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Love your new avatar Book..... make me laugh.
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I'm finally reading "Fade to Blank". That article keeps popping up here on AC. So, I finally decided to read it. At the moment, I'm not really into it. I did a lot of skip readig. David - used to be great at bookkeeping. As his dementia progress, what used to take him about 1 hour to do, he ended up 5 hours. Dealing with numbers become difficult.

Or Rick who started panicking because his wife was gone too long. He was so scared, he couldn't move. His wife only left him alone 3 minutes. I've also learned that time durations are definitely different.

Lost the remote. He couldn't find it in all the usual places. He checked where he usually keeps the remote. It's not there He looks all over. Finally he finds it- where it belongs. ... The article says that their eyes is not transmitting t the brain.
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Okay, iPad getting blurry. Time to call it a night. Nigh/Morning!
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Neither I nor my wife like it either. It takes us almost a week or so to adjust to the change.
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Oh how I dread daylight saving time!
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'Multitaskal'..... Love it !!!! I am no longer 'multitaskal' either... love ya book...
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Hey Austin... good to see you here !!! I just came back about a month ago myself... starting to feel like a family reunion !!! How have you been... give us an update.... hugs.
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Hi Austin, long time no see! or .. Long time, no hear! Glad to see you back.. I missed you. Welcome back. =)
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P.S... I'm sooo glad that I bought this wireless keyboard for the iPad. It's just like typing on a computer - the keys are placed just right, and in the right places - so that I can type freely on the iPad as if I'm typing on my laptop. Logitech keyboard. Got 2 exact keyboards - one for the iPad and one for the Kindle. Seems the keyboard can only be used for One device. It's not multitaskal.
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Ladee, I posted to you lastnight. I was very tired when I did. It's not here on this thread. I misplaced it somewhere. Just know that I'm glad that it's not as serious as I thought.

I miss my laptop. It has all mine and my dad's expense accounts, billing charts, and budget of when to pay for what bills. I also realized today, that I cannot access my credit card accounts to see the balance due and to download the statements. I refuse to use my iPad to access my bank/credit card accounts. I surf too much on it on FaceBook (notorious for virus/spywares) and YouTube videos. Plus, Apple insist that we don't need an antivirus for the iPad. I'm a little leery about that! Plus, when I go places, I bring my iPad and then hop on to a free wi-fi (which also has No protection for your device).
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Ladee and everyone else, take care of yourselfs.. between the injuries and the full moon it's nuts out there!
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Thank you Book... I called today and they said it was an error and to toss it. I know from past experience that sometimes they send out bills for the overage in hopes you will just pay it, but as I knew it was covered.. I was going to ask! If it was legit I would have paid it.. was just griping! I , for 2 years in a row got a bill from some Dr many towns away for "reading" my mamogram. Now my mamos are covered 100%, and both times I already had the reports, and notification that my ins had paid, and these bills came about 11 months after the event. When I called to "inquire" about this, both times they said.. opps a mistake.. I can only assume this Dr is bored and reads strange peoples mamos as a hobby... but how many people pay these bills? I always question if I have an issue... But you got a bill for a bodybag? That is awful!
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Ladee my thoughts are with you-I have been away from ACfor a long time-hope to be back more from now on
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ladee1, I meant to also say, I'm so glad to hear that they don't think anything is serious with you....and that it can be things will be a big ordeal...continued good wishes and prayers for you...
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ladee1 don't you love a Dr like that!!! And I think he's right the stress of nagging someone about something just makes it worse...I have always battled with weight issues, up and down and up and down...the doctor I used to have in my former life told me once time during one of my up phases...because I had brought it up, he didn't....but he said, I'm not going to nag someone about it because I figure they know they need to lose weight ...so the fact that he was so kind about it, I immediately got back on the program, addressed it and by my next appointment had gotten it off....

Still raining here...and I think part of tomorrow, then the remnants of this hurricane are headed towards you folks in the NE....We needed rain badly here, so it hasn't been a problem for us...hopefully by the time it gets there it won't cause yall any issues....

Glad, hope your move continues to go smoothly, and the same for you RA...may all be well for all of you...
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RA, best wishes on the move and as smooth a transition as there possibly can be.
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Today is the day we move mom to AFCH hope it goes well. Will let u know: )
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Sorry Book, that I didn't come back on here and say that things do not look serious....a stress test (they could follow me around at work instead of make me do a treadmill !) some blood work and a heart ultrasound... really liked the Dr..He looked about 12 !!!! But very kind, very soft spoken, showed me the EKG and what was wrong.....so, don't think this is going to be a big ordeal. Of course he addressed my smoking.But what he said was, tell me when you are ready to quit...I don't push or nag, the stress of making someone quit is worse than if they make the choice them selves..... so no pressure, which is the last thing I need right now..... so thanks for checking on me Book..... now i just have to make up my mind to fly on blind faith that my needs will be met with what SS I get and quit my job..... still not there, but working on it..... love you sweetie....
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Pam, are you your father's executor? If you are, then those bills need to be paid - out of his estate (I think.) If you're not, then forward the bill to the executor. No executor?

When your father went to the hospital, did you sign anything (like in the admission papers or the discharge papers) on one of those, "Sign here .... and here .... and here..." kind of paperwork? I used to sign ALL of the 'heres' before I overheard someone telling a friend that she didn't know that by signing all those 'heres' that she was also signing a promissory note that if her parent couldn't pay for the bill, then she will. I was shocked. I have hanging over my head - of the hospital coming after me for both of mom and dad's ER visits all these years!!!

