This seems to be a question that is not asked enough or we think what we are feeling is not as important as what our loved one is going through. This job we have taken on is a tough one and there are days when I think my "stress rope" cannot be pulled any tighter. Then there are other times that make those bad days just a memory. Do you feel like banging your head against a wall one day? And then the next day your loved one is attentive and loving and comprehends whatever you say? There are some who keep those feelings bottled up within themselves; others take the time for outside resources and others who look at sites such as this for some understanding. I do better when I have someone else to bounce my feelings off of. Let's face it....we aren't superhuman and besides ourselves and perhaps a family to take care of we now have taken on the responsibility of another human who is incapable of taking care of themselves. Do you breeze through the care giving without a problem? If so, I would like to know how you do it, maybe you can offer some new ideas; do you have feelings of frustration and need to talk about those? Come and talk and know that you can speak freely and without judgement and without finger pointing.
I am caring for my mother-in-law and have been for about 1 1/2 years. She has moderate dementia and incontinence. Other than that she is very healthy. Sometimes that short amount of time feels like 10 years and I wonder how long I will be able to do this job. I get so very tired of hearing the same thing day in and day out, but I have to remind myself that to her, each time she sees me, she is offering new information. At times I have no problems communicating with her, but it seems like more and more she cannot retain a thought longer than 5 minutes. We have had to make signs for her so she will know what she can and cannot do. So far it's working, but for how long? Maybe I will have to end up making her a "Book of Do Nots". She is on memory drugs, which don't seem to make a difference. So why do I continue to dole them out to her? I guess I'm afraid of what might happen or how she might act without them. I might have to rent a boat or buy a helmet! Sometimes I see something in her that leads me to believe that she could get aggressive and what would be my reaction to that? At the end of each and every day, after she is tucked into bed, I breathe such a sigh of relief. The "inner beast" is quiet at last, or at least for a few hours.
Pull up a chair and visit........I would like to know how you are coping everyday..be it good or with handfuls of stress.
Am getting out of here for awhile today and going rock hunting, I'll be a different person when I get back.....
Marie is one of the most selfish people I have ever known other than dad.... it amazes me how she has NO compassion at all for Sonny, yet bitches and complains constantly, is bitter, controlling, hateful at times.... neither one have any control over their illness, yet Sonny is a joy to be with... some things happened yesterday that made me think of some things I am eventually going to tell her.... the main one being, too bad she can't show any compassion for Sonny, as she receives so much for her illness....... I just ignored her yesterday and Sonny and I spent most of the day outside.... we went to the front yard and bless his heart he hit the mother load of sticks to pick up.... he was just a happy little guy, just a jabbering away, and steady picking up sticks... yes, I would rather be with Sonny any time of the day...... I was tired and did not feel like listening to her tell me same things I hear everyday,,, and YET, she doesn't she what she does..... agrrrr. they are going to have to find someone to come in on the weekends..... God knows I need the money, but not enough to sell my soul to that devil to get it...... but ya"ll know what, I still had a good week... once I make up my mind, then that is the path I follow, until it is time to take another direction....
Glad to hear you and the col had a descent dinner... I bet she was fun before this disease took her away..... and tell Target I hope he feels better today...
Ok, getting my stuff together to go rock hunting...
Love everyone, check in and let us know how you are...... don't make us worry and Jam is like a mama duck, if she doesn't know how all her "babies" are she gets worried..... so let us know how ya'll are....
Headin toward the future... love you all and hugs across the miles...
PS, talked to Seeme last night, she is doing very well, is very pleased with the facility her mom is in, and is READY for the sibs... prayers to her and mama...
