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Book, play with my name? Yup, I sometimes read the word in other posts then realize oh, they are the happy kind of glad.

Get going on that probiotic, what a difference in my mom! Incredible!
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LadeeM I know what you mean about deleting the same ole rants..I figure I have to "put up or shut up". Only I can change my situation!

I hope things improve, you need to take care of yourself..
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I did three major rants and deleted them all.... realizing it's the same old crap.... I apparently have some really crappy Karma when it comes to families..... in order to stay professional.... I did not grab the daughter by the face and say... SHUT UP... just SHUT UP for a minute..... I am soooo proud of me.
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Glad, I'm glad {snicker, not intentionally playing with the word} that you Finally found the answer to your mom's problem. I recall you inquiring about it. Probiotic. I bought a bottle but never got around to using it. Thanks!
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Anybody is looking for ways to improve the bowel frequency, and chronic diarrhea? We used to have to deal with four explosions daily. A couple of months ago the doctor recommended adding a probiotic to mom's daily regimen of pills and playing with the diet. We did a week of gluten free, then completely dairy free, no change, until we added a probiotic. I got a Walgreens brand that came in a box of blister packaging, green and white box. This is a capsule so if you need to sprinkle on food that would work as well.

VOILA! The frequency much reduced and at times somewhat normal. We also eliminated real butter, don't know if that has anything to do with it, but I'm not even going to try it. She is back on a normal diet.
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I was at the store with Mom she wanted slippers. (She doesn't need anymore but whatever) She wanted to try them on, it was Walmart so they are all packaged up. I told her she'll have to take them home to try on and return if needed.. (I knew they would fit she already has the same ones) Well NO she HAD to try them on.. Luckily the women working there heard our conversation and offered to pull them apart and let her try them on.. Well Mom keeps going on that Winter is coming! Telling the women about why she needs new slippers, blah, blah, blah..

The women looks up at me and says "I understand my FIL is 95"!
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Red zzzzzzzzzzzzz.....
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rioblu, focus on being well and starting a new career. Mom may want to stay in her home, so let her do that and let others see to her care while you heal.
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I am tired.... Praying situation will improve re: homelife w/Mom. I have a job interview that will put me in a city closer to some friends that will help me w/Mom. Hoping to get the job so we can move out of this city.
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Sounds like a tough time. I'm sorry... My mom's dementia makes it where even when I'm with her, it's not like I'm with her....just feels like I'm with someone who looks like my mom... So I can really relate....
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I'm really, really tired. These last two weeks have been hard ones. I spent my Birthday at the Hospital with my Dad. He had four siezures that day. He spent for days in the Hosp. I thought I would loose him that day. He's on Dilantin three times a day. I can't move him anymore from his bed. He doesn't have the strengh to do it since then. He eats with dificulty. I miss our time together ever though we are in the same place.
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It's been months since I've been on our group. It's great to still recognize some names. :-). For those of you who weren't on when this group was my greatest support, my mom lived with me for about 18 years (the last few year she had significant dementia which made it very hard) and I put her in a home about 1 1/2 years ago. She's in a small facility in a home in a residential neighborhood which is licensed for about 10 residents and has 3 caregivers/24-7. It's been a good place for her- not fancy, but excellent personal care. I visit her, usually once a week, and she's usually fairly content. Well, not today! She fussed the whole time. "I want to go home". So I asked her what she wanted to do. "I would go lie in my bed". Well, you can do that! Your bed is just down the hall. "And the bathroom is too far away." She reminded me of her mother who lived in Baltimore. Every time someone visited, she grumped that no one visited. And eventually, no one did... :-(. Anyway, it was a tough visit. Luckily, one of my daughters was with me. We both tried to empathize and redirect but nothing seemed to help... Hopefully the next visit will be better... :-)
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Fantastic Red, nothing like sleeping in our own bed in our own bedroom..... and I second what Veronica said... wish I could be as calm as you are....

