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Ladee, Better take cover. The fur is flying here.
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Well....not a boy scout to be found at the f-n store!!! Do boy scouts even exist any more?
Ladee....i completely forgot about those 3 glasses of wine yesterday!!!!! Now...how could i have forgotten that..of all things......lol. Wat i think i need to start accepting about myself is the fact that im jst gettin old and breakin down, so my husband n i decided that we are going to invest in a "rascal" that seats 2. I'm going to put a flag on it that reads.."Fuck Off".. and we're going to drive it back n forth in front of our sons house becuz he 's really pissin us off!!! If i have to live day in n day out with all these aging issues...im sure has hell going to make sure im a pain in someone's ass!! It's called..unconditional love...hahaha.. LYL
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beck, are you sure it wasn't the three glasses of wine yesterday... maybe everything finally relaxed !!!!! Calling all Boy Scouts... and old drunk lady needs help with her groceries..... so happy to see you back and making us laugh.... good luck with the surgery, and I don't know if I could type with one hand or not,,, hmm something to practice in my spare time.... hugs to you poor old broken person.....
Stormy, hope you have found something out... and don't know about dads tremors, was he running a low grade fever??? If he does it again, call his Dr.... let us know what you found out...
Son's appt changed to tomorrow, so need to get back to M's.... see ya'll later this evening... hugs.
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Hope everyone enjoyed their weekend. Everyone here survived the Father's Day festivities fairly unscathed!! When i woke up this morning, there wasn't a cell in my body that wasn't in pain. I can't believe im in such pitiful condition at age 53...Wat ever happened to "my prime"?....now, it jst means the cut of meat i order..lol
I guess i did a lil more than i thought in preparation for yesterday. All i kno is that i have 10 more days before surgery on my hand, and it can't come soon enough. Don't u ladies worry, tho........i can still type with my toes..lol....wat a visual!! I'll do this "one handed mombo" again later. Now, i get to go do the grocery shopping for mom. Maybe a boy scout will be selling chocolate at the store entrance, and see the sad condition i'm in, and help an old broken bitch out!!!!! later ladies...huge hugs..
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I talked to sis this morning and she told me that last night dads hands were trembling or having tremors and in his head. She asked him dad are you having tremors and he said he thought he was having them all over. He said that he wasn't cold. Finally she said that he said he was going to bed at 1:00. I think cause he got tired of the tremors. Does anybody know anything about this? I havent seen him having them today so far. Just let me know if ya'll know anything. Love and hugs stormyyy
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Vic-it was a pretty good day just very busy. Hugs
Lil' deb- I think hubby appreciated everything, the food and the gifts i hope so anyway. Hugs
Notlike- I didn't get on here yesterday just too busy. But i would've said send them on the more the merrier, right? hugs to you too.
I am planning on calling the lung dr today and talk to his secretary to see if she changed dads appt date. I talked to his nurse last week and she didn't have any news and was little help so i figured i would try someone different maybe she will know something about when we are going to see the dr. I hope so anyway.
It's going to be a long day. Connor and i are having to get up extra early cause he has to be at daycare at 7:30 to catch the little bus that carries the kids to safety town. It's just for this week thank the Lord. But when he starts school he will have to be there at 7:30 too. Its going to be hard on both of us getting use to getting up that early. Plus i didnt sleep worth a shit last night. And i am already feeling the effects from it. Huh... And not in the mood to go to dads. I know he will have a bunch of stuff he wants me to do to him. Hopefully the day will flyyyyyy byyyyy. Mondays just suck if you ask me. Just feeling kinda blah today i guess thats how i am doing. So love and hugs to all of ya'll. stormyyyy
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Brandy let us know if there is flying debris, so we'll know to take cover... but you have to do what you have to do..... keep us posted...
JoJo, congrats on the new job, very heartwarmning to hear you being excited about your new adventure....and granny is in good hands.... nothing you could do if you were there..... let us know how things are going...
It amazes me what stress does to our mind and body... talked with a friend until one this morning, just about 'stuff', laughed, shared, and by the time I got off the phone, all these aches and pains were gone... still going to the Dr... gonna ask for some GOOD drugs this time..... not really.... but earlier in the day talked with another friend and could feel my body loosing up then... no pain this morning and a clear head...... well, the head thing is debateable I know.... clear as it's gonna get anyway....
Have Dr's appt' with my son this week, and working split shifts at M's because of her pain in her shoulder...so it's going to be a long week, and I'm sure I'll be on here talking about how tired I am and my body hurts, and blah blah blah...... gotta love caregivers tho... we do bounce back .... well, maybe trudge back, i'm way past the 'bouncing' days.... everyone find one tiny thing to be grateful for today....
Wanted ya'll to know I heard from ASG.... she said things are crazy but she will try and post soon... Love ya ASG, in our thoughts and prayers...
hugs across the miles to ya'll
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my day was nuts lol...Im in a hotel in sc...here till Friday for orientation for a new job..working in a VA clinic....its day 4 of granny being in hospice...just kills me tha I wont be around all week...my mom will be with her and my family will visit...Its be soo hard seeing her lying in that bed....but Iknow its the best place for her to be...I hate seeing my mom hurting from this decision...but she knows its the rite thing to do.....granny just mostly sleeps, and when she is awake has no clue we are there...the hospice is beautifull and such amazing people working there....i start an new adventure tomarrow with my new job....I hope everyone has a wonderfull week...hugs to everyone
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We are moving our mom into a NH next week. We just don't know which one, b/c all the ones around here are full up. She doesn't know she's going and when she finds out the TNT will hit the fire. She will not be a happy camper, the fur will hit the fan. Will let you know all about it. Brandy
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I hear and recieve just that he is being intolerable to the heat and rude to my friends that came down here to start their life over again. All I want for him is to drop the attitude and I am about to itemize everything i buy for him and the kids. I give him money and when we do not have it I give it to him from my money . I give him respect but he then he acts like he is schizoid or something. I am praying to have strength to continue but if he moves to Indianapolis, Indiana none of his siblings will help him. We all have no family to rely and even my friends we are family together. I help those in need and I care but then again there is no excuses for his actions period and I have to get extension on my tb and get something notarized by the court house. I am doing my best but I am ready for a drink ...and to think during all this time I havent had a chance to grieve the loss of a family member. I am ready for a mini vacation unless he goes in first. He needs to get his meds balanced or something. I already began tough bitch plan for him lol.
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Burned: Here's a way out thought or two. You previously mentioned that your husband wanted to move to where his family is and I don't remember the state they live in. What would happen if he did that, by himself. Would they be willing to take him in?