Jam – 62 - awesome!!! I did make more ice cream - with fresh strawberries this time. It is good and the cold helps and it is easy. I used soya creamer this time – still froze rock hard. The rest of the strawberries I boiled up with an orange that I blended – rind and all – tasty!!! -temp 57 here this morning –better to be alone with this tooth thing – not good company and I like my space anyway glad u had a good dinner with the col - Edmonton eh? Small world
starri – hotels r good –sweet water –maybe everyone is diabetic – think the Advil is affecting my brain –sweet springs would work too – safe trip to Nebraska
mismiley – nice to see you again – hangers or throwing old dishes –glad u r getting a break
ladee– need a fresh set of hangers? rock hunting sounds like fun – love rocks – let us know what u found – 6 days of Marie sounds like too much –u do need some time off
seeme – prayers going in ur direction – sounds like u have ur ducks in a row - glad mum is getting the help she needs –sorry about the old friend but glad u got to see her -terrible week – tune in the sibs if need be – any way u can
shawna –so glad u had fun at the fair –we all need a bit of that –nothing wrong with eyeing the guys
stormy – how ya doing? How’s dad?
John - nice poem –you do a good job of those
worried - wondering how u made out with the lawyer
Vic, YR, asg, ros, ib4, burned and anyone I have forgotten – have a good day and check in when u can
Love hugs and prayers ♥♥♥
jo
Sisters arrived safe and sound eventually....like 3am...they turned the GPS off and shouldn't have......they stayed with mom and I came home.....my sleep schedule is way whacko, so I am trying to straighten it out. One sis can't sleep without ambien, so imagine she stayed awake all night.....I will go shortly when hubby gets back from shopping....he is in charge of all the meals, so he needed ingredients. Things are going very smoothely so far and I don't expect anything less.......my pockets are still full.....hahahahahahaha......as I told my sisters.....I'm baaaaaaaccckkkk...
emjo.....I have to agree with seeme....I'm thinking dry socket. Advil won't touch it....you need the big guns. And use ice, not heat.....heat draws in the blood which makes the pain worse. Freeze that jaw!
Wow, here it's 1 pm and the temp has reached 68...........I am so enjoying this....the windows are open and a breeze is blowing through and I'm seriously thinking of taking my kindle to the front yard and sitting in one of the gliders and just reading the afternoon away. Later I will get the col and take her out to sit, but have to bundle her up, she's already complaining about being cold. Going to be a long winter if that is happening now.
Have a great day everyone!
Love and Hugz,
Jam
a partial clot has formed again over night - i already googled every dry socket site on the internet (slight exaggeration) and it is not following the pattern
when I phoned the dentist I mentioned that the clot was gone and she said the doc is not concerned - normal part of healing O-Kay and truthfully the pain was worse the first day - around the 9 level - now about 8 and my jaw is not swollen - so it is not following the pattern completely. When I had a root canal done in one of the ones extracted I had the same terrible pain - even the painkillers didn't touch it - this time I do get relief for a couple of hours and have started alternating advil and acetominophin which seems to be working better - what helped after the root canal was heat which is why I am using it again. I did use cold the first day or so.
other than that I am fine ;p - grabbing sleep when the painkillers first kick in
ah well, this too shall pass - they say a week or two if it is a dry socket
Gary comes home probably tomorrow and i was hoping to go to the horses with him but not sure that is a good idea now - when we go down there we stay with his friend farmer john and you should see the state of the bathroom sink - I don't think so. The other option is Connie's Cabins - never seen the inside of one of them and probably over priced.
I blended the hamburger soup to a puree - looks awful but better than gettng stuff stuck in the holes, I miss my veggies so had a can of V8, scrambled eggs work, banab and almond milk - shake and had some salmon and some ice cream!!!! I may blend up some chili ;p
Interesting when I post of face book that I am having a holiday it gets passed on to my sister and my mother but when I am in pain it does not get passed on - still thinking about inventing a fantastic holiday - or even better convincing G that we need one lol
peggy welcome - keeping your sanity in one of the good things to do with it - losing it is not so great though most of us have come close - siblings - well most of us don't have much good to say there - mine does not even make it sound good by offering and as well she thinks nothing about telling me off for not doing the very things she doesn't do even though I do do them - if that makes any sense - so for me she is a write off unless there is a major change and I am not holding my bresth - I have cyber sisters and other friends and that is fine - tell us more about fil and your life. I am the resident oldster - just turned 74 and my mother at 99 is going strong and just recovering from a hip repair -she has borderline personality disorder and is narsissistic - which are compounded by aging though she still is very sharp and as difficult to get along with as she ever has been - I have had to detach and distance as the stress has affected my health though still oversee that she gets what she needs -she is in an ALF.
