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Golden Girls, love that show! Blanche, Dorothy, Rose and the old lady Sophia.
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LOL !!!! Our gas is $3.45, candy bars, sometimes two or three for a dollar...and as far as the m-cycle... well, it would take all you girls to get me off of it... I could get on it.... and ride like a crazy woman.... but with the arthritis in my knees and hands.... well, if ya'll couldn't get me off of it.... dangle chocolate in front of my face......

Yes, we have roaches here, not as big as the ones Lav has tho...... when I lived down home we almost had to wear helmets in the house, those suckers are huge and can fly..... mostly scorpions here to worry about...

And I think we'll have to get Book to move to the states... no demons allowed in the states.... !!!! She could travel all over the States and not have to pay horrible air fare prices......

The cost of living is good here in Tx..... unemployment low.....and here in Central Tx we are having another oil boom... which means jobs for many and revenue to the towns.....I think gas is cheaper here than anywhere....

Ya, Golden Girls... we need four, Veronica, who do you want to be.... I want to be the old lady.... can't remember her name....

God, finally something to look forward to...... this could turn into a plan !!! LOL

Have to work tonight so am going to bed for awhile.... ttyl.....love and hugs
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Do I see a new houseful of Goldern Girls forming? Don't worry Book if LadeeM moves to your island the spirits won't dare mess with her and I would put money on her not haveing time for cockroaches either. I bet she has found worse under rocks in Texas.
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Gas here in MA is $3.65 and candy is usually a buck at Walmart.. Cigarettes are $10 a pack and a 30 pack of Bud is usually $22.99.. They don't call us Taxachusetts for nothing! LOL
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Gas and chocolate is about the same here in Western NY. One thing that moves visiting Canadians to tears is not any tourist attraction, but a simple sign that says "Budweiser 30 pack $18.99" at the corner store. LOL
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Shilo, my next question is this - who gets hit the most with tornado. NO tornado for me. Those things are Scary! I will take a hurricane any time. It seems that hail likes to keep tornado company. So, you're out in the field, you see a tornado hopping, you need to quickly find a safe place. Oops... no houses nearby. I know, let's find a ditch. You find a ditch. Lo and behold! Is that golf ball size hail falling? Now where should I run? Under the bridge? Nope, that is a big no-no. {{shudder}}
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Book - here gas is $3.52 per gal. and at walmart a large size candy bar will cost you as low as $1.00 depending on what you buy. Ladee will have to let us know prices in her area.
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Book - I just read your last post about your bro. If his health is really bad and you do love him, let him have the chance to love. Look past his gf's faults...for your bro. It is the one loving thing you can do at this time. It will strengthen your relationship with him. When you spend time with his gf and she tries to belittle you just remember to take a deep breath in and blow it out your mouth! Then come tell us about it and get it out of your system so it doesn't eat at you and your relationship with your bro. I'm sorry bro is not in better health.
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Well,which place is the cheapest to live in? Definitely not here on island. They import everything and the cost of food, etc.. keeps rising. I just gas my car. It's $4.97 per gallon. My favorite regular size candy bar is now $1.10. We need to make sure that no mean or scary spirit from the Civil War is still roaming the area. I do Not like to hear noises at night that belongs to the supernatural.

I once slept overnight at a hotel by myself. Because I didn't know if someone had died in that room and might be haunting it, I went to bed fully clothed with socks on....and On top of the blanket. Any boogaloo (ghosts) visits me at night, I was already dressed and packed. I would have ran outside the room in seconds - if they did not bar the door...
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Photo - Have you found a home for your husband? Do you have any family or friends to talk? Keep talking to people here...we will walk the journey with you.

Book & ladeeM - I won't have anyone to help take care of me either. Mind if I join your group of lonesome doves? Book would you leave the island or would we be moving there? I just had a picture of LadeeM on her m-cycle circling around and around you warding off the evil spirits. There would be a learning curve to your culture but you would also need to accept a few of our um ways...as the m-cycle seems to be a must!
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Bro loves to talk, joke and flirt. He's a natural flirt. He was in the same flight with my other brother of TX. B-bro (Baby bro) flirted with the flight attendants. When it was time to eat, older bro paid $10 for his meal. B-bro got his for free. I hope his GF can handle this. He makes jokes, and she laughs at it. I will tell you this. She will be the one wearing the pants in their relationship, though.

What I'm really concerned about is how she is handling how close bro and I are. I just couldn't help it that she kept bringing up how happy bro is that she's with me. She took a photo of me and sent it to bro while we in the restaurant. She then couldn't resist telling me that bro said that I look weird. She really didn't have to tell me that. I mean, she was not telling me all the other stuff he was texting to her, but she just had to tell me that one only? That night, she sent me a text again saying that bro was happy that we spent time together. . I hope, really hope that I'm wrong that she does not perceive me as competition for bro's heart. That's why I'm trying to stay as neutral as possible.

