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Hi all..well Notlike I about fell apart yesterday..it was a tough one. Dad is stil baby improving..little by little. He had a decent day. Well mom..she has had TIA's now for a least 5 years. Doc finally figured it was atrial fibrillation. So she has been on Coumadin now for quite some time. Lately what we have seen has been very very mild..just some slight tingling and numbness but not confusion and pass pretty quickly with slight headache and tiredness. Well yesterday she went to sit on porch for a bit..I hadn't had any sleep much so I fell asleep an hour later I woke up and she was asleep oorch..so I got her up and she came in. She was feeling a little woozy in her legs but about an hour later she starts having numbness and it radiates up her arm... No confusion..usually all this occurs on the right side..this time it is the left ..and she wants to get up to see if she an walk..well as time goes by the numbness and tingling goes away the she starts with confusion..no knowing Bp is high I try to keep her calm but sheis scared..give. Her ann Ativan and Tylenol as she can't take aspirin Cause of Coumadin. I finally call ambulance to check her out and they stay with us for an hour or so..mom didn't want to go to hospital..and that was ok as all they can do is ct scan to see was was going on..but she is 92 and nothing much else can be done. They finally leave..mm still is confused but starts coming around...finally I get her to lay on couch for a bit. At 6 I get a sandwhich ready for dad and of course mom isn't hungry..so I give her toast set out meds etc for nightly routine. Mom didn't realize it was night time cause she started telling me she couldn't take thse meds till night. Finally realize she didn't know what time it was..got her calm and somewhat focused. By 7she was in bed for the night. She tried to read but couldn't com pretend what she was reading. About 745 dad says he is ready for be..mind you through all this he tells me he is watching her and he will let me know if she gets up. He knew she was in trouble and what was going on with her. It was so sweet when I brought him to her to say good might the talk their sweet nothing's to each other. So whew..they bth had a decent night. Figure she is going to be pretty tired today. Caregiver is supposed to come today..so will stay pretty close. She is a worrier so I figure this has been building.
Love to all..and Stormy so glad you lost it and cried and talked to hubby..her understand a bit better now all your feelings of trying to keep a normal life for your little family..crying was a good release and a good way to bring you both closer.
Thanks Notlike! Another day in the trenches right! Hope Thursday come soon and that maybe you guys can get some answers and relief for dad.
Prayers for the best day in whatever situation we are all in.
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Stormy: So sorry you had a bad time with hubby. Dealing with your dad is such a strain right now and has been for you for a long time. Maybe just letting all that emotion out was a good thing. Sounds like your husband realized that his comments did no one any good. Is there any way to have more in home help on the weekends when you want to spend time with hubby and Conner?

You are a young family and it seems to me that you so enjoy each others company. That is a blessing Stormy; that you all love to do things as a family. So count those blessing in your life and cherish them. I know you do cherish them.

Someday this will be over with your dad and you will have a family that is healthy, happy and loving. I don't think your sis will fare as well.

In the meantime, you might want to talk to your sister and tell her that more in home care is needed for dad. If you go over to your dad, set a time limit. Two hours and then in-home care comes right behind you.

How would it work for you to call your dad or talk to him a couple days in advance and ask him if he would like some soup or whatever. Something that you could make at your house and take to him when you go over. It might make you feel better that you can do it on your terms.

Love and Hugs, Cattails
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Hey everyone- I hope all of ya'll are doing alright. I had a rough weekend (saturday mainly) me and hubby were mad at each other. Since bil has been down with his foot i have been having to go to dads on saturdays and stay with him some. So i go to dads saturday and do all the rituals with him and just when i am planning on making my great escape from there dad tells me he wants me to make a pot of soup. Now, mind you i have hubby and connor waiting on me at home to go shopping. So i am late getting home and i knew hubby was going to be pissed with me cause i took longer over there. Well we go shopping, get back home get the stuff put up and then it starts raining and storming. And we had planned on going swimming in our pool that we bought connor this year. Well that idea was out. And it was my fault cause if i had not taken longer over at dads then connor could've gone swimming. I didn't even try to argue my side about the pot of soup at the last minute, cause hubby wouldn't have believed me anyway. So all day i get these jabs of "We were late going shopping and that's why we can't go swimming". Then connor says something about the beach. Then hubby says "I don't know if we will get to go to the beach this year". Meaning cause of dad and me having to look after him. So that night I just broke down. I got in the bed and started crying and hubby heard me he was in there too. I finally got up and went to the garage he followed me. i told him that i was sorry that i knew him and connor did not ask for this shit. That i felt like a terrible mother. That i just try to please everyone and it just doesn't work out that way. I cried like a baby, til my eyes were swollen I told him that i wished dad would pass on and then we could have our own lives to do what we wanted. I think it made him feel bad he just sat there with his hand on his head with his head hung down. I told him i felt like everything was my fault and then he told me that it wasn't my fault or anybody's fault and that he was sorry. So we got alright after that. But i looked terrible the next day i couldn't even go to church my eyes were so swollen from crying so much. I looked like a bee had stung me on both eyes. It was late that afternoon before the swelling went down. So that was my weekend i hope ya'lls was better than mine.