love and hugs everyone ♥♥♥
jo
seeme glad the family is arrived "on schedule" lmao and so glad hubby is doing the meals - one less things for u to worry about -sort of makes up for the lawn furniture flying in the hurricane
Seemee- You sound like you are in a better mood today. I'm glad. I hope things continue to go alright with you and the sibs. And it's good that hubby is helping you out some. You take care of yourself! ((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))
Emjo-Sorry you are in pain. I don't think advil is going to do anything u need something alot stronger than that. I take tylenol 500 mg when i am in pain. but i take about 2 or 3 of them at a time if i am really hurting. I hope you feel better soon. Ice no heat....
Ladeee- how is the tx heat there? Any rain yet? Sorry that marie is giving you a hard time. But glad that you and sonny had a good time outside. Get you some ear plugs so you don't have to hear marie's rambling mouth. See if that helps.
Starri- Glad that you are having a good trip traveling and seeing the world. Ya'll be careful. And don't have too much fun. Maybe one day me and hubby will get to do some traveling.....
Well, yesterday I had the day off. Thank the Lord. Today I am having to stay with dad 1 til 8 tonight. And the schedule hubby and i made up for me says that i am suppose to have tomorrow off because red is out of daycare because of the holiday. So i got to tell sis I know she has not thought about red being out of daycare. I hate to tell her that. I guess i just feel guilty. And like i am being slack for not coming over here when red is out of daycare. But that was what me and hubby decided on so red and i would not have to be over here all day long. And so i would not get so stressed out with red and dad at the same time. And if i stay over here with red, hubby will get mad at me and it will be a fuss between us. And we have been getting along really well lately and i hate to bring any arguing on between us. Oh well i will do something i guess. Dads legs still look bad. If not worse and even the left leg is about to look just as bad as the right leg(the cellulitis leg) He is suppose to have a ultrasound done on his leg or legs this week and then he is suppose to get a appt with a vasular dr after the ultrasound results come in. So we will see what happens with this scan and dr. Scan will probably say everything is wonderful with his legs and nothing is wrong with them. And vascular dr will probably say that dad is in perfect health!!!!!!!!! All of these tests, scans and drs appts are nothing but a JOKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Can you tell I am just sick of everything about the whole situation!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Just sick of my life being like it is. I'm not depressed. Just tired of the same old stuff everyday. I need a change. I will talk to ya'll later better go check on dad. Love and hugs to all of you. Stormyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy
be sure to let me know how the ice cream turns out
stormy - sorry dad's legs are worse - hope the ultrasound and visit with the vascular doc go well -as well as possible anyway - can u hire someone to come in and be with dad so you have a little more time with lil red and hubby - he is a good man I think. I understand u r so sick of all the testing and no answers and just the whole situation (((((hugs))))
I'm glad you feel that you have found a place to come to. We have a terrific group of friends here, with lots of varied experiences, sometimes we can get a little crazy but that just keeps us from getting bored. So come on back and visit with us, would love to get to know you and your family.
Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
Jam, we missed any storms that you might have got, we had a few sprinkles but that was about it... at the edge of Missouri/Iowa and saw what I thought was a lake, a big lake, it turned out to be a area that had flooded back on June 1st and was still under about 5 foot.. it was so sad..
We're safely in Nebraska, and this campground is all plus more than it was advertised to be.. Makes me a happy camper, lol.. sorry for the pun. It has a nice large lake, with paddle boats you can rent, swimming, etc.. Temps are actually low today, 73 degree's, feels cold compared to what we've just come from. There is the prairie breeze.. which is not a breeze..lol, it's a wind. Good thing I don't care about how my hair looks or I'd be trapped in the camper. We're here for a week, get the mail sent in. Glenn's got meds waiting and I have a check or so due in. Hopefully the post office does what they are suppose too, would hate to have to fly back and kick some bootie..lol
Peg, welcome, you have found a great place.. lovely people to listen..and vent too.