She wants us to go eat at Yogurtland regularly. That's fine. It will help her to get to know me and not see me as a threat. I have other misgivings which I will not mention here. That one - I may be wrong - but no matter how I try to dismiss it - those thoughts keep popping back. I will not interfere. Bro used my spare cell phone. I had to use it yesterday. She text him telling him to delete all their texts. He did not. You guys, my brother loves her. His heart is really bad. Twice he failed his annual work's physical check-up. They actually called the ambulance to take him to the ER. If he loves this woman, then I will not stand in his way. And I think, since he met her last year, is also the time when he started to say those 3 words of affection to me by email and text. I still have his text in my cell phone. I'm hoping soooo hard that I'm wrong about her. Now I feel so sad thinking about it.
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Oh, you're right, Glad! I'm sorry Photo. I misread your comment. The stress of caregiving can lead others to smoking/drinking. Oldest sis said that she could never give up her cigarettes because they help her handle stress. She was smoking a pack a month. Then when she started to babysit dad, she's now back to being a chain smoker. FYI, statistically there is a higher death rate of caregivers than non-care givers. So, you could be right. A few months after my dad's stroke, my cholesterol shot up drastically. Stress would do us in.
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Book, saw this today, a guy carries cards in his wallet that says... STOP TALKING...... and hands them out to people who get on his nerves.... order you some !!!
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Book, maybe the things you don't like about bro's gf is the things he likes best... not the rudeness, but the talking non stop.....is he quite? Sometimes people are attracted to things in others they wish they were....

Are you making any arrangements for where you will live after dad passes? Sounds like they won't hesitate to send you packing....you are like me, no one to take care of me.... maybe we can find bridge to live under and be roommates!!!

Back to work tonight... seems I didn't have any time off , stayed busy cleaning house and the mess with the fridge.... I hate being Susy Homemaker....... I'd rather be sculpting or sleeping.....
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Book, I think it is photo that is smoking and drinking too much, at least the way I read it.
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Baby bro called me. First thing he asked was how was my outing yesterday. Usually we talk nonstop. I was quiet. I said the social answers but he kept waiting for the details. I couldn't tell him. So we had dead air silence on the phone. I changed the subject. Several times.

He's concerned about the house/land. Hello? You were here in March for 3 weeks. Why wasn't he concerned about it then? Because he was busy eating out with oldest bro at these different restaurants, and spending time with his gf. Now that he's back in Virginia, he's concerned? Whatever!

He wants me to get POA. Hello? Dad is not diagnosed with dementia. He said he's not stupid to let anyone have POA over him (his SIL had POA over his brother and something must have happened for him to be so anti-female having POA.) Dad who is very old fashion and believes women know nothing and should keep their mouth shut? Who is only good for cleaning and cooking? Bro became quiet.

So, I told him that he better figure out what he wants to do. Dad already said that his house/land goes to him and other older bro. If they want to keep it, he better figure out what he wants, and get his butt back here. Because once oldest bro finds a way to get POA, I truly believe this house/land would end up with him or his children.
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Photoart, I wouldn't be wishing that. Here on island, it is very common that when the wife has dementia, the husband is out fooling around. I've heard stories from the caregivers that sometimes the husband bring their mistresses into the home. No respect at all for their wives. They also said that they have known the men to divorce their wives. So many of them have praised my father for being there for mom. These caregivers really respected my father. Yep, it is unfair. Your husband did all that to stay healthy and yet continued to smoke and drink. Kind of cancels out the benefits. As for me, I wouldn't want to have dementia. I already know that I have no one to take care of me if I do. I will end up as one of those homeless people walking the streets.
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I think I will die long before my husband with Lewy Body Dementia, from smoking and drinking too much. The irony of this is my husband was a triathlete and Ironman who took care of his body for years, got his Masters, and he gets dementia. It is so unfair. I wish with every being that I could be the one with the dementia. Soooooo unfair.
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I, too, am going to take a nap. It's 1246pm and I'm sooo tired. Whacking those vines was so tiring. Thank goodness when my right hand was swinging that scythe, my left holding the 2nd scythe was positioned in front of my legs. Several times, I over whacked, met no resistance and the right handed scythe came flying right back to me. Several times it hit hard against the lefthanded scythe. I would have had a serious leg injury with blood spurting out and ... no blood transfusion. I would have died because our one hospital on this island does not have the facility to treat a 'no blood transfusion' emergency. It took me 40 minutes to whack it and pull up the knee high weeds. The darn vine had a tendril going into our phone's master box! The other vine was dangling on the spliced telephone wire that was connected to the box. I really need to be vigilant on those vines. And buy a garden glove. I used the latex gloves but that was icky when I pulled my sweaty hands from it.

I don't mind talkative people. I can listen to them. But I would like it if they know when to stop and share with the listening. =) I'm going to take a short nap.
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Assa, yes a biker b*tch.... !!!! And shame on you for not letting hubby have his dream ride.... you would love it too...... lol...I rode for over 25 years..... nothing like it in the whole world.... the only time I ever ever ever felt free.....

Lav, congrats on the house sale..... take the money and run girl... get your 'shot gun' house and commence to begin a new life..... and yes, a job will help.... lol

Shilo, I call my sisters The Ugly Sisters...... I've also called them Cardboard Cut Out Sisters..... have nothing to do with them.....

Book, I understand about not talking to bro about gf..... hopefully he will spend three weeks with her and change his mind.....