For the last two days dad has been having some tightness and pain in that right lung he said. Ct scan said he has fluid that has built back up. And shotty lymph nodes in the chest area. Love and hugs stormyyy
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Peach-May I ask, do you see a therpist and/or take any meds for your BPD and anxiety? Both might help you, and if you already are, maybe you could use a med adjustment or extra session. The lives we live are so stressful - help through therapy or meds is a perfectly acceptable thing. Please know you are not alone - we are here for you. Many hugs. And I smacked my foot on the corner of the bathroom cabinet, breaking a small artery. It swelled up right away, and now is covered with a huge purple bruise. I did get tennis shoes on today, so that was an improvement!
Cat-thank you for the Mom prayers.
Ladee-I got Dad an appointment for Thursday at 4. The biopsy results should be back by then, so we can discuss the results and what to do. I'm trying not to worry, but you know how that goes. You gave the other person a vacation already? Huh? I want to work with you! LOL Stay calm...vacations are short. And I was thinking (oh God, it hurt!) Mom has a sister in Texas whose name begins with M. It's not your M, but that's kind of freaky. Hugs.
Seeme-love that you got your furbabies! Proud Mama. No beans yet - we are thinking of putting some store-bought ones out there to give our plants the idea of what they are supposed to do. The weather here has been so bad, I don't know if we'll have any at all.
Wanda - you made me laugh! Didn't you get the memo that said caregivers are not allowed to physically fall apart?!? We just duct tape ourselves back together and go another round:) Happy birthday to your hubby. Sounds like you have great neighbors.
Beck-I will not be able to look at my hubby tonight without wanting to ask him to fetch a ball for me! He is good at getting me a glass of water or the Doritos, though...
Vic-Glad your Dad perked up some. I think about you alot. Holding both parents up sometimes seems like a huge job. You are amazing. Hugs.
Goodnight, and better tomorrows.
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Mom had an appointment at the wound care clinic today. The doctor said the wounds on her legs, due to her lymphedema, look better than last week. He rewrapped her legs in a new type of compression bandage. She says it hurts so, so bad, but there's nothing that can be done. She has to just deal with the pain if she wants her legs to get better. He told her that she shouldn't take anymore showers, because her legs should stay as dry as possible. That wouldn't be such a problem, but she has accidents because of her colitis. Now what is she going to do to keep herself clean? On top of that, he said she has to be extra careful not to have an accident on her bandages or legs, because she could get flesh-eating disease and die. That's the last thing we wanted to hear.

I'm feeling so stressed out. Every self-destructive behavior I've ever practiced (and I've practiced a lot, thanks to my Borderline Personality Disorder) is coming out. I want to self-harm, I want to starve, binge, drug myself, get wasted, etc. I'm trying to be good and practice safe alternatives, but I'm terrified, lost, and confused. I don't want to lose my mother. Aside from my fiancé, she's all I have. I haven't got any friends or other family members. I just don't know what to do. I just live in this constant fear of her dying. It doesn't help that this is my BIGGEST fear. I have Borderline Personality Disorder, and death is my biggest trigger. My abandonment issues are incredibly deep. I'm just terrified.