Jo, sorry to hear that things are not going well with the extraction.. get in there Tuesday if things are not better..
Stormy, honey you need to let Sis know that red will be out of daycare tomorrow and that you need to be home with him, I am sure sis will understand.
Ya'll take care, hubby and I are just chilling, trying to relax, I had a minor melt down this morning, grief I guess still trying to come out.
Miss Mom more than I could ever say, thoughts keep popping in my mind about calling her and telling her about the trip, the wonderful things we are seeing, what we are doing. Breaks my heart that she wasn't there to see the end results of the fight for the past two years of getting baby brother his VA disability. That she isn't there for me to call and share this adventure with..
Guess I ought to get off here and get something done, even if it is wrong. ladee, how are you today? hopefully not with your hands around Maries neck..lol.. Everyone who hasn't checked in please do so.
Sibs, well, as Jam said, we don't usually have much good to say about them... Stormy has a great sis that they work in tandem with her dad, the brother, well, we all want to smack him....
It is the nature of caregiveing for some reason.... it all falls on one or two... and the rest go thier merry way.....My oldest "ugly sister", yep, that's what I call them... to hear her tell it she was the ONLY one to take care of the old man... Not true, but I finally got tired of hearing about it and just went on about my business, if he called me, I did what I could, other than that I just put disatance, and haven't seen either on of them after the old man died... Life is too short...As emjo said, I have sisters right here and friends down home, so who needs em...
Hope you come back to visit...... just jump right in...... always room for one more...
Jam, why didn't you remind me that it has only been six months since my broken leg.... should have seen me out there stumbling around the dry creek bed on uneven ground, hanging on to dead trees... my lord, and I left my phone in the car..... guess I'll have to get me one of those things Marie wears. "I've fallen and I can't get up" things....or gps or something.... do I really KNOW how old I am??? Apparently not...... anyway, something for pain when I got home, and a shower... wind was gusting up to 40mph today, and still is, my little house will have to be renamed, " A whole lotta shakin' goin on"... have decided to think of it as being rocked to sleep instead of possible take off.....
Emjo, sorry that old tooth is still giving you problems, sorta like an ex-husband, even when they are gone they bring us miserey....hope you feel better soon...
Starri, haven't been to FB yet, so hope there are new pics, and I know what you mean, for years I would pick up the phone to call Mom about something, or miss her horrible when things were going on I knew she would enjoy.... I really do understand......
Stormy, sorry dad is not getting any better.... hopefully this new doc will have some answers...... or maybe he will get like Seeme's mom, and just say NO MORE... if they aren't helping him, I would not allow them to keep harming him... talk to him and see what HE wants......
Vic, ok, where are you???? I feel you out there, check in and let us know you are ok, crazy or in the black hole...
Jam, hope you had another decent day with the col..... I know she can turn on a dime, so hope she was still happy from yesterday....
Everyone else, hello, love ya, check in, and hugs across the miles to all of you...
I have sweet potatoes!!!!! I planted 4 plants just to see if they would produce and by golly they did. I dug up 3 off one plant, but my back was screaming so loud and my allergies wouldn't stop sneezing so I had to give up. Will let some strong-backed son do the rest tomorrow.
I hope everyone has had a good day and I wish for you all a peaceful evening.....
Love and Hugz to all,
Jam
No, other than being picky about the stupid window this morning, the col has been in a great mood today. We are trying to figure out where in the world she is stuffing all this food. My God, she is eating constantly! I fed her breakfast, an hour later she was wanting lunch and ate something while I was fixing her what she asked for, then fixed Italian subs for dinner and gave that to her early and she was eating potato chips when I took her sub down. What a mess if she explodes! Her aim isn't too good.
Jam you didn't get to far off topic..lol.. at least seeing as how we don't have a set topic here... I have several little keepsakes of mom, her HS diploma, other little things like that I was able to get out before the brothers got busy..
