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Ladee M found the perfect job for you and no you won't need to learn to curtsy for this one. it is making dentures !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I saw it on TV the other night and they were training female inmates in a prison how to do this and I immediately thought of you. You would use your scultpting skills and be associated with healthcare. Just a thought but have no idea where you could train. Of course it might be deadly boring but not too hard on the body.
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I know Austin... I am grateful for the raise, but like you, my first thought was, WHY NOW??? I catch her in little lies all the time....so she probably did NOT talk to her dad before I asked for a shorter schedule.... but we'll see, come pay day..... She tends to be a martyr and it only makes me tired....she made it a point to say she would 'do anything' to keep me... ya right !!!! My six month plan is still in place.... of course I have not said anything to her.... don't want the drama... and don't worry, the possible TIA got my attention..... so, onward with my plans.... had my blood work done today.... so will know more in a week. and then I can add to my plans.. and yes Mama Austin... I hear you !!!!! LOL... love and hugs long time friend....
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Ladee you have to take care of you-you hear me-I am glad you cut down your hours and got a raise but why did she have to get scared that you might leave to give you that raise-it pisses me off to no end-scare her some more. Seriously do what you need to do to get yourself well-we all love you and are concerned about you-I hoe they can get to the bottom and get plan in place so you can enjoy your scalping again-you need to get away from your everyday life and relax.
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Ladee there is an Association of or for essential tremors that was helpful to me when my husband had that problem.
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FYI, I just discovered a correlation between drinking my mix of apple cider vinegar (1/8 cup), honey (1TBS) and 16oz water for sinus ... and .. my torso over-heating. Every time I sipped the water, my body started heating up. I thought it was menopause. I did a quick google - ACV does increase the body temperature.
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Miserable today. Muggy day, no wind. My sinus/allergy flaired badly. Around 3pm, I walked out of our office, in the hallway, I smelled freshly mown grass (allergic to it) and heavy cigarette smoke. My face swiftly clogged up (stuffed) and major headache flared. After that, the rest of the day my face was stuffed and major headache. Sneezing a lot. Came home, miserable. Ate a full dinner and then the sinus pressure pill. Darn pill upsets my stomach - even with food inside. I'm desperate because I'm miserable. Hate this muggy weather. The smokers on the 1st and 2nd floor at the office goes up and stays in the hallways. No wind to blow it away. Unfortunate the law about smoking near exits don't apply to private/commercial buildings. If it did, all these smokers wouldn't be smoking at the spiral stairs going up to the 3rd floor. Several people would be smoking while walking on the stairs! If I go to the other exit, smokers on the hallways there, too. It's terrible when your like the only person in the whole darn building who doesn't smoke and is very sensitive to smoke. I'm venting because I'm miserable. Hmmm. maybe I will Salonpas on the back of my painful neck. Hopefully that would be one pain down and 2 more to go.
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LadeeM, I'm so glad that it's not as bad as we all thought. The lesser of many evils. When you first guessed Parkinson, I was already brainstorming on where you can turn to for help. I'm so relieved for you. {{HUGS}}
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Nothing I can say but Luv ya.
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Awww thanks Assa..... I know, we do cyber hugs so much, a real hug would feel awful nice about now.... so thanks..... and I saw the same video , isn't it amazing...... but I hate this disease with a passion.... that never changes..... love and hugs..
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I just watched a wonderful you tube video Titled:Touching video of man with Alzheimer's the power of speech except when is dog is around...
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LadeeM please take of you..Thanks for keeping us informed.. I wish I could give you a real big actual hug!! Xo
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LadeeM, that is good news, as is the raise, and going to four nights a week! Take care of you!
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Well, after only 5 hours sleep will give ya'll the verdict.... possible TIA at some point recently.... exhaustion (duh!) and undealt with grief..... will do blood tests in the morning, and then go from there....of course the possible TIA is a major warning.... alrighty then, God, you have my attention now..

Nothing going on that can't be resolved.... so, she also explained that exhaustion and not having time to grieve will make the symptoms of ET even worse... and that part.... whew, was relieved to hear that !!! That is something I can do something about...
Told the daughter last night I want to go to four nights.... what can she do... of course she agreed.... and then, out of nowhere she says I got a dollar an hour raise.....
While that is a good thing, and me cutting back my hours, it will work out about even.... but it had to come to something like this for that raise???? See why I am getting to where I hate my job.... not the people I care for..... the damned politics of my job...

thank each of you for your support and prayers... I know that I don't realize how much I am cared about..... just never enters my mind....just blunder thru life and do what pops up in front of my face....so your love and prayers is acknowledged and appreciated......

Veronica... thank you for keeping me grounded with good information....it did help me to get focused on lesser of many evils in our caregiving lives...