You could file for child support and since his income is all from the government, it wouldn't be difficult to locate and distribute. You could look into what the state has to offer for health care for your children, based on your income, or possibly you could ask that your husband continue to cover them via his Medicaid or whatever.

You could then get a full time job, move if need be to an area that has more opportunities, get low income housing for a new start and make your own way.

Your children need to have some dependable structure in their lives. If you can't do that together, maybe you can do it separately. In time, if you decide to divorce, maybe you can insist in the agreement that you and/or your children remain beneficiaries on his life insurance policy. At least until the children are out of college.

I'm not suggesting that you do this, but I am offering it as a way to manage your life better if that is what would help. Something to think about. Cattails.
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I'm sneaking away from the "father's day" festivities cuz dad is in a cranky mood n i'm now 3 glasses of wine into this day. Jst had to escape for a few minutes n check in..He's jst looking like he's ready to blow a gasket, n it seems to be directed at my daughter becuz she keeps texting on her cell fon in front of him. He hates that..I told her that after dinner....run...lol...hugs
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Thank you all for the thoughts on Rebel and furbabies. We all have so much caring to give, even when our lives seem like endless chores, and it's heartwarming to know how many of us love our animals. I should mention the vet we used is where Rebel donated blood at the Animal Emergency center. It's a 24/7 ER for all kinds of pets. If you have one in your city, or a vet involved in the blood donor program, I urge you to consider signing your cat or dog up. Rebel donated 13 pints of blood over the years, helping countless other dogs. We liked to say that he was a "working" dog.
Jam and Seeme-I will suggest those drink ideas to Mom. Thanks! And no green beans yet - but it looks like soon.
Stormy - can I send my hubby and Dad to your house for Father's Day? LOL Sounds like you are doing it up really nice. Hugs.
ren345-Your wife may need a swallow study to determine if she is swallowing correctly. You could start by talking to her primary doctor. If she is not swallowing right, she could take food or liquid into her lungs instead (aspriate) and wind up with phneumonia. If a study determines she needs help, most foods can be altered in consistancy to make it easier to swallow. Liquids can be thickened with artifical thickeners, and solid food can be ground in a blender or food processor. But check with the doctor first before trying to change her foods. Blessings, and please come back and let us know how she and you are doing.
Dad and I are going to watch "Falling Skies" tonight as our FD activity. Sis and I bought him the first season DVD so he could catch up. Can't wait!
An especially good day to all!
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Wishing all the dads out there a Happy Fathers Day...Mom n dad will be at my house for the day, and, of course, i'm cooking.......with 1 hand!! lol Hope everyone has a beautiful day. God Bless our daddys!! hugs to all
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Bec. sorry for your loss n it sounds like you have a loving warm heart for what u done for Rebel for they r like r children good n bad sometimes. Rebel is in puppy heaven looking down on you.
Stormy, You r going all out n he can have his cake too. That is very thoughtful n I hope he appreciate what you do for him. I am just doing a pot-roast, corn-bread n some veggies for my hubby.
I did send my daddy a card n it was very hard to find the right words for some of you know from past post the circumstance with the dogs n his choice to stay on his property. I also put all us kids pictures on an index card back/front n said, "Eventhough we r all grown-up, we will always love you daddy." Now, hopefully the step-mom will give it to him. I will try to call their house that is if their phone still works n half the time he cannot hear it ring anyway. I don't see too many more Father's Day for my dad from route he is going n I cannot change his hard-headed mind so all I can do is tell him that, I love him.