I like your idea of the journal, I've been debating on a blog.. the real life adventures of a newbie..lol.. Tell Target get off his butt an get that RV spruced up.. Right now, I have had enough of the prairie "breeze", so gave it up and am currently hiding out in the camper.. seems to be dying down alittle, might venture out again here in a while.. Hope everyone is doing well...
Little ones can make you want to pull your hair out, especially at that age, every thing is still new and interesting in life.. they have to experience it all at full steam.. We spend the first 2 years of their life wanting them to walk and talk and the rest of it telling them to shut up and sit down...lol
when red goes down for a nap tomorrow, try and do something nice for yourself..
Yeah, I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer sometimes am I??? I think I was just so excited to get to go that I really wasn't thinking, but I go by myself all the time like that.... nothing has happened so far, and guess I just don't look for things to happen and they don't..... usually someone knows the vicinity I am in.... when someone came to check the cattle tomorrow they would have found my car.... ohhhhh lighten up ladies....... that is one of the cool things about being single, I do what I want, when I want, how I want.....and ya'll all knew I was going, I post everyday,, so if you didn't hear from me in a day or two, call the local cops and tell them to look where the buzzards are circling.... oh, sorry, those are sibs, not buzzards... any way, I will at least take my phone next time, ya bunch of old mother hens..... and no, the leg is fine, just sore, I didn't even think about it until I started down the bank of the creek... OH Yeah, maybe I need to take it easy.... but I was in "rock hunting mode", and I did bring water, ok??????? I'll try not to let ya'll know next time I have fun... party poopers....
And yes Starri, I found quite a few pieces of petrified wood that looked burned on one end... I find that a lot in this one place... I always wonder if a very long time ago some sort of dwelling burned.... they are really beautiful....it's in this same vicinity that I found a spear head and a 1916 Standing Liberty Quater.... the quarter was under a rock that I just wanted to look at, didn't want to keep it. When I picked up the rock the quarter was sticking in the dirt,,,, you could hear me holler for miles...... and coming up the other side of the creek I found the spear head..... so , no ladies , I'm sure I will continue on as before....
Hope Seeme posts tonight..... just to let us know what is going on with mama... and hope the sibs are behaving.... it could get ugly.....
Hugs to everyone......
FIL is not in the best spirits, my husband wrote a term paper to infom him of the treatment for his C-diff. this is his third round of antibiotics, he was not wanting to take the probiotics, because it was something i made him take with the last script and since the diareah returned, he sumized the probiotics didn't work. Well my hubby explained how troublesome and dertimined the c-diff bacteria is, and how, he is only 3/4th of the way though because the doctors, will let this 10 day course run and when the diareah returnes then he will start the longer course, and then the tapering. FIL was discouraged, For me I have a giant weight lifted off my back, because I was the only one in the house trying to help dad. my husband had been going to work early coming home later and later. until i broke last wednesday night. i got the older "bully" brother pissed because I emailed them both saying they needed to grow up and acept responsibility. their dad needs them. it got yelled at by the bully brother and his wife told me stuff she must have been holind on to for years. well it did make me feel worse. But they had said when we first got dad on July 3, just take him for a little while. we have to help our daughter moved to Los Cruces, and we will take him as soon as we can after that. Well then Bully brother confirmed his elective knee replacement for aug 10, or so that's not a good time to take him. We are okay with keeping him, just say you can't do it! well it has turned out my husband has been bullied by his brother his whole life. my email caused a ruckus and the bully brother gave an ultimatium email, just have his stuff ready we will pick it up tomorrow. then a few hours later, i want too know what does dad want. well, dad like and wants to stay here. but we all were expecting bully brother to follow through on his bluster. ... well, the emotional blockage my husband had been holding back against his bully brother broke loose. he wrote a long explination to his dad to tell him of how his brother had treated him for the last 50 years. and how bully brother is always to busy to help, but he says he wants to help, but something else is more pressing at this very moment. my husband has always been quiet,not one to just talk about stuff---well i live with a new man, he has opened up, he is making jokes, and talking all the time, i've already had to put my finger into my ears and go, la,la,la....he is right now talking with his sister in Omaha, they have talked 6-7 hours since the - EMAIL !