Pam, with mom's last visit to the hospital (she arrived deceased since she died here at home), older sis traveled with her body to the ER. I warned my siblings about signing the hospital papers. Well, the hospital sent ME a bill for mom's last visit to the ER. It seems both Medicare and mom's private insurance both refused to pay for some stuff (body bag was one of it.) I went to the hospital and disputed the billing to me since I did not go to the hospital with mom (I was at work). Sure enough, they pulled out mom's admission papers - and my name was no where on it.
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Oh 57 I feel for you! Good luck with the assessor! Dad got a bill this week for a Dr from his (fatal) hospital visit in Feb..I never met this Dr and it does not say what the bill is for. They submitted to his insurance, and they paid . But we got the "overage" bill. His insurance always paid everything, this is the ONLY bill we have gotten. So I have to call tomorrow... But if I do not like the answer.. Good luck collecting!! They may have to resubmit, or they may think I am stupid.. but this is 8 months past his passing... I may cry foul
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Well I have a full blown cold and also am needed more at work since one of the owners has been pretty sick-going on week #3!
Received dad's latest AL invoice and his price is going up by 10% Dec 1st. This is first increase since he moved in last July. I was expecting this as his care needs have increased.
Then received our property reassessment today. Our land is in 3 parcels but in one continuous piece of land but the land prices are all not the same. It's not like we have valuable wooded land so I have scheduled an apt with the assessor to try to understand their rational as it makes no sense.
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It absolutely is!!
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Some think that our lived ones do not comprehend but we do...so respect our caregiver efforts. It is so important for moral...
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Book, I hate when someone comes out with one of those dismissive comments like "you can find the time"..nothing makes me want to smack them up side of the head faster...they don't have a clue..while the intent is well meaning (hopefully) the accomplishing is a lot more difficult.

Ladee, I hope your appointment goes well ...thinking good thoughts for you.

Stellach, I feel like now I am finally able to speak on this from both sides. I have seen folks who have supportive siblings, extended families, surrounded by friends who call and come by for coffee and just to ask is there anything you need. I have seen them...but have not had the pleasure of knowing them for the past four years.....NOW....after four years of being at this for a totally bedfast Mama, my brother, with whom I have had a LOT of serious problems...largely I thing due to his wife...but for the most part...all of them abandoned us way back when. It has been excruciatingly difficult to even go one more day at this...so alone, so incredibly blue, so hopeless feeling ....BUT...now HIS wife ...the SIL, is pretty sick..with what we still don't really know, and suddenly he has had to take on the role of sole caregiver...and less than two months of it has just about done him in...and NOW...he "gets it"....he finally told me he didn't know how I was doing it...and while this still is of no physical, hands on help to me...it is undeniable that just knowing he is seeing why I feel the way I feel towards everyone who has been such an a$$ is a huge ....what's the word I'm looking for.....maybe even smirk of satisfaction....

I have heard most of my adult life how this happens...how when someone needs a caregiver, most often they will find themselves in a situation like most of us...alone and abandoned....if you're very lucky, you might get some help...for me, the emotional abandonment is what has almost destroyed me...I have to admit I'm such a control freak about how I do things that I really do prefer to take care of Mama's daily needs rather than have to explain and explain largely as well, because I find I end up having to clean up a HUGE mess behind them or they just can't do it in the first place.

Every single one of our extended family on Daddy's side comes right past the turn off from the road into town..We are two blocks away from that point and the number of times those people have come by is exactly ZERO. My parents were always there for all of them...and his parents...All I can think is maybe because these are younger folks they just didn't grow up with the same strong sense of supporting family that I did...but it disgusts me.

For now my brother and I are finally on the same page. It's a great feeling...I wish folks understood that not being made to feel like we've just dropped off the face of the earth or don't have feelings or don't still want to enjoy holidays, etc. would mean so much....Fall has always been Mama's favorite season..mine too...But the bad thing about it is here comes the holidays...which present a whole other issue....and I fear those happy memories now, will forever be, just memories...
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Ya wish, Ladee! My cardiologist told me that I must not make sudden movements like jumping up from the chair or exam table. EXERCISE at least 30 minutes a day. Walking is fine. Oh, and try not to be Stressful because it's stress that's going to kill you.

And what my GP told me, when I said that I work full time and then go home to caregive both bedridden parents and I can't exercise. He said, "You can make the time."

I hope it's not as bad as what we all worrying about. {{{Hugs}}} of encouragement !!!
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I don't know how I did it. Since my laptop is down, I spent a lot of time trying to change my avatar on the iPad without using the laptop. I did it! Now if I can only remember how I did it....
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Cardiologist appt this morning... praying it is something simple and he tells me quitting my job will fix everything....... naaah? Didn't think so... oh well, I can dream. Find one thing to be grateful for today... love ya'll.
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Nephew will come over in the weekend to help show me how to do the logon problem. Seems this can happen frequently, so I might as well learn how to fix it.
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Stellach, when my mom was alive, we used to celebrate all holidays here. We have a large porch with tin overhang and cement flooring. Oldest brother, wife and their grown kids would come over and stay on the porch. For years, they did not come in to at least say 'hi' to both bedridden dad and mom. Years. Now that is really sad. Imagine going to your parents home for the holiday meals and can't even take a few steps to open the Livingroom door, stick your head in and just say 'hi'. {{shaking my head}}
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Does anyone feel that the disengagement of siblings to their mom is more demoralizing & thus adds to the chroic challenges of being primary caregiver. She has late stage dementia but none of the caring is as exhausting as my sister, sister-in-law & brother who never visit, only create more tension with dismissive ungrateful excuses...
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Plus BIL is deployed and won't be back home until May next year. He's the computer geek. I told him what I wanted to do on my laptop and he got me this one. Very good quality since it lasted this long. Older sister bought me my first laptop that was about $1000-some. Laptop couldn't handle my prolonged use on it. It crashed suddenly. I think it was an HP?

Anyway, I need BIL to choose my new laptop. I want it to last just as long as this one.
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