Last night..... then sleep, glorious sleep.... love ya'll... later, when I have a rested brain cell....
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You deserve it Red after the great care you gave MIL at the end of her life. It is never easy but you did it with grace, compassion and humor
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It is official...we slept in our room last night...finally all moved back into the house...now to get ready for a garage sale...that may take a while...still getting some doctor bills for MIL...Social Security and her pension got stopped. There are probably a couple more doctor bills pending so won't close her account out till they are all in. Our son should be back in the country at the end of May so we will get together as a family and have a celebration of her life. We were so tired we slept like rocks in the new bed last night...almost back to normal.
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Overwhelm I hear ya! It stinks with no help.. But we know this is who we are and doing what makes us feel good about ourselves. I know I will have no regrets regarding my care for my Mom..
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Overwhelm, how did your day turn out? Sometimes it's really hard just to drag yourself off your seat, I know - I was sitting at the kitchen table earlier on, and it was just like the old-fashioned wall poster put it: "sometimes I sits and thinks, and sometimes I just sits."

Like you, I was mulling siblings and the unanswerable question of WHY they're like they are. Thinking I should write to brother before it's too late, the time will have gone, and I'll never have tried to change things. But on the other hand…

Goodness, isn't it discouraging??! Well. Getting it off your chest helps a bit. Hope you have a better day today.
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Hi everyone there are days like today when I just dread the thought of going over to my Mom's and caregiving only because I am worn out and siblings don"even care about her or myself it is so so sad what to do?
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Red- I am soo glad that you are getting back to abnormal lol. Sounds like it will be like a new house. I am so happy for you. Take care of YOU!!!!!
Tex - I understand about the doctor visit. I am sorry you have to go so far. My mom loved walmart. Even though she was in a electric cart she wanted to go down every isle. She would ask what is this and what is that. This was always after work. It would take a couple of hours. It was always hard to find a cart too. Oh well, she did not get out a lot so this was her social time. She always was grateful that we went shopping. Take care of YOU!!!!
Pam - So sorry about the wreck. I hope it all turns out well. So glad that your mom is in such good health. Take care of YOU!!!!!
LadeeM - I am sorry your disappointed. It will get better. I agree with you about not work for the other girl. It would set a precedent. She will want you to do it more. At least she is a good caregiver. You care so much that your lady does not have her schedule changed. You are a winder. Take care of YOU!!!
H there - We had a open house on Sunday and apparently someone liked it so much they wanted to see again this afternoon. I am trying not to get my hopes up. The house has been listed in one of the for sale magazines. On line you can click on the house and get a video showing it. This is so great!! I guess it is the time of year. Job hunt is going well. I am working with a employment specialist for the state who is helping me. I will meet with her again tomorrow. I hope to get one soon. Money is really getting low. I do not know how I will pay the bills. So good news and bad. A friend and I went out to lunch and had a good time. You all take care okay.
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I watched the movie Philomena with my daughter, I thought it was good. Makes me so proud to be a Catholic (NOT)...
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Last two days have been a little hectic... had to call daughter Mon morning, tell her her dad was not doing well, she took him to the hospital, they kept him overnight..... prostate problems.... he will be coming home with a catheter....hopefully for only two weeks.... L did awesome without him being there... other than her wanting to 'go home'....she did great....

the girl hired to work for me on Thurs nights has already asked for the 15th and the 22nd off, both Thurs.... hmmmm... not helping me any... said she would work that Wed night... uh no..... I'll do it....too many changes for Lorene and she is doing so well, we are not going to upset the schedule... sure wish the girl had told the daughter this BEFORE she hired her... so right now... I am a little angry, disappointed....so, so much for Ladee getting a turn.... I'll do the self pity thing for a little while this evening... get over myself.... and go do my job....

If we do this now with the new girl, it will set a precedent.... and I am not willing.... I have worked with her in the past, she is an excellent cg.... but am feeling taken advantage of.... so, nope, I'll work, get some extra cash, so when I have my exhausted nervous breakdown.... I'll be able to pay for it.... lol.... love and hugs to all of you..... Red, happy to hear you will be sleeping in your own room tomorrow night..... I know you are looking forward to it.....
Sue, sorry to hear about your friend....things happen so quickly sometimes.... so important to not take much for granted..... and have no regrets....

So, heading toward the future.... hugs to you all..
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Pami I've tried drawing myself a diagram - he was in the left hand lane making a right turn, and you were in the right hand lane, reserved for making right turns only, but you were going straight on? Is that right?

If so, it sounds as if it's the civil engineers who are to blame! That junction needs a better layout and better signposting. But if you were also turning right and he still managed to hit you then yes it was his fault, unless you were coming up fast on the inside (unlikely, I'd have thought!). You're right - let your insurers fight it out between them.