I have thought I souhn't have sent it, but with the new communications with my husband, is sister, and shutting up bully brother, i think it was more successful than I could have ever hoped for. --- ladeeda, my fil has geodes and pink granite and matates at his house and a table made of petrified wood. he is a real rock hound. Well he love botany, biology, and birding. good thing my front yard is filled with birds. wow, it feels good to release this stuff.,,, thank all
Seeme I hope those siblings are behaving if they don't I'll lend you Rick ... lol he'll teach them a lesson they won't soon forget lol.
And it's ok for your fil to get down.... maybe after things have been explained to him, he will understand there is an end in sight....We can't make all things all better all the time....
Sorry to hear you are missing your family so much... and yes, I would really feel torn between fil and my own family..... but you'll get there soon, and you will rest easier...Thank God your sibs are very present for them.... I would be a wreck being that far away if they weren't being taken care of...... let us know how things are going for you and we are all happy you let it out, makes room for some peace and quite in our brain....
Your fil has a table made from petrified wood..... omg, if you are on FB please send a pic so I can see it. You can find me, Linda Miller, picture of a little girl with a donkey..... my granddaughter Keltin and Cheyenne.... and many of us are on FB so we'll get together there too if you want....
And I think we were in competiton about who had the hottest summer... It is cooling off here and I think I will have a shirt made that says, "I survived the summer of 2011 with the help of my AC friends"
So keep coming back, you will get to know us and us, you, and it's like having a whole family that understands and gives love and support.....glad you feel better...
Shawna, sorry you have felt so bad yesterday..... try to get some rest today, and if you don't feel like doing the whole day of festivities, then don't... I have to work, so no fun for me today. Oh, I forget, we did have some pretty high winds yesterday so Sonny will have lots of sticks to pick up today.....so we can spend time outside and let Marie be alone with her misery...... I do not expect her to be in a good mood, so therefore I am never dissapointed.... it works for me..
Seeme, no word from you last night, hope you get a minute to post and let us know how things are going.... love , hugs and angels for you and mama....
Love to all, talk to ya'll this evening...hugs across the miles to everyone....
Bro from WA state says he can't figure out how to get from the airport in Raleigh to the hospice center, so he's not coming.....already told him to pack his GPS and rent a car, so don't know what his problem is. He did that last year when he came. Guess he wants to blame me for not picking him up in Raleigh........sorry....I feel no blame or shame.......I may just tell him how he is , if I bother at all.
Gonna take a shower and go back. Hubby made banana nut bread for everyone there....still warm from the oven. Put cinnamon sugar on top and it smells wonderful.....and he even cleaned up the mess in the kitchen. YIPPEE!!
Will be a long day today, so catch you tomorrow....Love and hugs appreciated.......
Just wanted to send a quick post, then I need to do some col things, then I will be back.
seeme.....good to hear from you and I'm shooting angels to you as fast as I can....although I did let a little devil cut in line and that one went to bro......Give mom a hug from us..........I'm wishing a peaceful day for you and mom. Sometimes it helps when you let go and tell them it's okay to die. I did that with my mom and she seemed to rest better. Love and hugs being sent......
Just got off the phone with ladee and she and Sonny are out in the yard playing pick up sticks and having a great time. She asked me to convey to everyone and ask for prayers..........the fires are getting closer to her area....about 20 miles and the wind has not let up. Approximately 425 homes have been lost to that damn fire. I have told her if she needs to leave to throw Diva and some clothes in her car and head to Missouri to stay at our lake house. So here comes another volley of angels to ladee and the others in the area that have already lost their homes.