I'm even more terrified for what's coming up soon. My fiancé lives out of state, has been visiting for a few months, and is finally going back home next week. I don't want to be alone with my mom. I know that sounds bad, but I'm just so afraid something REALLY bad will happen and I won't be able to help her until the paramedics arrive. I'm afraid one day I'll wake up, go check on her, and she'll be dead. I'm afraid of being alone in this big house with her, without my fiancé, hearing her cry, moan, and scream. I don't want to be all alone.
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Tired, overwhelmed @ work and dissapointed that I didn't get job offer for an interview I had last week. Purpose of the new job would have been a relo to a better area (city) for me & my Mom - closer to friends that are like family and we would have more help w/Mom's care, more social connections - better life in general. I am getting frustrated & tired of waiting on moving on from where we live now to a better situation. A new job is the key- it is so hard to find one. uggghhhh
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I am still waiting for my supervisor to come here to further assess my husband but on the other hand, I do not alienate my family or my friends...only those that have done and seek harm against me for doing the right thing. when the right thing or truth is challenged ppl like to make the person who has a conscience into a bad person. I have been thru too much and still sacrificing for those that i love and being a compassionate person. I admit I have issues and problems but I dealing with it as best as I can...whether its the perfect answer or not. I am a caregiver, wife and mother. I fight for what matters regardless of presumed personal reflections regarding my personality. If this is offensive I apologize but I am looking for support not what i already been told what I need to do which I am aware of because I am not deaf nor do I have selective hearing. To those that truly are aware of my circumstances I ty for ur constant prayers for my family and for those are new pls understand this post is not directed to anyone in particular...it is who I am. I love and support all of you will continue to pray for u and the source to put it bluntly is my dysfunctional raising that I manage to survive and break various cycles. I am not sad or broken down yet but still going on when i have no more to give but I will cheer for those and any of us ...going thru different emotional trials. Peace N God Bless:)
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Beck, I need your hubby's email address !!!!!
lildeb, I completely understand about being trained by your cat... mine lets me live in her personal space,she also gives little love nibbles when I am ignoring her..... I love cats.... they do what they want, when they want, how they want.... sorta like me..... lol
M sick today, has been in bed all day... so came home long enough to check in here, get son and take him to PT, drop him off, go back after him later, drop him home and back to work....You would think I would be making enough money to go see Beck, but nooooooo, and gas is going up again... but thank God it has only been in the 90's here , this is like fall to us......
So, If I'm not completely brain dead later tonight, I'll check in.... love ya'll
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I hope your husband Richard is okay n that is great having a dog that can sense when a seizure about to happen. My one dog on the other hand has seizures himself n now is on meds twice a day. At least they have something for my little Odie, he is a beagle n very lovable. right now I have one cat Vera on my right side of the arm chair meowing n giving me luv bites on my arm n Blu on my left side touching me constantly. It must be close to their feeding time n yes they have me trained. Blu will eventually just lay on my laptop so I must get my trained butt up n feed. I need to go get some ants stuff too for they r all in the front n back yard everywhere this year.

