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Book, (((hugs))) and blessings to you!
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Book hi and very happy holidays!! I know where you are I've been there before. Been going thru starting taking care of my mom again which was a hard decision and my dad died a little over a year ago and our relationship was bad to say the least so I was just thinking of him last night and thought I have not really missed him but he wasn't really a part of our lives for years so you can't miss what you haven't had but I am so angry with him for the way he treated my family and the way he left me alone to care for my mom at 15. I think we all deal with anger indifferent ways. As for the good Christian part we all also believe and worship in our own ways. I love when people say your only a real Christian if you go to church but the bible talks of Jesus worshipping by the river and telling people they could come to the father wherever they are even in their bedrooms. God is everywhere especially in your heart. Do what's right for you. That's the best way to be a good Christian.
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bookluvr, I found the book. I am going to see, on a dry day, if I can bike down to the local Barnes & Noble to take a look at it.
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I made it through Christmas. I got a replacement for my present phone that keeps dying on me. The new phone won't even activate.
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Chris, I didn't read the book because it was paperback. I'm so used to E-books now. Just like this computer and my iPad, I have to enlarge the print so that I can read without straining my eyes. My computer at work is Zoomed at 125%. All my Word and Excel documents are zoomed up to 120%. So, when I try to read a regular, real book, I struggle with the now tiny prints. So, it would be good for you to make sure it's something you can read. Otherwise, you can always purchase from BN the e-book version so that you can enlarge the font.
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Why are my male clients throwing me curve balls? Today, the director of HR from another island, we've been exchanging emails due to a medical emergency requiring one of their workers needed a one-way back home, hospital, nurse escort, etc... This is my first time dealing with this specific medical emergency. So, I'm emailing the airline, too. Finally, at 4:30pm, he calls me in a panic. Another employee must be at another island by Friday. (This is the same island in which another company paid over $3000 to get there one-way.) For this Friday, there was one seat available for $700.00. The HR director shocked me because he actually said, "I love you!" I was so shocked, I didn't know how to respond to that. I grew up without those words, no hugs, no encouragements, etc...

Am I so old fashioned that I find it a bit inappropriate for men whom I have only business dealings - to say those words to me? Is saying/writing those words like an "in" thing now and I'm just not "with it"? I'm just so puzzled.... These are clients I've been dealing with for over 5 years.
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Okay. It's an "in" thing. I just heard over the talk radio. The male radio host and a caller were talking ball games (football, I think.) Just as they were saying goodbye, the radio host said, "We love you!" ....
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Book, I think the casual use of the word love has been around as long as I remember... I love pizza, I love your outfit, I loved the movie... what he was saying was just like those kinds of statements. It's nice to know that you are appreciated!
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Book, I understand your discomfort with being told that. It is used casually quite often. Getting that ticket must have been very important to the company. Some people just express themselves this way. I don't myself, I tend to be more reserved.

This society is becoming so easily offended by ordinary things said and done. Some justifiably so, but I think there are too many people taking things too seriously. I see it in my kids and I guess their generation it started when they we're in elementary school. Is this millennial behavior? Everyone had to be a winner, feel good about themselves ALL THE TIME, feelings were not to be hurt ever, participation trophies and awards. My ex and I called it the touchy feely education and generation. Developing a spine to stand up to bully behavior shouldn't even be necessary.

Heard a funny Xmas song on the radio that is about how easily offended this politically correct society of ours has become. Google Brad Paisley Kung Pao Buckaroo Holiday. LOL!
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I guess I’m old fashioned. I still think those words should be used sparingly and not with business associates. It’s a bit unnerving because these 2 men are married. {chuckling} it’s a good thing that I’ve stopped reading romance novels. I’d be daydreaming about them. =)

A few months ago, I was shocked when a female client (admin assistant) from another island called me up. We rarely call. Always have to email to leave trails of our conversation. She threw me a curve ball when she said, “My favorite person!” It was awkward the few times she said it when she would call. I’m comfortable with it now. I prefer this because it’s more appropriate in a business setting. Prude!!
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It's midnight now. I'm going to shower and then hit the sack. I need to leave the house before 8:30am. I don't know why, but all day yesterday and today, I keep thinking that the member of my religion will try to catch me home around 8:30am today (now Saturday early morning). No waking up late!  I need to leave the house before they arrive.

And my iPad keeps rejecting the charger. We don't have an Apple store here on island. I guess I will drop by sis tomorrow and see if any of her chargers will work on my iPad. I seriously need to start thinking of a replacement. Either that, or get use to using the Kindle's online browser. {rolling eyes}
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Yesterday afternoon at work, ... wow, this defective kindle actually puts punctuation marks on the top list scroll options... The new one I'm using doesn't do that. Scary...