Love and Hugz to all this morning,
Jam
ladee - rock hunting sounds like heaven - we had a gravel driveway at one house and the kids used to find petrified wood in it - that started a collection that we had for years - love rocks - and natural gemstome jewelery -have a slice of a geode from the rockies - such a wonderful greeny blue colour - hope ur day goes well - good to lower ur expectations re Marie - hope u r not too stiff/sore from yesterday's trek
shawna - take it easy till those allergies settle down a little -hope the BBQ goes well. and that u r able to work on ur website again soon
peg -glad you spouted off -both here and in the email -being honest can really shake things up -what a blessing u r for ur hubby -sounds liike things are lining up much better than they were - and as far as the bully goes -like ladee said -stand up to him - they back down fast - lots of mouth there -poor fil - these gut things are no fun and takes a bit of time to straighten them out - tell him my mum had c-diff from antibiotics too about 7 years ago and it took a long time for her to get over it, probiotics are essential but she is 99 now and going strong. Sorry u r missing ur family and hope u get to see them soon -I am jealous of the petrified wood coffee table too -Gary would think he died and went to heaven - love geodes too - as re the number - it seems to run in the family - both sides - the women look younger, live longer - into their 90s often and mother is planning on breaking the pattern and making it to 100 -she will do it out of sheer stubborness if nothing else (another family trait lol)
stormy, I guess I am surprised that sis doesn't understand that your dads house is not a place for kids to be in for long - it really isn't and u have done so well so far - think she is so tied up in concern for dad -understandably -yes your hubby and lil red have to come first -i think he is wild over there because it is not easy for him - u r in a tough situation trying to balance it all
starri - a blog sounds good -glad you have a good campground to setttle in for a while -of course u miss your mum and meltdowns will happen for a while yet I am sure -and that is OK
jam - good idea about writing things down -what the counselor suggested i do re Gordie - haven't done it yet - but I talk to him (Gordie that is) - the scrapbook sounds like such a wonderful idea and also a record for others - good for u - love hearing about it and not off topic at all - ur way of dealing with ur mum's death - dealing with death is something we all have to do at some point (caregivers especially) and it is not easy. Sweet potatoes!!! I planted some eyes that were growing into a large tub of dirt. Gary wants to bring it in when the weather gets cold and see if we can grow them here in the house - I need a "hobby room" for skulls, antlers and sweet potatoes
everyone -how r u doing? saw somewhere that 54 is getting some hospice help -so glad, cwgrl is going on a holiday -awesome - what everyone needs to do - look after urself -so much time and energy goes into the caregiving - it is like a bumless pit (bottomless but we change it to bumless - what we called my oldest grandson as he was growing up and ate and ate and ate - the bumless pit - sounds like the col is turning into a bumless pit too -her second childhood?)
everyone let us know how u r and what u are doing for u!
here I upped the painkillers - woke up with pain last night and took some about 4 a.m. and went back to sleep and woke up around 8 this am relatively painfree -and still that way - went 8 hrs at one point yesterday but then needed them again 4 hrs later -now going on 5-6 hrs and am pretty good - so - hopefully - past the worst - of course all these painkillers do a job on bunging up ur gut - so working on that now - can't eat the raw veggies i usually do and miss them so headed for some V8 this morning and will have some flax "porridge" - lots of fibre - the area in my mouth looks good - the inflammation/swelling is much better down and no bone visible - feeling some twinges so back to the painkillers in a bit - see how long I can last - doing things is a distraction - need to organize my freezers - having my head in the cold won't hurt either lol - as much as my mum is difficult she does some things right -when she got sciatica a few years ago some predicted the end - but she would't take much of the heavier drugs - was in extreme pain for a while - couldn't go for her walks - didn' t even take her tylenol on time - b*tched, complained, threatened - made everyone's life as miserable as her's was -but she got through it and healed - quite an achievement at 96. I have the same tendencies - though I hope I don't make every one else's life miserable - don't want the heavy drugs. will rather tolerate as much pain as i can and get active as soon as i can -my friend knew an older lady who got sciatica - went to bed with the heavy drugs and went down hill from there and passed away
well on that "cheerful" note better get up, bathe and do my hair -G is supposed to be coming home today and I needd to figure out some meals as well as freezer room for the goodies he will bring home with him from camp
another cheerful note - really this time - seems like the increased dose of diflucan is helping - my colour was (not so much since the extraction) back to normal - always a good indicator for me and I am able to eat some fruit without dire results -yippee!!!