Scoop on my dad is he may be getting out of rehab sooner than we thought. He is using a cane n that is great n eating very well. As for the SM, she is at the rehab n refuses to get out of the bed. I don't know anything else to do about her for she won't help herself! She only 63 n my dad is over 70 WTF!!!! It makes no sense unless something happen to their marriage or something. She does have slight dementia due to alcohol but dad has it more. My brothers are trying to get one of his brothers whom has a daughter around that can help temporarily until they can figure out about the property n that trailer that needs to be demolish. Neither one of my brothers will be able to keep him for they r riding horses everyday n their be no one to take care of him during the day n dad has no insurance but medicare A. Still waiting on approval or not with Medicade. The SM don't won't to sale anything nor pay the hospital bill. At least the youngest one has POA over his mom n maybe he can talk some sense into her or not. He did mention her going to a NH but not sure if he was just saying that for he is still feeding those stupid vicious dogs out on property. Supposedly, the SM don't won't us on the property n just letting her son take care of thing. However, little does she know that two of us have already seen I took pictures just in case needed. I think the boys need to let her know that they know what they live like n now its time to move forward instead of her trying to hide it. I don't really know what to do about her or any advice to my 3 brothers. I did mention maybe if she saw a Geriatric doctor n maybe they could get her to open up n talk. The boys also need to let both of them know that they cannot go back for the trailer has been consider inhabitat. I'm lost at words n what to do. Will my dad ever drink again? probable. Not sure what we can do about that for I think he needs to be in a NH. At least he will be in a clean facility n be taking care of now that he has AD n he won't be able to get the alcohol, I guess. enough of rambling here.
I hope everyone has a nice n pretty day full of sunshine. ; )
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I thank God every day for his friends and our great neighbors.
Like I said the dog (Jewel) is a trained seizure dog for my Hubby( Richard). She is very alert. She just alerted me to check on him. He had the tv. turned up as loud as it would go.Her alert this time was for me to check on him. Sometimes extremely loud sounds will trigger his seizure's.
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Cat...it was my pleasure to clarify the training differences between man n dog...If u could meet Lily, she would offer u a paw to shake ur hand....my hubby....well...he'd probably belch first, then say hello!! lol There's jst no contest on this one....Lily rocks!!!! LOL hugs to u
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Wanda, those steroids will make your sugar rise a bitn it can make you feel like you want to eat all the time. Good luck on the diet while on the prednisone. I stay on a low dose now and it is only 5mg to keep Lupus at remission. The low protein will keep your kidney from having to work so hard. It sound like you are in good hands from your physician. As for all his sibs, they r not going to offer as long as they think you will do it all. Sometimes, you just have to come out n tell those dumbasses you need help. All they can say is either they can or bla, bla, bla. BTW, those r excellent friends, I mean they entertained, cooked n bought the stuff. Wow! you better treat them real good n when you r done with his friends go ahead n send them to my house. : ) My daddy used to have several poodles n a couple of toy poodles many, many moons ago. they were cute little things n he would get them all doll up with their fancy pom pom hair cuts.
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Beck, I feel ya girl. I agree one good bitch does deserve another!!!
Mine is a toy poodle mix. She is a trained service dog for my Hubby.
So very smart. Today is Hubbies 66 b-day. We have such wonderful neighbors and friends. They have grilled for him and entertained him all weekend. They bought most all of the food and supplies. He was good all weekend. BUUUTTT::: I am expecting him to let loose anytime now. 1 of his sister's and 1 of his brothers called to tell him happy birthday ( at least they bothered today) Does not happen very often. His Family all live in Chicago. We live in Ga. He has 7 brothers and sisters. He is the oldest. They hardly ever call. Never offer to do anything to help me out with care respite or money. Any thing would help. Oh wellll Hell he is mine guess i'll keep him a while longer(LOL). My son called him last night (long haul trucker) to wish himm happy b-day. He has not heard one word from his 4 children never does.
Lildeb, I am checking out the links you told me about. I am on a crazy diet. It is low protein, low purine, low phosate . I also need to loose some more weight. I have lost some but because of my arthritis I have had to start another round of steriod's. Thanks for letting me vent. Wanda
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Beck: Thank you for so beautifully describing the difference between Lilly and your husband. I am still LMAO. Hugs, Cat
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LindaGS, I'm glad that you're finding things to help yourself. It sounds like you have a lot of good things going on to help bring you a bit of happiness and calm. A pool sounds like a great idea! If you don't mind my asking, how much did your pool set up cost, including what you had to buy for it? I'd really like to have a small above ground pool someday, but not sure if I'd even be able to afford it.
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Seeme...ur new fur baby family members are soooooo adorable! After all that u have been through, its wonderful to read the excitement in ur posts...Congratulations!