I so rarely post anything about my health... but very grateful I did...wake up call , this was.... so headed toward the future.... love and appreciate you all, just can not imagine doing this journey without my AC family and friends.....
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Notes From An Adult Child

Last time I drove to Connecticut from Maine
I visited my mother in Bloomfield,
then my father in Vernon.

In my mother’s eyes I saw a phoenix rising;
soaring with freedom,
dancing, gardening, loving her many friends.
I savored her stories
as she recounted each blessing.
I held her in my arms
noting that now,
I was the bigger one.
But her former modelesque figure
had transformed into a petite form
graced with overflowing joy.

But my father’s form
was compact
as a snowball.
His pale skin was thin
and though his face was familiar
there was a weariness in his startling blue-gray eyes
and a hoarseness in his voice.
He coughed before he spoke
and thrust his head forward
forcing his words out.
Beyond his jokes, and wry comments,
there loomed gloomy thoughts of defeat.
When I left him
I mourned silently for his saddened soul.
Later that night,
I dreamt that I held him
like the Madonna cradling her dying Christ,
and though he was in my arms
I could not touch him.
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Oh... also... I just completed my training to volunteer with Hospice. I have requested the patients who are home-bound, rather than in nursing homes. I want to be able to help families get some time off since I know the price I paid for taking care of mom full time.
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Hope all is going well with all of you. I've been SUPER busy lately trying to build my business. Since I don't already have enough to do... I applied for a job as a caregiver. lol... Yeah... I know... I wasn't going to do that... but evidently I've taken a blow to the head recently!

The one year anniversary of mom's death is only 2 1/2 weeks away. Please keep us in your thoughts. It will be difficult. On top of that, the day after the anniversary... the body donor program is having a memorial service for all of their donors. We should get mother's cremains approximately a month later.

Today is my hubby's birthday, and he decided he wanted to go play pool... so... I find myself with a little time on my hands... I think I'll go play with my quilting machine. :)

Have a GREAT evening!
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Ladee M. Did some more reading and there are several B/P meds to choose from and most are cheap. Then there are the anti seizure meds also cheap and finally the anti anxiety. Using wrist weights may help steady your hands for the sculpting. I expect the Dr will want to do blood tests but these will be for associated conditions like thyroid so it's up to you if you want to spend the money. Drugs should be less than $20 from Walmart or Target which ever chain you can get to.
Do you think you could qualify for Medicaid or whatever has replaced it.
We know you are going to be alright but we worry and pray just the same. Love you, tough old broard or not.
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Book...i was thinking the same thing about my sister. She doesn't live with her at his point but they live on the same property just a different house. The father in law already had a stroke a couple years ago and she has already complained about the extra work. My sister doesn't work except for 2 months at the grain elevator. Her husband is farmer, contractor so once in a while she will have to do farm work. My sister is lazy and just doesn't care for her family like she should. She tells me that she prays for mom and I nightly which is good that she prays for her family but only time she visits is for a birthday or holiday and needs to take some extra steps but she is busy busy. At least with me working fulltime now it gives my brother an excuse i tell him more errands to do for mom, or picking her up or paying for some of her supplies instead of me all the time. Ok i'm done ranting for now. Hope all had a good weekend, its storming here for the next couple days.

Hugs to all!!!
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Just took a cheap, mini-working vacation: I presented a documentary I made about an artist, sold some dvds, got paid for the presentation and took off visiting four different friends in 4 days. They fed me, I took food from home, and the last one packed my food case with turkey soup that I made for us and gave me other things.
It was a mini Christmas. It even included going to a meditation group. I was going to try a walk on the beach but Maine is still too cold. What a good idea though: line up several friends and let someone be hostess to you. How's that sound?
Before I left I made sure my mom had plenty of company and told a few relatives to call her.
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FadingShadows, what a timely post you made... I have to share this with my AC family.. I was getting ready to go to a friends house and shower.... I have no running water... so I'm getting my stuff together and I start looking for the house key..... now, I got this purse at Goodwill... paid a whole whopping $6 for it... lots of compartments, big enough... just my style..... and I opened this one little zipper compartment.... now I swear I looked in every nook and cranny when I got this purse home..... and in this pocket.. something round... looked like a quarter... so I picked it up... and..... it is a "Pocket Angel".... an old one.... round like a quarter, with Pocket Angel on one side and an awesome relief angel on the other side..... I just sat here looking at it, turning it over and over in my hand..... in so many ways I live such an enchanted life..... that's why I am always grateful.... always...