Anyway, yesterday afternoon {giggle.. Kindle just gave me options for: . , ?}, I started thinking of dad. A few tears started falling. I quickly wiped it. Must'nt cry at work. Just those very few tears and my eyes were red..... This morning, lying in bed at 6:30, I decided to pray to God. Since I always struggle with praying, I just asked Him to please look into my heart. Please let dad know how I felt for him... As the tears started falling, I found myself also addressing dad that I'm sorry. That I did the best that I can. If I wasn't here for him, he would have lots of bedsores, no one would massage his legs .... Well, this touching moment got interrupted. The urgency to go to the bathroom would not be ignored any longer... {I'm back} I'm lying here trying to bring that feeling again. Alas, my desire to pray to God is gone. Back to blank awkward brain. 7:00 am. Time to get up and flee before they come!
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bookluvr, I detest E-Books.

Not just for staring at the computer for a long time. But also, any number of things could happen to the computer.

But, I do understand what you mean. About needing a bigger font.
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Chris, I used to hate e-books, too. It's a trial and error thing. I've learned that if it's too bright (seemed perfect at the time I was reading) - by night time, overnight and the next morning, my eyes were very sore -even to lightly touch it. Overstrained it. When I overcompensated, by too low a dim lighting, same thing happened - sore, painful to the touch eyes. I find myself constantly adjusting the brightness every time I read.

For my favorite books, I still buy the real books. I'm not picky. I just go to Amazon or Ebay to buy the cheapest used paperback books. I usually aim for $0.99 + $3.99 shipping. When it arrives, it just goes straight to my large book cabinet. So, if we ever have a typhoon and it knocks out the power for several weeks, I have lots of D, C, AA and AAA batteries, over 5 battery powered lanterns and my paperback books to fall back on. I still keep (somewhere in the house) an old fashioned landline telephone that doesn't need to be recharged in order to work. (At the time, I was caregiving 2 bedridden parents with mom on the oxygen machine 24/7.)
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I was at sis' house today. We were lying on her bed. She asked me if I have been buying books. (Remember, she gave me a $100 Amazon gift card.) I enthusiastically said that I missed out on the after-xmas-sale. I forgot to check all my wishlists. Only 2 days ago, I found in that one morning, over 5 books that became Free or went from $5.99 to now $0.99! I was so excited that I've been buying a lot of my wish lists' books for $0.99! Sis stared at me and then rolled her eyes. I think... the $100 was meant to buy all the books that I wanted NOW instead of waiting for it to go on sale. I cannot do that! What a waste of $100.00 to just buy 16 ebooks at $5.99 each .. when I can buy 100 ebooks for $0.99 each! =)
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I love e-books and the ability to check out library books from my home! I wouldn't want to read on a tablet though, the e ink on my dedicated e reader is so much easier on the eyes. And I like the built in dictionaries so that I can check or translate unfamiliar words, sometimes when I'm reading real paper books I've caught myself pressing a word to get a definition lol. I wish the screen was bigger though, once you make the font bigger you can only fit a couple of paragraphs per page.
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I bought a Kindle Paper White. I couldn't stand it. The covers were not in color. It was black/white. The highlighter was not colorful. (I color-code as I read. Main characters in Pink, Blue for important info, Orange is just tidbits and Yellow is just extra info regarding tidbit Orange.) And yes, I even tried to enlarge the font. And that made me do a lot of scrolling. I gave it to sis and told her to sell it on her next garage sale. I don't think anyone ever bought it.

I find myself at work trying to swiping my desktop computer's screen.  It doesn't have swiping capability. Must use mouse to move anything on the screen.
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I went to sleep 2am this morning. I was busy looking online for iPad's prices. I woke up at 7am with a pounding headache so I went back to sleep. Woke up at 9am! And felt really refreshed. Still lying on my livingroom sofa bed, I heard someone calling from the porch, "K? K!" ... I silently groaned. A member from my religion is right outside the window and I'm still in bed. I closed my eyes and ignored her.... They came back at 11:45am. I couldn't avoid them 3 times in a row! Plus, they parked their car away from my view. So, I didn't have time to hide.

No pressure, I was told. You can come back to regular worship since I no longer have other obligations preventing me. No pressure.... come when YOU want... No pressure... There's worship today at 4pm. No pressure... We can pick you up if you want. I'm not pressuring you... If you want, we're here for you - to talk with, to go out for a meal. No pressure.... In the end, I started giggling every time he said "No Pressure" because you know what? He Was Pressuring Me!!! The more he tried to pressure me, the more vague I became.... If you want to come to worship at 4pm, please call me by 3pm.... I just shook my head...