just saw ur latest post jam - prayers for ladee and the fires - we had them pretty ]close too - NOT a good feeling -
ladee - how do u do it??? from floods to fires - stay safe -whatever else stay safe -and Diva too! sending cool winds and rain in the right direction
love, hugs and prayers ♥♥♥
jo
Will try to check on later. About caught up on posts..... Lve and prayers to you all vic
the petrified wood table in at F-I-L house 2 1/2 hours form our house. When we go back a a few weeks to get more stuff and turn off water, i will take a photo.
I pray that the fires stay away.
I will look up on FB when I get a few more minutes. I hope everyone has a safe labor Day. We are headed out at to look for a new recliner for F-i-L because the one we brought from his house, might have c-diff spores, since he put soiled disposible underwears in it the other day.
Have any of you had any experiance with this Colustrium Difficile, C-diff?
Jam, thanks for passing the word..... It made me feel better just knowing ya'll knew about it, I didn't feel so alone.... thanks again....
Seeme, it is probably a good thing that that bro is not coming... seems it's just too much trouble,,, actions speakes louder than words, and he will be the one with regrets, and you are right about maybe talking to him , or not... will depend on how important it becomes to you.... Your plate is full right now... take care of you and mama, and kiss Mike for us for being such a sweetheart in all this... I am so grateful he is there with you.....love, hugs and angels sent your way... love you!!!!!!!
Vic, so good to hear from you, I been missin' ya !!! I almost went insane when my computer crashed.... I was having a serious "sister-friend" jones....... missing everyone so much.... and the brother came thru did he.... well guess there are still miracles and happy to hear he finally sees how things are... and happy your parents got to see him....and sleeping in your own house in your own bed.... just no place like home, huh Dorothy!!!!! Love ya...
Emjo, glad to hear you are starting to feel better, and I really admire you about the drugs, but what you don't take, I will... I have become a real sissy in my old age...but rarely need anything strong, like if my leg is really hurting and I have to work..... I am on my feet for many hours so , no, I will be acting like Marie if I didn't take something....
I know I have missed someone, catch ya later... have a sinus headache from the smoke and wind... going to go lay down and read for awhile...
Love ya'll bigger than our smokey Texas sky...
Shawna, hope that you are feeling better, I like watching the storms as well.. just something about them.
Hope your day was a peaceful one Ladee, I'm glad that Sonny likes picking up the sticks, he gets fresh air, exercise and some peace and quiet away from the constant criticism, this is something he can't help, it's a pity that she can not recognize it ..you'll have to show me your collection when we hit your state.. and trust me we will.. probably not till after the first of the year, but we will show..lol... keep us posted on how you are doing. smart thing to have a bag packed and ready to go if you have too..
((((Seeme)))) big hugs my friend, this is tough on you and the others as well, like you said, you have no blame or responsibility for that brother of yours. If he was 2, then maybe, but he's not, he's the one that is going to have to live with the fact that he was not willing to come and see his mother.. I thought that idiot brother of mine was going to mess around and not see mom before she passed, he finally got his head out of that dark smelly place and made it. That banana bread sounds wonderful, nothing better than fresh out of the oven..smeared with butter.
Jam, thanks for letting us know about Ladee and the fire, hopefully they will get that thing contained.
Vic, good to see you, and glad your brother showed up for a change, I bet it was nice just to be able to piddle around in your own home.. after Mom passed, I spent a few days doing nothing and then started to work on my own home, left it in decent shape when we pulled out. will probably be covered in dust when we get back home, but that is ok.
Jo, I'm with Ladee, I've become a sissy in my old age..lol, mouth pain has been something I never could take. Now I try to keep from taking anything unless I really have too, and sometimes I come to regret not having taken something earlier.. they say to take something for the pain before it gets too bad, otherwise you might as well forget it, it won't help . i try and not take anything for the leg if i can