So, had to share this with ya'll..... I'm going to be ok, no matter what..... love you all
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For all of you that are so inclined. I have had a big burden of anger, resentment and bitterness that I've been carrying around for awhile. After some praying this am, I went to a favorite website that really ministered to my spirit. It can be found @ blueletterbible.org, do a search on Romans 7, go to verse 25, look for the tools button on the left and select commentaries. There's a sermon by Charles Spurgeon in the list of commentaries that will help if you are feeling this same burden. It takes awhile to read the whole sermon, but it was sooo worth it. Lots of hugs to you all, thanks for baring your hearts on this board, it sure does encourage many.
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LadeeM ...keyed in on your earlier statement that the symptoms were some better after getting some rest .... so I'm hoping that you do not have either disease and that you are just slap wore out. But even if you do have something, reducing stress and getting plenty of rest will be key in keeping you on an even keel. It does sound like it's way past time for a lifestyle change and you need time to recharge your batteries and look in another direction. Sculpting is a wonderful talent. Make mine a bluebird please!

What I'm trying to say is that you will be fine. I've been the recipient of bad news regarding my health and the Lord has held me up and brought me through it. He'll do the same for you too. Big strong hug.
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LadeeM - You know how the people here feel about you. Please note that you are in my thoughts and prayers as you wait for diagnoses. Wish I could bring you lots of chocolate. Please try not to worry and out it in your higher powers's hands. I know what you mean about a vacation. I was hoping the house would sell soon and I would go on a vaca for at least a week. I would put Jazzy in a cat hotel and leave with destination not thought of yet. Yeah, now that I am not home bound anymore I don't have the money. Oh well!!! Take care of YOU!!!!
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Book, like you, what I need is a vacation..... just a few days to not worry about anything.... get up when I want, go to bed when I want..... too much grief for me to handle right now.... Stu dying in Nov and Gene in April..... just too much. I'm on overload, as most of us here..... maybe some people feel that paid caregivers do not grieve when someone dies..... not so in my case.... but at least I got to tell Stu bye...... just tired, past tired, like everyone else.... and I do look at nature all the time.... one morning out smoking before I got off work, and a huge rabbit hops under the tree and eats his breakfast... I felt like it was a breath of fresh air.... and seeing cardinals....my moms favorite bird... see them all the time and butterflys.... so ya, I look at nature... then I come home and pass out.... love ya...
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LadeeM, let's hope it's the lesser of 2 diagnosis. ET. Any way to start back to including de-stressing into your life? Is there a hobby that you can do for a maybe 30 minutes a day - maybe something after a hard day's work? Even if it means just learning to admire the minute details of Mother Nature around you? I know, I know, easier said than done. {{HUGS}}
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Alz/dementia.... but all the things we will be coming behind them with....the medical profession already is overwhelmed... we might need to get LadeeC to get us a health plan going.... ya out there LadeeC????
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I know Glad... and maybe I just went for worst case scenario to be relieved it was something minor..... or at least treatable....just know something isn't right... no telling what stress is doing to all of us.... I can't imagine the things we all are going to be suffering from that is stress related....not only an epidemic of Alz
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LadeeM, I try to not diagnose myself, I will come up with the most frightening things. And I do not worry or stress over something a doc thinks may be wrong. I was able to change my attitude about thus about 10 years ago. I had some cysts develop that were quite painful, had them drained only to return. The doc asked me if there was a history of lymphoma in my family, scared me to death, was in tears instantly. It wasn't, and I have never worried about a guess at one of my health issues since.

So many things could cause your symptoms and stress could do it. Are you on any medication for stress? Best wishes at the doc, keep us all posted.
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Veronica... after some quick research.... I really feel now it is Essential Tremor... I have inherited this from my dad and his was bad... mine shakiness is more goal oriented, like reaching for something or trying to type....no problems when my hands are still.... and I did not know there was balance problems with ET.... so I'm keeping my fingers crossed that it is ET and my sleep deprivation and stress level... you know, loosing too many people in the past two years... the grief is weighing on me..... are causing my body havoc..... but surprisingly many of the symptoms are pakinson-like.... so thank you so much for letting me know of other possibilities..... I do feel relieved that it may just be ET and I can just get more rest.... I do know there is a blood pressure med that is given for ET but can't remember the name of it right now.... but having something else to share with my Dr will be to my advantage..so grateful you are on here.... you have no idea how relieved I feel..... thanks from my heart...
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Veronica... hmmmmm, I have essential tremor...and have wondered about how long I have been on anti's.... so hopefully it is not what I am thinking it is.... it's getting bad is all I know.. and clumsy.... my lord... I am stumbling all the time... well, not stumbling exactly, just loosing my balance....having to stagger to get my balance.....but I do know that I do not have insurance or extra money for any extensive tests... so if my Dr doesn't know, then oh well, just have to continue stumbling thru life and shaking my way to the future...

Ahhh Bonni, ya, I'm a tough old broad.... but this is wearing me out, what ever it is..... hopefully something simple and treatable.... I have noticed that I am a lot more rested today so the symptoms aren't as bad....just know that whatever it is, I have to find out and get some kind of meds or treatment... I still have waaaay too many things I want to do in my life...

Thanks for info Veronica....sending you all hugs.
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