Cat...in answer to ur question...Lily is jst awesome.The training differences between men n dogs is , paws down, in the dogs favor...lol
Every morning Lily goes out and retrieves the morning paper for me....where's hubby???..taking a sh*t! When i came home from my surgery recently, Lily never left my side, licking my tears away n gently nudging my cast..where's hubby???...taking a nap....When there's a fly buzzing around my house n im at my wits end, i say, "Lily, get the fly".....never fails, she kills it first chance she gets....where's hubby???...Hon, where's the fly swatter??? When i've dropped something by mistake out of the laundry basket of freshly cleaned clothes...without a command,,,Lily brings it to me....where's hubby??? ..he kicks it to the nearest pile that he sees..clean or dirty....last, but not least, when i feed Lily her meal, she always sits before me n lifts one paw to shake my hand...u kno....a little canine gratitude....where's hubby??? "next time, cut back on the chili sauce...it gives me heartburn.." Now....after reading this, u may think my hubby to b an asshole, but in reality, he's married to a royal bitch, n thats why Lily n i are so perfect together...One good bitch deserves another!!!!! In all seriousness...i have a wonderful husband.....i jst have an awesome dog.....lol.....hugs to u
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how am I today? these are the things I have done to improve my being trapped at this house more hours than I would ever choose. I built an above ground pool in the yard and all crabby citizens (including me) of my kingdom must go into the water and not come out until they are sleepy or kind. I got the pool off of someone else on craigslist. I had to buy a good set of stairs and a new liner, refill the filter and replace some gaskets. But other than that it was a good hand-me-down. We are doing much better with this outlet for our energy. The kids are starting to bring friends around which is good, i was scared they were not wanting their friends over to our house with the crazy granny.
I have let my kids adopt the cat under the neighbors porch. Grandma and everyone love to give it treats and delight that it continues to hang around us.
I have enrolled in a concentrated graduate program, so for two nights cost of a granny nanny sitter I have a tremendous challenge of study to occupy my mind in the dull long sitting with grandma days.
So though i still am lonely and lost. It is feeling a little healthier. I was starting to crave a chocolate coma and a sofa.
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Well, mom and dad here are exhausted. Hubby has spent the dad hosing off all the concrete and brick breezeway, I have been washing floors and laundry and furry tail-less butts. My dogs are OES - Old English Sheepdogs. They will probably grey somewhat as they age......never know for sure how light they will get. No tail means I don't have to clear off the coffee table. Today Harley learned he can pee on the rug as soon as he gets off the last step into the garage. Hhhmmmmmm. Neither one enjoyed the first time with a collar and leash. Dyna got off it a couple of times. We barely made it off the property on our walk. I have been to obediance school with the last two dogs, and I plan on getting a chain collar tomorrow for them. What I have is too large. I'll have them walking on a leash without pulling in a week.

Vic......glad to hear about dad. Nice to know he is doing a little better.

Notlike.....wish mom would let up, but I don't think that will happen. Did you ever get any beans from your plants? The rabbits got mine before they were a inch tall.

Housekeeping??? Mine alrady smells like a kennel. It is hot in the kitchen because the puppies have already found the kitchen vent and will fight over who gets to lay in front of it. It comes out from under the island toward the kitchen sink. It used to be cooler when I did the dishes......not anymore.

Thanks for all the well wishes about them. I have wanted them for so long and couldn't when mom was here, then I had to wait through pregnancies that didn't take, a false pregnancy, and they were finally born a couple days after my mil's funeral. It's been a rough 10 months. I feel like I could have given birth myself!!!!

Praying we ALL get a good night's sleep, and the next week is easy on all of us. Goodnight!!
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Wanda, hang in their n check out that website for extra support about your kidney. Their is an area that should show "Forum" or Forum Topics n you will see different areas for certain organ transplant n other nutrition tips n such. Take any breaks you can get from caregiving n especially if your husband gets his friends over.
Cattail, I use to have a Shitzu n she would always get matted up n off to the beauty place for her. With the 3 dogs n 2 indoor cats I have to do r rug at least every other day or we all be eating furballs. ; ) I have washed them n brush them sometimes but they just keep on shedding n shedding. The love of our pets. My dogs run like crazy when they hear the vaccum n I have never chased them or anything with it. I don't know why they act that way for I would luv to vaccum them all.

Seemride, are those puppies Dalmations? The mnl dogs when it was a puppy n it belong to my son, use to go under the table before we could catch her little rolly polly butt n whiz away. Eventually she learned what the word, 'hurry up' meant but her nickname still follows with her sometimes, Pee-pot-puddles. Your little ones remind me of her but you have two. lol. It will just take time.
Vic, glad to hear your dad is doing a bit better n recognizing y'all voice.
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Hey everyone, have caught up on some rest this weekend, got a lot done in the house, and like some of you, housework is the last on my list of priorities.. but I live in such a tiny space, it doesn't take long for it to get cluttered... and cat hair.... OMG.... good thing I don't have allergies..... But , as I have told ya'll before, Diva, my cat, LETS me live here...
I am loving me some furbabies.... OMG if I lived close by, I would stay up at night with them Seeme, and made sure they did their business in the grass..... I can not believe how big they are and only 8 wks. old..... was so good to hear you and Mike laughing and enjoying them..... and Dyna-mite chewing on concrete..... that's my girl.... !!!!!
Will be working split shifts this week as the new lady is getting a vacation.... hmmmm, what is wrong with this picture..... But M has gotten to where she thinks I am the only one that can do certain things..... NOT.... sorry, my ego is not so fragile that I think the world will fall apart if I am not the one doing everything... trying to give M time to make some adjustments becasue some compromise is called for here... I am not going to do all the work and then the evening shift comes in and sets on their ass..... not happenin'...... not in Ladee's world anyway....'