The pressure of Religious Obligation is now Full On!!!
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Before fave niece left island on a one-way ticket, she told me that I Will be going back to my religion. She said that I won't be able to resist their pressure. I said that I won't. She had a knowing look. She has friends of my religion. She saw how tight a grip they have on their members. She knew that I will not prevail against them. I'm still prevailing....
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.... for now...
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It's okay Book.
Just tell them you are going now to a different church (name names), and you will find out what "no pressure" means.
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...Send.. for me to reject my religion and turn to another one is .... "As a dog returns to his vomit"... which may not be so bad if it frees me from them... But I will never be free unless I leave this island and start new elsewhere. And don't give out my new address to them so that they cannot send someone to 'visit ' me in my new place.

Years ago, my ex boyfriend (Catholic) told me that we can marry and move to the states. He figured that this is the only way I cannot be dragged back into my religion.
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So sorry Book.
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There are other ways NOT to be dragged back into a religion.

If you are a member of a cult, you can start by questioning their doctrine.
They will ultimately disfellowship a member if you disagree with them over time, and keep asking questions.
Then you will be ex-communicated, says my husband. He was too young to be baptised into his mother's religion, but his Mother was ex-communicated after questioning their doctrine and disagreeing with them.

This is only one way out, there are others.

Book, I am sure that your emotions are not up for this process, but I wanted you to know there is hope for you. I don't think that I am the right person to talk to, but there will be others who know you better. Maybe not on AC, but somewhere.

Put off any fears or thoughts about your religion until after the new year. imo.

Feel better soon Bookluvr!

Know that you are loved!
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Happy New Year everyone! I wishing all many blessings in 2018 !
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My first used doll that arrived by mail - is freaking me out. When I look at my new Maru doll with her long black hair, I smile spontaneously to her. I had placed the Used doll near the lampstand. Every time I go to turn on/off the lamp, my eyes automatically avert from it. This is sooooo not good! I'm wondering if my sudden violent anger is being outwardly influenced by something else. I get angry all the time. What I felt earlier was Violent anger that was out of control. I was suspicious. I believe oldest sis, too.  That's why she was staring at me after the anger incident.... Trash day is tomorrow morning. If I throw the doll in the trashbin, will I find her in my car? Inside the house? In my bedroom? Ugh!!! I'm scared of it. I need to go with my gut instincts. And she is soooo pretty. But not as pretty as my Maru doll. I need to get up the nerve to touch it. I will admit to freaking out when I touched her last week. But it was past trash day and so she remained on the table.  I didn't want to forewarn her that I was onto her/it.  (My niece from next door found a used doll and took it home.  Strange things started happening. Niece tried several times to throw the doll but it always came back to her bedroom. Her brother had to burn the doll to finally stop it from appearing.)

Didn't I say that this new year I will learn to have courage and determination? Time to put it to the test. Ohhhh, pleeeaaase do not have it come back after I've thrown it!!! I need to pray extra hard as I carry her. My usual very short repetitive words will be: "please protect us from evil, please protect us from evil, " since this sentence is easier coming from my heart/mind/soul.... Must mean it from deep within in order for it to happen, you know... When my 2 used dolls arrive in the mail, I will automatically throw it without opening the box.  That's what I get for ordering used dolls...
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Sorry Book, I'm not very well versed in your culture, but is it really necessary to trash the new dolls sight unseen? I know you've invested a bit of cash into them, could you just keep them in the box and re sell them elsewhere?
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No. If someone had played the ouji board, any spirit attracted to that 'game' can easily attach itself to the doll.if you know someone who is psychic and have dealt with spirits, ask them their thoughts about the ouji. .. If I gave those dolls to someone, and they have an abusive husband or a spouse who is mentally unstable, I have just sent a terrible violent influence into their home. Remember, my people have a strong belief that our ancestors are with us. We're open to supernatural stuff... Tired. Can't think. Almost 2am.
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I am very blessed to have a mother who is 81 yo who is still in relatively good health, except for Atrial Fibrillation and HBP. Her mother and three of her sisters all died from strokes and I worry constantly about my mother overdoing things around the house. For example, she was outside this morning in 28 degree weather shoveling dirt to put in her flower beds!! How can I make her understand that she does not need to be doing such things?

She is constantly doing things she shouldn't be doing
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Book can you carry the doll to the trash without physically touching it. Like pushing her onto a shovel or something as quick as possible.
Can you return the parcel with the used dolls without opening it. Just write "Unknown return to sender" on the box.
Just talked to my cleaner who is psychic and she suggested you take it to a priest and get her blessed before you throw her in the trash. She said have them use holy water. That would probably be RC so you may want to go to one of your native ministers and have them exorcize her or whatever. Just a suggestion to neutralize her before you trash her so she can't come back and do bad things to you.
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