I hope all Fathers have a blessed day.
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Morning all..just caught up on posts..thanks for all the well wishes for dad! He had a decent day. And what an idiot I am..he has been having these stomach problems..diarrhea, vomiting constipation..on Friday he told me his stomach hurt. ..he has a history of diverticulitis..so finally yesterday the light blinked on in my head! I called pharmacy and got him on antibiotics... Maybe he will start getting better now.
Burned..glad you can come here and let it all out..
Notlike..so sorry for rebel and what an amazing vet you have!
Stormy..sounds like a good day planned today
Ladee hope you got rest last might
Everyone else..payers for a decent day..
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Burned, my dad has a fixed income. He always accused that Somebody is taking his money. How can we have no money? For years, I helped share half the cost of their expenses. And this allowed him to spend his money on herbals that can go as high as $239.00. He would order several herbals per month. But, now that he's bedridden, the expenses have doubled (pampers, wipes, toilet tissues, liners, etc...) With my medical bills and our house bills, I could no longer pay for half of their supplies while he wastes his money on herbals (that 80% ends up expired.)

I sat down, itemized all the expenses: bills, house supplies, body care supplies, etc... I totaled what the cost be for the month. I showed him the total cost breakdown: this is the house bills. I had all the bills on hand and actually showed him the bills so that he can really see that the power bill is $475.00, etc..... This is the personal care costs (pampers, wipes, body washes, wash rags, etc..) This is your herbal costs. When it's in writing, he finally realized that he was spending more than his monthly income. So now, when he wants to order his herbal, he would ask me if he has extra money. I'm not sure if this will work with you, but I'm thinking that maybe if he sees it in writing, itemized, totalled vs. the total income, he might actually see that most times you're in the red? Just a thought...

By the way, my dad has fired me soooo many times! When he angrily tells me I'm fired, I say, "Good! Because I didn't like this job anyway! The pay is lousy and no vacation!" And he ends up laughing.
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burned, I hope this doesn't upset you more than you already are, but if I was your cat living in all that chaos, I'd run away too...lol
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I am not trying to quit and i do not wanna quit just fed up with my husband being a crybaby over lil detail. When I tell him were broke he doesn't believe me and i get him his med and his damn smokes. I am tired of being treated shit and disrespected besides he said at one point in time and i quote fine ur fired. I am like am i fired being ur wife too besides ur caregiver. he doesn't like the fact i am putting my foot down and my cat is still missing.
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Notlike: Sorry about Rebel. I wrote something to you a few pages back when you commented about his failing. Breaks my heart for you, but happy he is not in pain. Sending love, Cattails
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Hey ya'll I hope all of you have a Happy Father's Day!
Notlike- I am soo sorry to hear of Rebel passing on. It is so hard to lose a pet, they truly are like family. Prayers for you. Hopefully you can rest easy knowing that she is not in pain or suffering now. Love and hugs.
Vic- Tell your dad i said happy birthday and i hope it is a great one for him. Love and hugs.
Beck- I have a puppy named Lily too. She is the wild diva in the family!!! Hugs.
Jam- Sorry the col is still declining I know that must be hard on Target and you and the rest of the family. I can't imagine. Prayers for you and him. Hugs to you!
Ladee- Hey there our wild child of the thread!!! Love and hugs to you too.
Well i started out the day putting up corn in my freezer. I put up 4 dozen ears and that made 5 qts and i still have about 3 more dozen in the refrigerator that i got to work on tomorrow. Plus i ordered 4 more dozen of a different kind of corn that i got to pick up from my dads grocery store tomorrow. Planning on cooking the hubby dinner tomorrow too for father's day. So needless to say it is going to be a busy day tomorrow. Plus i know Connor is going to want to go in the pool tomorrow after we get back from church and going to dads. I will be wore out. Oh and i made hubby a cake today too. We are going to do the gifts thing tomorrow nite when he gets home from work. So that's been my day. Well i hope everyone has a wonderful weekend. Love and hugs to all of you. Stormyyy
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Notlike, I am so sorry about Rebel, but what an awesome Vet you have... gonna do the footprint thing with the Diva.... tell hubby I am very sorry... love ya....
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Today was a good day n being hubby is home during break he is helping out with his mom. Well until he has to go to Atlanta for a wk for school stuff for the new year. I also was able to fill out the form for the bracelet for Medic-Alert n it just made me wander what the people will think when they look at the list of the mnl compare to mind as a caregiver. Quite funny in a way for she takes 7 prescrptions at age 80 compare to my 15 prescriptions at age 47. What a hoot! At least I will have it ready to mail off Monday.