Am going to take a long weekend this coming month.... I don't even have to go into why.... everyone one of you already know.....

Prayers for all of you with sick and decllining elders... S is in a serious decline, needing a lot more supervision.... didn't recognize his daughter the other day... that was a first.... so, prayers for my sweet little S man....

Well, need to go get some things finished.... love, hugs and angels....
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Yeah: Little bundles of love with fur on them. They are adorable. My Mattie has always had a thing about stairs. Shelties have their quirks. We took her to dog school and at one point you had to have your dog go sit in a hula hoop laying flat on the ground. No way Mattie was stepping over a hula hoop. OMG, to scary. She did that once when we had a hose that was laying across the sidewalk. We called her, but she just couldn't step over that hose. So we moved the hose and she ran to us. We clapped and cheered at her bravery and she just danced like she had accomplished the most amazing feat. She's our little simpleton. Seeme, enjoy your new children. I'm so happy for you.

Vic and Notlike: Sending you love and prayers for your dads.

Hugs, Cattails
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Yay Seeme!! They are so precious! So happy for you
Ladee Lou..glad you are getting some rest..you are missed
Notlike..wish I could fix dad for you then you would have more energy for moms rants! This last bout dad had with the Diareha ..I fed him the bananas and we gave him sprite. The children's pedialite has helped at times too. Prayers sweet one.
Dad is back on antibiotics..he is slowy becoming more alert. He even fed himself pretty good today! He is just skin and bones....but he is able to respond when we talk to him and is more interested.
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Well, if I did it right, you can see a picture of my babies. They have their days and nights mixed up, and are now sleeping peacefully. It is thundering outside right now, or they would be out. They have been used to peeing and pooping on concrete, so hitting the grass is a job. Can't get both of them to run in the same direction. Taught them to go up and down stairs last night. Up is fast, but down is like "Really??? Do I HAVE to???" and "Can't I just pee on the floor, like THIS?" They are that quick.

The picture is what we got up to this morning. They used the bed, a crate mat, for a pee pad, the "roamer" hit the poop paper some of the time, the Female, Dyna, has been nicknamed "Dyna-mite" by Ladee already, and she is......The gate net is broken on her side, the left. Only took one night for her to do that. It had lasted through 2 other dogs.........gotta go wake them up, or I will never get to sleep tonight................later............
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Wanda: Bless you. You have so much to contend with, my heart goes out to you. Hang in there, my friend, and be good to yourself. I wonder if there are any relaxation tapes you could listen too. Small thing, but it might give you 20 minutes of peace. Let's start a new mantra...HOUSEWORK SUCKS and not kill ourselves over it.

YEAH FOR FURBABIES: That's so exciting. I have 2 Shelties, Mattie and Marcus. Talk about FUR. Each has gotten their "Day of Beauty" this weekend. That means I give them a bath, blow dry them, brush them and vacuum them. Focused on Marcus Friday. He's just a big love sponge and adores to be fussed on. It's an all day process, repeating the drying, brushing, vacuuming steps during the day with breaks in between. Mattie was all forlorned because Marcus was getting all the attention. She got her day yesterday, so her sense of self has been restored. Unfortunately, a clean dog is a shedding dog, so the brushing a vacuuming will continue for a long time. Crazy dogs just love the vacuum brush attachment. They just crowd in around me and take their turns.

Beck, I've heard training men is a lot like training dogs. Hows your sweet Lily doing?