At least you found a helpful person - gosh! - and had good news from your mother's doctor. Wish you a better week ahead.
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I had a bad weekend . Yesterday I was hit while driving my mom and son to church. This man was 87 years old. He hit me on the drivers side, not the door though. the fender over the wheel. it driveble. But this man said it was my fault he hit me. I only got a ticket for being in the wrong lane I was in the right lane and he was in the lane next to me on the left hand side, making a right turn. Which you can't do. I was in the right hand lane only for making right turns. So now i t is up to the insurance whose fault it is. I do they say its his fault, because he hit me. Then my heater sprung a leak and had to get a new one.A man from auto zone helped me get it in. One blessing at least.
Today moms doctor said she is in excellent health.
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We have carpet...looks great...can't get the new bed delivered till tomorrow...one more night of garage living...tomorrow night we can sleep in our room again...it's been 3 years this month...almost back to normal...
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LOL Veronica !!!!! I needed this laugh today..... thanks for the best one liner I've read in a long time.... hugs to you for making the 'fat lady' laugh.

Sorry to hear so many are having such a rough time..... Hope it's just a "Monday Thing" and things get better for all of you... Hugs..
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Just venting. Well, today will be the 16th time I have taken mother to the MD since Jan.1 of this year. It's just for various things due to age, the pain doctor, 2 UTI's, had to recently have foot surgery for a foot problem doctor told her 6 yrs. ago she needed to deal with but naturally she didn't so now the surgery had to be much more extensive because she didn't deal with it when it wasn't so bad.Tried to get her to follow MD's orders about amount of moving around but that didn't go so well, when the MD pulled the pin out of her big toe it was bent and I just found out this morning from my husband that she told him she had hit her operated foot earlier on her bed chasing after her dog but not to tell me.Each MD visit is a 80 mile round trip.I read one thread on here about how some caregivers after just a md visit had to just lay down and take a nap.I know how they feel. Just one MD visit with my mother and I am physically and emotionally exhausted. We have to travel up and down a very busy interstate into a large city and driving requires all of my attention.I so dread every morning hearing the wheels on her walker,shes on the move again.Her foot dr still doesn't want her to go to the hairdresser as her foot is now infected,also that place is really busy and I just know she will get stepped on. She doesn't know it but if he still says no hairdresser if I have to bodily lift her into the shower she is get her hair washed. She has old lady hair and only gets it washed once a week and curled.Well ,the best I can do is make sure she is very clean and blow dry it.Won't look that good but she will be CLEAN! Since the foot surgery getting her a shower isn't that easy because I have to now go through extra steps to make sure the operated foot doesn't get wet.The MD also told her she can't go shopping yet since that is to much walking even if she does use the little electric carts.She lives to shop.Yikes!
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Juddha, I have acid reflux. When I take antibiotics for UTI, I get severe stomach pains by day 3. I once took a few sips of Cranberry juice (and any acidic juices) and had a really bad flare up of acid reflux. So instead, I eat yogurt about 2 hours after dinner.
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Still running in high gear to try and reclaim our lives...carpet is supposed to be installed in the bedroom tomorrow...have gone through things with a vengeance. Every drawer that is supposed to go back in that room is completely empty...Nothing will go back in them that we do not use or wear...closet is completely empty and freshly painted too...same rule applies to that. Finished the painted Moroccan cabinet I've been working on for in there. Will drag out the hand carved Indian screen we used as a head board tomorrow and have my husband blow the dust off it with his air compressor and give it a clear coat so it matches the bed frame we have on order...should be moved back in the house by the middle of the week...Got the pillow shams that match the valances back from the dry cleaners...picked out the new comforter need to go get it...soon as we are settled in I need to get ready for a garage sale...almost home...I deal with things by staying busy...if I don't I can get depressed...MIL's been gone 2 and a half weeks and I think I have been running pretty steady ever since.
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My neighbor came over and told me that her BIL(86) is dying with stomach cancer... I couldn't believe he is! Cause he was fine last St Patrick day that we had good time together!! Right now he is with hospice nurse... Told his family that he might has another 2 weeks... So sad....
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Had a pretty bad weekend (also) starting with my mother's dr appt on Friday... She (86) gets irate when I go into the dr's rm with her... and, yet I know from past To say the least she gets things fouled up and then blames everything on me... Then she has to interrupt and dominate any conversation I have with people... It's no wonder we get sick... Not sure how or if I'll be able to handle this ... if 'she' goes first as it's all been too intense and emotionally hurtful.
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