I hope everyone here are able to get a good night rest-sleep.
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Notlike...i am so sry to hear about Rebel. I had a dog that was a part of my life for 14 yrs before i had to let her go. We had this love-hate relationship...it was very odd n i never thought i would grieve her loss the way that i did. I had her cremated and have her ashes in a cedar box with a poem over the top. It sits on a stand on my piano that i have had for 30yrs. She use to love to sit under the piano bench while i would play for hours. I'm so glad that i have that little box and every time i sit at my piano, i play something special jst for her. I never thought i could get through that loss, but i found and rescued my beautiful friend..Lily going on 7yrs now. I can't imagine a day without the love n loyalty that she brings to my life. There's jst something about pets that provide a comfort that no human relationship can quite touch. I kno how hard it is to lose a beloved friend, and u and ur family, especially ur children, r in my prayers. As u can tell...i am a dog lover to the core of my soul. God bless..
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My wife has been diagnosed with moderate dementia and also MDS (3 years ago). She is now having a problem with phlem in her chest and throat. Rather than swallowing it she is constantly trying to getting it up. Other than being very nerve racking, I am wondering if anyone has any suggestions !!! HELP
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Notlike, I had to go to Tang and koolaid for my mom, but she couldn't have carbonated drinks, so I was very limited.
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Notlike, so sorry about Rebel, but I so wish I had paw prints of all the dogs I have lost over the years. I think I will even suggest that to my vet. What a wonderful remembrance. And so caring of them to have the book for the kids.........I always liked our vet, but I am getting jealous of the one you have!!!!!!!
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Happy Birthday to Vic's dad!!!! Please tell hem we wish him the best and give him a kiss for me.......epecially for Father's Day.

Beck, glad to see you climbed out of the hole.
Burned, don't quit now after all you have been thru.
Notlike, what about the green beans? Getting any?
Ladee, take a good long nap, you deserve it. So glad you didn't get the hail around
dallas......your tin can would be squashed!!

Cooked all day for hubby......gonna play dice later........everyone please have a good Weekend.......and Happy Father's Day to our male cargivers.
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notlike.......I'm so sorry about Rebel......just know that he is running around in the sunshine and barking and playing and catching balls. Hugs to you!
When we were flooding the col with water, I began buying a flavored water that had a fizz to it.....it was clear but the flavor was good....her favorite was berry. Walmart carries them.
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Vic-Happy Birthday to your Dad! And hugs to you.
Jam-Happy Belated Birthday to the Col. I read about it during the week, but missed posting my congrads. And you go kick all the butt needed!
Beck-Sorry things are pilling up for you. Surgery is never fun. But you will at least get to rest for a day or two! :) I know, whatever rest we get is never enough. We'll be holding your good hand, and keeping your bad hand in our prayers.
Ladee-Make that doc fix you up, or you could threaten to send Jam to kick her butt! Sending you peace and angels to make you feel better.
We lost our Rebel this morning. Because he couldn't get up anymore, we had to carry him out of the basement in a blanket. I miss him already. I was so impressed with the vet. They put us in a private family sitting room, which was alot more homey than an exam room. On the table there was a Bible, and books for kids called All Dogs and All Cats go to Heaven. The blood donor coordinator, who saw Rebel many times when he donated, was there, so she got to say goodbye too. We got a cast of his paw print and Hubby is making a plaque with that and his dog tags. I was impressed with the whole way they handled everything. They did their best to make it as easy as possible.
Mom does not have an UTI. She does need to drink more water. She wants to try adding some flavor packets because she gets bored with plain water.
The gym is great, but boy, am I SORE!
Goodnight, and better tomorrows.
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