vic we need your daily positive attitude!

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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hello

I been dealing alot and it seems hubby pleural effusion is getting worse i think and he has been more tired than anything but what gets me is that i can't find any respite care for the kids n me here..I haven't found anything in my research anything or anyone can give advice on. Lately my son has been saying dady I need to save you and the oddest thing is that I had a bird knocking on my back door is that good or bad? not sure but it was weird so u can find me on facebook under poet2write or starrwolf my pic is there:) wish ya all the best...
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Hey there burned my dad has pleural effusion also. I would like to know what all you have learned about this. Let me know please as i think dads is getting worse also. Love and hugs stormy
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Hey everybody, Jam I am over here at dads today. Brother stayed with dad last night so sis got a break. Hubby came home yesterday afternoon. We were glad he was back but he came back with a cold. Now we both are hacking and coughing. I already had my cough no sinus probs yet but i will probably pick that up from hubby. Well dad has a dr appt today at 2:30 so i can't stay on here too long got to get him ready for that. But this morning he wanted me to look at his legs and the one with the cellulitis had been draining in little tiny spots all over his lower leg. It had yellow crusted areas on it. And then he wanted me to look at his other leg and that calf was swollen. And when i went to touch the back of the calf he whinced like it hurt. I asked him did his legs hurt and he said yes. I said more than what they have been and he said yes. And now the left leg is not far off from looking as bad as the right leg(the one that has the cellulitis in it). They both are red and some purple in some areas. I told sis today about the swollen calf and i said that he might have a dvt in that leg. Dr. already said that dad has artery disease in those legs. Maybe dr. doolittle will give dadsome more antibiotics. Better go now. hugs stormyyyyyyyyyyyyy
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oh stormy the legs don't sound good - hope the doc can help -hope you don't get more sick from hubby
burned -praying for respite for you - looked for you on facebook under both poet2write and starrwolf and found you on flicker - saw your pic there but couldn't find u on face book -
home from the dentist - not bad - had a nice visit with the assistant - when the dentist was taking out the wisdom tooth the molar in front cracked -he recommended extraction of it too and he took it out too - it came out very easily. I have had a feeling it was not on good shape. May get an implant at some stage, Instructions are to take it easy and soft foods - no prob - have some great homemade beef soup which will do - when my tongue thaws out.
Oh boy I love an excuse to take it easy!!!
may do some more laundry anyway and make some raspberry coconut ice cream
will check back and see how y'all are and how the lobster lunch went
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stormy here is a simple explanation............................Pleural effusion is excess fluid that accumulates in the pleura, the fluid-filled space that surrounds the lungs. Excessive amounts of this fluid can impair breathing by limiting the expansion of the lungs during respiration. What is the cause? Have any of his doctors aspirated any of the fluid? I will wait to see what the doctor tells you today......let us know asap.

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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Hello everybody. Same situation as 1 week ago... Too much work! I can't read. Hope everybody is alright,
Kisses!
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rossella......good to hear from you! But so sorry you are having to work so hard and not enough time to play.....sometimes that just doesn't seem fair. Maybe you will have some time soon to relax.

It's been very quiet here today....everyone is either working or at doctor appts or having teeth pulled or sitting with Moms or traveling up the highway. Hope tomorrow will be better for most of us......for some of us it will just take a little longer.

I am getting some respite coming up soon............I can't wait! Have 24 hr care for the col set up and going to go celebrate an anniversary.

Waiting to hear from you......................

Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
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Hey, Jam the dr that dad went to today was his general dr. the one that is usually not worth the time to go to his office, but he did give dad more meds for his cellulitis and he said that it does look some better but not as good as he thought it should look since he has already been on some meds for the cellulitis. Also he said that in sept. he wanted to send dad to a vascular dr and to send him to the hospital to have a test done to see how much circulation he had in his legs.
The cause of the fluid in his lungs I or we have no idea why he is having that. And the drs have not said. They have not given us a explaination for it. Several months ago he had some test done(i don't remember what kind) but it said then that he had fluid on the lungs. Now with the ct and pet scan done(the most recent ones) it says that he has more fluid on the lungs than what he had before. So I guess he is just collecting more fluid from somewhere. I don't know if it is coming from his tea that he drinks or what it is coming from. And the drs have not said anything about extracting any from his lungs to see what the cause is. The other when we got home from the drs office I got online.( i know i probably shouldn't be looking up all of this stuff these drs tell us) but i have been doing for a year and a half and i can't seem to stop. They tell us something stormy goes and looks it up on the net.
Anyway i looked up pleural effusion and just about everything that come up said malignant pleural effusion.(lung cancer i guess) or thats what it was talking about. So i don't know anymore. I just feel like I am at the end of my rope with these drs. me and sis both are!!!!!!!! Just sick of the whole guessing game!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I think even dad is sick of all these drs. He told me today when i was getting him ready for his drs appt. He said "Another wasted trip". I said I know daddy. It probably is. Love and hugs to all of you Stormy
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well I have some good news okay its just regular news. I was planning on going to the fair alone with mom. Just the two of us my good sis Jeanne got to love the woman called her friend up Elean.. and said Shawna wants to go to the fair with mom. Well now Elean her two grandkids and her daughter are giong to meet us at the fairgrounds and we are all going to hang out. E doesn't like to go on rides so if I want to go on rides she said she'll sit with mom and watch. She also said if mom wants to go to the beer tent where the music is she'll take her there and I can go have some fun... I was kind of blown away. I'll have my phone just in case like she needs me but yeah ... I am going to have fun buy a few things if mom wants them but mom and Ill be out of the hosue for the day tomorrow and mom is really looking foward to it.

Site is going slow but I am working on it. Hopefully I'll get it done soon ... its just taking forever with resizing and getting all the buttons done... oh well

Stormy I am so sorry to hear the appointment was wasted... prayers for you and your daddy.
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stormy....more meds for Dad's cellulitis....I take it that means more antibiotics? Remember that when you go to the internet to find your answers, you are going to find all kinds of symptoms, causes, cures, etc and most of the time, they don't have a thing to do with what is really going on. That's why the doctors are still in business. For example......low back pain....let's see, you will find causes of arthritis, kidney stones, muscle pain, inflamed appendix, diverticulitis, ovarian problems, constipation, gall stones----yes, pain radiates......if you pick the wrong illness, you will have yourself scared to death that you are going to drop over dead. It's time to find a new doctor. And yes, it's that simple. There are dozens of doctors in your area, you and most importantly Dad, are not satisfied with the one you are using. Please find someone new to take over his care.

Love and Hugz,
Jam
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