Have a good day everyone. Love, Cat
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Hi All, I've not posted in a few days. Cattails, You are correct housework does SUCK majorly. When you are so stressed and worried it just gets worse.
In my case I am a long distance caregiver for Dad who is in assisted living And Sis. who lives in Al. I care for Hubby 24/ 7 at home. Hubby has ALZ/ Dementia, along with other health issues.
We spent all day this past Thur. at the VAMC here in Atlanta. At least they gave me some constructive info for a change.
I deal with all of this stuff and then deal with my own health problems. I have kidney problems, stage 4 CKD, Fibromyalgia, Arthritis (since I was 27) heart and asthma issues. (LOL) better watch out I just might fall apart anytime(HEHEHE).
I am blessed that I have really good neighbor's. The men around here spend time with my hubby and that gives me a break sometimes for an hour or more.
Oh yeah I live in Marietta, Ga. Thanks for reading my vent today. Wanda
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Jst a quick hello to all...hope everyone has a great day, n, Seeme.................................I want a furbaby....my husband could pass as one, but he wont fetch the ball wen i tell him too.....LOL....congratulations!!!!
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Just talked to Seeme.... it's FURBABIES!!!!! Her and Mike sound so happy, she will be posting when she gets time.... congrats to the new Mommy and Daddy.... love ya both...
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Hi Cattails! Yes, indeed. Housework does suck. Every once in awhile, I get this surge of energy that allows me to clean for hours, but those moments are far and few between. Hopefully, a break of some sort will come along and allow me to clean a bit more than I am right now.

Also, I'm sorry, Cattails. I must've missed where you told me about Area of Aging. I've just looked it up now, and they seem to offer a lot of good resources, even resources for caregivers. I know of one local caregiver support group (saw an ad at the hospital for it awhile ago), but right now, I have no ways of attending the meetings. I'm not able to drive at the moment, but really puts a damper on where I can go. I hope that changes soon though.
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Hello all:

Well, Peach, just let me say this about housekeeping, IT SUCKS. I recently put my dad in nursing home care. It was a very hard decision, but I needed to do it. For the first time in a year, I actually feel like cleaning my house. Bear in mind, I have been house bound for all this time and, as a result, I should have the cleanest house in the world. Unfortunately, it just doesn't work that way. When your spirit is sagging, you just don't have the energy or desire to clean. On a recent occasion, I went to visit my Granddaughter over Mothers Day weekend. When I came back I was a cleaning machine. That lasted for about a week. Getting a break is the best incentive to cleaning. Be kind to yourself. Glad Bookworm gave you some good pointers.

Hey, Peach: I posted on your other site about calling the Area on Aging and seeing what they could do for you. I suggested a caregiver support group. It would be so good for you to meet some folks (like all of us) face to face and not be so alone. Think about it. Sending you lots of hugs.

Notlike: Bless you. I am praying for you and dad and hoping mom with lighten up. She probably won't, but I'm praying.

Ohio: Wish you would update us on your life. Been really missing you on your thread.

Ladee: What can I say to you. You make us all smile and I's sorry you've had a difficult time. Must be bad to get you down.

Beck and Sharyn: Here's the honest truth. I don't like the heat which is one of the reasons I left the valley. Never regretted it. I lived there for 30 plus years, but the summers just bummed my out. It was gradual, although I knew I didn't like it, but when the Fall came I just blossomed and that's when I realized how much I had faded during those 100 plus temps. Happened every year. Don't know how you and the other heat magnets do it. I'm so happy that the two of you will be meeting on Monday, but no one has had any success in getting me back to the valley in the summer. Oh, and did I mention how much I hate that Tule fog. Even the birds won't fly in that stuff.

However, Beck, Sharyn, Ladee: If you ever want to get to a cooler climate, I can invite you to Sequim, Wa. I'd love to meet you and if it's not summer, I can put you up. We would have a great time together. This is a serious offer.

Beck and Sharyn: I can tell you one thing that would temp me to take a flight to Fresno and it would be a drive to Cambria. Use to love to go there. My favorite place. Too expensive to move there, but what a great place to visit. That is the one thing I miss.

Love and Hugs to all, Cattails
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Hello again, Bookwork. I can relate about the cleaning, too. As soon as it gets out of hand, I'm very hard-pressed to get it done. Too overwhelming, I guess. Those are all good ideas to keep the housework caught up without actually taking too much time out of the day to do it.

Notlikemom, thank you for the encouragement. I'm sorry to hear that your foot is so swollen. What happened to you, if you don't mind my asking? That must make your job a lot of harder. I'm sorry about that. :(
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