Damn I'm tired.... such mess with that fridge... finally went and bought a fan to set on the floor..... let the air dry it.... a whole day of cleaning.... have been so depressed and letting things go.... so, a mess..... I will never let it get like this again...... had son install my new ac for the front of the Grapes of Wrath wagon..... he is a talker too Book, so what should have been a 45 min. job, turned into a three hour job..... and he's still not finished... sure hope the mosquitos don't realize there is a gaping hole where the ac didn't fit against the wall..... deep sigh....

Hope everyone found one thing to be grateful for today.... hugs to you all...
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Off to take the 2 scythes and do some whacking of the ever encroaching vines. It's reaching towards the house' walls. The outside spirits that don't like me are attached to these vines. I don't like the vines, I get these yucky vibes from it. I don't want it touching the house. So, I'm going to put on some slacks and hopefully find my garden gloves (bought just for the scythes). The tearing up of boxes for recycling will just have to wait.
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Lav, it does sound like someone was doing some hankypanky with your sink. The underhanded things one does for money.

Our monthly caregiver's meeting will be on Saturday, the 21st. I sure hope fave sis is babysitting grandson. When she's babysitting, she hates going out and just wants to stay home. I then don't feel so bad about not visiting her and so can attend the meeting with a clear conscience. And not be torn about not shopping with sis. Although I don't care for these caregiver's meetings, I do need to reconnect with other caregivers. Family just don't understand what I'm going through, and the stress of handling a "problem" care receiver.
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Lav - Good news on the house and hope it sticks like super glue! Sounds like it could be one of those quick sales if there isn't an inspection. As for the inspector...I would find his name on-line and do one of those rating things on him so others will see your experience. I don't think you have to give your name just give some kind of made up initials.
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Pam - Jeez. A lot of people have been having problems with leaks lately. Ladeem had a problem and I have a problem too. I hope all these things stop happening and things run smoother for you. Take care of YOU!!!!
Book, I agree with Shilo. Tell bro how much you enjoyed lunch I've never heard of a person except my Bro that gets up and walks out without a word. Strange!! I would ask her why she does that. Tell her that it makes you feel like you have done something wrong. Jeez, who taught her manners. Have you ever told Bro that she does this. By the way, did you ever start any Mandalas. I found out that Carl Jung introduced these. The name mean "self" in Sanskrit. I have a book on Jung and there were drawings in it. They were very crude but good. Take care of YOU!!
Hi there - Well, I still cannot run the water in the kitchen sink. Bro tried to fix it but found out that some kind of ring broke under the sink. He said that it could not have happened unless someone got under there with a wrench and broke it. Well I sure didn't do it so the guy that inspected the house must have. Agent called him and he has not called him back yet. It is a shame I don't have my girl scout utensils anymore. Good new about house. Two offers in 2 days. We took the one that does not need an inspector. I don't need anymore problems. A lot less money but bro and I both agreed on it. I need a job job job. Take care of you all!!!!
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Book- I plan on going as long as mom doesn't pitch a fit! I will nod and signal the doc about untrue statements. I hope she gets something accomplished at the GP on Tuesday. It would make her life better and certainly help out my dad. Again, thanks for the feedback!
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Book, I have a sister in law that I love to death. She makes my Brother (the Hero) so happy and she has a heart of gold......but she NEVER shuts up. She keeps talking right through you, never hears a word I say, and talks to you even when you are trying to talk to someone else. She can be kind of stressful for me sometimes. BUT I LOVE HER! She treats my Brother like a king and makes Mom so happy and is a truly caring wonderful human being. Yes, she is rude, but somethings can be overlooked when the good out weighs the bad.

My wonderful brother and I were talking about when she was stung by a bee last summer. He said it was the first time he ever heard a bee talk. I said HUH??? He said, "yea, I heard the bee say STFU right before he stung her." The wonderful brother is also the funny brother.
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Hmm. Boni. Let me first make breakfast, do one load of laundry.. and see if I can come up with 2 simple words to describe my 7 siblings. I chuckled as I read yours.
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My terms of endearment for my siblings. Just sayin...........

Brother #1 The wonderful one
Brother #2 My Hero
Sister #1 The stupid one (With a Masters)
Sister #3 The jealous, judgmental, hypocritical, phony,drama queen B****.
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Shilo, I can't. She is flying to meet him in July 4th for 3 weeks. I do know from another friend of his that his female friend in the states do not like this gf. We will see what comes of it. My family has always been one to step back and let each of us learn from our own mistakes. We do not interfere. If bro asks, I still need to be diplomatic. I know he will tell her what I said. Then if he marries her, there will be a strain in our relationship.

What other endearing terminology???
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Book - I agree, it is best to let bro know how you feel the lunch went. You enjoyed the lunch but would have like to have been able to share more in the conversation instead of it being a monopoly on the gf's part. Were you trying to be polite and let her talk thinking you would have your chance later? If so, let bro know that and say time went by too quickly. Or was she just a chatty cathy? Glad you enjoyed the lunch.

There are a few of you that refer to siblings using other endearing terminology. lol I was trying to remember some of them. Can someone help me here.
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